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] Date Posted:09:12:56 11/23/25 Sun Author Host/IP: 24.57.206.80 In reply to:
Anna
's message, "Re: After school Rituals" on 15:10:37 11/20/25 Thu
>>>Growing up in the 90s, I had a very unique—and
>>>surprisingly consistent—after-school ritual that
>>>shaped much of my childhood comfort and
>>>self-awareness. The moment I stepped through the
>front
>>>door, no matter the season or whether guests were
>>>over, the routine was non-negotiable: school uniform
>>>came off. Every piece—shoes, socks, tie, shirt,
>>>trousers—was removed with a quiet sense of ritual.
>>>I’d fold each item neatly, hang the blazer if I
>wore
>>>one, place the shoes by the closet, and set the socks
>>>perfectly aligned. It was almost like shedding the
>>>outside world, layer by layer.
>>>
>>>Once undressed, I was expected—by my parents—to
>>>remain completely nude for the rest of the afternoon,
>>>evening, and even into the next morning, whether I
>was
>>>indoors or playing in the garden. Weekends? Same
>rule.
>>>No clothes unless we were leaving the house or school
>>>started again the next day. It wasn’t a suggestion;
>>>it was simply how things were at home.
>>>
>>>What’s more, it didn’t matter if family dropped
>by
>>>or friends came over—nudity was the default. No one
>>>batted an eye. There were no awkward moments, no
>>>comments, just normalcy. My parents never framed it
>as
>>>something “weird” or “shocking.” To them, the
>>>home was a private, natural space—free from the
>>>constraints and expectations of clothing. They
>>>believed that being comfortable in your own skin,
>>>literally, was essential to developing confidence and
>>>body positivity.
>>>
>>>Looking back, I realize how profoundly this shaped
>me.
>>>I never developed a sense of shame or anxiety about
>my
>>>body. Being nude wasn’t sexualized, wasn’t
>>>performative—it was just being. It felt as natural
>>>as breathing. I learned early on that my body
>wasn’t
>>>something to hide, judge, or apologize for.
>>>
>>>Of course, I understand this isn’t the norm for
>most
>>>families, and every household has its own boundaries
>>>and values. But for me, this simple, consistent
>>>practice fostered a deep sense of ease and
>>>authenticity that I still carry today.
>>>
>>>It makes me wonder—how many of our childhood
>>>routines quietly shape who we become, long after
>we've
>>>outgrown them?
>>
>>Thank you once again Ross for sharing with us such a
>>detailed account of your childhood routine. It sounds
>>like you had a wonderful home. Consistency is so
>>important for children to feel safe and secure, so
>>it's really great that you had such a consistent home
>>ritual every day after school.
>>
>>We try to keep a similar after-school routine with our
>>boys. Like you, our boys remove all of their clothes
>>at the door and put them away until they're needed for
>>school the next day. Once they're naked and
>>comfortable, I make them hot cocoa to enjoy in the
>>living room while they tell me about their day, before
>>they sit down to start their homework. Dinner is at
>>7pm, and afterwards they have a few hours to relax
>>before it's time for bed, either inside or in the back
>>yard. Usually they will stay naked until it's time to
>>get dressed for school the next morning. On weekends
>>they will usually not wear any clothes at all, unless
>>they need to leave the house e.g. for sports matches
>>or to go to the cinema.
>
>
>Ivana, your boys' after-school routine is very similar
>to ours. I have two sons, ages 13 (almost) and 10, and
>when they come home from school, they do exactly what
>your kids do. The only two differences are that I give
>them hot cocoa in the colder months and fruit juice in
>the warmer months, and that our dinner is at 7:30 pm.
>They're also always naked all day and all weekend
>except when they have to go out for school, soccer,
>swimming, the mall or to go to the cinema.
>If friends of mine or my brother with his wife and his
>two children (a boy and a girl) come to visit us, they
>remain naked (in this very similar to what Ross wrote
>about his childhood, nudity was the default). Having
>adopted this routine since they were very young, they
>are now completely at ease, without embarrassment even
>in the presence of guests.
>My older brother and I, when we were kids, had very
>few opportunities to see each other naked (and on all
>of them I saw him, never the other way around). At the
>pediatrician, at the beach, during his bath, while he
>was peeing, but these were occasional incidents (which
>I've described in other posts to Dave, Sean, and
>Spelvin). On these few occasions, he was always very
>embarrassed, and they were moments of great stress and
>shame for him. I want my children to be comfortable
>with their bodies, and I think this routine is very
>helpful.
I think it is good that your boys stay naked even when guests are visiting.
Date Posted:10:41:14 11/23/25 Sun Author Host/IP: 190.2.149.37
>>>>Growing up in the 90s, I had a very unique—and
>>>>surprisingly consistent—after-school ritual that
>>>>shaped much of my childhood comfort and
>>>>self-awareness. The moment I stepped through the
>>front
>>>>door, no matter the season or whether guests were
>>>>over, the routine was non-negotiable: school uniform
>>>>came off. Every piece—shoes, socks, tie, shirt,
>>>>trousers—was removed with a quiet sense of ritual.
>>>>I’d fold each item neatly, hang the blazer if I
>>wore
>>>>one, place the shoes by the closet, and set the
>socks
>>>>perfectly aligned. It was almost like shedding the
>>>>outside world, layer by layer.
>>>>
>>>>Once undressed, I was expected—by my parents—to
>>>>remain completely nude for the rest of the
>afternoon,
>>>>evening, and even into the next morning, whether I
>>was
>>>>indoors or playing in the garden. Weekends? Same
>>rule.
>>>>No clothes unless we were leaving the house or
>school
>>>>started again the next day. It wasn’t a
>suggestion;
>>>>it was simply how things were at home.
>>>>
>>>>What’s more, it didn’t matter if family dropped
>>by
>>>>or friends came over—nudity was the default. No
>one
>>>>batted an eye. There were no awkward moments, no
>>>>comments, just normalcy. My parents never framed it
>>as
>>>>something “weird” or “shocking.” To them,
>the
>>>>home was a private, natural space—free from the
>>>>constraints and expectations of clothing. They
>>>>believed that being comfortable in your own skin,
>>>>literally, was essential to developing confidence
>and
>>>>body positivity.
>>>>
>>>>Looking back, I realize how profoundly this shaped
>>me.
>>>>I never developed a sense of shame or anxiety about
>>my
>>>>body. Being nude wasn’t sexualized, wasn’t
>>>>performative—it was just being. It felt as natural
>>>>as breathing. I learned early on that my body
>>wasn’t
>>>>something to hide, judge, or apologize for.
>>>>
>>>>Of course, I understand this isn’t the norm for
>>most
>>>>families, and every household has its own boundaries
>>>>and values. But for me, this simple, consistent
>>>>practice fostered a deep sense of ease and
>>>>authenticity that I still carry today.
>>>>
>>>>It makes me wonder—how many of our childhood
>>>>routines quietly shape who we become, long after
>>we've
>>>>outgrown them?
>>>
>>>Thank you once again Ross for sharing with us such a
>>>detailed account of your childhood routine. It sounds
>>>like you had a wonderful home. Consistency is so
>>>important for children to feel safe and secure, so
>>>it's really great that you had such a consistent home
>>>ritual every day after school.
>>>
>>>We try to keep a similar after-school routine with
>our
>>>boys. Like you, our boys remove all of their clothes
>>>at the door and put them away until they're needed
>for
>>>school the next day. Once they're naked and
>>>comfortable, I make them hot cocoa to enjoy in the
>>>living room while they tell me about their day,
>before
>>>they sit down to start their homework. Dinner is at
>>>7pm, and afterwards they have a few hours to relax
>>>before it's time for bed, either inside or in the
>back
>>>yard. Usually they will stay naked until it's time to
>>>get dressed for school the next morning. On weekends
>>>they will usually not wear any clothes at all, unless
>>>they need to leave the house e.g. for sports matches
>>>or to go to the cinema.
>>
>>
>>Ivana, your boys' after-school routine is very similar
>>to ours. I have two sons, ages 13 (almost) and 10, and
>>when they come home from school, they do exactly what
>>your kids do. The only two differences are that I give
>>them hot cocoa in the colder months and fruit juice in
>>the warmer months, and that our dinner is at 7:30 pm.
>>They're also always naked all day and all weekend
>>except when they have to go out for school, soccer,
>>swimming, the mall or to go to the cinema.
>>If friends of mine or my brother with his wife and his
>>two children (a boy and a girl) come to visit us, they
>>remain naked (in this very similar to what Ross wrote
>>about his childhood, nudity was the default). Having
>>adopted this routine since they were very young, they
>>are now completely at ease, without embarrassment even
>>in the presence of guests.
>>My older brother and I, when we were kids, had very
>>few opportunities to see each other naked (and on all
>>of them I saw him, never the other way around). At the
>>pediatrician, at the beach, during his bath, while he
>>was peeing, but these were occasional incidents (which
>>I've described in other posts to Dave, Sean, and
>>Spelvin). On these few occasions, he was always very
>>embarrassed, and they were moments of great stress and
>>shame for him. I want my children to be comfortable
>>with their bodies, and I think this routine is very
>>helpful.
>
>I think it is good that your boys stay naked even when
>guests are visiting.
>
>You should be proud of your creations and want to show
>them off in their entirety for all to enjoy their
>beauty.
Scamptoo, thank you for your support.
My husband and I also think it's right for our sons to be naked even when we have guests.
If we made them dress up when we had guests, we'd be sending the message that their bodies are beautiful and innocent when we're alone in the family, but sinful and need to be covered up when we have guests. And that's not what my husband and I think.
They've been doing it since they were very young (4 or 5 years old), so it's now normal for them; they're used to being naked even in front of their female cousin or the daughters of friends who come to visit. So we plan to continue like this until they tell us they are no longer comfortable.
For now, that moment is far away. Today, my brother came to visit us with his wife and two children (a boy and a girl), and my two children remained calmly naked in front of them. They played all afternoon, having fun and being happy, and they had a great time.
I'm actually very proud of them. I think they're two very beautiful children (as their mother, my opinion is biased and not objective, I know… lol…) and I see no reason why they couldn't be shown naked as well. I confess, I love hearing the compliments my friends give my children… and it fills me with pride…
Date Posted:13:19:01 11/23/25 Sun Author Host/IP: 76.113.145.227
That’s great! I’m very glad your boys get to have the experience of playing with other kids while naked, I think every boy should get that experience growing up whether the other kids are clothed or not!
Date Posted:14:26:30 11/23/25 Sun Author Host/IP: 103.216.221.104
>That’s great! I’m very glad your boys get to have
>the experience of playing with other kids while naked,
>I think every boy should get that experience growing
>up whether the other kids are clothed or not!
Adam, thanks for your support.
We're glad you agree with us (my husband and I).
We also think every boy should have that experience growing up, whether the other kids are clothed or not.
When my children's friends or schoolmates come to our house, they know that if they want, they can undress too, or stay dressed, as they feel most comfortable.
Of course, other parents know that our sons are naked at home, so they can decide whether to allow their children to come to us or not.
Today, my brother came to visit us with his wife and two children (a boy and a girl). My nephew stripped naked like his cousins, while my niece remained dressed.
OK, no problem. Just as there wouldn't have been any problem if she'd wanted to undress too.The important thing is that each guest is comfortable, whether naked or clothed.
Some of my sons' male friends or classmates also undress when they come to our house and play together completely naked. Others, however, stay clothed. I'm happy either way because I see my sons happy having fun with other happy children (naked or not). So, everything is fine.
Date Posted:12:18:54 11/24/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
I enjoyed your recount in that it made me feel that my childhood was more normal. I had a wonderful foster mom at 10 and her best friends son and daughter were raised nude at home. It was not in a sctrict sense but they preferred to be nude when warm I always played with them.Both moms seems happy I put up no fuss about this and adapted quickly at that age. The girl was my age and we were quite close and boy was 7 and had a best friend always with too. Area was quite remote with few other kids around.
They always took us to a park or a beach on most weekends too. Though it was required for boys to play naked all day, and girl worn same yellow swimsuit. I was explained it was too messy otherwise. At beach third of boys did it at that place and fewer did it at park but still did.
Date Posted:13:51:53 11/24/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 185.107.80.121
>I enjoyed your recount in that it made me feel that my
>childhood was more normal. I had a wonderful foster
>mom at 10 and her best friends son and daughter were
>raised nude at home. It was not in a sctrict sense but
>they preferred to be nude when warm I always played
>with them.Both moms seems happy I put up no fuss about
>this and adapted quickly at that age. The girl was my
>age and we were quite close and boy was 7 and had a
>best friend always with too. Area was quite remote
>with few other kids around.
>
>They always took us to a park or a beach on most
>weekends too. Though it was required for boys to play
>naked all day, and girl worn same yellow swimsuit. I
>was explained it was too messy otherwise. At beach
>third of boys did it at that place and fewer did it at
>park but still did.
Sean, your childhood, from what you tell, was absolutely normal, in fact it was a wonderful childhood, IMHO.
I think this friendship between you and the girl your age and her younger brother was wonderful.
It's a good thing you played naked without false modesty when it was hot.
My sons also go naked on the beach, but only on public, unspoiled, and uncrowded beaches. They're not nudist beaches—my husband and I aren't—but they're free and somewhat secluded. I see that my children play much more happily when they're naked.
However, when we go to crowded beaches, close to cities, with umbrellas and lounge chairs, I make them wear swimsuits. Italy is a somewhat bigoted country, and I don't want to get into trouble with people calling the police for indecent exposure. They would be comfortable on these beaches too, my youngest son often asks me if he can take off his swimsuit, but I prefer not to.
Date Posted:18:16:20 11/24/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
That is comforting to know. We are not nudists either, but I will go nude on remote beaches where nudity is allowed. I would not take kids to crowded nude beaches in any case, much as you described. I will go nude on beaches if remote, but son always does.
However in past, all three of us went naked on secluded beaches and just boys when less secluded or people around. A few other kids in area did too so nothing was ever said in past about it. Another brother and sister did same thing on beach too. We also went nude at public kids pool for a period of time, as it was more tolerated just for boys in kids pool only till 12 or so. But mostly we played naked in a grandmothers pool and backyards out of sight.
Boys gym classes were more fun in past too but perhaps that is another topic.
Date Posted:14:31:16 11/25/25 Tue Author Host/IP: 190.2.151.119
>That is comforting to know. We are not nudists either,
>but I will go nude on remote beaches where nudity is
>allowed. I would not take kids to crowded nude beaches
>in any case, much as you described. I will go nude on
>beaches if remote, but son always does.
>
>However in past, all three of us went naked on
>secluded beaches and just boys when less secluded or
>people around. A few other kids in area did too so
>nothing was ever said in past about it. Another
>brother and sister did same thing on beach too. We
>also went nude at public kids pool for a period of
>time, as it was more tolerated just for boys in kids
>pool only till 12 or so. But mostly we played naked in
>a grandmothers pool and backyards out of sight.
>
>Boys gym classes were more fun in past too but perhaps
>that is another topic.
Sean, what you write comforts me too and seems very similar to our experience.
As I wrote the other day, we also only do it on uncrowded, isolated beaches, where it's allowed.
Often, my sons aren't the only naked boys, just like in the examples you gave.
How old were the brother and sister naked on the beach?
The public kids' pool, which tolerated naked children up to 12 years old, is interesting... my children would have loved it and would have liked to go there often... Here, they only tolerate naked children up to 5 or 6 years old.
My children always play naked in the courtyard of their grandparents' country house... the house is relatively isolated from the others, so they're pretty out of sight. Not completely; from some points along the street, you can see a few specific, narrow spots in the courtyard, but very few people pass by, so it's fine. Weather permitting, they play outside naked. Sometimes their two cousins (my brother's children, whom I mentioned earlier) are there too.
Date Posted:19:21:20 11/25/25 Tue Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
Our group when I started was 10, myself, girl 9, and her brother 7ish.
The brother and sister at beach going nake were 9 and 7 too. If boys younger in group did it I always did too and it was OK, as we were remote.
But we only got to go to ocean beach once in awhile, we would all play naked in a grandmothers pool and backyard in summer if warm. We were on a gravel road and no one cared to look or travel there.
I do remember even walking to over brother ans sisters house naked sometimes a mile away. No way that happens today. It seemed girls living on farms all knew what boys looked like anyway.
Date Posted:15:37:02 11/27/25 Thu Author Host/IP: 80.79.6.86
>Our group when I started was 10, myself, girl 9, and
>her brother 7ish.
>
>The brother and sister at beach going nake were 9 and
>7 too. If boys younger in group did it I always did
>too and it was OK, as we were remote.
>
>But we only got to go to ocean beach once in awhile,
>we would all play naked in a grandmothers pool and
>backyard in summer if warm. We were on a gravel road
>and no one cared to look or travel there.
>
>I do remember even walking to over brother ans sisters
>house naked sometimes a mile away. No way that happens
>today. It seemed girls living on farms all knew what
>boys looked like anyway.
I'm so happy for you and the boys and girls you played naked with. You must have had a really wonderful childhood.
Sean, I had that impression too, lol...
The girls who lived on the farm knew practically everything about boys' bodies, unlike me and the girls from the city...
When I talked to girls at school or at the beach, the girls from the countryside or who had grown up on the farm knew everything about boys' penises and balls... lol... I really envied them.
Date Posted:23:58:46 11/27/25 Thu Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
I enjoyed growing up that way when warm outside playing near end of school year. I would take my shorts off after school as routine as two other boys did too.
Girls I grew up with were used to seeing penises all summer and not that unique or shocking. It was just part of being a good boy at that time and gift you give moms and girls in summer. One of the girls in group was often just in panties. Boys , meaning three of us would just be naked all afternoon though.
As I mentioned one of the girls younger brother was being raised nude in summer and I joined him when there with no fuss. I slept in boys room when there
Date Posted:14:17:14 11/28/25 Fri Author Host/IP: 169.150.218.78
>I enjoyed growing up that way when warm outside
>playing near end of school year. I would take my
>shorts off after school as routine as two other boys
>did too.
>
>Girls I grew up with were used to seeing penises all
>summer and not that unique or shocking. It was just
>part of being a good boy at that time and gift you
>give moms and girls in summer. One of the girls in
>group was often just in panties. Boys , meaning three
>of us would just be naked all afternoon though.
>
>As I mentioned one of the girls younger brother was
>being raised nude in summer and I joined him when
>there with no fuss. I slept in boys room when there
I'm sure you loved growing up like that. You had an amazing childhood!
I would have loved, for my brother and I, to be part of your group of friends. You would have convinced him to be naked like you (which he never did), and I could have played with naked boys… I would have been dressed, but when it was really hot, I would have worn just my panties like that girl you write about.
Date Posted:13:31:50 11/29/25 Sat Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
Yes I miss it of course.
There were three girls in group and they were all different. The one with brother was happy to were panties at home and one piece at beach, one was modest and wore sundress and sandals but happy to wear one piece on beach with boys. The younger girl 7 was often nude with boys but stopped at 9 or so. Boys did not have a cut off age really.
I was oldest and would have to watch boys at beach when we went. I was required to swim nude in pool and beach if other boys did. I would take off shorts for whole day if a beach day. I did not have problem at beach but diners on way home had no shirt no shoes no service policy. They were more lienient on young boys though.
I am guessing third of boys went nude at beach and most at a kids pool nearby. Even so the most nudity I saw was PE and sports.
Date Posted:14:24:48 11/29/25 Sat Author Host/IP: 185.184.192.247
>Yes I miss it of course.
>
>There were three girls in group and they were all
>different. The one with brother was happy to were
>panties at home and one piece at beach, one was modest
>and wore sundress and sandals but happy to wear one
>piece on beach with boys. The younger girl 7 was
>often nude with boys but stopped at 9 or so. Boys did
>not have a cut off age really.
>
>I was oldest and would have to watch boys at beach
>when we went. I was required to swim nude in pool and
>beach if other boys did. I would take off shorts for
>whole day if a beach day. I did not have problem at
>beach but diners on way home had no shirt no shoes no
>service policy. They were more lienient on young boys
>though.
>
>I am guessing third of boys went nude at beach and
>most at a kids pool nearby. Even so the most nudity I
>saw was PE and sports.
I would have been like the first girl, the one with her brother: I would have worn panties at home and a one-piece swimsuit at the beach. I would have remained in just my panties even in your presence or around the other boys in the group, it wouldn't have been a big deal.
You wrote, "I was required to swim nude in pool and beach if other boys did. I would take off shorts for whole day if a beach day" Who forced you? Couldn't you take care of them even if you were wearing shorts or swimming suit?
"I am guessing third of boys went nude at beach and most at a kids pool nearby. Even so the most nudity I saw was PE and sports."
In my childhood, it was the opposite. The few naked boys I saw were at the beach or at the pool, changing from wet swimsuits into dry ones or into clothes to go home. As you wrote, "Boys didn't really have a cut-off age." So while girls were changed in the bathroom or covered with a towel, boys were changed openly, with no privacy. Luckily for me... lol…
Now I'm curious... would you like to share a few stories or add details about "Even so the most nudity I saw was PE and sports"? Thanks!
Date Posted:20:31:31 12/01/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
You wrote, "I was required to swim nude in pool and beach if other boys did. I would take off shorts for whole day if a beach day" Who forced you? Couldn't you take care of them even if you were wearing shorts or swimming suit?
Well I always went intially with boy and girl, and boy always went nude so they wanted me to as well. He was 7 and I was 10. Since they drove and took me I just did it with no objection. I just had heavy weaith cotton shorts so would not swim in them anyway.I would walk to beach in towel and fliplfops or nothing. No one objected about kids back then.
Date Posted:11:03:12 11/24/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 24.57.206.80
>>>>>Growing up in the 90s, I had a very unique—and
>>>>>surprisingly consistent—after-school ritual that
>>>>>shaped much of my childhood comfort and
>>>>>self-awareness. The moment I stepped through the
>>>front
>>>>>door, no matter the season or whether guests were
>>>>>over, the routine was non-negotiable: school
>uniform
>>>>>came off. Every piece—shoes, socks, tie, shirt,
>>>>>trousers—was removed with a quiet sense of
>ritual.
>>>>>I’d fold each item neatly, hang the blazer if I
>>>wore
>>>>>one, place the shoes by the closet, and set the
>>socks
>>>>>perfectly aligned. It was almost like shedding the
>>>>>outside world, layer by layer.
>>>>>
>>>>>Once undressed, I was expected—by my parents—to
>>>>>remain completely nude for the rest of the
>>afternoon,
>>>>>evening, and even into the next morning, whether I
>>>was
>>>>>indoors or playing in the garden. Weekends? Same
>>>rule.
>>>>>No clothes unless we were leaving the house or
>>school
>>>>>started again the next day. It wasn’t a
>>suggestion;
>>>>>it was simply how things were at home.
>>>>>
>>>>>What’s more, it didn’t matter if family dropped
>>>by
>>>>>or friends came over—nudity was the default. No
>>one
>>>>>batted an eye. There were no awkward moments, no
>>>>>comments, just normalcy. My parents never framed it
>>>as
>>>>>something “weird” or “shocking.” To them,
>>the
>>>>>home was a private, natural space—free from the
>>>>>constraints and expectations of clothing. They
>>>>>believed that being comfortable in your own skin,
>>>>>literally, was essential to developing confidence
>>and
>>>>>body positivity.
>>>>>
>>>>>Looking back, I realize how profoundly this shaped
>>>me.
>>>>>I never developed a sense of shame or anxiety about
>>>my
>>>>>body. Being nude wasn’t sexualized, wasn’t
>>>>>performative—it was just being. It felt as
>natural
>>>>>as breathing. I learned early on that my body
>>>wasn’t
>>>>>something to hide, judge, or apologize for.
>>>>>
>>>>>Of course, I understand this isn’t the norm for
>>>most
>>>>>families, and every household has its own
>boundaries
>>>>>and values. But for me, this simple, consistent
>>>>>practice fostered a deep sense of ease and
>>>>>authenticity that I still carry today.
>>>>>
>>>>>It makes me wonder—how many of our childhood
>>>>>routines quietly shape who we become, long after
>>>we've
>>>>>outgrown them?
>>>>
>>>>Thank you once again Ross for sharing with us such a
>>>>detailed account of your childhood routine. It
>sounds
>>>>like you had a wonderful home. Consistency is so
>>>>important for children to feel safe and secure, so
>>>>it's really great that you had such a consistent
>home
>>>>ritual every day after school.
>>>>
>>>>We try to keep a similar after-school routine with
>>our
>>>>boys. Like you, our boys remove all of their clothes
>>>>at the door and put them away until they're needed
>>for
>>>>school the next day. Once they're naked and
>>>>comfortable, I make them hot cocoa to enjoy in the
>>>>living room while they tell me about their day,
>>before
>>>>they sit down to start their homework. Dinner is at
>>>>7pm, and afterwards they have a few hours to relax
>>>>before it's time for bed, either inside or in the
>>back
>>>>yard. Usually they will stay naked until it's time
>to
>>>>get dressed for school the next morning. On weekends
>>>>they will usually not wear any clothes at all,
>unless
>>>>they need to leave the house e.g. for sports matches
>>>>or to go to the cinema.
>>>
>>>
>>>Ivana, your boys' after-school routine is very
>similar
>>>to ours. I have two sons, ages 13 (almost) and 10,
>and
>>>when they come home from school, they do exactly what
>>>your kids do. The only two differences are that I
>give
>>>them hot cocoa in the colder months and fruit juice
>in
>>>the warmer months, and that our dinner is at 7:30 pm.
>>>They're also always naked all day and all weekend
>>>except when they have to go out for school, soccer,
>>>swimming, the mall or to go to the cinema.
>>>If friends of mine or my brother with his wife and
>his
>>>two children (a boy and a girl) come to visit us,
>they
>>>remain naked (in this very similar to what Ross wrote
>>>about his childhood, nudity was the default). Having
>>>adopted this routine since they were very young, they
>>>are now completely at ease, without embarrassment
>even
>>>in the presence of guests.
>>>My older brother and I, when we were kids, had very
>>>few opportunities to see each other naked (and on all
>>>of them I saw him, never the other way around). At
>the
>>>pediatrician, at the beach, during his bath, while he
>>>was peeing, but these were occasional incidents
>(which
>>>I've described in other posts to Dave, Sean, and
>>>Spelvin). On these few occasions, he was always very
>>>embarrassed, and they were moments of great stress
>and
>>>shame for him. I want my children to be comfortable
>>>with their bodies, and I think this routine is very
>>>helpful.
>>
>>I think it is good that your boys stay naked even when
>>guests are visiting.
>>
>>You should be proud of your creations and want to show
>>them off in their entirety for all to enjoy their
>>beauty.
>
>
>Scamptoo, thank you for your support.
>My husband and I also think it's right for our sons to
>be naked even when we have guests.
>If we made them dress up when we had guests, we'd be
>sending the message that their bodies are beautiful
>and innocent when we're alone in the family, but
>sinful and need to be covered up when we have guests.
>And that's not what my husband and I think.
>They've been doing it since they were very young (4 or
>5 years old), so it's now normal for them; they're
>used to being naked even in front of their female
>cousin or the daughters of friends who come to visit.
>So we plan to continue like this until they tell us
>they are no longer comfortable.
>For now, that moment is far away. Today, my brother
>came to visit us with his wife and two children (a boy
>and a girl), and my two children remained calmly naked
>in front of them. They played all afternoon, having
>fun and being happy, and they had a great time.
>
>I'm actually very proud of them. I think they're two
>very beautiful children (as their mother, my opinion
>is biased and not objective, I know… lol…) and I
>see no reason why they couldn't be shown naked as
>well. I confess, I love hearing the compliments my
>friends give my children… and it fills me with
>pride…
you say, "They've been doing it since they were very young (4 or 5 years old), so it's now normal for them; they're used to being naked even in front of their female cousin or the daughters of friends who come to visit."
since they have been seen naked for so long a time, with different people and different genders seeing them that way, can i assume they are so comfortable being seen that way that they don't get erections knowing others can see their boy parts?
Date Posted:14:03:09 11/24/25 Mon Author Host/IP: 185.107.80.121
>>>>>>Growing up in the 90s, I had a very unique—and
>>>>>>surprisingly consistent—after-school ritual that
>>>>>>shaped much of my childhood comfort and
>>>>>>self-awareness. The moment I stepped through the
>>>>front
>>>>>>door, no matter the season or whether guests were
>>>>>>over, the routine was non-negotiable: school
>>uniform
>>>>>>came off. Every piece—shoes, socks, tie, shirt,
>>>>>>trousers—was removed with a quiet sense of
>>ritual.
>>>>>>I’d fold each item neatly, hang the blazer if I
>>>>wore
>>>>>>one, place the shoes by the closet, and set the
>>>socks
>>>>>>perfectly aligned. It was almost like shedding the
>>>>>>outside world, layer by layer.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Once undressed, I was expected—by my
>parents—to
>>>>>>remain completely nude for the rest of the
>>>afternoon,
>>>>>>evening, and even into the next morning, whether I
>>>>was
>>>>>>indoors or playing in the garden. Weekends? Same
>>>>rule.
>>>>>>No clothes unless we were leaving the house or
>>>school
>>>>>>started again the next day. It wasn’t a
>>>suggestion;
>>>>>>it was simply how things were at home.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>What’s more, it didn’t matter if family
>dropped
>>>>by
>>>>>>or friends came over—nudity was the default. No
>>>one
>>>>>>batted an eye. There were no awkward moments, no
>>>>>>comments, just normalcy. My parents never framed
>it
>>>>as
>>>>>>something “weird” or “shocking.” To them,
>>>the
>>>>>>home was a private, natural space—free from the
>>>>>>constraints and expectations of clothing. They
>>>>>>believed that being comfortable in your own skin,
>>>>>>literally, was essential to developing confidence
>>>and
>>>>>>body positivity.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Looking back, I realize how profoundly this shaped
>>>>me.
>>>>>>I never developed a sense of shame or anxiety
>about
>>>>my
>>>>>>body. Being nude wasn’t sexualized, wasn’t
>>>>>>performative—it was just being. It felt as
>>natural
>>>>>>as breathing. I learned early on that my body
>>>>wasn’t
>>>>>>something to hide, judge, or apologize for.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Of course, I understand this isn’t the norm for
>>>>most
>>>>>>families, and every household has its own
>>boundaries
>>>>>>and values. But for me, this simple, consistent
>>>>>>practice fostered a deep sense of ease and
>>>>>>authenticity that I still carry today.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>It makes me wonder—how many of our childhood
>>>>>>routines quietly shape who we become, long after
>>>>we've
>>>>>>outgrown them?
>>>>>
>>>>>Thank you once again Ross for sharing with us such
>a
>>>>>detailed account of your childhood routine. It
>>sounds
>>>>>like you had a wonderful home. Consistency is so
>>>>>important for children to feel safe and secure, so
>>>>>it's really great that you had such a consistent
>>home
>>>>>ritual every day after school.
>>>>>
>>>>>We try to keep a similar after-school routine with
>>>our
>>>>>boys. Like you, our boys remove all of their
>clothes
>>>>>at the door and put them away until they're needed
>>>for
>>>>>school the next day. Once they're naked and
>>>>>comfortable, I make them hot cocoa to enjoy in the
>>>>>living room while they tell me about their day,
>>>before
>>>>>they sit down to start their homework. Dinner is at
>>>>>7pm, and afterwards they have a few hours to relax
>>>>>before it's time for bed, either inside or in the
>>>back
>>>>>yard. Usually they will stay naked until it's time
>>to
>>>>>get dressed for school the next morning. On
>weekends
>>>>>they will usually not wear any clothes at all,
>>unless
>>>>>they need to leave the house e.g. for sports
>matches
>>>>>or to go to the cinema.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Ivana, your boys' after-school routine is very
>>similar
>>>>to ours. I have two sons, ages 13 (almost) and 10,
>>and
>>>>when they come home from school, they do exactly
>what
>>>>your kids do. The only two differences are that I
>>give
>>>>them hot cocoa in the colder months and fruit juice
>>in
>>>>the warmer months, and that our dinner is at 7:30
>pm.
>>>>They're also always naked all day and all weekend
>>>>except when they have to go out for school, soccer,
>>>>swimming, the mall or to go to the cinema.
>>>>If friends of mine or my brother with his wife and
>>his
>>>>two children (a boy and a girl) come to visit us,
>>they
>>>>remain naked (in this very similar to what Ross
>wrote
>>>>about his childhood, nudity was the default). Having
>>>>adopted this routine since they were very young,
>they
>>>>are now completely at ease, without embarrassment
>>even
>>>>in the presence of guests.
>>>>My older brother and I, when we were kids, had very
>>>>few opportunities to see each other naked (and on
>all
>>>>of them I saw him, never the other way around). At
>>the
>>>>pediatrician, at the beach, during his bath, while
>he
>>>>was peeing, but these were occasional incidents
>>(which
>>>>I've described in other posts to Dave, Sean, and
>>>>Spelvin). On these few occasions, he was always very
>>>>embarrassed, and they were moments of great stress
>>and
>>>>shame for him. I want my children to be comfortable
>>>>with their bodies, and I think this routine is very
>>>>helpful.
>>>
>>>I think it is good that your boys stay naked even
>when
>>>guests are visiting.
>>>
>>>You should be proud of your creations and want to
>show
>>>them off in their entirety for all to enjoy their
>>>beauty.
>>
>>
>>Scamptoo, thank you for your support.
>>My husband and I also think it's right for our sons to
>>be naked even when we have guests.
>>If we made them dress up when we had guests, we'd be
>>sending the message that their bodies are beautiful
>>and innocent when we're alone in the family, but
>>sinful and need to be covered up when we have guests.
>>And that's not what my husband and I think.
>>They've been doing it since they were very young (4 or
>>5 years old), so it's now normal for them; they're
>>used to being naked even in front of their female
>>cousin or the daughters of friends who come to visit.
>>So we plan to continue like this until they tell us
>>they are no longer comfortable.
>>For now, that moment is far away. Today, my brother
>>came to visit us with his wife and two children (a boy
>>and a girl), and my two children remained calmly naked
>>in front of them. They played all afternoon, having
>>fun and being happy, and they had a great time.
>>
>>I'm actually very proud of them. I think they're two
>>very beautiful children (as their mother, my opinion
>>is biased and not objective, I know… lol…) and I
>>see no reason why they couldn't be shown naked as
>>well. I confess, I love hearing the compliments my
>>friends give my children… and it fills me with
>>pride…
>
>
>you say, "They've been doing it since they were very
>young (4 or 5 years old), so it's now normal for them;
>they're used to being naked even in front of their
>female cousin or the daughters of friends who come to
>visit."
>since they have been seen naked for so long a time,
>with different people and different genders seeing
>them that way, can i assume they are so comfortable
>being seen that way that they don't get erections
>knowing others can see their boy parts?
Hi curious,
ff course, erections can happen; it's normal. It would be a medical problem if they didn't have them; there would be something wrong with their boy parts…
But they don't get erections knowing that others can see their private parts; they're completely comfortable with that and their penises remain soft.
When playing games with a lot of jumping and running or simulating wrestling, their penises have sometimes become partially hardened or even erect at the end of the game.
It's happened, but only a few times, and it was mostly due to mechanical friction, not embarrassment or arousal.
Date Posted:17:47:40 12/03/25 Wed Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
I knew a boy with seemingly conservative mother. They had normal farm house, but when I played with him after taking school bus to his house, he just shed all clothes and put on shorts or kept bare and played. I had seen this before but did not expect him to do that. When my mom came she saw us outside playing with a hose and she just giggled.
Date Posted:10:22:20 12/04/25 Thu Author Host/IP: 24.57.206.80
>I knew a boy with seemingly conservative mother. They
>had normal farm house, but when I played with him
>after taking school bus to his house, he just shed all
>clothes and put on shorts or kept bare and played. I
>had seen this before but did not expect him to do
>that. When my mom came she saw us outside playing with
>a hose and she just giggled.
>
>I did it more and more after that experience
Did your mom giggle because she saw that other boy playing naked, or because she saw you also playing naked with him?
Date Posted:02:12:36 01/02/26 Fri Author Host/IP: 76.195.201.31
It was end of school in late were twelve years in rather modest town in Florida to go nude once school ended .Once we were done surfing n empty beach shorts always came off for rest of afternoon . So, the second we were done boogie boarding, they came off.
Me and my friends would strip right there on the sand and spend the next two hours completely nude at end of school year. Nobody said a word. and back then, nobody thought twice about a twelve-year-old boy running wild in the sun.
We would wrap towel back to car but younger boys were nude in parking lot too.
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