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Date Posted: 21:01:04 02/20/02 Wed
Author: Sheila
Subject: Re: Younger Man, Older Woman Relationships - Can it work?
In reply to: Malcolm 's message, "Younger Man, Older Woman Relationships - Can it work?" on 22:42:42 02/18/02 Mon

Without sounding doomy and gloomy, I must admit that your chances of success with such an age gap and life exp one is going to be shortlived.
There are all kinds of things you need to consider that will pop it's head when you are more deeply involved..like her maybe wanting childrn before you are ready..her being 44 when you are still only 29 and women your age seem so much prettier, younger and have more in common with you. Also, ther will come a point in time when you will resent her advice, feeling like she is treating you like a kid and lecturing like a mother, which invariably happens because you just will not have had the same life exp she has.
As she gets older she will become insecure about looking too old for you and she will start to feel insecure when it comes to younger women.
You will be insecure around men who are older, more mature and better established. AS you can see this relationship will lead ( more than likely) to insecurities, heart aches and eventually break down.
Why put yourself through that?
I am not being cruel but basically, while there may be an initial attraction you are just not on the same maturity level as her and you both are far too apart in age to make a real go of it.
My b/f and I are only 8 yrs apart( me being older) and we have encountered all these issues.
This woman is old enough to be your mother and eventually she is going to start sounding like one, if only because she will have to "teach" you in order for you to relate and that in itself will prevent it.
Before you get to the point of no return, I would suggest you think these things over very carefully.

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Re: Younger Man, Older Woman Relationships - Can it work? -- Frankie, 14:06:28 02/21/02 Thu
i have a different opinion than sheila ... :) -- kathryn, 07:40:24 02/22/02 Fri
but -- anna, 07:43:22 02/22/02 Fri