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Subject: Re: Shelly

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Shelly

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Date Posted: 10:30:59 08/30/06 Wed
In reply to: Shari 's message, "Shelly" on 08:22:54 08/30/06 Wed

Shari,
Thank you for the information and advise! In regards to child support -this $100 a month was ordered 12 yrs ago. I contacted the county child support division and was told that if I asked for it to be re-evaluated and he does not have a job then instead of getting $100 p/month I would get zero b/c he has no income. The lady I talked to was not pleasant so I am going to see if I can get someone different on the phone who may understand better what I am trying to learn. As far as where he gets his money. Before he started using drugs a year and a half ago he worked in sales and made 6 digits +. He owned a home from his marriage that ended 5 yrs ago and rented it out and lived here with a room-mate with very low rent. Thus -he has a savings account that I could only dream of having. When he lost his job (due to drugs) he said that he could retire for 5 yrs and still have plenty of $. This man is upper middle class who is used to having a lot of $ and things. I believe his lack of work and drug use along with excessive spending (cars,toys, homes) he has to run out of his savings at some point. Additionally -this man is the baby of his family and they all do what he wants. His father is very wealthy and from what I know when they learned of his drug use his dad offered to pay his son's mortgage while he was not working and 'getting better'. Now he is not paying me our agreed upon child support which has left me struggling financially more than I can express! Anyway -I am trying to move forward. It is hard when I see how much pain this has caused my daughter. She was uprooted from her life to move here to have a daddy -had a great daddy for a short time -and now feels abandoned by him once again. Her pain is what hurts me most. I did contact Dept.of children family services. I have to go down to the office, fill out forms, and wait to speak to someone. This is something that is difficult at best as I am in a new job and it is sales and I just can't miss a day of work at this time. I may just call in sick one day soon and get it going. I have so many confused feelings about it all. I know at some point he is going to come back and want to see his daughter -full of remorse and apologies. It went too far this time and I will not give in -I want everything ordered through the court this time so there are no surprises and I have something to fall back on when/if he goes back to using. Part of me wants him to get better and be that man and daddy I know he can be -the other part of me wants to just not have him a part of our lives ever again. Each day I check my email wondering if today will be the day I get that email from him asking to see his daughter. It may not be today -it may be in a year -but I know that day will come and I dread it!!
Thanks for listening and being here for me. This site has helped me more than I can even express!!!
God Bless!

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Shelly	Shari	19:09:20 08/30/06 Wed
Re: Shari -- Shelly, 10:34:05 08/31/06 Thu