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Subject: Re: Help

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 16:46:36 04/24/06 Mon
In reply to: Help 's message, "Help" on 11:05:36 04/24/06 Mon

I am not a professional, and what I am posting is my opinion. It is usually from my dealings with my addict spouse.

Addicts blame anyone they can. Quite often it is the spouse because most of the other people in their lives that they have to answer to are using with them.

From what I can gather, while they are using or trying to use, this is how they actually feel. Even if they know different deep down in their hearts, they lie to themselves so they can rationalize why they want to use or take off for a while so they can go on binges.

Once sober for a period of time, which usually only happens if they get incarcerated, they continue their blame on everyone but themselves which means they will just go back to using.

My addict is struggling to get off his addictions. He is incarcerated. He has flat out told me that a lot of what he accused me of he did so in order to make it right in his own mind what he was up to. He also now states to me and others that he has been a lousy husband, an a$$hole, and a total mother f*cker to me and his children.

However, while he was using or in the mindframe of continuing to use, he honestly believed that he was doing no wrong and that it was everyone else.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Help	TR	06:02:10 04/25/06 Tue

Blame game	neverending	07:24:22 04/25/06 Tue
Re: Response regarding detaching from your addict. -- Shari, 08:54:15 04/25/06 Tue