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Date Posted: 20:21:41 06/19/01 Tue
Author: Josh1:9
Subject: Re: Help
In reply to: Denise 's message, "Help" on 13:03:38 09/12/00 Tue

God specifically allows for divorce on grounds of adultery.
To divorce your husband on these grounds would not be a sin against God. (Matthew 5:32)

Also remember Joshua 1:9 Be strong and of good courage.

Proverbs 2: 1-5

1: My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you,
2: making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding;
3: yes, if you cry out for insight and raise your voice for understanding,
4: if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures;
5: then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God.
6: For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding;
7: he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a shield to those who walk in integrity,
8: guarding the paths of justice and preserving the way of his saints.
{{9: Then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity, every good path;
10: for wisdom will come into your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul;
11: discretion will watch over you; understanding will guard you;
12: delivering you from the way of evil, from men of perverted speech,
13: who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness,
14: who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the perverseness of evil;
15: men whose paths are crooked, and who are devious in their ways. }}
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>Shortly, after a rough, going nowhere relationship
>with the father of my first child, I met a man whom I
>got saved through, and married two months later in
>court. I just wanted to get married a be a wife to
>someone, he was comforting at times. I never
>questioned my desperation.
>
>I have been separate from my husband for 3 years.
>This, after having been bitterly attacked emotionally
>and physically, cheated on with a few women, made to
>support my children alone (he wouldn't go find a job),
>sleep on a mattress on the floor, and being without
>gas for the stove because of financial deficit. Even
>though I earned the money he would control how it was
>spent. I had to ask for my money to buy myself a
>bottle of perfume. I gave this man numerous chances.
>Going back and forth with him without change has
>almost but driven me crazy.
>
>To keep my sanity and not end up at 50 with regrets I
>decided that it was time that I made a decision - no
>matter what my husband would say to change my mind.
>I,had to move on with my life. He seems to have gained
>a perspective on the wrong he has done. He proclaims
>to love me so much now, and tells everyone about me,
>when beforem - he use to deny me. He begs, pleads,
>even cries. He still doesnt have a job, doesnt look,
>and doesnt have a work history to get one with. He
>acts like he's afraid to pick up the newspaper.
>
>Moreover, now that I've matured I don't have any love
>for him anymore. He could be a good friend but I cant
>dredge up any intimacy and can't stand to be touched
>by him. I spent so much time trying to gain acceptance
>and love from him in the beginning of the marriage,
>that I kept smothering the feelings that I had for him
>- that I didn't really feel like I loved him. He
>should have been a brother to me not a husband. Now
>his chances with me are even less because I enjoy
>being without him (without having once taken up
>company with another man). I just go to work and come
>home to care for my children. I feel at peace.
>
>I'm afraid that if I give him another chance, I wont
>be able to love him, and I will have a hard time
>getting him out of the house. As it is, he never
>honored the separation and comes over to my house and
>meets me at my job when I ask him not too. I feel no
>peace when he is around because his life is like a
>whirlwind.
>
>He said that if I divorce him I will be sinning
>against God and nothing will go right for me ever
>again. Me, I wanted more children and I'm afraid that
>I will never find anyone to love me again. That is why
>I'd go back - only. And because of God. But I feel no
>peace when I deal with him. I also feel sorry for him
>but I don't want that to influence my decision.
>
>Can someone give me some advice.

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