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Subject: opening hearts

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Suz

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Date Posted: 09:58:45 09/24/04 Fri
In reply to: Jessie 's message, "Something to Share" on 23:10:30 09/23/04 Thu

Sometimes those who feel things the most deeply have a hard time being with those feelings. A good friend once said to me "if you are feeling a certain energy with a person, then they are feeling that same energy. Energy is universal." Whether or not they choose to recognize or act on those feelings is another story.

I do not believe people are cold. I believe that they have blocked out certain feelings or perhaps do not feel safe expressing what they want to express. We all have things in our minds that keep us from being the fully open person that we long to be.

I am thinking that if your friend is anything like me---she felt the same feelings that you have about the evening you both spent together, but now she is scared. Now she wants to push you away because having you hold that much of her heart right now feels too vulnerable.

Have compassion, love and acceptance towards your friend and all of her behaviors. This is the way to coax open a heart.

I believe you are learning from this experience right now.

Keep your heart open. Love. Have compassion. It is very difficult to do in the face of a frightened and seemingly closed person--but this is when it is most important (hint to all of my friends who have had to deal with me this past week--and by the way I love you all for being in my life and just being).

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Sending Warmth~	Elana	17:07:55 09/27/04 Mon