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Date Posted: 07:27:48 01/16/02 Wed
Author: Sandy
Author Host/IP: 216.104.140.59
Subject: Re: The reason I am sad...
In reply to: Jonathan 's message, "The reason I am sad..." on 18:39:50 01/15/02 Tue

You definitely did the right thing Jonathan. It sounds like she strings you along so that you can bail her out when she needs money. All the while, she continues to have affair after affair and if she doesn't get the money she needs from you, she uses threats of not calling anymore to try to control you. My question is this...I know you love her and I understand how hard it is to close the door on a marriage (been there, done that) but after 4 affairs and using you as her own personal banker, why would you want her back? If she came back, would you be able to put all of this behind you and trust her again or would the pain be too great and always strain your relationship? I tried putting a marriage back together after being cheated on and I just couldn't do it. Once the trust and security was gone, I couldn't get it back.

Like I said, I know this is really, really difficult, but you deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you enough to be faithful to you and to put your feelings on top of the list of priorities. If you can somehow start to close the door on that chapter of your life so that you can move on, you'll find someone else. You may even be happier. I found someone else and I'm a lot happier. It's great to be in a marriage where I feel like a priority. I hope you find that too.

Take care,
Sandy

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