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Date Posted: 20/11/03 13:04
Author: 小芝
Subject: Re: 過早的挫折
In reply to: Jacob 's message, "Re: 過早的挫折" on 20/11/03 0:18

父母很多時都要子女"乖"."乖"即坐定定,成績好,有禮貌等.我小時候便努力去做一個乖小孩.但讀書成績好時父母又說我朋友少,不懂交際和不醒目,拿你不好的來和其他做得好的小朋友比較.我用了所有時間讀書,天生內向,又沒參加學校的話外活動,當然朋友少,不懂和人溝通.父母不明白一個人不會樣樣皆能,常只集中在子女的短處上.也可說是愛子女心切,想他們做到最好,將來"成功"吧.(愛之深,責之切)
不過子女長大到某一時期會發覺自己要的"成功"不是父母所定義的.

我還記得關麗珊在曾書中說她少年時就想去旅行,但不夠錢,問父親借.有些身邊的大人便說她應該自己賺到錢才去,但她堅持應年青時去,錢可慢慢賺過.很配服她這麼少已知道自己要什麼,不一定要做別人眼中的"乖"孩子.如果我小時候已懂得這樣想便好了!

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