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Date Posted: 07:44:30 05/10/10 Mon
Author: Sean, Joel, Luke & Cody to Rick and Dave
Subject: Is Prom Goers Protection Giving Wrong Message

Hey Big Brothers,

Would like your advice about something. It's kind of an embarrassing questions and was wondering if it happened to you two brothers at your school, before you attended Prom night, and thought seeing how your closest to our age and generation that you would have a good answer to why this happened and should we have expected it to?

Most of us Brothers will be attending a Prom for the first time, with really special ladies. We have respect for them and believe they have respect for us.

Thought about talking to our dads, but with it being embarrassing like and knew we would feel more comfortable to "talk" with you and hear your thoughts, we thought our dads' might get the wrong idea and get mad at us, etc.

While in Health Class/Gym Class, which of course is an all-guys class, one of the teachers we have talked about our upcoming Jr. & Sr. Prom on Sat., 5-15-2010, and the importance of respecting our dates and they should be respectful to us, too.

We were told that sometimes things can happen between a guy/girl while dating (which we kinda knew he was getting at from learning in school about the "birds & the bees" and the father/son "talks" with our dads and know girls have the mother/daughter "talk"; and things might get out of hand later on between a guy and girl, perhaps after we leave the Prom. So one or both parties of us on Saturday night doesn't get hurt, and the need came up for use, the teacher passed out some protection for us guys to use, a condom.

Most of guys in class were shocked, and nobody laughed! Serious business!

After we left, we didn't know if the school was trying to help us guys out, should things get really serious with our dates on Saturday, besides everyone else who will be dating for the Prom.

We was thinking they were giving us and other guys the wrong message, and if word gets around to the girls in school(wondering if a teacher had a "talk" in the Girls Health/Gym Class) they might get the wrong message.

We saw and heard some guys say they were "thrilled the school was helping them out, so they wouldn't have to go buy their own protection" and others thought "is the school encouraging dates, if they get into a serious mood and approve of each other 'doing it', to make sure they are protected so neither party doesn't get hurt and have to take responsiblity for their actions."

Some of us "Brothers" thought about throwing the protection away, but decided we had better not. We have them in our wallets.

Big Brothers, none of us guys have thought about having sex with the girls after the Prom, although its been told around school that some kids in past years have, after their proms. Also, none of us guys have ever carried protection or thought about getting some before now.

Nobody in school is bragging about that they are going to do "something" with their dates after the Prom.

We feel from our upbringing by our parents they taught us to respect dates and NOT take advantage of them or get in situations to allow them to WANT US to take advantage of them, even with their approval or to be pressured to.

But Big Brothers now with the passing out of the protection package in school, and girls finding out about it, what if they feel that it's alright to do "something" and want to pressure us, and heaven forbid we breakdown and feel because we have protection that everything would be alright to do "it", how do we get out of it without 'hurting' them or from peer pressure if that comes us?

None of us guys have had this happen to us before, but we're wondering now with the teacher what they did, if this isn't really ENCOUARGING kids to do "something" that they never thought about doing before, and might now! We even thought, did the school or some parents come up with this idea and decided now to spring it on us kids.

We do NOT look at it encouraging us, but you never know when a guy/girl get together that unexpected "moods" might happen and "things" might happen.

Did any of you have this situation happen while you was in school like we've had happen to us, like them passing out protection to the guys, if so, how did you deal with it and not have problems hurting dates/girls?

Or, Rick, Dave, if you would rather not talk about this "school event" that has happened to us, we will not bother you and bring it up again.

But, because we have come to know you as "brothers" and trust you and feel we can talk to you without
embarrassment, we thought we would ask. This is serious to us, we want to seek an answer what to do, and this is no joking matter!

Don't get us wrong Big Brothers, you know we can talk to our dad's about things, but thought they might get mad if they knew we had been give the condoms and thought if we might get "weak" and want to give in to a pretty girl if they make suggestions, instead of wanting to "just saying, NO!" to them like we've been taught to, but we NEVER had protection to use, that our dads would really get mad!

So any comments, Big Brothers? We have time before Saturday night to hear from you!

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