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Date Posted: 01:38:45 03/13/02 Wed
Author: anne
Subject: You are not wrong...he is
In reply to: Stacy 's message, "Should it be considered cheating?" on 23:21:18 03/11/02 Mon

yes...i would say it should be considered cheating. you and he had an online relationship, so what is the difference between that and what he is doing now? if he is being sevretive and sneaky, then i feel it is considered cheating.

your feelings are not wrong. it is wrong, however, to just live with it and pretend there is nothing wrong with his looking for relationships online. you need to have a serious talk with him.

i once thought it was harmless that my then-boyfriend would chat online with people (ie-women) while we were living together. that proved to be naivety on my part because we broke up (for various reasons). but he continued to pursue a relationship he formed with another woman while he was with me. they are now living happily ever after. (so am i, so i am not bitter)

so don't delude yourself into thinking he is being faithful. you need to confront him. if he was sharing intimate moments with ladies he met online, he needs to learn that there is a line between harmless chatting and adultery. if you let it go, it may lead to a real life affair.

don't let it go!!! i can't stress that enough. he may think there isnt anything wrong with it, but your feelings are involved. i also can't stress enough that if he is doing something that he cannot tell you about or be honest about, then he is cheating. the proof is that you and he developed a relationship which began online. he might just need to be told that he is doing something that is not healthy for your relationship. talk to him, and see whathappens after that. some guys need to have things drawn out in black and white for them to understand (hahahaah sorry guys, just a joke)

but don't just let it go!!!

good luck and keep us posted.

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  • Re: Should it be considered cheating? -- Kate, 01:52:32 03/13/02 Wed
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