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Subject: Geoff's response at the shack was meaningful and eloquent - I'll repeat my response here

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Date Posted: Thursday, January 23 2003, 13:58:21 GMT ( - 8 )
In reply to: Brad 's message, "A year ago!!!" on Thursday, January 23 2003, 0:48:28 GMT ( - 8 )

I've heard and read much about that pain and grieving and it is different for everyone. FIVE years later I find that with every waking moment I am crying inside, whereas that first year contrary to the face I presented to others I was sobbing inside. Difference - not much, I have accepted the fact that the pain will exist the remainder of my time in this physical shell. That's just how it is!

I have also come to the conclusion that I have no choice but to tollerate it because for me to interrupt it, I would be inflicting the kind of pain that I endure on others and that is not something I care to do. Your realization of what your Mom endures and the fact that you do your utmost not to give her any further concern indicates that your the same. If nothing else hold on to that Brad -

When James crossed over he left me to deal with pain, and an emptiness that I thought was unbearable and that which I could not endure. Now I have accepted the reality that I can endure the unendurable and exist with that empty space and the pain ....well it's just part of me now and it will be there until I draw my last breath ....To me anyway the pain continues to a degree because I embrace it. To let it go at least for this duck would seemingly denigrate my Love for James and that's not something that is going to happen.

So I awake each day and take it one day at a time.

Don't know if any of this makes sense to others I think it may for you - but the only advice is ONE DAY AT A TIME BUDDY!!

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[> [> Subject: I feel that way as well Duck.

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Date Posted: Thursday, January 23 2003, 19:39:25 GMT ( - 8 )

Besides my Mom would BITCHSLAP me to hell if I abandoned her grandson. Oh but thank heavens for his existence on this globe.. I would not have got throught the first Christmas without either of my parents if it hadn't been for him.

Hang in there Brad. Hold onto what you care about that still remains in the world. Make her memory a thing of pride.

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