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Date Posted: 17:25:32 11/30/25 Sun
In reply to:
Mona
's message, "Your opinion" on 12:03:14 11/30/25 Sun
The fact you were born in 2006 pretty much explains why you feel like you do. You present your opinion politely and not authoritatively and that's admirable, unlike the anti-spanking zealots. Fact is, many children grow up just fine without being ever spanked. Some children who are spanked have issues... some children who were never spanked have issues.
The point being... there are many moving parts to consider when it comes to evaluating spanking as a viable tool. It is a tool, nothing more, nothing less. Like any tool, if it is not used correctly, it can cause harm. Conversely, not using spanking when it may well be needed can could harm. Add to that, successful parenting has a lot to do with spiritual beliefs, how centered the parents are themselves, are they abusers of alcohol or drugs, do they have unresolved anger issues? Etc, etc. Many factors affect the outcome of spanking or not spanking when it comes to raising children and teenagers.
The research decades back that said "spanking bad" was deeply flawed, with many areas of indeterminate error and just plain sloppy data collection. It did not differentiate spanking outcomes from environmental things such as alcohol abuse in the home and other issues that can drive parents to spank out of anger or inappropriately. They also included face-slapping and hitting anywhere else on the body as "spanking".
The facts are what they are... if you look at history, spanking has been used for centuries. There were and always will be those who unfortunately misuse it. Same with automobiles and guns. But if I look back at my childhood years and my Baby Boomer neighborhood here in California... all kids were spanked. Some more so than others. Nobody I was aware of got messed-up in the head. Everybody turned out fine.
I do think it's incumbent on any parent to look objectively at the tools that are out there. Pick and choose the ones that work for you, not to please others. That includes spanking.
Back a few years now I mentored a college student and helped her with her discipline. She objectively chose spanking when it came to the discussion about accountability. Why? She was spanked growing up and until she left home for college. She was also loved immensely and loved her parents unconditionally. So at her age (19) it was totally consensual. If you had seen and talked with her you'd never know she had been spanked all her life as a primary consequence. She was confident, articulate, and carried herself well. She just fell into the temptation that can hit you when away from a structured environment.
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