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Re: Am I being unreasonable?

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whitewolf

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Date Posted: 1/05/07 17:23
In reply to: Lilly from the Valley 's message, "Am I being unreasonable?" on 1/05/07 17:11

Hello lovely Lil,
Take the advice you would give, stop feeling guilty and please don't be so hard on yourself. :)

"...but I cant help feeling very guilty - and thats exactly how he used to make me feel when we were together..."
so don't give him this power any longer. Stand strong and proud ((((hugs))))
Bright Blessings
whitewolf

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Re: Am I being unreasonable?

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Paganwolf (Steaming)
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Date Posted: 1/05/07 17:26

No you are not being unreasonable.

Half that is yours,legally, end of discussion.

His financial concerns are his alone and nothing to do with you, you weren't to blame for them were you? why should you feel guilty?

And if he wants to bang on about what he paid for during the marriage,thats fine but remember, a marriage is gaive and take and I bet if you wanted to be as picky as him, you could mention things you paid for.

In short, what i'd say is the endowment is in two names, both should get 50% of it.

Then if you don't want to assist, that is your choice and nothing to do with him.

He is bullying you, psycologically but bullying none the less. His problems are not yours so I wouldn't allow that to influence any decision he makes. Remember, you can always remind him that half of something is better than nothing because if there is a formal request for maintenance, you can claim that back with interest from him.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but you asked.

Blessings and light

Paganwolf )0(

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