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Subject: Re: Me again Author: Emmie Sue [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 17:00:25 11/14/25 Fri In reply to: Elsie 's message, "Me again" on 11:03:58 11/09/25 Sun This has renewed my interest and faith in this group. I wish you the best. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:30:44 11/14/25 Fri My mom has always been strict. I don't mean that I got punished a lot, but she had a lot of rules and never was very permissive like a lot of people's parents I knew. The couple times I said I asked my mom to spank me was when I got grounded and said something like "Why don't you just spank me". I think she might have considered it then, maybe, I don't know, but it probably sounded more like trying to get out of grounding, but in reality I really was asking her to spank me. That was all in the notebook I gave my mom. I got home from work tonight. My mom was watching TV and said dinner was in the fridge. While I was eating my mom sat across from me and she asked the usual dumb questions, but I was trying to avoid her. I said I was going to eat in my room. She said we have a rule about eating in my room. She said she was in my room today and I hadn't done the chores I was supposed to do, my laundry, OMG was she looking in my hamper? and the vacuuming. She said I also didn't do the dishes I was supposed to do and to look in the sink and see what she found in my room. A whole bunch of dishes that aren't supposed to be in there. She told me the laundry and vacuuming can wait till I get back from work tomorrow, but I had to do the dishes tonight. When she stood up I noticed a paddle on the wall that had never been there before. I'd like to tell myself that it's just a cutting board, but I don't believe that. I feel really sick. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:26:35 11/14/25 Fri you're on the good way and you may ask her about the paddle [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:52:26 11/15/25 Sat I've seen these types of paddles in a lot of people's houses hanging on the wall or on a shelf or something and of course I think spanking but rationalizing they're just decorative. But for my mom to suddenly have one hanging in the kitchen is a little sus. I didn't sleep hardly at all last night and I've got to go to work. This is similarhttps://pleasurefactorys.myshopify.com/products/14x-3-5-walnut-spanking-paddle?srsltid=AfmBOoo5cSV2UZ9dhnsCbYB9-vCGT3YzBhmrb-hCDHir8s56nEyj8nHp [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:22:45 11/15/25 Sat Just ask her... where she got it, what it's for, and when..? . [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: CaringThroughAction [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:31:47 11/15/25 Sat I wonder if your Mom is kind of toying with you. That wall hanging has a purpose, a message behind it, because it is a paddle for spanking and not a cutting board to serve cheese and crackers. Did you come back down from your room and actually clean up the dishes? Perhaps you are also subconsciously asking her for accountability, in a way. It sounds like you do need some kind of consequence with this list she came up with. Not to please her so much, but rather to help you. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:07:16 11/15/25 Sat Either your mom is just trying to scare you or she intends on using that paddle on your butt when you screw up. I'm guessing the latter. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: BBB [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:31:27 11/15/25 Sat It seems the paddle must be for spanking. Too much of a coincidence to not be. This isn't the first time you've asked your mom for this and, giving in, maybe she is letting you decide to make the next move, or she would have used it already. I wonder if she really believes a spanking would improve your behavior, or if she has just decided to give you what you want. Either way, it would be interesting to know what you think of the experience afterwards. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Marla [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:36:16 11/15/25 Sat It sounds to me like your mom is taking charge of a daughter who has been lazy and sloppy around the house and perhaps disrespectful "the usual dumb questions." A rare opportunity for your mom. I'm just gonna say I think it would do good and I hope you get exactly what you asked for. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:47:32 11/16/25 Sun I can't sleep so I'll just tell you what happened. This all happened so fast. I guess it really hasn't because it's been 19 years and I've been turning all this over in my mind since I was in grade school. Yes, Caring Through Action of course I did the dishes. At work my brain was going crazy. I wanted to go home, but I didn't want to go home. When I got home I got the usual small talk and was told to do my chores. My mom had separated my laundry, that was embarrassing, and I vacuumed and cleaned my room and did some other things. My mom helped me put away my laundry and I was thing 'Mom please get away from my laundry, this is embarrassing.' Then she told me to go in the kitchen. I don't know which was worse thinking she was going to spank me or we were going to talk. I think a spanking would have been better than talking. I started at that paddle waiting for her. It didn't look so appealing now. She came in with the notebook and sat down. I don't know if I felt shame or what I was feeling. I'll try to rewrite what she said but it's all pretty much a jumble. "This is interesting reading. You put a lot of thought and research into this. I've always wondered if maybe not holding you more accountable and not being more firm with consequences was maybe doing you a disservice. It's very hard being a parent and we don't always make the right decisions. We chose not to spank. I knew your father was against it. I wasn't so sure. After we divorced I just let be what was. There were thousands of times I thought you deserved a good spanking and in many ways I regretted not doing it. Groundings didn't stick and they were really punishment for both of us. I know a lot more about you than you think. A girl can't keep secrets from her mother because she already knows. I've read everything in this notebook. Even looked at the pictures and watched the videos you linked. This is A+ work. I just hope your studies haven't suffered in the process." I wanted to jump in and say things but I couldn't and I kept staring at that paddle and not wanting to know about it. I felt sick. My brain was going everywhere. The main thing is I just kept thinking this wasn't happening. I'd actually been working on that notebook for over a year so my studies didn't actually suffer. "Is this really what you want? Are you sure? There will be no turning back. Are you sure this is what you want? Alright then. Here is a list of rules. Study them carefully. They're the same rules you've always had, but now they will be adhered to and there will be consequences." I don't know what I felt or am feeling. This is not really what I want. I thought I did, but now I don't know. Now I can't get away with anything. I fear that getting a real spanking is way different than in my brain or self spanking. I had plans to hang out with my friend. I just had to get out of the house. I knew I wouldn't be good company but I had to get out of the house. My mom told me to be back by 10:00 and I said "10:00!" "You didn't do your chores when you were told, so be back here at 10:00." I was about to get into an argument like usual, but I stopped dead. 10:00 was coming. I was having fun and I couldn't tell her I had to be home. 10:00 passed. I just told her I wasn't feeling well and went home. My mom asked if I had a good time and what I did then she said I was grounded. I was like "GROUNDED?!" I started to protest as usual but I could see I wasn't going to win and I better quit. So I'm grounded till Wednesday. Work and school and that's it. I guess I better try to get some sleep. Even though I've been thinking about this for literally years it just seems to have happened so fast. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Janika [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:44:13 11/16/25 Sun I don't mean to scare you or anything, but the paddle HURTS. You're lucky you just got grounded. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Janika [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:58:31 11/16/25 Sun I know you're having second thoughts about this and maybe even regretting it, but I think you made the right decision for you. It sounds like you've got a great relationship with your mom, she sounds very understanding. From what I've read you know in your heart, besides a fetish, you understand that you need accountability in your life. Spankings may be embarrassing and painful, but hopefully you'll learn from them. Like your mom said, grounding is easy to get out of and both she and you get punished. Nothing is really resolved with grounding, at least for me and the bitter feelings just linger. At least with spanking there's no way to get out of it, you pay the price and it's done and hopefully you learn. I'm 22, still at home and I can still get a spanking. My last one was mid September and I'm trying to avoid another one. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Marla to Janika [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:49:06 11/16/25 Sun I'm sure this question will soon be pertinent to Elsie but let me ask you when you get spanked 1. do you cry; and if yes 2. is it because it hurts so much or because you have disappointed your mom or both? If both, which weighs heavier? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Marla [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:53:20 11/16/25 Sun Grounded? There must be more to come. What are you grounded for? Getting home late? Not doing your chores? Both? How long has it been since you were last grounded? I thought this was about not getting grounded and getting spanked instead. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Janika [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:03:10 11/16/25 Sun Sorry you're disappointed Marla, but it sounds like mom is taking the first step towards taking charge and sticking with it. I'm sure it's a gradual process and not something you just jump into. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Marla [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:07:25 11/16/25 Sun Not "disappointed" Jankia just I guess surprised but I had that same thought -- mom is taking the first step. It sounds like her mom is serious. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Janika [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:09:28 11/16/25 Sun Sounds like mom has been thinking about this for a loooooooong time. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: BBB [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:46:00 11/16/25 Sun Well, I would feel sorry for you, but you are now in the middle of what you've been dreaming of for years. You must have known this would be a very nervous time, that you would have to start reevaluating your behavior and decisions in light of the punishment you can receive. If you had not had the courage to ask your mom for this, then you would always be dreaming and wondering what you have missed. Misbehave now, and you will never have to just imagine what might have happened. I hope you will try to behave yourself. But if you legitimately fail, you will have the memories of being raised by a parent who paddles. I think you may cherish those memories if they are of a meaningful experience where you messed up and did not like the spanking you got. You won't ever forget what real punishment was like. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:43:05 11/16/25 Sun You have to put the paddle on the table now, I think. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:25:03 11/17/25 Mon One full day of grounding, two more to go. By this time the old mom would have said "well, you can do this but not that." but not the new mom. Yesterday I asked if I could just go to the store and got a flat no. I just wanted to get something at the store, that's it. I'm not so sure I like this accountability business. Spanking doesn't seem like such a good option anymore. I still want to know what it's like to be spanked but the reality of it and all the things I've read about it really scare me. I wouldn't be surprised if my mom put a tracker on my phone to make sure I go directly to school and directly home. I don't work today so I don't even get that. When I'm not trying to avoid my mom I noticed I'm being all friendly and helpful. Not like I'm not normally, but you know, just trying to stay on her good side. The last thing I want to do is make her mad. It feels fake. I just don't want to get more grounded or spanked. In my previous thoughts my mom would pull down my underwear. But OMG, she might really do that. Well I wont bother you any more. Gotta get to school. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:12:13 11/17/25 Mon So, take the paddle in your hand and put it on the table... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:15:41 11/17/25 Mon it's so easy, really! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: BBB [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:11:57 11/17/25 Mon If I remember correctly, the idea was that spanking would be preferable to grounding. So now maybe when faced with the real possibility of the paddle, grounding doesn't seem quite as bad? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:11:43 11/20/25 Thu Officially ungrounded and marked safe from a spanked butt! [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:44:21 11/20/25 Thu Tell us more, please. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:30:21 11/21/25 Fri There's really nothing to tell. I served my grounding and obeyed the rules. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: CaringThroughAction [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:29:44 11/17/25 Mon Elsie, the "accountability business" is something we all need to learn, as it's a necessary part of a functional life. But I get your feelings. I agree with Marla in that your Mom is probably starting to change her approach. I think she led into that when she mentioned "sometimes parents make mistakes" (paraphrasing). No doubt your head was/is spinning with anticipation. I like how she acknowledged your research effort. I think you would make a great scientist! Just be you... don't worry about being real or fake, all that. Just do life and try your best to meet her expectations, which have not appeared unreasonable. As far as getting spanked, if it's to happen, it will. Scary? Can be I guess. Hurt? it's supposed to. But you'll get through it. Just a thought... I wonder if she will withhold spanking simply because she knows you want that as a consequence, or are fascinated with it. She may feel because of that, it might be more of a curiosity and less of a consequence. But then she also mentioned how grounding resulted in you both being punished. Hard to say. As they say... "Careful what you wish for"... [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Elsie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:01:56 11/18/25 Tue It was a really nice day yesterday, just a bit chilly and the Sun was out most of the day. I had to enjoy it through the window and with my mom calling me nearly every hour I would be dead if she heard traffic or dogs barking or whatever. Just one more day and fortunately I have a class and work, so at least I'll get out. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:01:20 11/18/25 Tue you could act... Don't be afraid of your mother and the paddle [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: Emmie Sue [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 09:45:08 11/18/25 Tue Are you suggesting that she purposely break rules just to know what it's like to get spanked? She has every right to be concerned about that paddle. And it would be downright disrespectful to her mother to purposely disobey her. You should be ashamed of yourself. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I'm dead Author: pat [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 13:32:39 11/18/25 Tue That's exactly what she needs... isn't it? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]