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Subject: Re: hurt again

Author:
sweetsong

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Date Posted: 25/01/07 14:05
In reply to: sweetsong 's message, "hurt again" on 22/01/07 9:52

i hope not dragonlady - my friend was only recently married.

i have done a silly thing. i have joined livejournal which is a blogging community and am now hurt by hearing the man i am in love with talking to other women flirting with the people that leave comments in his journal. am torturing myself.

honesty can be thoughtless and cruel. i have the ability to decide. telling someone you think they are ugly, uncreative and lacking in intelligence (as my sisters tell me) is not kind honesty even if it is true.

i think it is BS to think honesty is always the best policy. who are you to decide to hurt people with your version of opinions? all the thoughts that go on in our heads, anyone would be unwise to share them all!

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Ash
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Date Posted: 25/01/07 19:29

I think honesty is the best option.
If you lie, even the smallest and with the best intentions, it can and usually does come back to bite you or the person you lied to on the ass.
Have you ever watched pop idol? With those people whose families tell them they can sing when they can't and they go on there and end up feeling broken and humilliated because of lies which had the best intentions to begin with.
Well, honesty would have saved them the shame. And life is the same.

And honesty doesn't have to be kind or cruel, like I said..honesty is honesty. It is the summation of observations.
If you are going to get into the "who are you to decide to hurt people with your version of opinions?", then being hurt by an opinion is merely a point of experience. Someone else could take the exact same comment to be completely innocuous and then what happens? Is it an ambivalent truth that is torn between being kind or cruel?
No, it just is.
Truth is truth.
That's all I am going to say on it.

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