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Date Posted: 11:38:34 05/20/08 Tue
Author: Cathy
Subject: While I definitely agree with Blair supporting Starr, I can't understand why she seems so happy and sentimental about her 16 year old daughter being pregnant. It is not a happy event, yet Blair acts like it is. What is wrong with this picture?
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It is what it is. What is she supposed to do? Start screaming at her like Dorian did Langston? I think Blair's most concerned with giving Starr a safe place... with her at home, rather than in some flop house in "Virginia Beach" or something worse. -- Dandesun, 11:53:11 05/20/08 Tue
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I didn't say she was supposed to start screaming. Just not act sentimental and joyous. It's not joyous. Starr's life is forever changed/ruined by this. I actually do know something about it too. -- Cathy, 11:57:45 05/20/08 Tue
I teach high school, and one of my 14-year-old freshman was pregnant last year. One of my 16-year-old juniors is currently pregnant. I talked to both mothers in person, and both of them cried while discussing the situation with me -- believe me, neither cried tears of joy or seemed happy in any way. Both were standing by and supporting their daughters, but both had the demeanor closer to that of a funeral than a baby shower. That's the reality of it. It is a funeral of sorts when at 14 and/or 16, you can no longer be the kid you were meant to be. I just wish a little of that would be reflected in this story, that's all.
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I do not think Starr's life is ruined, but its definitely changed forever. I do not think Blair is happy about it, she is even said it is not ideal situation, but it is what is it, and Blair does not want Starr to feel like she is alone anymore in this whole pregnancy thing. Blair is determined to be there for a pregnant Starr, and I think its great that they are a team. I think this pregnancy will bring Starr&Blair closer together as Starr realizes the connection between a mother&a child. -- lucy, 13:44:37 05/20/08 Tue
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Starr life doesn't have be ruined by this. It's not the end of the world. -- sluva, 14:21:39 05/20/08 Tue
Starr she has options most teenagers don't have nor will ever have..All mothers are not going to react to what some find somber with the same attitude just as all funeral are a tear filled occasions. If Blair puts on a sad face or a screw face what does that solve? Maybe she wants to do her crying in private... No doubt this isn't the best of situations but I think Blair is making the best of it. There is a baby on the way that's the reality... There is time for conflicted feeling to appear and eventually sort themselves out. It doesn't all have to happen in one day.
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Blair gives off a vibe that she thinks this is all very romantic and sweet. If she has conflicted feelings, I'd like to see them featured more. Not saying she shouldn't support Starr, but acting prideful and touched by the sonogram was a big over the edge. -- Cathy, 14:27:31 05/20/08 Tue
Starr's life is changed all right -- but not for the better.
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Starr has been pregnant for 3 months with no support whatever from her parents in fact Todd treated Starr like a common criminal. Blair can not even believe to imagine how alone and afraid her daughter felt for all this time, and she hates that Starr was too afraid to confide in her. Blair is now putting Starr first, Blair is not going to make this about her. Blair's sole focus is Starr, and she knows Starr needs at least one parent who is willingly to share the experience with her, and reassure Starr that she is not alone. I am glad that this is bringing Starr&Blair closer. -- lucy, 14:53:40 05/20/08 Tue
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Starr is always fine with Blair as long as Blair is saying exactly what she (Starr) wants to hear. The minute Blair says something Starr doesn't want to hear, Starr flips out on her. I wonder what Starr's words to her will be the next time Blair says something that is not exactly in support of Sole love or teens "making love"? -- Cathy, 15:00:56 05/20/08 Tue
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I do not know about that. I think Starr carrying this baby is definitely giving Starr some valuable insight into a mother's love which I hope will lead Starr understand better where Blair is coming from. -- lucy, 15:06:03 05/20/08 Tue
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It's still the same day... There is still plenty of time for other reactions to rise to the surface. I'm not sure what an appropriate reaction for a Mama looking at a sonogram would be? Reserved? Put out? Emotionless? What was she suppose to say or do? -- sluva, 17:00:19 05/20/08 Tue
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Maybe Blair was suppose to dig into her purse for a lighter so she could burn the sonogram photo in front of Starr, declare to Starr that there will be no baby, and order the nurse to find an available doctor to perform a quickie abortion STAT. -- lucy, 17:29:05 05/20/08 Tue
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That's not what I meant lucy, and since you seem like an intelligent person, I think you know that. -- Cathy, 00:02:37 05/21/08 Wed
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What? I was not thinking of you at all when I typed the above, I was thinking of those who say they are 100% on Team Todd, and are bashing Blair for being there for Starr. -- lucy, 07:20:28 05/21/08 Wed
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Blair gives off the vibe that her daughter is pregnant, her husband is out of control, and she has to take hold of the situstion. I am sure she is glad Cole is standing by Starr.. many young boys don't. Cole has tried to protect Starr and Blair sees that. -- tonya, 04:54:19 05/21/08 Wed
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Cathyyou said they cried while talking to you... not to their daughters. Blair did cry when she was away from Starr.. she just did not do it in front of her. She realizes this is about the baby and Starr now... not about HER. -- tonya, 04:49:11 05/21/08 Wed
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Besides there can't be a funeral dirge when NOBODY died.... It's not like Starr caught some terminal affliction.. the little idiot got knocked up..it's been going on for centuries they will manage.. -- sluva, 05:02:02 05/21/08 Wed
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I didn't see it as happy and sentimental. It's a mother, in shock facing so hard facts with a daughter she loves. There needs to be one cautious and sensible parent at least. It was obvious with John at the end of the show that Blair is in shock. There doesn't need to be two parents over the edge at a time like this. -- San, 14:13:17 05/20/08 Tue
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She didn't look shocked when she giggled at the sonogram and told Starr, "there's your little baby" hee hee! -- Cathy, 14:28:49 05/20/08 Tue
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i can understand Blair:s feeling she is so happy to see Starr and that is O.K after Todd pushed her down the Stair,she is just thrill that her baby is alright,I think blair is an excellent mother and anything one would be bless to have her beside them. -- shelia, 15:19:54 05/20/08 Tue
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Looking shocked and being "in shock" are two different things. -- San, 06:54:26 05/21/08 Wed
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Yeah, my heart broke for Blair, I am so glad that John stepped up, and made Blair know she could lean on him. Its good to know in that hospital in Virginia Beach Blair had a someone who was there for her during this difficult time. Bravo John for being such a great friend to Blair. -- lucy, 14:31:55 05/20/08 Tue
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My heart melted today i cannot stand to see Blair Cry,and i am so glad that John was there to comfort her,Blair is so strong but there is times when you need a friend to lean on and talk to.i love how Blair and Starr scene today,i knew Blair would stand up for her children,that is what kind of mother she is,she will go thru hell for her children,people can point their finger at Blair saying she is wrong you don;t know what you would do until you get in that sitation.Blair and Kassie is the best. -- shelia, 16:26:29 05/20/08 Tue
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I was disappointed too Cathy. This is not the message they should be sending. It's not ok to have unprotected sex at 16 with your boyfriend. I'm hoping they have the conversation soon. Blair is not Starr's best friend, she's her mother. Look how Dorian acted when she thought Langston was pregnant. -- DaJ, 14:27:48 05/20/08 Tue
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Yeah, but remember Starr is currently recovering from a concussion given to her by Todd who tossed her down the stairs like a rag doll. Blair thought Starr might have a broken neck or brain damage. On top of that Blair finds out that Starr is 3 months pregnant, and Starr was too afraid to tell Blair so tried to get an abortion, and later she run away to live in the slums just avoid telling her parents. Given all that, Blair knew Starr needed reassurance that everything was going to be ok not a harsh reality check about being 16 and pregnant. Blair did what was best for Starr today. -- lucy, 14:41:45 05/20/08 Tue
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Well I hope the reality check is coming then. If not today, in the next few weeks. Blair doesn't have to yell at her (it's too late for that now), but a more somber, or at least neutral reaction to the pregnancy news would have been nice. Less gushing and smiling, a more serious reaction. When your teen tells you she's pregnant, you shouldn't react the same way you would if your 35 year old told you she was. -- Cathy, 14:55:01 05/20/08 Tue
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I've had very different experiences with reactions to teen pregnancy in my family. So i guess everyone reacts to thing differently it isn't written in stone that parent s must automatically be stone face or any emotion they do have must lean towards the negative. -- sluva, 17:07:30 05/20/08 Tue
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I know everyone has their own opinions,but I think Blair is doing the right thing in supporting her daughter. She is just glad she alright. Blair wishes that her 16 year old daughter wasnt pregant,but she playing with the cards that she has been dealt. I am so glad that Blair is upprting starr and I think she feeling guilty that starr couldnt confide in her because of what Todd might do. He is acting like a jackass not a father,im not saying he shoulnt be upset,but hes going about in the wrong way. I wish everyone would quit coming down on Blair ,she doesnt desverve it. -- Farrah, 17:12:09 05/20/08 Tue
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I also think that Blair is trying to do right by her daughter and be there for her... but in all honesty, there isn't much about this story that I even remotely like. -- Dandesun, 18:07:28 05/20/08 Tue
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Ditto. -- Cath8791@comcast.net, 00:04:03 05/21/08 Wed
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ITA w/you Farrah. I,m thrilled she is supporting Starr. Is this her choice for her girl, NO, but we Moms don't always get our choices for the direction our kids lives take. All we can do is guide & hope they follow. Besides someone has to take the bull by the horns & carry on, & that CERTAINLY isn't gonna be Todd right now. He belongs in St Ann;s, maybe Addie can put in a good word!! LMAO -- Terry C, 06:52:02 05/21/08 Wed
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The show was on for an hour and throughout most of it Blair and Starr talked honestly about what had happened, when it happened, why it happened, and about how to be there for each other. There were both crying through most of the scenes. In one scenes Blair did smile when Starr saw her baby for the first time. After everything they had said and been through it was the only reaction she could give IMO. I am glad she is not acting unattached. Todd has that base covered. -- tonya, 05:02:36 05/21/08 Wed
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Of all the wonderful things Blair did as a mother yesterday... she gets slams for not making her daughter feel like crap when she saw her baby's pic for the first time. Blair was a great Mom yesterday and she did what she had to as a mother. I am very proud of her! -- tonya, 03:07:51 05/21/08 Wed
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I'm still trying to figure out what she was suppose to do or say about the sonogram? Are we really going to take away mother points for smiling a picture of your granbaby? Dande said it best.. "It is what it is" Them the breaks.. -- sluva, 05:09:04 05/21/08 Wed
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Thank you Tonya, I soooo agree. Some are so eager to jump on Blair whether she does right or wrong! IMO, she did what was right at the time and we should all just wait it out. I'd take Blair any day because being a mother is her first concern. -- San, 07:03:36 05/21/08 Wed
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All some people are acting i think they wanted Blair to beat the Hell out of Starr instead of showing her love and supporting Starr.I think Blair is doing the right thing standing up for Starr,Blair did;nt want her to get pregnant but since she is Blair is not going to Throw Starr to the curb.i just get tired of people running Blair down and up lift Todd no matter what Todd does he is always the good guy.i am glad Blair is going to kick Todd out.Blair is an excellent and any child will be blessed to has her as a mother.I hope Blair gets Sam not Todd. -- shelia, 12:29:03 05/21/08 Wed
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ITA w/you Tonya. I think she did the only thing she could do. It is what it is & it can't be undone. What should she have done, disown her as does happen way too much in real life & that's a whole new set of problems. AS A MOM I ALSO WAS VERY PROUD OF HER!!!! She did what had to be done, not act like an out of control, dangerous MANIAC as Todd has been doing. -- Terry C, 14:27:48 05/21/08 Wed
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What should have been Blair's reaction? Grabbing the sonogram and giving it to Todd? -- Lynn, 05:28:07 05/21/08 Wed
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I love all the comment. The Story is just beginning and I think it will be a good one. I loved the scenes with Starr too. They were written very well and Kristen and I have a 10 year history to pull from and so many fans have invested in the Mom/Daughter relationship over the years and it hurts to watch. -- Kassie DePaiva, 06:20:16 05/21/08 Wed
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I am so dissappointed in this storyline. The reactions thus far have been so unrealistic. It seems to me that they are glorifing teen pregnancy. "It's ok to get knocked up, because you can blame it all on your dad!!" I wish that Blair has been disappointed as well as happy that Starr wasn't hurt. I am just hoping that Starr loses the baby soon, because this storyline, as is, is going to tank!!! -- Heather, 07:46:35 05/21/08 Wed
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Sorry, you feel that way, Heather, but everyone has a right to their opinion. I would have been disappointed if Blair chewed out Starr in her hospital room yesterday knowing everything Starr has been through the last three months. To be honest, I do not want Starr to lose the baby knowing she is starting to love the baby. I am sure Blair will have a talk with Starr about the reality Starr faces as a teenage mother, but yesterday was not the time or place for it. -- lucy, 08:01:14 05/21/08 Wed
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Todd set up the circumstances. The kids made a bad decision. Todd has made things progressively worse by his reactions. Is he responsibile for the pregnancy? No! Is he responsible for his insane reactions? Yes! -- San, 11:09:42 05/21/08 Wed
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Well, today Todd got blamed for the kids having sex. By Blair. So, apparently, everything that happened IS Todd's fault. I think Todd handled everything wrong but it just feels like he's an excuse everyone else is using and that really detracts from the story for me. -- Dandesun, 12:41:06 05/21/08 Wed
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I agree with you Dandesun -- Tina, 15:06:45 05/21/08 Wed
Todd is responsible for a lot but he is not responsible for Starr and Cole having sex. That is their responsibility Todd did not force them to have sex.
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