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Date Posted: 08:08:10 10/06/03 Mon
Author: Joanne
Subject: Oh sweetie....it is really hard, we all know that.....m
In reply to: Heather 's message, "I am having such a hard time with this" on 07:50:54 10/06/03 Mon

And yes, he had a purpose that only Heavenly Father and Jesus know of. But it is only right that a mother would still long to hold her baby and to love them, rock them, nurse them at their breast. It is natural - and it is something that with Noah, you've been denied, but only for now.

I don't know the whys - I don't know the whole, wider picture that only God Himself can know and understand. I still wonder why - I still miss Hannah and I don't think that will ever go away totally. Time has lessened the severity of the pain of her death, but the hole in my heart is still there.

I so wish that the appt had gone better for you. Your name should have had a butterfly or something stamped beside it to signify you are a bereaved mother - it is a very small thing to do, but it sure means a lot when you are only so recent in your loss. Perhaps that is something you can suggest, in writing, that they do in the future to prevent more pain being inflicted unnecessarily. Our suggestions were taken into consideration and some were implemented - and I think that is part of Hannah's legacy to future families.

Heather, I so wish I had been there to give you a hug - I am close to tears in just remembering how intense that first year is, and I am just so deeply sorry that you have to go through all of this. Please keep posting, know how much we care and love you, and especially Noah. He has a very special momma.

J

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[> Heather......(((((hugs)))))...................(m) -- Sheila, 15:43:58 10/07/03 Tue

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that! I hate to say it, but the same thing happened to me at my 6 week check-up with Matthew. I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die! I felt like every eye in the whole office was watching me me when I said that my baby had died. I think Joanne's idea is a good one.

Don't ever feel bad about asking questions such as, "Why me?" I think you have to acknowledge your feelings and be true to how you feel. This helped me through the grieving process & it still does.

My thoughts & prayers stay with you Heather. Hugs~~Sheila


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