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Subject: Kelly2

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 10:38:38 10/25/06 Wed
In reply to: Kelly2 's message, "Re: Our update" on 23:02:56 10/24/06 Tue

Kelly - I went through a similiar thing with Spencer. He wanted to still be my husband and just be there whenever he decided and however he decided. I did not allow him to live with me nor did he want to - YET, that was his words. He wanted to become financially stable, blah blah blah. Well he started using again and not that I was being with him, but I was in my own way still waiting for him. They only change and work on relationships if they want to.
My cousin Steven has been clean for 11 months now and it's what he wanted to do. He works on his relationship with his girl and works really hard everyday to build the life that his family deserves. My other cousin Lonnie, he has been clean for longer than 11 - 12 years. His wife and him were lacking sex in their relationship too, they went almost two years with no sex. They went to their pastor for counseling and I really can't tell you what they do now cause I don't know, but it is always said that we cannot control anyone but ourselves and It is the truth.
Sometimes their getting clean is forced on them and that doesn't mean they are in recovery - just clean. I have seen both sides of it and it is a pretty clean cut. Maybe her heart just isn't in it. It hurts to think like that, but at the same time you must be honest with yourself too. There was a woman that used to post here. She once told me that she didn't love her boyfriend the same after she got clean. And before she used she was in love with him. I fought that in my head for so long because I didn't want to believe that Spencer could ever want to live without me and my babies. Well he told me the same thing too. It hurt so bad but he finally opened up and told me what he was really feeling inside. Maybe it's time to sit her down and talk seriously with her. This is your life too.
You will be in my prayers. It's time to take charge of what you want out of life.

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Re: Our update	Hulalea	12:20:42 10/26/06 Thu

Re: celebrate recovery program	SUSAN	18:53:50 10/26/06 Thu
Re: celebrate recovery program -- Hulalea, 02:38:30 10/27/06 Fri