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Subject: Re: I'm going to spank my roommate


Author:
Clair
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Date Posted: 06:46:21 01/15/23 Sun
In reply to: Clair 's message, "I'm going to spank my roommate" on 07:11:30 12/15/22 Thu

I really appreciate everyones help and advice but sometimes I feel you guys are kind of pushing me, not like I need any pushing or encouragement. I just don't want to jump into it and mess things up. She could be like "Ooh you pervert" or something and then the deals off. I want to take it kind of slow and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. I really want it to though.

The other night, I was recouperating from a long day at work so we were sitting around and I asked her to turn the sound down on everything so I could have some quiet. There was some commotion next door and then inevitably the sound of a damn good spanking. She looked kind of embarrassed but interested. We kind of looked at each other. It was one of those moments when you knew you were on the same wavelength. I was like "Heres my chance" and I said something like "Sometimes I think you could use that." She like turned red and was like "Me? well I, I, I um..." and then we just let it drop. The funny thing though some time after that she cleaned her room (somewhat) which I've been asking her to do because it was really getting cluttered and frankly sort of smelly. She took a shower after that too. I don't know if there was any connection, but maybe.

I've been trying to think of if there were any clues she gave that she was into spanking before she moved in. There must have been because I had fantasies about her for a long time before that. I seem to recall, although I was not directly in the conversation, the subject of spanking came up, I think it was at the library or maybe Starbucks or something. Of course that caught my attention and I seem to recall watching her reactions which were kind of embarrassed and like she had a secret that she was careful not to let out. I know that reaction well because I've lived it since I was a little kid. I know there had to be clues. I don't want to say I was attracted to her, but like in a spanking sense and I knew or just had a gut feeling that she was 'one of us'. So there must have been some clues early on that I picked up on that she not only was into spanking like me, but she wanted to be spanked and she knew I wanted to give one.

Not much else to discuss. I just thought I'd check in.

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Author:
Alfred22
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Date Posted: 08:39:46 01/15/23 Sun

No one here is pushing. And, very clearly no one should push you to spank your roommate. We all are eagerly awaiting you and roomie to work out the details of a fun but also constructive spanking partnership. The brilliant comment you made during the audible spanking overheard easily through the walls will be the icebreaker. She will want clarification and you should not hesitate to volunteer it. Take full advantage of having made the comment. You can say "what I meant when I said ... was ___. Use phrases like "attention getter" and "reminder" when you are talking about why she needs a spanking

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Wondering-supportive
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Date Posted: 09:22:49 01/15/23 Sun

I agree that no one here is pushing you to spank. We as you are all picking up on the signs and you have opened that door quite widely.

Clearly your roommate was embarrassed when you commented that she could use a spanking. Yet another sign/signal that you are moving in the right direction, even though at a snails pace.

So, when you made your comment did you make it light heartedly with a tinge of kidding or laughter or did you have a more serious demeanor? If not the latter, you missed a good opportunity to take control and witness her reaction to such a bold move of commenting with a serious look on your face.

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Alfred22
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Date Posted: 09:56:22 01/15/23 Sun

This is really a great forum. Clair has received many wise suggestions and most fundamentally she needs to overcome her fear of being called deviant or perverted. It might happen to anyone reading here.

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Wondering-supportive
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Date Posted: 10:17:35 01/15/23 Sun

Yes, Clair does need to embrace her own sexual preference and cease viewing it as deviant and perverted. All those words express is the opinion of others who do not happen to share your preference. So Clair, give the girl the spanking both she and you need. After that spanking, plan in your head for the next one.

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Random Visitor
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Date Posted: 17:35:24 01/16/23 Mon

A couple of thoughts on your recent updates:


"She said this very confidently, but it was the first I'd ever heard of it. I was actually planning to go out and celebrate the new year. "Oh yeah, we discussed it, remember?" I swear to God we never had this conversation."

I wouldn't be surprised if you come across this move again. If you ever get license to discipline at your discretion it would be fun to bring it up and see what she has to say about it. Will she willingly acknowledge the lie? Did others, perhaps her parents, let her get away with that sort of manipulation? etc.


"I already know she's into spanking, but does she actually want to get spanked is the question."

It's true that's a separate question. Her bringing up the subject of motivation is a pretty strong hint, but you aren't going to get a conclusive answer without talking about it overtly.

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Go at your own pace. You sharing your thoughts and experiences with this makes for interesting reading regardless of how it turns out.

It does seem like you're a little worried of being exposed as a spanking fetishist. It's understandable. You do though here have the option to simply turn it around on her. Accusing the accuser is often a little distasteful, but it's different here. You can bring in some evidence. Maybe taking some time to imagine how you might respond if you were attacked for "being into spanking", might make you a little more relaxed about the prospect of talking about it. You could say that the thought of providing her with some motivation, combined with overhearing the mom next door handing out some good spankings, not to mention her own childish behavior and her seeming sensitivity to talk about corporal punishment sure makes it seem like spanking would be a good fit for her, but if not that's OK too. Or something along those lines.

You have some plausible deniability here. But you don't have to deny "being into spanking" all you would need to do is deny bringing it up out of the blue and that's easy. There's plenty of context here to explain you bringing up the possibility.

Perhaps the next time you overhear a spanking next door you can smile at her and ask if that's the kind of motivation that would do her some good.

I think it would be a hard subject for her to talk about though if there's some physical distance between you. Imagine being in her shoes. She's likely more afraid of exposure than you are. She's the one who would look and feel really weird if her feelings aren't reciprocated, plus being potentially exposed to her peer group, plus possibly losing out on a great living situation. For her to be overt is a lot to ask from her. If she still occasionally comes to your bed that could be a time and place where it's easy for her to talk about it.

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Clair
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Date Posted: 18:06:38 01/17/23 Tue

These are some great things. I will have to read this again and concentrate. Thanks. And thanks for not pressuring me.

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