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Date Posted: 14:31:14 02/02/02 Sat
Author: Paula
Subject: Oh, dear!
In reply to: Jewel 's message, "I'm going outta my mind here..." on 13:47:04 01/19/02 Sat

Let me say this first: my now fiance was 20 years old when we met. He had one girlfriend who wasn't the greatest (someday, I'd love to just run into her and be like "Ha!! Look what you missed...how could you be so stupid!??"). He'd had maybe one kiss (he kissed her on the cheek...they were together for 6 months.) I was 18 years old when we met...never had a date, never been kissed, had guys of interest, but...:(

Anyway, I want you to know that its not a big deal that you haven't been kissed,...it feels that way, yes (been there). But, when you meet a great girl worthy of you, she'll be honored. (I love the fact that my fiance hasn't been all over the place with other girls. I don't have to worry when he kisses me if he's giving me something other than just a kiss, if you know what I mean.)

Also, don't expect her to move. She has to fulfill her dreams, too. I don't know how to say this, but by forcing her to go to your college..I don't know, but it wouldn't be right. You'd be manipulating her, and if she has to be forced to come to you, then she doesn't deserve you.

I know this is harsh, but please listen to me....don't put all your eggs in one basket. I know she seems perfect for you, and you adore her. But, she's young (actually both of you are, as am I and my fiance). My best friend had this problem, too...and finally she broke it off with him after stringing him along.

Maybe you should reconsider this relationship. Talk to her, first of all. Tell her that you've noticed that your relationship seems to have taken a dip and you're wondering if she's noticed, too. Communication is the most valuable tool to the human race. Use it. And if necessary, seek another fish in the proverbial sea.

Good luck...email me if you need some support.

Paula

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  • Re: I'm going outta my mind here...Reply to Anne -- Clayton, 15:32:59 02/02/02 Sat
  • Re: I'm going outta my mind here...Reply to Anne -- anne, 00:01:56 02/05/02 Tue
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