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Subject: I need your advice

Author:
RT

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Date Posted: 10:52:19 01/27/05 Thu

You would think I would have figured this one out - considering the amount of course work I have attended - but I feel kind of stuck and unsure of how to communicate what I want from my partner - in a way that is appoving and actually has me get it.

Truthfully, I think I am stuck in wanting to be nice. I mean - if I really begin to start asking for what I want - I just might look like a demanding bitch - every guy's worse nightmare - at least that is the story I am telling myself. Also, I feel like I need to keep it light and upbeat. I don't want to look like one of those girls that processes everything - although - guess what I AM!

It is just that I have allowed so many with-holds to build up - that now I am just confronted with my own anger and frustration - I am just so damned pissed - and I am making him wrong (not verbally yet - just in my head). Ya, think he's feeling it : ) - and as of yesterday - I have officially labeled him as self-centered and selfish.

Does this guy stand a chance...

I won't get into the stories of what he did "wrong" in my opinion - as complaining won't get me what I want. Although - I will need to communicate my with-holds with him at some point.

So, instead let me express what I do want... and that is to feel closer to him - and more deeply connected.

Specifically what I want is for him to engage me more in conversation - and how that would look is him asking me more questions about myself, my day, my life. Him asking me about myself would allow me to open up and share about who I am - It would also have me feeling like he was interested in me - all which would ultimately have me feeling more connected to him.

I want him to put his attention on me - more frequently - period.

So, what do you think - advise me please?!

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Subject	Author	Date
oh goodness...	Suz	11:51:58 01/27/05 Thu

oh yeah	suz	11:53:03 01/27/05 Thu

There's this little communication course on 2/5	Robert	16:00:02 01/27/05 Thu

I've been trying this..	Nicole	08:09:59 01/29/05 Sat