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>>In 1997 I was renting a room to a friend who became >>involved with a girl who was just 18. Long story >>short, she had a broken family and sort of bonded to >>me as a dad figure. They had a child together and >>named me as the Godfather. She married someone else >>and they had two kids. For 20 years they lived off and >>on with me for economic reasons. I had parenting >>authority over all three. They were basically my >>"family". >> >>One weekend when I watched them, the oldest had soccer >>and I sent the 9 y/o and her 7 y/o brother to play in >>the play area. It was about 100 ft away and easily >>within eyesight. She had a habit of picking on him, he >>had been recently diagnosed at Stanford with >>Asperger's and social anxiety. I gave them a baggie of >>snacks and told the oldest to share. >> >>After a short amount of time I noticed he wanted some >>snacks and she yelled "No!". He paced and she threw >>some on the ground in front of him. I just happened to >>see this. On the way back to the car I asked her if >>she shared the snacks and she said she did. I told her >>"throwing them on the ground for your brother is not >>sharing and we will talk more when we get home.". >> >>I talked to her about sharing and lying and how making >>her brother pick them from the dirt (he didn't btw) >>was bullying. After some more discussion I spanked her >>over her undies. Not hard, not long, but she was >>shocked that grandpa Al spanked his little princess >>lol. >> >>Looking back on it I still to this day felt it was the >>right thing to do. I thought it might have been better >>to give each kid their own baggie but at her age it >>should not have been necessary. >> >>How do you handle siblings bullying another or trying >>to act superior lol? I know it's kids being kids, but >>I felt that specific behavior needed to be nipped in >>the bud then and now. Her Mom concurred with my >>actions, btw. >That would definitely be a paddling in our house but >never had it happen tattling was a problem when my >girls were younger we would give the tattler the same >spanking the girl who misbehaved got it ended it real >fast

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