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Date Posted: 07:40:24 02/22/02 Fri
Author: kathryn
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i have a different opinion than sheila ... :)
In reply to: Sheila 's message, "Re: Younger Man, Older Woman Relationships - Can it work?" on 21:01:04 02/20/02 Wed

you should scroll down and read my age relevance post. while age shouldn't be an issue, it ought to be considered when planning a long term romantic relationship. instead of just going with the flow, you both need to discuss your plans for children, marriage, and where you see yourself headed as far as career goals are concerned. I do agree that such an age difference may help bring on insecurities, but that isn't a guaranteed problem. maybe you both don't want children, maybe your career paths are similar...who knows. but it is important to discuss these issues, instead of assuming all will be well.

i don't agree that you will resent each other for whatever reasons. that is just being pessimistic about your relationship. but if you want a woman your own age, tell her now so she isn't being strung along.

i talked about different ages having gained different life experinces. just make sure that you and she are prepared for the issues that may come up regarding your age difference....such ad marriage, children, etc.

dont just give up hope because someone said it doesnt look good for you two.....anything is possible. the most important thing is being able to communicate honestly.

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but -- anna, 07:43:22 02/22/02 Fri