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Subject: re: The adoption is final

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TR

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Date Posted: 12:01:03 11/17/06 Fri

Well I haven't posted lately because things have been so hectic, but I wanted to let you know that the adoption on my gd is final. We agreed to 1 hr unsupervised visitation once a week but have cut that off because 2 times in a row when I went to pick up my gd (now daughter)my daughter had different guys over there. She claims that they are her NA friends but I know for a fact that she is hanging out with a guy that was busted for 25 lbs of pot in July.
Also, she lied to her boss about being out of town and I just happen to know her boss so when she asked me if my daughter was still out of town and I told her that she never went out of town. Of course she got fired so now my daughter is blaming me for that and she is saying that everytime people talk to me bad things happen to her. At first I felt bad but then I realized that she was laying the blame on me for her mess up.

I don't know if she is using again or not but she is somehow maintaining a house of her own and paying her bills plus has money to go shopping without a job. I don't know if she is getting the money from one of her friends or not. I have decided to stand my ground about visitations and not let my gd over there. Instead if she wants to see her she is going to have to meet me in a public place.

Heather you said that you had to completley turn you back on Spencer for him make the decision to get help. It's so hard when it is one of your kids to turn your back completely. I just wonder if that is what I need to do, just tell her that until she goes and gets some help that she will not be allowed to see her daughter anymore. It's so hard to know what to do because she says that she has been clean for a year now, but she has not held a job longer then 2 months and she still hangs out with her old friends. It is so hard to know what to do; if she is clean then me not believing her when I have no physical evidence of her using is wrong. But if she is using then it might be that if she lost her family completly she may realize that she does need help. It is so hard to know what to do.

Sorry that I rambled on but I am just trying to work this all out in my head and do what is best for my gd, but not lose my daughter completely.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: re: The adoption is final	Shari	13:15:11 11/17/06 Fri

Re: re: The adoption is final	Heather	13:50:32 11/17/06 Fri

Re: re: The adoption is final	cheryl	18:21:33 11/22/06 Wed
TR Read Cheryls post, (NT) -- Heather, 13:02:05 11/24/06 Fri Re: re: The adoption is final -- TR, 11:30:01 11/27/06 Mon