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Date Posted: 12:31:27 01/28/07 Sun
Author: Mikki
Author Host/IP: 24-180-81-45.dhcp.bycy.mi.charter.com / 24.180.81.45
Subject: Re: I do not know...
In reply to: Richard 's message, "I do not know..." on 08:22:02 01/28/07 Sun

Richard......I hope we are good enough friends that I can be a bit blunt here. HE IS USING YOU!!!!!! The fact that he felt "entitled" to use your car while you were in the hospital just proves that. Yes, he probably did take the change out of your car, and yes he drove the hell out of it because he felt "entitled". You co-signed for his apartment, leaving yourself wide open knowing he has difficulties in keeping jobs, keeping clean, etc. You are the one who continually is going to get hurt in this relationship.

Bluntness again......codependency. You are trying to make up for all the lost years of his growing up. You are trying to help him get on his feet again out of some sense of responsibility, but he is continuing to screw up the help you are giving him.

"What is going to happen to me when you are gone?" speaks volumes on what he is getting from you. Who will be there to bail him out when he gets in trouble? Who will fix his car? Who will cosign his loans? Look at it Richard....he is using you.....and his statement proved it.

I'm sorry, I may be stepping over the line here, but I don't like to sit back and watch someone take advantage of another. Even if it is your own son. He should be on his own, and not run to dear old dad to bail him out. Nor should dear old dad bail him out everytime. How is he going to learn? Leave him in your will.....let him deal up until then.

Said with love and caring,

Mikki

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  • Re: I do not know... -- Richard, 12:53:50 01/28/07 Sun
  • Oops... above reply for you Mikki -- Richard, 12:56:50 01/28/07 Sun
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