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Date Posted: 11:40:11 08/10/04 Tue
After about 20 years of apprehension of dentists, braces, and coming off the tail end of surving cancer, I feel like at 30, I have a 2nd chance at life and to do the right things in life and also for my mouth. I got as far as impressions and x-rays for my mouth and the next appopintment was to be for braces- which I cancelled and am really unhappy about it even though I'm still scared of braces.
I cancelled the appointment because my wife wanted me to wait until January 2005 when I can use her flex spending dental plan. It would be debt or an expense either way you cut it. I cannot deny how the terms under which that debt (particularly $4000 or more) occurs could make significant differences in the day to day/week to week financial situation, as well as in finance charges over the long haul. I understand this, and understand her compelling desire to not incur any more debt (period) but frankly, I feel I have a certain momentum in addressing health, wellness and life issues which I've never had before and I feel it is critical to act without delay whereas she does not seem to. As they say, "Timing (seems to be) is everything"
Not to play "good guy or bad guy" but I would guess my wife does not see the challenges I'm trying to overcome as I see them despite my explanations, but who am I to say that our debt is not important when I know it certainly is. We've discussed, but I stay with my position and she with hers- call it irreconcilable. As it stands now, I'm on the loosing end (in a sense) until January which is very dissapointing, but I guess "I win" when I have a wife who will not feel the weight of added debt for at least these next couple of months. And as you married folks well know, financial pressures can be ruinous to marriages and affect the many interpersonal issues contained within. I value my teeth, but I value my short and long-term marriage more. Perhaps I've answered my own quandry. Suck it up 'till January?
Any similar thoughts, tales or suggestions would be nice. If I can't fix the problem it might be nice to know about others in the same boat.
Thanks,
Brad
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