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Subject: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Emmie Sue [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 09:06:56 08/15/24 Thu I know I said I was going to stay off here and I am, but I just want to ask people who really get spankings about them. Pretty much all of my life I've dreamed about girls and myself getting spanked, including kicking and crying and the shame and embarrassment. Even when I was a little kid I got this feeling, which later turned out to be horniness when I'd think about a girl getting spanked or hearing some reference to it or sometimes kids saying they got spanked. I secretly wanted to know every detail. I wondered even into my teens why doesn't my mother spank me. What does it feel like? Why do I get these strange feelings when I think about spanking? Why do I create these images in my head and rub myself when I do? In my early teens, probably before I discovered internet porn. The other stuff was interesting and I remember seeing a dick and quickly turned it off. I had never seen one of those before. It shocked me and in a way sickened me. I saw girls kiss and I saw their real boobs and I liked it, but I knew I wasn't ready to see that. Then I stumbled up girls getting spanked. A real spanking. Their big bottoms turning red. They said "ow, ow, ooh!" I was transfixed. I thought it was real. Actually I did until just recently. That's what a real spanking is like. To be true, it's only been in the past few months that I've realized that that's not at all what a real spanking is like. I know from spanking myself and play spanking with other girls that the smack on the bottom feels good and the warmth it produces feels really good and makes you horny. But that's not a real spanking either. Nobody actually wants a real punishment spanking. Firstly you're being punished. I hate being punished whether it's being grounded or having something taken away or just being yelled at. None of my punishments, if you can call them that never really stuck. I knew I'd get out of it or my mom or dad would just forget. Still, being punished in any way makes me feel bad. Secondly, a real spanking isn't the nice feeling of a slap on the bottom. It isn't a warmth that makes you horny. You have no control of the smacks. They hurt and you know your in this position because you did something bad. You don't know where the next smack is going to land or how fast or how hard and you're helplessly held in place by the person spanking you. I don't necessarily like to cry and I don't like anyone seeing me cry, but you can't help it and tears pour out of your eyes. No one, not even hard core spankos, maybe with the exception of masochists, wants to get a punishment spanking. I guess I'm naive or sheltered or something, I never really realized the seriousness of what a real punishment spanking is. Why they change your behavior and why you would want to avoid one. To those who get spanked or grew up with spanking is this a pretty good analysis of what a real punishment spanking is like? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: TonyF [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:02:30 08/15/24 Thu Alot of what you said is correct. I grew up in a single mother household. She was strict , but fair . Spanking was used as a last resort. She had spanked only when necessary. As a child it was over her knee bare bottom , hand sometimesthe hair brush . As a teen it was bent over the edge of my bed bare bottom, she used a belt. It was not so much the Spanking that intrigued me. I mean it hurt , but the pain dissipated. But when did intrigue me and does to this day is the humiliation, embarrassment, and submission. That will always stay with ne. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Smith [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:22:57 08/15/24 Thu If you don't mind me asking. Those last three words. Could you explain them in detail? Humiliation and embarrassment for example. If it's just the parent present, is the embarrassment being exposed to the parent? I know I would be, but that's because I've grown into a massive prude very early on. But I know most people aren't. So what is the embarrassment here? The parent probably doesn't think much about it other than "I've seen you a million times already". Are these just natural feelings and reactions you get once you grow older? And a side question, I've asked this in another thread as well, but did you get the "butterflies in stomach" feeling when a punishment was announced? As for submission. What does proper submission in the household look like? Is it just replying "yes ma'am" and doing everything you're being told? I apologize in advance if these weren't appropriate questions to ask. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: TonyF [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:43:41 08/16/24 Fri Very hard to explain, but it is clear as day in my mind. As a child there wasn't much modesty. There was my sister and I and Mom in the house. I never saw my sister naked, or Mom. I did see them come out of the bathroom after a shower wrapped in a towel . But never nude or even in underwear. But with me, Mom would walk into my room while I was changing, or even hand me a new pair of pants and tell me to try them on to see if they fit. For some reason this made me feel uncomfortable and ashamed. With my sister this was always done in private in her room. I asked Mom why, she said because girls are different and need there privacy. So when it came time for a spanking or anything involving nudity, Mom and my sister had privacy, but my room door was left open, and it seemed like no big deal for me to be seen. But Mom and my sister had their privacy. As I got older into the teen years I got more self couscous about it. Up until then I felt uncomfortable, and was embarrassed when I was seen. But now growing older it was humiliating for Mom or sis to see me. Mom commented a few times that I was growing into a man . I was not afford the same privacy as my sister. Then when it came to being exposed in front of Mom, you know, I was afarid to get a errection , and the more I worried about it and thought about it, it would happen. Mom comment a few times , it is a natural occurrence, don't worry about it , it will go away . ( especially if she was going to spank me, she would say don't worry about the, the first stroke and you will lose that. However it was embarrassing and there was no way to forget about it , or not be embarrassed. The humiliation of submission , well when you are 14, 15 , 16 and have to strip and lay across Mom's lap, or bend over for her that is submission and it is humiliating for a boy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Smith [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:25:02 08/18/24 Sun Thanks for the answer. Sorry you had to go through that. It seems like there wasn't equal treatment in the home then. Did your sister share her belief? Did she ever try to stand up for you? And was any of you punished more? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: VoR [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:05:54 08/15/24 Thu As you describe, a real punishment spanking is a very bad thing to happen to you. That is why it is called a punishment. That is why kids are afraid of getting a spanking and, in most cases, are much better behaved when they know what is at stake. It is NOT a sexy scene that makes anyone horny, or spanking would not have become the traditional standard childhood method of discipline that many of us grew up with. When you heard someone crying and making a terrible fuss, you knew they were truly sorry about what they were getting. Many hardcore spankos are turned on by the idea of real punishment spanking. It's not the same as enjoying the experience of actually getting a real punishment spanking. Some are so turned on by the idea that they have an irresistible urge to find a disciplinarian and go through the ordeal. They are truly anxious, even frightened, when having to face the spanking, and they hate it while it is happening to them. However, for a spanko, the anticipation of being spanked, and the feelings about it after it is over turn them on. The fire of the spanking is unbearable, but the soreness on the bottom soon after that takes awhile to go away can also be erotically stimulating. The psychological and physical pain are real, but in the end, the bottom line is — no pain, no gain. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Smith [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:36:21 08/15/24 Thu Ever since I started reading this forum. I've noticed that spankings are described by everyone here as one of the worst pains they've experience. I feel like over the years I've been grossly misled by all the videos I've watched. For a long time I would think "this doesn't look so bad, I could probably survive this". In this group however, it is always 100% guaranteed that every spanking will result in crying, bawling and sobbing. I feel like I'm uncovering reality here. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: VoR [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:05:18 08/15/24 Thu There are all kinds of spanking videos and people who make them. I've only seen it as adult entertainment. Sometimes it is convincing as punishment level. The viewer should factor in that they are usually seeing people who do it for money, and can be very experienced and acclimated to that level of pain. Some people have very high pain thresholds. Then, as one should expect, many videos must respect a spanking model's limits, and there is a lot of acting. In a consensual situation, an adult processes pain very different than a child. Even a mild spanking can be traumatic to a child. It is also true that, for adults, actual crying is not as common as one might think. Many people wish to break down in tears, but find it just doesn't happen. It takes an emotional reaction that physical pain alone does not cause. In entertainment videos, one can expect there's some acting involved, though I've seen some convincing emotional breakdowns. Spankos who like the "idea" of spanking also like to write spanking fiction and present it as fact. Without the bawling and sobbing, it's not a very exciting story. I would not take accounts on a spanking forum as gospel. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: TonyY [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:06:07 08/16/24 Fri Well you never got a spanking from My Mom, they are not fun, not likable, not sexual. They hurt and always brought tears rolling down my face and crying and begging. What I do miss about them is, Mom cared, or she wouldn't have done it, the guilt I had for the misdeeds was erased ,and But most of all [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Ivy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:53:09 08/15/24 Thu Hi Emmie Sue, I addressed this in an earlier post: https://www.voy.com/243310/56462.html I think you are right about what s "real" spanking is really about and like, at least for me. What makes this site interesting for me is that there are a lot more of these types of things expressed here than most spanko sites. Good luck! Shalom 😊 Ivy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Is this what spanking is really like? Author: Ivy [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02:01:53 08/16/24 Fri I forgot to post the link to another recent relevant post about my slightly older sister,here:https://www.voy.com/243310/56425.html By the way I was born in the U.S. and am a proud American citizen and as a Jew am also Israeli and serve in the Israeli Defense Forces (as many American Jewish citizens do, and have, such as the governor of Pennsylvania). More later, if I am welcome here, when I get back from my mission. Shalom 😊 Ivy [ Post a Reply to This Message ]