Subject:  Problems with step-daughter, please help! |
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Date Posted: 09:51:15 05/04/06 Thu
We got a phone call first thing this morning from my husband's daughter. She is getting out of work release Monday, May 15th. She called to say she needs us to find her a place to live.
The truth is, she has been begging us for weeks and weeks to let her move in with us. I don't want her to move in with us, because I don't think it would be good for any of us. She is a needle user, for many years, and has shot up anything and everything, even anti-depressants. She has been in prison for about a year & a half.
She has been laying on the guilt and manipulation real heavy, and I have been trying hard to not fall for it. But I think my husband is going to cave!!
We live in a very small town, pop. 600, out in the boonies. I've told her it was ridiculas for her to want to live out here, because there are no jobs here. Well, LOW AND BEHOLD, my husband gets her a job at a restuarant about half a mile from here! A full time job with great pay!
She has no car, no drivers license, no money. My husband found a house for rent, the only rental available in this area. But it is too expensive for us to rent, $450.00 times 3, first-last-security deposit. He is ready to rent it, and says if we don't rent it then she will end up living with us.
I am getting completely pissed off about the whole situation!! She has thrown this into our lap and made it OUR problem! The house is not furnished, so we would have to find furniture, kitchen & bath stuff, etc. The thing is, we have been down this road with her before. In years past, we have set her up with an apartment, a car, the whole nine yards, only for her to abandon it all and go off with an addict. Not only me, but other family members have given her so many household things to help her out, and she has abandoned everything.
She hasn't used for a year & a half, because she has been in prison and recently in county jail. I know my step-daughter very well, and I know she will use when she gets out of work release. She is 37 years old, and has Hep C from needles.
I don't know what to do! My husband always tells her, "you'll have to ask mom about that". He throws it in my lap and makes me the heavy. And it's true, if it weren't for me, my husband would let her move in with him in a heartbeat. So then I end up feeling guilty, because I am the one causing the problem.
Help!!
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