Re: Restraining order questions -- METH HELP FOR FAMILIES

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Subject: Re: Restraining order questions

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Heather

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Date Posted: 19:36:44 05/14/06 Sun
In reply to: neverending 's message, "Re: Restraining order questions" on 07:00:43 05/14/06 Sun

No the court is not tomorrow. I have to wait the full 30 days after he was served and then file the default papers and then I will get a court date.
About the MIL. Our relationship was great when I seen her. She is a nice woman just very naive I think. I have done my part with my son and will not try to control anyone elses actions ever. She knows she can come see him because I told her she can. I told Spencer to give her my phone number so she can call me. She hasn't called and that is not my problem. His other brother Kenny knows he can call me and come see my son at anytime cause I called him myself when I changed my phone number and gave it to him and told him myself. It is up to them to want to have a relationship with my son. I can "want" them to be in my son's life, but if they choose not to, then that is entirely up to them. Just like his dad, it is entirely up to him to get himself straight so that he can build a good relationship with his son.
He left a message on my phone last night saying his mom really wants to see Spencer Jr. and if I would do it not for him but for my son and his grandma, and that he wanted to see him too, but he knows I won't let him. Guilt trip? I won't let him? And why is that? I have so many reasons why and the blaming still continues. I wish this could all be different, but I'm not the one that does meth. I called back and left him a message that said she could see him but that she needed to call and arrange it and that he was not to call me again. I left it at that and haven't heard a thing. I take it this way. He started all of this and she probably doesn't want to see him as much as he says she does. After all she left 14 kids in Honduras, my husband was 3 when she left, and came to America with one son and one in her belly and didn't go back. She doesn't have a great bonding history, so that again is not my problem and not my fault. Why I still carry guilt is beyond me. I never took my son away from them, they kept themselves away. And for his dad, he used drugs and destroyed his life and tried to bring us all own with him. All I did was put a stop to it.

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