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Subject: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Bob [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 20:01:41 06/20/25 Fri Please consider the following hypothetical situation. Your 17 year old daughter, Linda, is 5 weeks away from her final exams. She wants to do well. She currently has a curfew which is enforced by spanking. She asks that it be one hour earlier for the next 5 weeks so she can apply herself at school. Linda last spanking was about a year ago for a curfew violation. Recently she has missed curfew by a few minutes and you looked the other way. What do tell Linda about the earlier curfew? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Thea [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 23:12:09 06/20/25 Fri I'd tell her I'm proud of her for asking me to hold her accountable to an earlier curfew, that knowing it would help her focus and prioritizing the upcoming exams is a sign of her maturity, especially since she's choosing to put herself at greater risk of being spanked. Then I would point out that I recently chose to be forgiving of a minor curfew violation given how long it had been since her last one, but that if she needed an earlier curfew to help her apply herself more, I would be very strict about it. I would explain it wouldn't be as effective if it didn't feel like a firm boundary, and that meant I wouldn't let lateness slide for any reason until final exams were over, barring emergencies or unforeseeable obstacles... and she would have to communicate that as promptly as she was capable of if it happened. Next we would discuss how to ensure she was home on time. Probably not the response people expected from me, but I feel like 17 is old enough to consent to spankings, so this situation actually doesn't really bother me. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Bob [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:49:57 06/22/25 Sun I would tell my daughter that an early curfew is a good idea during final exams and I will enforce it. I would enforce it but if she missed by 10 or even 20 minutes I would like the other way. If she did miss by 30 minutes, I would give her a one day grounding. The grounding would help her focus in on her school work. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:05:27 06/21/25 Sat It's an interesting question. It could be a very easy one to answer for parents who already spank. Just tell Linda they like her ambition, and that they will help her as she has asked to be helped. Curfew's an hour earlier, they will monitor her carefully, and a missed curfew will be punished. What more needs to be said? For me, personally, I don't spank any child in my family or extended family. I would tell anyone asking me that I would like to be of help in them doing better on their final exams, but spanking is not an appropriate activity for us to engage in. Instead, I would be there for moral support, or to help in any way that is appropriate. She would report to me if she misses her curfew, we would talk about the reason for it, and by talking, the issue would be addressed. She must be a responsible person, and it starts by doing things the right way without the threat of punishment. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Bob [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 06:35:32 06/23/25 Mon Brett, Are you saying that a 17 year old girl who is still in high school is too old for any parental punishments? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 17:55:38 06/23/25 Mon Not everyone is the same. In most cases, I think at that age it is passed time to start treating a girl as an adult. If she has some kind of behavioral problem, it should be addressed professionally. Apparently, previous punishments were not the solution. In the case you presented here, the 17-yr-old is asking for discipline, which is something a rational adult seeks out either as a sexual desire, or possibly a non-sexual need like external motivation or a catharsis or stress release. That's not something I would provide as a parent, but it might work for other parents and their offspring. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Marla/Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:01:21 06/23/25 Mon You come off as quite the know it all. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Curfew and Final Exams Author: Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:05:53 06/23/25 Mon I can't imagine what gives you that idea. lol [ Post a Reply to This Message ]