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Date Posted: 15:08:32 04/21/04 Wed
Author: Isabelle
Subject: Hi Everyone !

My Goodness it's been so long since I came here last! Hi Melissa, I just saw your name, good to see you... I wish I could come more often but I honestly don't know where I could squizz that time from... The pictures are interesting but I don't know what to say! I've seen this effect often when using a digital camera. But who knows! For each life arriving there is one going, may be those were the spirits hovering above the future newborns?
I'm just back from France, a very quick 4 day trip to be with my family for my grand-mother's funeral. She died on good friday and I received the message when I came back that very same day from my husband's aunt funeral... So let me tell you that 2 funerals in 4 days is a lot for me! I do want to tell you that when I went to bed the night before I had a vivid picture of my grand-mother smiling at me, because my DH's aunt had died I thought that is why I had thought of my grand-mother who was getting older, but apparently she died around the time I envisioned her. It wasn't her spirit or a vision, but clearly in my mind, so I do think she came to say good-bye.I'm ok with her death I do think it is a blessing since she had lost the use of her legs and arms and her mind was wandering off once in a while but it is true that we are going to miss her. Although we did have a good laugh after the funeral once the family got back home, I actually had not laugh that much in a long time, so it was good remembering all the souvenirs with cousins I had not seen in ages. Knowing how my grand-mother was never the last for a good laugh I'm sure she appreciated. Now I have a question, I'm not sure if anyone has a suggestion. I've taken the whole thing really well, but since I came back a couple of days ago, I barely sleep and all I dream about is coffins and funerals. It's not scary and I don't sense it as a premonition of something bad that will happen, I'm certain of this, before my grand-mother and aunt died 2 weeks ago, I had my share of dreams of all the dead people I've known so I see the difference. But I'm wondering if the fact that I had been lucky enough to be sheltered from death all those years, it's how my subconscious is dealing with it ? It's not scarry but disturbing to wake up after one of those dreams and fall asleep again to see an other coffin...and doing so a few times a night. Is there anything I can do to stop it ? I'm pretty exhausted... It's not all bad I also had a dream of some mmpphing with Tom Cruise (well would have prefered Hugh Jackman but hey, I take Tom cruise anytime over some viewing of a coffin!

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[> Isabelle, I suggest you concentrate on your two girls and Jim and think of all they have meant to you. Two funerals in such a short time can be traumatic. Think now of the living and rejoice in them. -- Ron, 07:20:42 04/23/04 Fri


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[> A psychologist described it to me once as "ruminating." Just like a cow chewing on its cud. Something very affecting happens and we can't get it out of our mind right away, even when we try to put it off it just keeps chewing and chewing in the background. Really, the only cure for it is time. Can you fit an out of the ordinary thing into your schedule to take your mind down a different path, a night at the movies or a day in another town, just doodling around, anything to break the pattern? After the two recent deaths in our family my husband and I arranged a day away from home each time just to do anything we wanted to do, have fun and get away. -- beccabee, 18:06:39 04/23/04 Fri


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[> Thank You Ron and Beccabee, it's getting just a little better, but I'm not totally there yet! I do believe that it is some kind of ruminating. It is also something that put me back in touch with our mortality and worries of suddenly going and leaving the kids alone. Well it doesn't help that since I moved here I don't really have anybody to talk to and since I came back I haven't seen my husband who is still away. So not a soul to talk to and trying to deal with all this, a few health problems on top of it and I guess even I, am not that strong... But thank you both for your input... -- Isabelle, 22:03:11 04/23/04 Fri


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[> (((((Isabelle))))) First I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you feel "ok" with the passing of loved ones as it helps to know that they are more comfortable and happy passing over. About your dreams: this may sound a little off the wall, but I have been reading up on the healing properties of certain herbs and different gemstones and amethyst is one that helps quiet the mind and gives more restful sleep. I have an amethyst night light that I turn on each night. It's worth a try, but not sure how you feel about it. Hope the dreams stop soon. (With the exception of hmmmphing with Tom Cruise, of course!) -- Bandruidh, 23:25:03 04/23/04 Fri


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[> [> Hi Bandruidh, thank you for the advice, it's worth a try, I do have an ametysth ring, it's an unusual one as it is a light pink one but I might leave it on my night stand. The dreams have ceased, I still wake up though but this is normal for me, it happens all the time. I really think that I was taking it all in this past week as when it happens it goes too fast to actually realize it. It's just that not having my husband around and stepping right back into the routine of kids and school and all was a little tough for me, I felt a little depression coming. I have a book of "Universal prayers" prayers for all situations, and there is one for 'depression, fears and nightmares' and I have to admit the dreams have stopped around the same time I started the prayers. As for Tom Cruise it wasn't bad, but I'm looking forward to a night with Hugh Jackman "VBG" Thank you to the three of you for your response and your input. -- Isabelle, 08:44:57 04/24/04 Sat


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[> [> [> Isabelle, if you can figure out how I can get a night with Robbie Coltrane let me know. -- beccabee, 10:26:51 04/24/04 Sat


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[> [> [> [> LOL The day I get Hugh Jackman in my bed, I'll pass the formula around... of course I'll keep HJ ... he is mine "VBG" -- Isabelle, 11:59:31 04/24/04 Sat


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[> ((((Isabelle))))) I agree with beccabee that this is a sort of ruminating, but if you are getting tired and worn out, it's time to take a night off and sleep soundly. Amethyst is good. So is lavender oil, a drop or two on your pillow or on a cotton ball near your head. Also, it might help for you to say a prayer for peace and then surround your bed with a ring of white light or blue light and think of yourself snuggly safe in the middle. I personally find comfort in the ritual of reading something that feeds my soul, prayerful thought, and then this circle of light that pulsates with the Energy of Love. Hope all is well. Would you like a phone number or two to call? I wish I were closer so we could go have a cup of tea and just "be". -- Betsy, 14:59:12 04/24/04 Sat


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[> Isabelle, I think Bach-flowers would do wonders in that case! -- Martina, 03:59:18 04/29/04 Thu


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