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Date Posted: 11:26:15 01/25/04 Sun
Author: lynece
Subject: Heather I'm glad you survived.
In reply to: Heather S. 's message, "I made it through the week" on 20:00:28 01/24/04 Sat

that is all you can do sometimes. I too think my kids are doing fine at the sitters and that should make things easier, but it almost hurts more that they aren't missing me! Calista loves playing with all the kids and I'm very blessed in that the ladies I've found are so good with kids. I just hate being away from them that long.

My mom was home as well and even though I've worked part time before I didn't plan on going back full time until Calista was at least in First grade. And although 60% of Utah women work, we still feel the awful guilt that the church puts on us. Nobody's actually said anything to my face, but I feel horrible for being out of the home and heaven forbid that I actually might enjoy my job. I dread even picking up an Ensign or going to church.

Life changes like this suck, but I hope we'll both be able to make the best out of them and move forward.

Hugs,Lynece

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[> Okay, why are we feeling guilty here? -- Jenifer, 18:58:37 01/25/04 Sun

I'm sorry if you ladies have come across some nosy women who feel they can tell you how to run your homes, but please don't put that label on the Church. The Church teaches that the primary place for the woman is in the home. Mothers should only go to work if there is a real need. If you both have evaluated your family situation and know that is what you have to do, then you are following what the church teaches.

Now, if you feel that is not the case, then that is something that needs to be prayfully taken up with the Lord jointly with your DH. Otherwise, enjoy what you do. Make sure your children are in righteous environments and don't beat yourselves up over this.

I know being away from the kids is hard, that will not change. But you shouldn't feel "guilty" because you are doing the best you can.

My DH and I made the decision before we got married that I would stay home and we have sacrificed a lot to make that happen. I even tried a few ways of earning money and looked into jobs I could do at home. I was let know through the Spirit, that was not The Lord's will in our life and every effort in that direction has been thwarted. That is me and my family, our prayerful decision was for me to stay home. Your situation may be different. I have several friends who are in the work force. They wish it was different, but the answer to their prayers said it was necessary.

My hat goes off to any woman who can keep a household running and work. It's more than I can do most days to keep up with my house and kids while I'm home. Love those kids, but know you are doing the best you can.

Jenifer,
Mother to six earth angels and seven angels in Heaven.
Our newest angel left us Dec. 5, 2003.
We miss you Anna Marie!


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