The deception after divorce. -- Christians and Divorce

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Date Posted: 13:44:35 07/26/01 Thu
Author: firey_eagle
Subject: The deception after divorce.

Hi, I hope this will be a blessing in some way for all who can identify and have gone through the struggle of feeling loneliness in their life.

My deception, I have to admit, that I was stubborn and buried my self deep into the things of God. Which was ok to some extent. But I allowed it to get out of balance to the point of building a wall within. A wall that wouldn't allow man to get near me. A wall that deprive me of the very need and desire of affection from man.

So I urge all that are single again... who are putting up a spiritual front that you don't have need of anyone, to come clean with your self and get free of your deception. Inside you are screaming out for that special partner. And to appear strong on the out side you just say things like, I have the gift of celibacy. Well, God's will, God's timing. Oh I'm to old to re-marry, or I've been married to many times already.

In my opinion, It's God's will for you to be happy! Well' Paul I say's ... Yes, I know... What ever state you are called .... walk in it! In my opinion, for what ever that's worth, I say if you are having any thoughts of the opposite gender, and a desire for their affection; You just may not have that calling to be single as you though you had. And if you are confusing your desire to be true to God till that partner comes, with the true calling to be single. It's ok! I've been there! Living a celibate life is a life style for a Christian single. But don't be confused that just because God has helped you sustain those desires, that He wants you to be single all you life.

It is very rare in God's word that someone has devoted their life to celibacy. And when they did, it was for a great cause of special service unto the Lord. Take Jephthahs' tragic vow for instance, in Judges 11:29-40. The daughter paid a big price of life celibacy due to her fathers vow to God.

Now, Let's see how hard it is to live a life of celibacy. Go to Judges 13 - 16, and see the behavior of Samson and all his short comings. He was called to live a life of celibacy as a Nazarene.

Other Men of God called to this special life of celibacy were Samuel and John the Baptist. (Speaking of the "term"
As a Nazareth, they had to renounce the use of all vine products such as wine, was prohibited to cut their hair, and was celibate.)

In Genesis 2: 1 81 God said, it is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a help meet for him. And so the scriptures say, God made woman and brought her to him to be one in equableness; in their holy union.

And by the way while I'm in the same chapter, In verse 19 God made the animals. Paraphrased, it states that Adam did not feel content with the animals. That's when God made Eve. Adam was pleased and spoke a poem to her in verse 23. So, you ask what's my point? Your fooling no one but your self if you try to use an animal to cover up the fact that you're lonely. And what you know will really make you happier is a spouse.

There's more I could say, But I'll stop before I write a book. Tee Hee! I love you all, and I know you hurt. So why don't some of you start asking God to destroy those walls that you have built within you self. With Jesus being our happiness; allow Him to bring total restoration to your past hurt and wounds so you can move on to greater things God has planed for you; to bring extra happiness in your life. As for me... I'm open... not looking...and waiting with expectancy and anticipation for that perfect partner to be placed in my life. See my post, Tips for the perfect partner.

In His Presence,

Janice :-))

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