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Subject: Re: help! still going nuts!!!!


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Shani
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Date Posted: 08:54:58 01/19/05 Wed
In reply to: kim 's message, "help! still going nuts!!!!" on 14:50:25 01/18/05 Tue

I know how you feel. I have been feeling the same thing lately. I have been restricting a lot more lately. I hadn't even noticed I was really doing it again until someone commented that I had lost more weight since I have been sick. I sat down to try to figure out why I feel this way and realized that I felt like such a failure in other areas of my life that this was something I was good at and could control. So I have been really frustrated with myself in life in general and hate feeling like the "Debbie Downer" of my group of friends. I know it sucks and I'm going to tell you what I have been telling myself...life goes through ups and downs and just because you stumble doesn't mean that we have failed. Also, friends are there to help you when you hit life's bumps and listen when you go through periods of complaining. I don't mind your venting...if I can somehow help you, that would make me feel better. So we are all being helped...you get things off your chest and we get to help you figure out what to do or just listen when there is nothing that can be done. So smile and keep the venting coming...better to let it out than keep it in. ;-)

>Hey everyone,
>thanks so much for all of your advice. yeah it's
>really dissapointing, and i know i was crazy for
>taking in such a short amount of time, but i really
>thought i could do it. it is def hard to not think i'm
>a failure though, because of all the amount of work i
>put into learning the material...anyways, i think it's
>more frusterating that i have to RETAKE the course
>now. it just seems like life is very frusterating for
>me right now. i am just driving myself nuts with
>everything in my life. i worry so much about the
>future, i can't even enjoy now. i do this in my
>relationship with troy...and it is driving him crazy
>too. its like, he wants to go away and do internships
>and study abroud and stuff, and i am very supportive
>of him, yet at the same time, all i can think is that
>he'd find someone who is better than me in these other
>couuntries or whatever...am i crazy or what?? all i
>know is that the past few days its been very hard for
>me ot keep food down, its like i just am allowing
>myself to spiral into these old patterns. i hate this,
>i hate how one day you can feel completely normal, and
>the next day be sad for no real reason. and i also
>hate being the one with all of htese problems, its
>like I"M always venting to people, and i just wish
>that instead of venting to everyone, i could help more
>people..ya know?? there is so much i want to do with
>my life and helping people is on the top of my list,
>but i am kind of at a point where all i can think is
>how can i help people when i can't even figure myself
>out right now?? i am so stressed out about everything,
>i'm on meds, seeing a therapist, and am still going
>crazy, i thought htings were better, but now i'm not
>so sure. sorry guys, i hate to keep venting, but i'm
>just letting my fingers go right now....anyways...i am
>really fursterated at myself with this class,
>especially because now all i can think is htat iw
>asted three weeks of my life pretty much...along with
>a bunch of money...which is honestly the LAST Thing i
>need to be doing...is wasting money...none of you know
>about hte "situation" with my dad, but it's pretty
>horrible...i wont even bother explaining it, but
>still, i'm going insane. anyways, enough of
>me...thanks for all of your help ladies. your
>wonderful...and mean soo much to me! take care!
>~always~
>kim
>
>
>>Kim, I think Deb is on to something, so I'll add my
>>two cents worth. You gave yourself what, like 3 weeks
>>to learn this course? Never mind how you got into that
>>pinch--we all live and learn. But do you know anyone
>>who could learn that course in 3 weeks? Give a task
>>like that to anyone and they'll fall short, in fact
>>they probably wouldn't have done as well as you did.
>>Another reason to forgive yourself and give it another
>>chance.

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