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Author: Catherine (Cath) to Kristina |
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Date Posted: 17:50:32 01/20/24 Sat In reply to: Kristina 's message, "New Years Resolutions" on 06:51:43 01/20/24 Sat Dear Kristina, I am a new contributor here but I felt I really had to post today because I so enjoyed reading your note and that update from you on the big changes you have made in your discipline routines with your two children—who I believe must now be 6 (boy) and 9 (girl). My name is Catherine, usually called Cath by husband, friends and relatives, and we have three children, two girls and a boy—Anne Marie (Annie) 15, Jimmy 13, and Deborah (Debbie) 10. Kristina, until I read your note, I was afraid my husband and I must be the only parents who have discovered that nightly bedtime spankings for all three of our kids does all the things for our family and for them that you so beautifully described. We have definitely found that having our three go up, wash up, brush their teeth, put their nightclothes on their end tables beside their beds and then wait naked for us to come in and give them their spankings has now made this family's bedtime routines simple, easy and (for us, the parents) amazingly trouble-free. The two girls share a room, so Jimmy goes in there to wait until my husband and I come in to spank all three, and after the last of the three is spanked and has quieted down enough, we have them kneel down together and say their brief, one-paragraph nighttime prayer together, and then we kiss and hug all three of our crying children. My husbands stays to pet and kiss and calm the girl’s down a bit longer as they are crying out their spankings while I go along with Jimmy to his bed and kiss and comfort him. I tuck him into his bed—lying on his tummy, of course, and still sobbing quite a bit--but very much recovered by then, also, exactly as the girls are doing on their beds. And, Kristina, you are absolutely right that those bedtime spankings help all three to release any built up stress of the day, to calm and clear their minds of the typical hyperactive mental activity about school and friends and whatever annoying problems they might be concerned about and that can plague kids, and whatever other thoughts that can keep kids tossing and turning and lying awake sometimes for an hour or more before they fall into a restless sleep (which had always been the case with ours, a problem that we noticed got worse as each one got older). These bedtime spankings also, as you so perfectly put it, now help them go off to sleep knowing they now have “a clean slate”—that whatever things they did before that, or didn’t do and were criticized for—are gone and paid for with that nightly spanking. And anyone seeing the heartfelt hugs and kisses my husband and I get from all three of them once those spankings are over would easily understand what you refer to as the “motherly” closeness you share with your kids at the end of each day now. My husband and I could not be more in agreement with your comments, and how insightful of you it was to recognize all the benefits flowing to your kids and to you as parents from this addition to your discipline routines. My husband and I started using nightly bedtime spankings with our three at the start of this school year in September, and as I mentioned, we wondered if we were the only parents to do this, but the nighttime peace and loving closeness they have brought to us is hare to adequately describe. I was fascinated to read that Santa brought each of your two their own Lexan paddle for Christmas—LOL. What a delicious idea that was. I have heard so much recently about the Lexan—with many parents saying that they can spank much longer with it than with a hairbrush, for example, without leaving marks or bruises. Has that been your experience? I use an old-fashioned wooden hairbrush on my three that I bought at a Goodwill store just for spanking them and it does spank them to a satisfactory point of satisfactory howling, but I do have to be very careful with it because it can leave deep purple oval bruises at times. When my husband spanks, he doesn’t use the hairbrush on the girls. After he uses his hand first with the girl or boy over his lap, he prefers to use one of his folded in half leather belts on the girls with them in the legs up position--another thing I was delighted to see that you are apparently using also. Using that diaper position on the girls, my husband feels he has complete access to the spanking areas of their whole bottom and thighs, and with him standing up and me helping to hold the girl’s legs up and spread apart, he can use the belt with an easy swing that would be hard to do with the girls over his lap. He has continued to spank my son over his lap with his hand and the hairbrush because he wants to assure that the boy's private areas are not inadvertently hit by the leather belt as they might be in the diaper position. But again, Kristina, do you think the Lexan paddle would be better for him to use on the boy rather than the wooden hairbrush? As for the other spankings that our three might get during the week, our pastor’s wife recommended some years ago that we use what she called the “First Time Obedience” Rule. We were constantly giving our kids warnings, sometimes two or three before we spanked, so there was often a climate of what seemed like constant nagging and angry warnings that put everybody on edge and clouded what should have been a warm and pleasant atmosphere in the household. So, following her suggestion that “one warning or instruction is enough”, we are now much quicker to simply take the offending girl or boy to the living room and spank when some conduct warrants it, and that might only have earned a warning in the past. So that is what we do now, and it does result in more frequent spankings during the week it is true, but this really does seem to work very well for us. Spankings "on-the-spot" as we might put it are a quick, decisive and very effective means of keeping our kids on their best behavior and almost totally eliminating our (the parents) constant nagging, carping, yelling and angry outbursts. And I was delighted to find that the kids seem to react to this approach much better than they did to the stream of constant nagging and angry criticisms that used to be the norm on so many afternoons and evenings. Our pastor’s wife, who has an ironically devilish sense of humor, put it this way: “Frequent on-the-spot spankings in a household means lots of painful and tear-producing lessons for the errant children, some immediate satisfaction for the parents, but these spankings also mean equally frequent moments of pure glee and entertainment for the other kids not being spanked!” I actually wrote that down after she said that because I thought it was such a perfect and humorous observation. There is no question that in our household, the other two kids just love being spectators when one of the others is hauled to the living room for one of those immediate and unannounced spankings. What a treat to read you note, Kristina, and find that you and your husband are using spanking routines that so closely parallel ours. Love to you and your family, Cath [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Re: New Years Resolutions | Kristina (Happy and Pleased) | 18:27:53 01/20/24 Sat |
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| Re: New Years Resolutions | KevintoCath (Blessed) | 06:21:35 01/21/24 Sun |
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