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Subject: Desire for discipline


Author:
Xylo
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Date Posted: 14:23:55 12/28/25 Sun

For the longest time, I have wanted legitimate spanking discipline. I was hardly ever spanked as a kid, I hardly even remember them. The threat of them was always there, but never much in the way of acting on those threats. It isn't really that I've done much that I feel I need punished for, and I guess a bit of my desire stems from curiosity as I've never gotten a real, hard spanking from someone. I am in my twenties and still live with my parents, and I constantly think about ways I can ask my mom to spank me. I am always worried about every little thing in day to day life, I also currently have to make a decision to stay at the company I work for or look for a new job. There is just always so much on my mind and I feel like regular spankings would go a long way towards helping my clear my head. My relationship with my mom is very good, we are very close and get along great just as we always have. I am concerned that if I ask her it'll make things weird. I want to be able to let go of my anxieties for a while, just be at the mercy of someone else for a serious spanking session. I can't really turn to anybody else, and to be honest I don't really want it to be anyone else. It's kind of hard to explain, but it's like, my mom always makes things better and for a spanking to truly make me feel better and clear my mind it has to be her. If anybody has any advice on how I can finally make this happen, or similar stories and situations, I greatly appreciate it all.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Marla
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Date Posted: 17:34:50 12/28/25 Sun

Hello! You are female? What is your actual age? Have you read Elsie's story on this page?

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Marla
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Date Posted: 18:02:20 12/28/25 Sun

Your introduction here is vey open and honest. You might consider writing your mom a letter containing all these points and see what happens.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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James to Xylo
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Date Posted: 18:31:00 12/28/25 Sun

You're hardly the first to want to explore this situation; I know a girl called Melissa who wanted this and I helped her with the conversation with her mom. She *had* done a fair bit to earn it, but she was 18. Her mom was quite receptive.

Moms know their daughters, and it is probably no surprise to her you're stressed. So, yeah, a letter sounds lovely.

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[> [> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Marla to James
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Date Posted: 18:33:22 12/28/25 Sun

Hi James, can you tell us about her moms receptivity and the spanking that followed?

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James to Marla
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Date Posted: 21:53:05 12/28/25 Sun

In that case, mom was surprised but receptive - really relieved - the girl was probably one of the biggest bullies in school. Her mom had tried her best but had no idea how to put an end to it.

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Marla to James
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Date Posted: 07:17:33 12/29/25 Mon

Interesting but can you tell us the complete story here? Including spanking details etc.?

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Alfred22
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Date Posted: 23:16:06 12/28/25 Sun

There are all sorts of benefits from an open and honest relationship with your mom. Yi will be something she has been reflecting on for some time.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Marla to Xylo
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Date Posted: 09:07:33 12/29/25 Mon

This is your thread; hope you post more soon. Let us know what you are thinking and doing about this. We are here to encourage.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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CaringThroughAction
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Date Posted: 09:21:00 12/29/25 Mon

You have gotten some good advice IMO. I think the suggestion to explain to your Mom what you feel and see what she says is a good idea. Try that.

Being in your 20's, she may think it's odd. But the more you explain things, she may understand. The other angle that does not have to do with spanking is that you are in your 20's and an adult. Life can be hard and comes with responsibilities we all eventually must need to handle in order to survive.

Another option might be to consider finding a mentor/disciplinarian who can help you get things together.

Yes, check out Elsie's story. She was in a similar situation.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Brett
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Date Posted: 15:12:51 12/30/25 Tue

What you are going through is more common than people outside the fetish must realize. If you are a male, it is especially difficult to find a female partner who will accommodate this desire for spanking discipline. I'm sure having a mother willing to do it is much more rare. And if someone is telling stories about it, how do you know if it's fact or fiction?

Those of us who were spanked growing up will usually tell you to be careful what you wish for but, if your desire is strong enough, what choice do you have but to tell your mother about it. Anything is possible, but you won't know til you ask.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Kylie
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Date Posted: 17:03:45 12/31/25 Wed

I am 18 and also living at home. I feel I need discipline to help me make good decisions. I wrote this letter to my parents today
Dear Mom and Dad, this past year I have made a lot of bad decisions such as drinking and smoking, getting bad grades and talking back and being disrespectful to both of you. I want to do better. Some of my friends still get spankings and I think that will help me to do better. Pretty please start spanking me bare bottom with a paddle, hairbrush, or belt when need it. I think this will help me do better. Also please give me my first spanking tonight so I can start the new year off on the right foot. I will leave a belt on the dining room table for you to use.

I really hope this works and they start to spank me.
Kylie

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pat
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Date Posted: 20:51:52 12/31/25 Wed

Please tell us how it went...

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Xylo
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Date Posted: 15:04:25 01/01/26 Thu

Sorry I left it out of my first message but I am male. I have indeed talked to my mom some about it. I told her mostly the same I said here, about in what ways I think it would benefit me. She listened to what I had to say and I think took it to heart, but she is on the fence about whether or not she feels comfortable doing it. She wants to help me and she understands why I feel it would help me, but she just isn't sure she feels it's right from her pov. Which I do understand, to be fair. As far as everyone that lives in the house here goes, I'm the least trouble for her. Im always the one that helps around the house and stuff like that, so in her mind it's like "well he hasn't done anything that's punishment worthy."
The most trouble we ever have is verbal disputes, and times when I just simply aren't enough help like if I'm especially lazy and she ends up doing it all herself. I told her that I do actually feel genuinely bad when those things happen but it's always forgiven pretty quickly and we move on. I guess in some ways that kinda bothers me too? Like maybe on some level I feel like when those things happen, I should be punished for it? Idk, it's all a bit jumbled in my mind the more I think about it. Hopefully I'll have an answer from her soon, she is giving the whole situation some.thought, and she does a good job of taking everything into consideration in regards to how I feel typically. So here's to hoping this goes the way I hope. Thank you all for the kind words and all of the encouragement. I update you all accordingly.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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pat
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Date Posted: 21:07:15 01/01/26 Thu

Your thoughts are very interesting, and I sincerely hope that a strict, relentless beating, the kind you need, will clear your head, whether once or regularly...

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Adam K
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Date Posted: 04:41:09 01/02/26 Fri

Just to offer some perspective, I felt the same way, very strongly, when I was a teenager. I never found the nerve to talk about it with my Mom though. You should be proud of yourself for having that conversation with your Mom, I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to broach the subject.

I hope you find the understanding with your Mom that you’re looking for.

Since a few days have gone by, have you brought the subject up with her again?

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Pastor Robertson
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Date Posted: 05:13:07 01/02/26 Fri

These are discussions from the heart and have taken courage to write about here. It is nice how everyone has responded kindly and thoughtfully.

I do hope we can hear how things work out.

Pastor Robertson

Email: pastorrobertson@mail.com

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Adam K
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Date Posted: 06:11:31 01/02/26 Fri

If I could go back in time, since I was too nervous and ashamed to have the conversation, I would have written a note for my Mom to read privately.

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Dear Mom,

I’m writing this note because I was too embarrassed to say this in person. Lately I’ve been feeling really down on myself and feel directionless and too undisciplined. I feel guilty about it and need some help to be more motivated.

This is really hard to say, but I think I need to be punished to feel right again. I’ve thought about it a lot, and I think I need a spanking. I need to feel a real punishment that I genuinely want to avoid.

I know this is really awkward, but I think I need not just the threat that I could get punished, but I need to get a reminder of what a spanking is like — all the embarrassment and pain. I think I really deserve it.

I’ll be waiting in my room for you to find and read this. I’m really nervous so please don’t make me wait too long, whatever you decide.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Xylo
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Date Posted: 13:17:59 01/02/26 Fri

It did finally get brought up again today. My mom called me up to her room to talk to me. She told me that she appreciates the fact that I came to her with this and understands that it was a difficult thing to do. After some discussion about the terms of all of this, she has agreed to give me a legitimate spanking, not just as a one of but often going forward, starting later today as there as some things she's busy with for a little bit. I am a bit shocked that she agreed, and I am especially shocked that she said this will begin later today, but I am very pleased. I'm a bit nervous admittedly, but I am happy. She says that she too feels that being disciplined will help me clear my mind and also help me clear my conscious in regards to the times we have disputes and stuff. Obviously this is a situation where I will indeed have zero control over how things go down, she will decide in what manner I get spanked, with what implement, for how long, etc. She also said that I do not get a say in regards to when I get them, unless I directly ask for one, but any other time I simply will get spanked when she feels it's necessary. I think a big part of why she is so on board with this is that she has a lot of built up tension in general from dealing with everyone in the house, and the fact that at least I am willing to be disciplined and punished for things, seems to mean a lot to her. So we'll see how this goes, and I'll let you all know more later.

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pat
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Date Posted: 14:27:04 01/02/26 Fri

I am very happy for you and that you have such a mom... Even if she decides, you can have a cane ready.

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Xylo
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Date Posted: 18:07:00 01/02/26 Fri

It has happened. I have received a real, hard, thorough spanking. I was chilling in my room playin games when my mom came into my room with one of her belts and a wooden hair brush. I knew it the initial one was happening today but it did catch me a bit off guard, i figured it wouldn't happen until a bit later since she was still busy. I didn't protest at all of course, I just mentally readied myself and rolled with it. She told me to get up out of my chair so she could sit down there, and told me to go ahead and drop my shorts and underwear. I was obviously pretty embarrassed about that but I accept that it's all a part of it. I dropped them both and she grabbed my wrist and pulled me over her lap. She told me she didn't really have any specific number of seats or any time limit in mind, that she was gonna spank me for as long as she felt was necessary. She started with her hand, which stung but didn't really hurt. Must have lasted about three minutes I think? After that she paused and grabbed her brush, I didn't get much warning before she started in with that. The brush definitely hurt more than I had anticipated, and she was using it pretty quickly. I didn't count how many times but it lasted a good few minutes, every now and then she would stop for a second to readjust me but it was pretty consistent. When she did stop to tell me to stand up, my ass was pretty well on fire already. She looked at my ass for a second, gave it a couple of slaps with her hand and then grabbed my wrist to pull me over to my bed. She told me that she was gonna finish things off with a few minutes of her belt. My mind was pretty much blank throughout the whole thing, which is kinda what I wanted, just to forget everything else. She directed me to lay over the edge of my bed, and it wasn't but a few seconds after I did so that she began bringing the belt down. It was a genuine shock how much it did hurt, especially after getting the brush for a few minutes. She wasn't as quick as she was with the brush but it was still consistent, just one after another. My heart was pounding and my ass was throbbing, tears started rolling out after about the first ten. I tried my best to count how many I got with the belt, I lost count once or twice when the tears started coming a little heavier but I definitely got at least 30. When she did stop, she tossed the belt next to me on the bed and asked me how I felt now. I said I didn't know for sure, but that it did clear my mind a bit. She pulled me up off the bed and hugged me for a minute, I thanked her for agreeing to do this. She said she was glad that I did ask and that it helped her clear her mind a bit too. She reminded me that I would get them regularly from here on out, so if I didn't want another soon that I should be sure to help around the house more lol. My ass is still on fire, it probably will be for a while. While it did hurt, I am happy with the way things went down. I thank you guys for all the advice and encouragement you gave me. I'll keep updating you guys on stuff!

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pat
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Date Posted: 20:47:17 01/02/26 Fri

A good first lesson. Were you ashamed or aroused, either immediately before or after? Were you alone in the house? A cane would certainly be even more effective; you should get one and offer it to her for next time... Hopefully, you'll have a few welts and bruises for a few days.

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[> [> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Adam K
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Date Posted: 08:46:05 01/03/26 Sat

I am really glad to hear you received the outcome you needed. It sounds like the right mix of being a classic spanking, bare bottom and over her lap, plus the belt to make it painful enough to truly hurt even with an adult pain tolerance.

Good for you, and good on your Mom

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[> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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Xylo
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Date Posted: 16:15:25 01/07/26 Wed

Alright so, I have received a second spanking, and it was not one that I asked for this time. I was supposed to pull the garbage and recycling cans up from the sidewalk and and back around the house, because we were due for some rain and high winds and when they're left on the sidewalk they can get blown over and slide away. It just slipped my mind and of course, they got knocked over and slid away, one of them cracked open and now has to be replaced. She saw them when she came home, I was in the dining room sitting at the table she saw me as soon as she entered the house. She told me that she sees I forgot the cans and now ones broken and she's got to buy a new one. I said I just forgot about it, but obviously that didn't change anything. She grabbed my arm and made me stand up and turn around and told me to bend over with my hands on the table. She jerked my shorts and underwear down pretty quickly, took her belt off and just immediately started in on me. The strokes were a lot faster than the last time actually, felt like less than a second in between them. It wasn't long before I had teared up a little bit. It must have gone on for a good few minutes, I have no idea how many I got but it had to have been at least 60-70 easily. Once she was done she told me to pull my shorts up and go get the cans, so I did. This just happened about a half an hour ago, my ass is still throbbing and I can hardly sit. I know that I was in the wrong in forgetting to move the fans, and obviously I am the one who brought up the subject of disciplining me, so I'm not mad about how things played out here, I do think it was a deserved punishment and I don't feel as bad about what happened because of the fact that I got punished.

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[> [> Subject: Re: Desire for discipline


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pat
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Date Posted: 23:17:26 01/07/26 Wed

fine, and what do you think about a cane?

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