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Date Posted: 17:24:56 10/07/03 Tue
Author: lynece
Subject: Dear Heather, I wish I could give you a big hug
In reply to: Heather 's message, "I am having such a hard time with this" on 07:50:54 10/06/03 Mon

or a magic pill to make things all better. Your grief is still so new and it will get easier. It's hard to imagine ever feeling better again, but you will. I too still have the "why me" moments and I think we will as long as we're on this earth. Hopefully we will know the answer on the other side. My 6 week check was no fun, the nurse did remember ( I was a high needs patient) but the office waiting area for 5 OBs was packed with pregnant women. It was horrible.

Hang tight to your DH. You may not grieve the same way, but this is such an important time to stick together.

Thanks for sharing with us. We love you and DO understand.
Lynece

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[> Oh Heather I'm sure we can all remember the dept of pain you are in right now... -- Breneman, 18:52:46 10/07/03 Tue


I can still remember someone asking me a few weeks after my son had died if I was feeling any better yet. I just turned and looked at them and said "NO, everyday is only another day without my child. It's not getting any better and I don't know if it ever will."

That is where you are right now and it's OK to be there. These are strange new awful feelings and it takes a lot of work and faith to learn how to deal with them. I know that the pain of losing a child never goes away; we just learn to deal with it differently. But it takes time.

I have never felt that my Heavenly Father was upset with me for feeling angry and betrayed over the death of my children either. I now know that what he feels is a great love and compassion for us. Not only as a loving father but also as a fellow parent. It's OK to vent your frustrations with the Lord, he understands. And so do we.

Hugs,
Mary


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