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>God specifically allows for divorce on grounds of >adultery. >To divorce your husband on these grounds would not be >a sin against God. (Matthew 5:32) > >Also remember Joshua 1:9 Be strong and of good courage. > >Proverbs 2: 1-5 > >1: My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my >commandments with you, >2: making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining >your heart to understanding; >3: yes, if you cry out for insight and raise your >voice for understanding, >4: if you seek it like silver and search for it as for >hidden treasures; >5: then you will understand the fear of the LORD and >find the knowledge of God. >6: For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come >knowledge and understanding; >7: he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a >shield to those who walk in integrity, >8: guarding the paths of justice and preserving the >way of his saints. >{{9: Then you will understand righteousness and >justice and equity, every good path; >10: for wisdom will come into your heart, and >knowledge will be pleasant to your soul; >11: discretion will watch over you; understanding will >guard you; >12: delivering you from the way of evil, from men of >perverted speech, >13: who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in >the ways of darkness, >14: who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the >perverseness of evil; >15: men whose paths are crooked, and who are devious >in their ways. }} >16 > >>Shortly, after a rough, going nowhere relationship >>with the father of my first child, I met a man whom I >>got saved through, and married two months later in >>court. I just wanted to get married a be a wife to >>someone, he was comforting at times. I never >>questioned my desperation. >> >>I have been separate from my husband for 3 years. >>This, after having been bitterly attacked emotionally >>and physically, cheated on with a few women, made to >>support my children alone (he wouldn't go find a job), >>sleep on a mattress on the floor, and being without >>gas for the stove because of financial deficit. Even >>though I earned the money he would control how it was >>spent. I had to ask for my money to buy myself a >>bottle of perfume. I gave this man numerous chances. >>Going back and forth with him without change has >>almost but driven me crazy. >> >>To keep my sanity and not end up at 50 with regrets I >>decided that it was time that I made a decision - no >>matter what my husband would say to change my mind. >>I,had to move on with my life. He seems to have gained >>a perspective on the wrong he has done. He proclaims >>to love me so much now, and tells everyone about me, >>when beforem - he use to deny me. He begs, pleads, >>even cries. He still doesnt have a job, doesnt look, >>and doesnt have a work history to get one with. He >>acts like he's afraid to pick up the newspaper. >> >>Moreover, now that I've matured I don't have any love >>for him anymore. He could be a good friend but I cant >>dredge up any intimacy and can't stand to be touched >>by him. I spent so much time trying to gain acceptance >>and love from him in the beginning of the marriage, >>that I kept smothering the feelings that I had for him >>- that I didn't really feel like I loved him. He >>should have been a brother to me not a husband. Now >>his chances with me are even less because I enjoy >>being without him (without having once taken up >>company with another man). I just go to work and come >>home to care for my children. I feel at peace. >> >>I'm afraid that if I give him another chance, I wont >>be able to love him, and I will have a hard time >>getting him out of the house. As it is, he never >>honored the separation and comes over to my house and >>meets me at my job when I ask him not too. I feel no >>peace when he is around because his life is like a >>whirlwind. >> >>He said that if I divorce him I will be sinning >>against God and nothing will go right for me ever >>again. Me, I wanted more children and I'm afraid that >>I will never find anyone to love me again. That is why >>I'd go back - only. And because of God. But I feel no >>peace when I deal with him. I also feel sorry for him >>but I don't want that to influence my decision. >> >>Can someone give me some advice.

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