Re: Will the Courts in Canada.....ever listen?? -- METH HELP FOR FAMILIES

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Subject: Re: Will the Courts in Canada.....ever listen??

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Hulalea

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Date Posted: 11:44:39 03/30/06 Thu
In reply to: Nikki BLUEiizz 's message, "Will the Courts in Canada.....ever listen??" on 09:12:13 03/30/06 Thu

Niiki,
I'm sorry for what you're going through. However, you are not helping him by letting him come in and out of your lives over and over again. Insanity is when you continue doing the same thing expecting different results. The only way of helping him is to let go. Detach and take care of yourself and most of all, your children. The poor things, they have been through so much damage and destruction yet they deserve much much more. You have focused so much on him yet nothing has changed. You are powerless. Get out of the way of his consequences and let him suffer - in whatever way that is. This is the only way he will experience true growth. He won't hit any bottom with you being there to catch him and comfort him. Read the helpful tips. Your post above is good and maybe you might want to submit that or something like it.
When I went thorugh this with my ex, I spent years trying to help or change him and after countless treatments, prison, etc., I had to get out of the way and praise God, he hit his own bottom when I was nowhere to be reached for him. God worked on us both separately because my ex was finally able to suffer on his own without my "helping or supporting" him in any way. It was then that I learned what true powerlessness meant. I prayed for and got Jesus' peace to know that I am charged with mine and my children's care. You are not responsible for Mike, give him to God. God is the only one that can help him but you have to get out of the way. I will pray for you.
God Be with you,
Hulalea

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Re: Will the Courts in Canada.....ever listen??	Heather	15:29:48 03/31/06 Fri