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Subject: Re: re: The adoption is final

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 13:15:11 11/17/06 Fri
In reply to: TR 's message, "re: The adoption is final" on 12:01:03 11/17/06 Fri

My opinion is the same as yours...she is NOT clean. If she has truly been clean for a year, then she would not be hanging around the old crowd or continuing a life of lies. I'm not saying she is using meth...she might be, but she also might have traded one drug for another.

Personally, I have no clue as to what I would do if my addict was my child. My addict (now recovering) is my husband. His rock bottom was the threat of losing his family. It was not an empty threat. He knew I had enough! Luckily, that was all it took. He was locked up in prison 353 miles away, and saw me five times in 14 months and saw his kids three times. I cut him off financially, and flat out told him that I was tired of being deceived by him and that I wouldn't allow him to do to his youngest child the psychological damage that had already been done to our oldest. I was honestly closing the door on him, but God told me to give him one more chance....boy was I mad at God for that...but I listened.

As of today, my husband has been clean for 15 months, and has been home for 43 days. I have had to let go of a lot of the hurt by giving it to God and not having my husband make ammends. My children have their father back, and it has been marvelous for them.

I WILL know if he ever starts using again...the dog can even tell. I will NOT put up with it, and I have an agreement in writing that he is out the door with only the clothes on his back.

I do think that it will take the loss of her family and possibly even more for your daughter to get it together. As it sits right now, she can still see her daughter, and knows you will take care of her...why should she stop the "fun" life that she thinks she has.

Tough love is hard, but not as hard as being the doormat for the addict.

God be with you and yours!

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Re: re: The adoption is final	Heather	13:50:32 11/17/06 Fri