Bob to Beverly
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Date Posted: 18:52:40 10/10/12 Wed
I do have some comments and questions for you regarding the changes in your disciplinary program. First of all, what was your son's reaction to the changes you made? Did he have any issues or comments to make regarding the changes?
The rest of my comments/questions pertain to the listing that you made;
1. Have you had problems in the past (by "the past" I mean say, the past year or so) with him NOT cooperating when he has merited a a spanking? If so, can you tell me something about what happened and why/how he was being uncooperative, and how this was handled by you? That is, how did you react to what he id, and what were the consequences? Has he not cooperated only with you, or also with your husband? Does he routinely take down his own pants/underwear? (Mine do not at this point, and I have simply let them know that when they are 12 years old they will be expected to do so. But, until March, I was inconsistent in having them be spanked bare-bottom.)If he fails to cooperate, is the only consequence that he'll face to be that his underwear will come down and the spanking will continue bare-bottom?
2. Seems reasonable to me; did Chris have any comment here?
3. I completely agree that serious misbehavior would mandate a bare-bottom spanking. My only comment would be that you define as much as is possible what is meant by "serious misbehavior." You did give two examples, the lying and the school disciplinary report, but what about disrespect to an adult , swearing, etc. I understand it's tough to cover every contingency, but children- particularly teens, will look for any possible "out" to win an argument. Therefore, it will be to your benefit to try to define this area as precisely as is possible. It helps that you know your own son, of course, and you can therefore best predict his possible actions.
4. By saying "the same week" do you mean a calendar week, or, do you mean a seven day period?
Finally, I commend you on making changes to your methods. Showing Chris that you are willing and able to make changes when merited serves as a great example for him! Bravo, Beverly!
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