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Subject: Effects of Memory Author: Liam [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 08:26:48 12/11/25 Thu Hello! I am new here - long time reader, but never really joined the discussion. Just wanted to contribute my two cents. Memory, especially of our punishments received as children can be such an interesting thing. When I think back on the plethora of spankings I got throughout my childhood, I can still pinpoint the embarrassment of the punishment itself and of the behavior that got me there. In my mind, I am over my parent’s lap for minutes on end, staring at my pillow or the ground through tears, just waiting for it to end. They are painful reminders of my behavior, as they should be. However, my older sister has children and a couple in-laws do, as well; and on occasion, I have been privy to a spanking or two. And when they occur, they are probably never more than a minute. I can think of one time my oldest niece got around 10 spanks with the hand and 3 stingers with the spoon. I am sure their own memory will be imprinted with how much they hurt or the embarrassment of them. But it made me think that I maybe just misremember my own punishments. Maybe if I watched them happen to me objectively, they would have been very short. Strange how distorted our own perspectives can be. Thoughts? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Cory [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:59:24 12/11/25 Thu Hi Liam, When I was growing up, my parents used spanking with me. Well, spankings were only from my dad, he used his hand over my pants. My spankings ended when I was around 10 years old, so from 11 and through my teenage years, I was neither spanked or grounded, and I honestly feel that not having any consequences for my behavior hurt me.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 10:09:23 12/11/25 Thu Hello Liam. I think they always seem longer when you are the one receiving the spanking. I know from hearing both of my sisters’ that the spankings were maybe 2 minutes because the smacks were slow but it seemed like 30 minutes.

[> [> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Cory to Brooke [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:16:21 12/11/25 Thu Yes, I completely agree with you, that the spankings always seemed longer when I was getting it at the time, looking back they probably were not as long, but it seemed longer at the time.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Taylor [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:07:18 12/11/25 Thu For sure. Now that I am a mom myself I was a little concerned the spankings I give to my seven year old were not long enough compared to the ones I got. One day my mom was visiting and witnessed a spanking, and told me I did fine, the length was fine--same as she did.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Callum [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 14:52:02 12/17/25 Wed Hey Liam, there's one particular spanking from my childhood that if i could go back in time and view i would. Mostly to laugh at myself for how daft and naive i was. I think i was about 8 and was having food fight during lunch at home. I probably had so much fun at the time and being lost in the fun i guess i ignored several warnings. Dad instructed me to stand up then turn around to face away from him. This is where my stupidity game in, i actually thought he was going to throw food at me as part of the game. Instead, a huge smack landed on my bottom, and in that moment i was in shock. Totally wasnt preparing to be smacked and the smack hurt so bad, it was a hard one. From the shock and pain i was bawling straight away. Plenty more smacks followed, guess nearly 10. I just remember a whirl of pain and crying. Would be interesting to view this spanking to see if its as bad as i remember (and also to laugh at myself)

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Ginger [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:05:18 12/17/25 Wed I think the idea of how memory may distort our childhood perceptions is fascinating. I have somewhat the opposite problem of some of the other folks. Except for my last spanking at age 10, I have very little memory of my spankings at all. I've pieced together snippets of five times I believe I was spanked, and that's it. I'm not sure if there were any more that I've completely forgotten. One of them is just a moment, a hazy sense memory of being in trouble after I was swimming. I was fairly young, no older than 5/6. I can feel myself standing in my wet bathing suit, and being cold because I was inside in the air conditioning. Then my mom pulling the arm straps of the bathing suit over my shoulders and all the way down, until the bathing suit was just a wet tangle around my ankles. Then just knowing I was about to go over her knee. But nothing about the spanking itself. Similarly, I have a vague memory of being in trouble for not picking up my toys. I think she made me pull my own shorts and underwear down. I sort of remember the command to bend over her lap, and thinking to myself that I really hated that part. That would imply that it had happened enough times in the past to be a familiar experience. Again, I don't remember the spanking itself, but I do remember crying and being held afterwards. That felt familiar too. There were two where there weren't very many swats, where memory doesn't really come into play, because I know they were quite short. And then the last one that I do remember from start to finish. And for that one, I definitely feel like I was over her knee forever. I described that one on another forum (the childhood memories board), and I said that I thought I probably got around 80-100 swats. I based that estimate on the fact that my mom was spanking hard and FAST, more than one per second, the length of time I felt I was over her knee, and the amount of time that the sting lasted. Someone responded and said she was sure it wasn't that many swats. At the time, I was a tiny bit annoyed. I recall thinking that my butt was the one that was there, so I should know. Now, your experiences, which match so many others, are making me doubt just a little. I still think my estimate is pretty close. What do you think? Ginger

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Jamie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03:42:11 12/18/25 Thu I agree with this 100 percent. My spankings were not long though. Yes my pants and underwear was down but I only got like 20 spanks total.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Shane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:01:59 12/19/25 Fri I actually don’t remember the worst spanking I ever got, which I think is pretty weird. I don’t know what it was for and I have no memory of the spanking itself. What I do remember is the bruises the next day! It’s possible I was traumatized and my brain blocked it out. I think it’s safe to say that most people will overestimate how long and/or hard their spankings were. This problem is compounded by the fact that a lot of parents downplay or outright deny they ever used corporal punishment. The truth is somewhere in the middle.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Kevin [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:54:30 12/23/25 Tue Perception of time is weird, and there's a couple of things likely going on. Obviously a spanking hurts and is a bad experience. The brain tends to slow down time perception during those events. There's also the issue with time perception getting faster as you get older. A minute when you were 14 felt longer than a minute when you're 30. Pair all that together and I can fully understand how many of us feel like we were getting spanked for five or ten minutes and it was only two. The prep was longer than the spanking.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Morten [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:00:42 01/02/26 Fri what struck me the most is when friends talk about they were spanked many of them got spanked with an implement like wooden spoon. me and my siblings has only been spanked by hand and to be hounest never more than 5 firm smacks to the bottom I grew up in a christian home but it seems that many of my friends in their christian home their parents did use the rod instead the hand like my parents the spanking I wittnessed or heard about was not longer than mine the difference was the use of the rod/ implement

[> [> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: bodack [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:31:36 01/02/26 Fri I was never spanked but for some reason I remember six licks being common. Unlike the ones I read about on these forum.

[> Subject: Re: Effects of Memory Author: Alex [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 15:54:25 01/02/26 Fri Embarrassment tends to last a lot longer than pain. The spankings I remember the most tend to not necessarily be the most painful ones, but the ones where I was spanked bare bottom in front of witnesses. I have no doubt your niece will remember the spanking you were present for. Even though it was quick, the humiliation she experienced from you watching must have been quite potent. How old was she at the time?