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Date Posted: 11:38:14 11/06/06 Mon
Author: Clare Tyler
Subject: Figuring Out What 'Sex' to Have Till Marriage

The question regarding this had a lot to do with a person's certain moral/religious beliefs and premarital sex. This is an issue that I have discussed with many girls in my church's youth group that I am a leader of. The question is based off of the fact that the Bible clearly states NOT to have sex before marriage but does not draw a line on other issues.

I personally believe that physical contact between two people should be limited to nothing more than kissing while dating. Now this may seem really extreme, but I can honestly say from my life's experience that it is the best way to go. I was dating a guy for two years and we fully intended on getting married one day. While we did not have sexual intercourse, we allowed ourselves to have other physical contact that was very intimate. Our parents had set different rules and we disobeyed them, unfortunately. Now that we have broken up, I find that the hardest thing for me to forget about him is the physical aspect, as opposed to the memories and emotions. It is hard to forget even the simple things that I assumed I would not have a problem with, such as taking a nap together. I almost feel like that is the one thing that is holding me back from completely "getting over" him. Not only that, but I now have the duty of telling my husband about things that I participated in with someone other than him. I know this all could have been avoided if I would have followed the limits that were set. As hard as it may seem, if you don't give into the tempation in the first place, you won't crave that feeling, so I think it is best to limit your sexual activity to a minimum. Besides, a good relationship is based on friendship and compatibilty, so I think that should be the focus.

-Clare Tyler

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