Lighting The Path's Conversation Room is a tranquil place for Lightworkers and like-minded souls to visit to share with others who are already on the path & learning
as they go along, to help and inspire each other along the way; to share, inspire and light the way for those who are new to this, and seeking guidance /a path towards
inner peace and harmony.
Or visit and just relax and absorb the energy and tranquility of the lake and the inspiring posts that are shared here and absorb any healing energy that you require.
Please feel free to discuss and share your thoughts and experiences re Louise Hay, Susan Jeffers, Denise Linn, Barbara de Angelis, Melody
Beattie, John Bradshaw, Marianne Williamson and any other metaphysical teachers.
experiential knowingness -- Swami Lord Collins (perfect balance), 12:25:01 01/26/08 Sat [1]
Having read most of the writings on this Website I cannot but help come to the conclusion that there are an awful lot of persons,both male and female,deluding themselves with strings of Fine-sounding,poetical even,largely meaningless associated words of religious/philosophical/spiritual drivel(to be kind)
it seems that not one person writing on this site recognises the PHYSIOLOGICAL TRUTHFULNESS behind existence.
I would advise you ALL to read my newly opened Website
www.experientialknowingness.co.uk
LOVE from Swami
PS keep an "open MIND"
[Edit] Beyond 3D .... An Overview -- Chrissie :-)*, 10:26:58 04/09/03 Wed [1]
Heya Rose and all else who stop by daily and read here!!!
I know a fair amount of people stop by and read regularly and I must apologise for not posting of late .... the board is meant for everyone to share, not just me; and times have changed ie in the past I used to have time to share more and these days my life path has changed and I'm making way for others to read what we've all shared here in this room and continue the way - so welcome everyone new that reads in and hasn't yet shared - please do share here if you feel inspired to! We welcome hearing from you!!!
I'm currently on vacation and spending the time painting my house, and I mean the whole house - upstairs, downstairs, outside, inside, door frames, walls, ceilings, every nook and cranny!!! It's hard work - whew!! It's a cloudy day today and the sun is obscured which makes it very dark today :-(
Rose, it's always great to hear from you! You're sounding as bubbly as ever!!
Much love & hugs
Chrissie
p/s a sharing that CarolB shared re the current world crisis!
Subj: Beyond 3D ... An Overview
Date: 09/04/2003 01:49:37 GMT Standard Time
From: carolb@roman.net
This is a pretty good overview of current events from an esoteric perspective.
Peace be with you...
Carol
Hello everyone.... And I have a moment here to put together
some thoughts for you all, gleaned from several messages
that have come my way from various spiritual teachers. They
speak of what is behind the war, what is going on behind the
scenes. They speak of that which has a deeper meaning and
significance beyond third dimension. There are many of these
messages, so I will attempt to put them into some sort of
perspective for us all.
These collective messages come from Kryon, Mikiah,
Sananda, Bashar, MiShui, Adama of Telos, Mahala, Mik'ael,
Matthew, Devin- 9D Nibiruan Council, Shala - Esoteric
Astrologer, The Psychic Children, Dr Safir, Quantum
Physics...
The essential message is that this is "the final war to end all
wars." That it has to be played out for certain energies to be
reassigned and realigned. That those of us who are part of
the large group of TruthSeekers and Lightworkers here upon
Earth, agreed on other dimensional realities, to have this war
occur, for we knew these energies had to be played out. "This
last war will have the effect of accelerating on the planet the
winds of positive changes that you have been waiting for, for
so long. It will have the effect of waking up literally millions
upon millions more people to a new awareness, and to
reconsider new values."
According to MiShui, we agreed to this war "eons ago."
Another teacher mentioned that all those who are to die and
suffer in the war, agreed to sacrifice themselves for the cause,
and that they are greatly honored for their sacrifice. Another
mentioned the countless beings "on the fence" that have not
yet decided whether they will go forward into the next world,
the next dimension. This time is helping them to wake up and
make a new choice for their incarnation.
The counsel from this collection of teachers can be
diametrically opposed, ...just take your pick...
>From Dr Safir, a Religious Philosophy teacher and Quantum
Physics theorist:
"We are starting to make the move into a new frequency. We
are shifting. In order to make this shift happen on the scale
we designed, we need motion; energy in motion, or E-motion;
as we call it here. You many have noticed that you and your
friends may be feeling more emotional lately. On Sep 11, this
scenario was first initiated. It was an extraordinary point in
time, in which all the minds on the planet came together at the
same moment in time. This created a quantum shift, now being
accelerated with the war. We have ordered this shift, yet it
hasn't exactly come forth in the form we might have imagined!
But take heart and read on....."
>From "Grandmother Chandra", of the Psychic Children -
"We must learn to see the Universal picture, not limit it to
3-D. There is an agreement that has been made between Iraq
and the US, and it is being fulfilled right now. It was written
many many years ago. These countries are only symbols of
something much deeper which is being healed. Everything is
adjusting in other dimensions. Don't be fooled by what seems
to be happening, but see what is real. Then you'll be able to
play your role."
>From Matthew - on the importance of collective focusing and
protesting -
"The mindset for war does not end with invasion of Iraq --
it is a mindset for complete control of the Mideast because
of its oil resources. And the mindset doesn't stop there.
Total domination of all the planet's peoples either as willing
or slave labor after the populations are 'adequately thinned'
[institutionalized bioterrorism for widespread psycho-social
control, such as SARS], is the furthest goal. That is their plan
-- but it will not happen! Except for the invasion of Iraq, all of
that intended conquest is what will be thwarted by continued
intense focus FOR peace, love, harmony, justice, fairness,
equity of resources allocation, and the like. THAT is what
your collective focusing will manifest on Earth!"
>From Shala, esoteric astrologer -
" It is important to know that the war in Iraq is a religious war
between the Forces of Light and the forces of Dark having its
roots in ancient Atlantean times The Middle East is the solar
plexus of our planet and personifies the involutionary material
qualities of Ray 6 that must be eradicated before Ray 7,
Aquarius with it's new Laws and Principles, can fully emerge.
This battle can only be waged within the Temple of Humanity.
Its purpose is Liberation. What we see in form (the war) is
very different from what is actually occurring on the inner,
causal and Spiritual levels. Our soldiers and the Iraqi people
made an inner contract, long ago to sacrifice themselves for
this cause and we deeply honor and respect them and their
families."
>From Mahala -Planet Alert -
" This is [among other things] a space war for control of the
portal over Iraq. This portal, or star gate, is the doorway to a
different dimension. The negative ships have used this portal
to move back and forth between dimensions. Whoever
controls this portal controls the world. I know it appears very
dark and scary right now. Remember, it is all an illusion. Don't
get caught in the fear that comes through TV. Turn off your
TV if you become fearful watching it. Control comes through
fear. You cannot be controlled if you have no fear.
What can we do? We can be peaceful within. We can meet
in groups to pray and meditate - there is power in combined
consciousness. We can be joyful within so it can radiate out
to others. This is the time period we have been waiting for; it is
the end of one age and the beginning of a new one. Remember,
a world of light overshadows this world of darkness so reach
for the light. It takes only one little candle to light a dark room.
So Be It!"
>From Devin- on taking responsiblity for the War: -
"The war is a reflection of the inner war raging within each of
you, the struggle to integrate the Light and the Dark aspects
of yourselves, with it's expression of victimhood, anger, blame
and it1s inherent desire for revenge. Your leaders will continue
to play their roles, their behavior becoming more and more
bizarre as they reflect back to you your own bizarre inner
behavior.
Please stop pointing fingers at those in control of your world
and realize that they are only manifestations of yourselves,
your own dark aspects you so diligently hide within so that
none will see. When you can see these leaders as aspects of
yourself and realize that they are playing a role, a role you
helped to script, to show you on a global level, your own
anarchical behavior, you will release them from blame and
hold them in compassion. When this occurs, your war will
end, both externally and internally, and you will have peace."
>From Mik"ael -
"As the shifting from this resonate frequency to the next
proceeds ... as we move through the narrow channel ... things
will become emotional and chaotic ... more than likely there
will be conflict and strife. This is due to the resistance some
beings will have to the shift .
It will be a spiritual "war" between those that want to remain
and those that want to move into the next iteration. The aspects
you term "souls" that have mastered a certain level of neutrality,
will attempt to dampen the intensity of this "war" by appearing
to ignore it. They will turn away from all your forms of media
communication and will refuse all missives containing "dramatic"
data. In reality, they are not "ignoring" what it happening;
they are flooding the "game arena" with their vibrations of
peacefulness and love in its purity; keeping the "fabric of life"
from ripping itself into shreds. And they will be encouraging
anyone who will listen to do the same.
Thus, our recommendation for this point in your time is to do
as much of this "ignoring" as you can.
Prayers for "Peace" is a wonderful concept. The only
challenge is this: holding steadfastly to the idea of "peace"
means you are also resisting the idea of its opposite ... "war."
Resistance will cause anything to persist.
If you really want "peace," you need to focus on staying
in present time and creating a state of calm neutrality within
yourself. Accept all information regarding the current state
of the world with a "ho hum" attitude, then immediately
return to the production necessary in your life. In this way
-- by "ignoring the strife" -- you will avoid flowing power
to it; you will avoid "feeding" it; and it will wither and die.
It is the "fear" of war that causes it to persist. Move the
"fear" aside and focus on the "now" of everyday life. Only if
something presents itself directly in your path where you feel
a direct action made by you will actually make a difference...
only then should you "pay attention" to thiswar-filled drama
your reality must play out to accomplish its targeted goals as
a thought form. This, then, will be the best thing you can do to
help everyonethough this current arena of strife and potentials
of what you might consider to be disaster."
>From Adama of Telos on The Last War on this Planet -
"This last war will have the effect of accelerating on the planet
the winds of positive changes that you have been waiting
for, for so long. It will have the effect of waking up literally
millions upon millions more people to a new awareness of
their divinity, and to reconsider new values for their life.
People will soon open up to new visions for themselves and
for their planet. They will seek to discover new goals and
purposes that are more aligned with their true divine nature. So
beyond the war, you will find millions and millions of people
swelling the rank of the light-workers, banning together to
create permanent peace and a new reality based on divine
truths.
Expect that there will be losses of physical lives, there will be
some destruction; there will also be a tumbling down of old
outmoded patriarchal structures that no longer serve you. And
there will also be a rebuilding of a new society based on the
principle of universal laws and love. Be prepared to experience
some sorrow and sad moments, but this will assist the opening
of your heart in a much greater measure, the measure that is
required for your passage in the higher dimension.
It will also clear a lot of accumulated karma, making space for
the new order. If you can allow the clouds and storms to play
out this last game, this last illusion, and do whatever you can to
stay in your embodiment, you shall never regret it. Just keep
the candle of hope lit in your heart, for beyond the cloud is the
dawning of a new world, a new vibration on this planet and the
beginning of unity, the greater love where violence will be no
more is now just beyond the cloud. "
~oOo~ The Littlest Wave ~oOo~
*************************
Gracefully, the ocean swells, a little wave comes into form.
Knowingly, she curls and flips, to dance in the sun, so warm.
A seabird floats upon her crest, and caresses her with glee.
As she sings and bubbles and curtsies,
On the grand and mighty sea.
She knows not where she comes from, nor where she's heading for.
But with a billowed swell of ocean tide, she catches a glimpse of shore.
"Oh no"!, she cries, "I shall be dashed to bits",
(and she felt like she had no home).
As the waves up ahead pounded the rocks,
and turned into flatness and foam.
An old one from behind, with voice strong and so calm-
said, "No need to be afraid !
Dance in the now, with the sun shining through you,
Life is for limitless play.
Dolphins will sing, birds rest their wings,
feeling your joy they'll come from afar.
And when shore time draws near, let go of all fear,
For the ocean is what you are"!
~oOo~ (o/) ~oOo~
by David Rodgers ~~copyright April 2003
Feel free to share this including this information
in non-commercial usage.
For publication please contact me~~ davidcoyote@care2.com
Received and given in LOVE. David
Visit my website to connect with others
of like mind and heart. or click "Garden of Light"
to read a few more poems.
http://embark.to/WorldLightWorkerDirectory
[Edit] hola, como va mi ritmo, bueno pa vailar mulata! he! he! -- Rose, 16:31:59 04/04/03 Fri [1]
Hi every one, how is everyone doing, missing you all as always!
And trying to avoid the news, it’s funny how it does affect you, even when you try not to but in the back of your unconsciousness you have all sorts of feelings of worried, sadness about what’s going on just hope all is over in not time, there so much more out of life than war, I hope this is the last ONE!! There’s so much to be done, like discoveries, inventions, lots of healing, understanding in a lot of avenues of subjects! To much to little
Time to be playing with! Time!
For me since I got introduce by a book too the hay house to Chrissie, Maryellen, and
Others wonderful people threw the internet there s been a lot going on and a lot of healing to! It’s been taking a lot of years know, but none waste it!
Much clear mind, goals & interest! In career path that I did not have nor had a clue before, yeah I love art, since birth! And the unknown of physics totally seduce my mind and soul to eloquence! Because there are things I question with out any answers some do some don’t!
Some I keep to my self! Because with out schooling I provably look like a fool!
But all indeed is well giving my best to you and all! Wish you well!
Love and light Rose..
[Edit] CupidCams - Live Video Dating -- Looking4Love, 11:37:30 04/04/03 Fri [1]
[Edit] If you're in favour of peace, please read -- -- Chrissie :)*, 18:43:38 03/23/03 Sun [1]
Dear Christy,
It's goooood to hear from you! Sorry to hear that you've been down with the flu! I missed you!! Re the chatroom thing, I'll email you with how to do it - basically you just need a hotmail address (free), install the free Messenger service and add my hotmail address and Rosie's and everyone else's to your list and when we log on you can see us etc ....
This is a great article on how we can contribute to world peace at this time ... please take a moment to read and pass on to everyone you know!
[Edit] Prayers for Peace -- Christy, 17:50:12 03/18/03 Tue [1]
Hey all,
I have been sick with the flu and my daughter was sick with flu and then strep throat. I'm grateful that we are
both well now.
I'm sorry I missed the chance to say Happy Birthday to
Monique. Also, congrats on your pregancy, Lorriane.
Hey Chrissie..How's life treating you? I haven't figured
out how to get on the chat room yet, but I will.
A prayer from Marianne Willamson's website
http://www.marianne.com
Dear God,
Please bless this earth
and the precious life that lives upon it.
Dismantle, dear God,
the anger in our hearts.
Miraculously reconnect us all.
Cast out all violence
from everyone,
everywhere.
Holy Spirit,
please enter the relationship
between the United States and Iraq,
between George Bush and Saddam Hussein.
Please work a miracle
and save the world.
Thank you, God.
Amen
Have a great day,
Christy
[Edit] Experiential Knowingness and "visions of "jesus or Angels -- Emannuel--aka lord collins (ramblin on), 17:47:04 10/07/06 Sat [1]
many people both male and female have throughout the centuries reportedly had "visitation"from or swear to the presence of Jesus or Buddha or various Angels or other spiritual/metaphysical beings--often they attest to "seeing and feeling energy from these apparitions--these people especially include Ecclesiastics of one persuasion or another--ecclesiastics are the most easily fooled of people--they "want" to have these visions and so projecting their desire in the form of MENTAL ENERGY they give to these malavolent disincarnate spirits the template for their longings--as these spirits are able to asume any identity at will then for them it is the easiest thing to then appear before the emotionally wound up supplicants in the form that the supplicants desire--ecclesiastics need these visions to prove to themselves and others of their validity as people--indeed in the case of established religions their very livelihood depends on these visions--I DO NOT BELONG TO ANY GROUPING OF ANY RELIGION WHATSOEVER--all religions take the form of being AUTHORITARIAN PYRAMIDICAL POWER STRUCTURES--their ongoing philosophies enslaving HUMANITY from generation to generation--this is all coming to an END in these days--these visions can be described using words like EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS--I do not and would not wish a monopoly on the meaning of words--words have no shame--take the word FREEDOM--it can mean many wonderful things but also the FREEDOM to lie and pretend and manipulate as many do whose writings I find in these pages--no doubt essentially "good" people but undoubtedly misguided by the very spirits they swear by!!--because they are controlled by their MINDS working thru CONDITIONED IDENTITY they then become the victims of IGNORANCE-the Pope--the Dalai Lama--the priests and followers of every religion WITHOUT EXCEPTION--be it whatever --all are the blind leading the blind down a blind alley--when i use the term EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS I do so in the context of "the creative centre of all Beings and being--Metaphysical and Physical--which can only be understood and related to as a MINDLESS person--more than LOVE or any other words can possibly say-eMANNuel
there is between the Mataphysical world and the physical world a barrier of "energy" that since time immemorial cynical and deluded persons have sought to decieve others into believing that they can transcend this barrier and in doing so act as "message carriers(in both directions)--many both male and female write on this Website!!--and some do make a very good livelihood out of ignorant people by seeming to intercede with the "spirit realms"--offering BLAND advice and strings of meaningless but fine-sounding associated words--this they sometimes call"EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS"--of course its just the blind leading the blind--true EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS" is not contact through that barrier with mischievious and clever spirit entities--oh no true EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS is with that which isd inadequately described by myself as " the creative centre of all Beings and Being--all beings physical and metaphysical were created by this "creative centre" and to be in union with this is my definition of EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS--to believe or assert that any of these created Beings are "the source of all creation"is to merely show that one has been manipulated thru ones "conditioned identity"--its happened to many so-called "enlightened " people throughout history--they and their followers in turn have created the so-called "religions"--leading to the cofusion on this planet--lack of EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS is what drives the human race into depravity of religions and politics--this EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS can ONLY EVER come about when one is TOTALLY MINDLESS--as some of the early YOGIC sages realised but unfortunately they lacked out physiological knowledge of the brain/body interface and so were prey to "conditioned identity--EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS of "the creative centre of all Beings (both physical and metaphysical)can ONLY come about through the dropping of "conditioned identity "--an identity which is started by the "parenters" immediately after Birth and continues until the Speaking/listening/reading/writing centres in the brain come under the control of the newly created mind--which then exerts life-long control over the sum total of brain functions through the "conditioned identity"--as Joseph Mellon and Bart Huges tried to show in their two Scrolls---1..Homo Sapiens Correctus--2..The Ego--unfortunately both fell victim to CARBOHYDRATE ADDICTION or to call it correctly REACTIVE HYPOGLAECEMIA--none the less their writing hold many precious snippets of KNOWLEDGE--useful in ones progression towards EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS--its brilliant living at THE TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN and would be lonely but for the fact i share it with my Female Tantric partner --however thers room for the whole of humanity up here--care to join--more than love or any other words can possibly say--eMANNuel and grene--
[Edit] "the creative centre of all being and beings both Cosmic Spiritual and Temporal(human and animal) -- Emannuel--aka lord collins (more ramblin), 15:34:14 10/04/06 Wed [1]
there are many pitfalls on the way to complete understandingwhen the"creative centre of all being and beings" created EXISTENCE it(neither male nor female)created cosmic and spiritual beings )who came to be identified by ecclesiastics(fearful for their livlihoods and power)as the various "gods" and "angels" and "demons" etc--ALL these beings without exception were created with "handicaps"(just as humans are handicapped by "ignorance "and "arrogance")--the main handicap for Cosmic and Spiritual beings was VANITY--with the cooperation of FALSE PROPHETS(are you reading Elizabeth and company?)and ecclesiastics authoritarian power structures called religions came into existence(with a "hidden component of "GROUPMIND"--in a pyramidical structure with authoritarianism and intellectual sleight of hand of course,the "teacher/groupleader/spiritual friend" at the apex of said pyramidical mind structure whose mental output would filter into the minds of those lower on the pyramid to give "guidance"and "insight"--these pages are full of misguided people offering all kinds of "wisdom" and "guidance"(usually for a price be it straight fees or optional offerings)--it is a well known fact that people give more as "offering"--(the phrase is "buying ones way into heaven")so said Cosmic "and spiritual beings consumed by their inherant vanity just love to be worshipped and adored by humans(this way they get much MENTAL ENERGY from deluded humans)thus Allah Jehovah God Jesus etc have come into existence and continue to mislead and meddle in human affairs--jesus died 2000yrs ago and CAN NEVER COME BACK AS JESUS--except in the deluded and feverish imaginations of "followers"--he has since reincarnated but i can assure you would have NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with any who consider themselves saved by him--he is working out his own Karma through generating NEUTRAL KARMA--(the Good and Bad varieties of KARMA merely cement people to existence after existence certainly NOT the intention of the"creative centre of ALL(without exception)Beings and being"--thru the ancient and twin practises of DEEP BREATING and CONTEMPLATION one can lose the CONDITIONED IDENTITY and naturally revert to the ETERNAL MINDLESS state of ID-ENTITY that the "creative centre of all beings and being" gifted us with when creating exixtence --of course there are many pitfalls on the path to MINDLESS understanding(the mind does NOT want to die and is extremely good at creating illusions of Mindlessnes--but the creative centre of all beings and being is there and watches--but the work must be done by the human--it cannot be done on your behalf by another either physical or metaphysical--its is only when nearing the goal that one becomes aware of the "creative centre of all beings and being--there is NOT ONE who writes on this website who is anywhere near this transforming state--they are all EASY to read psychically --more than love or any other words can possibly say--Emannuel
we are all without exception born and all without exception will die--we pass our lives on this big ball in space trying to understand the whys and wherefores of existence--at birth our parenters start the process of conditioning that give us our IDENTITY--we assist this process as we grow and age until eventually we cling to our CONDITIONED IDENTITY as IF it were our real selves--a small proportion alive try (in various ways following various philosophies and methods)to regain that state that existed both before birth(the womb state)and for a small period of time after birth--usually (for 99%recurring)just a matter of hours or even minutes before the billing and cooing and name-saying impinges on our consciousness and starts the process of developing MIND--this MIND takes control of our brain function and prevents us(our original ID-ENTITY)from controlling our own brains--thus making us spectators to our passing lives--some try to regain this ID-ENTITY but always substitute another identity superimposed on top of the conditioned one--an ADAPTATION DISORDER-this is because of IGNORANCE bolstered by the many millions of FALSE COSMIC and CELESTIAL philosophies and religions placed in our paths by the created COSMIC and CELESTIAL beings who can and do appear correct intellectually often aided by the "energies" placed at their disposal by the "unquantifiable but KNOWABLE creative centre of all existence"--these being metaphysical are only knowable thru "understanding"-for 99% of people this is obviously thru some kind of MIND or MENTATION PROCESS--but as we are intended to live and function in a totally MINDLESS state(thus DROPPING all and any conditioned identity)as i say again it is practically impossible for 99%recurring of ALL existant beings to bypass conditioned identity and therefore MIND then this state of being(described by those who KNOW IT NOT as useless adjectival states such as bliss joy NIRVANA or some other VERBAL )this state of being MINDLESS totally because the mind is NON-EXISTANT completely eludes all who posses MIND--indeed in their IGNORANCE the generally accepted usage of MINDLESS is derogatory and depraved(a further aid to self-conditioning against the state(of MINDLESSNESS)--perhaps someone who reads this would like to communicate thru my E address--more than love or any other word or words can possibly say--MANN
does anyone else read this page--i see the dates of last before mine are 2003!!!--does no-one out there dig a little talk and debate?--more than love or any other words can possibly say
[Edit] time -- lord collins (contemplative), 19:16:59 09/15/06 Fri [1]
if a person cannot master their time how can they master their life
when seeking a lost thumbtack walk barefoot in the dark
[Edit] Charlie Parker -- lord collins (celebration), 07:49:29 08/24/06 Thu [1]
Haiku for Bird-----the joy at finding his fingers placed exactly so!!
[Edit] experiential knowingness -- lord collins, 11:23:30 08/10/06 Thu [1]
furthermore to my posting yesterday--this is amended situation(this the first time i have written ANY of this down)---psychotherapy psychology psychiatry and ALL religions including christianism islamism judaism buddism yogism vedantism hinduism jainism sikkhism satanism aetheism agnosticism and consumerism--ALL gods and godesses angels demons ascended masters and mistresses celestial beings are but symptoms of the Dis-ease of DUALITY for which there is ONLY ONE CURE--each individual must let go PERMANENTLY of MIND/CONDITIONED IDENTITY and by this action come to exist PERMANENTLY in the state of EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS by by becoming the ETERNAL ID-ENTITY!.this is a PHYSIOLOGICAL process that is only understood by myself and consort(tantric)--and is not entered into by ANYONE alive--anyone who says that they understand or can teach this process is not speaking TRUTHFULLY (difference between truth and truthfulness--many kninds of TRUTH but only ONE TRUTHFULNESS!!)this understanding has taken the course of my kife to realise(i am 67 years)when i started i was like everyone including the so-called enlightened!!--subject to MIND/CONDITIONED IDENTITY!!--there is only a PHYSIOLOGICAL solution for the Dis-ease of DUALITY that is beyond philosophising or strings of meaningles associated but pleasant words--words know no shame--more than love or any words or combinatiions of words can say or hint at --
[Edit] Greetings -- Chrissie :)*, 12:17:07 03/15/03 Sat [1]
Heya all,
It was great the other day to have a 4 way live conversation via Hotmail Messanger with Rosie, Jennifer and Lorraine!! (smiles)!
Life is hectic still - this past 15 months have been crazy for me ... lots of life changes - though I'm still here ... we've all moved on and our life has changed ... lorraine got married and is now having a baby ... I've become a Karuna and Usui Reiki Master and life takes on a whole new different path with new responsibilities etc and I'm' focusing a lot of my healing .... and spending less time on the internet ...
I do miss Christy though - heya Christy- you haven't written for ages!! How are things with you? I'll have to send you an email!! (hugs)
All we experience in life is first born as thought. Learn to build the
life you desire one constructive thought at a time. The more you
partner with God, the stronger your partnership. And you begin to
attract people and ideas beyond anything you could have imagined. Are
you attracting what you most deeply desire into your life right now? Or
are you perhaps being invited into a greater experience, thought by
thought?
"Attitude precedes service. Your positive mental attitude
is the basis for the way you act and react to people. 'You
become what you think about' is the foundation of your
actions and reactions. What are your thoughts? Positive all
the time? How are you guiding them?"
"Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows
everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always
lead you down the right path."
When people are rude or hurtful to us we discover our true spiritual
condition, not theirs.
We set ourselves spiritually for our responses to everything.
Some say that the people who hurt us are our teachers, acting out of a
spiritual agreement to do that for us. I simply believe that everything is a
part of an infinite and constant set of opportunities to learn.
I set things up with my own expectations. The degree of my disappointment
and hurt may be related to my dependence on my expectations.
If I put all my eggs in one basket and expect particular results I may be
seriously disillusioned.
But perhaps the metaphor is better expressed as having an infinite number of
eggs and the capacity to fill any basket. Then we don't have to depend on
one outcome.
The outcome is the giving itself.
Setting up an expectation is a trap also, trying to manipulate people into a
certain behavior, then blaming them for not doing what we want.
Spiritual preparation for life can be a beautiful prevention of the hurt
from lost expectations. Then we don't need healing.
Healing implies the wound.
Go beyond getting the wounds by realizing a true spiritual generosity. Then
all that comes to you is free and sweet with the beauty of the universe
giving to you, not just a transaction for favors given and returned.
Love is a force that connects us to every strand of the universe, an
unconditional state that characterizes human nature, a form of knowledge
that is always there for us if only we can open ourselves to it.
Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless
garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being
loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.
Most human suffering arises in the gap between what we think
should be and what is. It's here that we find our unresolved
problems, worries, complaints, and judgments about the
unfairness of life, as well as our fantasies about how we
would like things to be.
We can always come up with good reasons for our behavior: we
need the money, our families expect it, we owe it to
society, and so on. Our stories and reasons and excuses are
always "perfect" - and so are everybody else's. When someone
does something you don't like, you can be sure they have a
perfect explanation for it, just as you do for your own
behavior.
Freedom is such a powerful word, yet do we really know what it means? For
years freedom has been tied to the concept of slavery... having the right to
have no one 'own' you. In Civil Rights, freedom meant being able to be
considered equal to all others regardless of race, color, or gender. Then as
the women's movement got into swing, freedom also included the right of
women to make their own choices, to have the freedom to choose a life other
than that of wife and mother.
In the United States of America's Bill of Rights, freedom is spoken of as
freedom of religion, freedom of speech, freedom of assembly... Freedom is
"guaranteed" to be one of our basic rights.
Yet are we really free? Are we free to choose our course of action? Are we
free to really express ourselves? To answer that we truly need to look
within ourselves. For centuries the concept of freedom was related to
freedom from others... to the thought that 'others' were doing it to us,
that our freedom was taken away from us by others outside of ourselves...
and thus that only others could restore freedom to us.
But think about it...Who really holds the key to your freedom? You do. We
have the ultimate choice of whether to be independent of influence and
manipulation. It may not always be an easy choice. Sometimes the consequence
of choosing freedom can be harsh (as in the case of slaves choosing to run
away in order to attain freedom).
Just as "happiness is an inside job", so also freedom is an inside job. No
one has the power to remove our freedom, just as no one has the power to
make you happy or unhappy. Ultimately we always make the choice as to
whether we will "let" others "take" our freedom. The choice resides within
each and every one of us. This was eloquently demonstrated in Roberto
Benigni's touching movie "Life is Beautiful". Even in the midst of a Nazi
concentration camp, the character portrayed by Benigni retained his freedom,
both in action and in soul.
So what is freedom? What is it that we need to be free from? It is said that
there are only two emotions - love and fear. Looking at it from that
perspective, then what we need to be free from is fear. This encompasses
everything else. If you reflect on everything in your life that you feel is
oppressing you, you will realize that what it lacks is love and what it
reeks of is fear. The beliefs in injustice, in lack, in oppression, are all
expressions of fear.
So the true path to freedom and independence is through letting go of fear
and embracing the path of love. Once we are really coming from the heart in
all our decisions and perceptions, then we are truly free. We then become
independent of petty thoughts and fears. We become free from worry, doubt,
anger, resentments, and feeling that we have been unfairly treated. When we
can elevate our thoughts out of the muck of fear, we see that we have truly
been free all along. We simply needed to change our perception from one of
lack and separation, to one of Oneness.
For some, this may seem to be a "Polyanna" way of perceiving the world... or
an outdated "peace and love" statement from the sixties. Yet, if we look at
our lives, we see that when we approach the people around us with mistrust
and fear, we project an energy that then bounces back to us. When we
approach someone with love and trust, then the energy bounces back at a
higher vibration.
This is not to say that you will always get 100% loving returns. There are
times when the person you face is in such a confused state and delving in
the pits of anger and fear themselves, that the energy of love that may be
coming from your heart will get distorted. Yet, true freedom is being
detached from the returns or the results.
Freedom is choosing the action and the thought that you know is for the
Highest Good and releasing the results to the Universe. Freedom is being
able to detach yourself from letting others' actions and behavior rule your
actions and behaviors. We are truly free when we are able to not live in
reaction to others, but to truly make our decisions based on our own truth
and vision.
We may, at times, be restricted in the physical world and find our physical
freedom to be restrained, but no one but ourselves can restrain our spirit,
our inner self. We always have the freedom to choose our thoughts and the
energy that comes from us. We may at times choose anger, and that is fine,
as long as we are choosing it consciously and not simply being goaded into
it by the provocation of others. There are times when anger is justified --
not revenge, not abuse, not hatred -- but anger directed at an action that
is unjust or unkind.
We have many choices to take each day -- from the moment we wake up to the
moment we drift off into sleep at night. No one can dictate the choices we
make internally. No one can "make us feel happy", no one can "make us blue",
except when we give them permission to do so. That is our ultimate
freedom -- the power to choose who we want to be at each moment of our
existence. The choice is the power we have -- incorporating that choice into
our actions at the moment is not always possible or easy, but that choice is
our freedom.
When we choose to come from a center of inner peace, love, and faith in the
"rightness" of the Universe, then we project that energy and also attract it
with our inner magnet. The more we clean up our own act and exercise our
freedom to be, to think, to act as we choose (according to our Higher Self),
then the more the world around us will change.
When we see that everyone is simply reflecting our own beliefs - including
our fears and insecurities - we understand how to be free of the shackles we
have placed on ourselves. We need to free ourselves from the fears that have
taken up residence in our being. We need to release them to the Light of
Love and affirm our Oneness with Divine Will and Divine Plan. We can free up
ourselves from whatever is unlike Love and truly become free to express the
Love and Joy that reside in our true Self. It's an action that we need to
take again and again and again... each moment of our life presents us with
another choice... freedom or slavery to fear and old attitudes. The choice
is ours and that is our freedom!
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1985 originally as Mighty Natural Magazine) and The Natural Yellow Pages
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Power, from 1991-1995 which focused on themes such as self-esteem, personal
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[Edit] Learning to Love Yourself -- Chrissie :)*, 22:08:40 02/14/03 Fri [1]
Learning to Love Yourself
LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF
GAY HENDRICKS
Love yourself exactly as you are…and you are forever changed.
Love others exactly as they are…and they are free to change.
A moment of genuine love for yourself makes every following moment more beautiful.
A moment of loving acceptance of your past can erase a lifetime of hurt.
Love as much as you can from wherever you are: Nothing more is ever required.
Love all your feelings, exactly as they are.
Love your sadness and feel it turn into gratitude.
Love your anger and feel it turn into compassion.
Love your fear and feel it turn into excitement.
When you forget to love yourself, love yourself for forgetting. When you find yourself not loving yourself, love yourself for not being able to love yourself.
Love is so powerful it can embrace its opposite-even the most unlovable parts of ourselves can melt in the arms of love.
[Edit] experiential knowingness -- lord collins, 20:43:23 08/09/06 Wed [1]
this is the situation--psychology psychotherapy psychiatry buddism christianism islamism hinduism jainism sikkhism satanism consumerism and all other religions are but the symptoms of the eternal dis-ease of DUALITY for which there is only ONE cure namely for the individual to live in the state of EXPERIENTIAL KNOWINGNESS that can can only come about through relinquishing the conditioned identity and becoming the eternal ID-ENTITY -more than love or ANY other word can say
Some friends and I will be increasing the energy vibration with our Valentine's date on Valentine's Day!!!! Join us!!!
Subj: The Relationship Coach Newsletter #91 - Thriving on Valentine's Day
Date: 12/02/2003 02:49:05 GMT Standard Time
From: help@whatittakes.com
To: relationships-list@whatittakes.com
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THE RELATIONSHIP COACH NEWSLETTER(TM)
2/11/03 By Rinatta Paries, Relationship Coach
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Finally, real help for attracting and building a
healthy relationship!
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In this issue:
1. Welcome
2. Weekly Article - Thriving on Valentine's Day
3. Relationship and Singles Online Classes
4. Coaching Services
5. Quote of the Week
6. AOL links
Welcome to the Relationship Coach Newsletter, and welcome to
our new subscribers this week.
With Valentine's Day just around the corner, many couples are
scrambling to find the perfect gift for their sweethearts. And
many singles are feeling anxious about not having a Valentine
with whom to share the day. In today's article, I'll show you
how to survive the commercialism associated with this holiday,
and how to thrive this Valentine's Day. Enjoy!
To subscribe to the newsletter, visit www.whatittakes.com
The commercialism associated with Valentine's Day can wreak
havoc on singles and couples alike. For couples, Valentine's Day
can be full of unrealistic, unnecessary expectations and
disappointment. And singles often see the holiday as an
unpleasant reminder of their relationship status and the sadness
and disappointment of being alone.
Below are my suggestions to help you thrive this Valentine's
Day, whether you are single, in a relationship going well or are
even in a relationship going poorly.
How to Thrive on Valentine's Day When You're in a Relationship
People in relationships often feel pressured and anxious about
giving just the right gift. Valentine's Day expectations can run
high in a relationship. If the gift isn't just right, the
receiver may feel unloved and the giver may wind up "in the
doghouse."
How fun will your Valentine's Day be if you are disappointed
with your partner and his or her gift? How special will the day
be for the two of you if your partner spends the whole time
feeling badly?
If you are in a relationship and you want to bring closeness,
joy, and intimacy to your Valentine's Day, I suggest an
adjustment in expectations and attitude, such as below.
If Your Relationship is Going Well:
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If your relationship is going well, does it really matter what
happens on Valentine's Day? Maybe something sweet, fun, and
loving is enough?
Does it matter if you go out for a romantic dinner or if you
have a candlelight dinner at home? As long as you do something
for each other, consider your Valentine's Day to be a success.
On the other hand, if you really want something special, give
strong hints to your partner and let him or her know how much
you REALLY want that certain something. This way you set him or
her up to win by giving you what you want. Don't secretly hope
for something and expect to get it unless you are sure your
partner knows you are secretly hoping for it.
Mostly, make sure it's a day or evening the two of you spend
enjoying each other.
If Your Relationship is Going Poorly:
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If your relationship is not going well, Valentine's Day is
probably not going to save it, no matter how special you try to
make the day. In fact, if your relationship is in trouble, high
expectations may be the last nail in the coffin of your
relationship.
In this case, it is even more important to communicate clearly
what you want and what you expect. The more discord in a
relationship, the less likely your partner will be tuned into
you and know what you want.
The key here is to stop having expectations that Valentine's
Day will turn your relationship around, and instead see it as an
opportunity to express to your partner how much YOU care.
Do offer even a small gesture of your love and caring to let
the person know all is not lost -- if in fact all is not lost.
How to Thrive on Valentine's Day When You're Single
Instead of spending the day being sad about not having a
relationship or ignoring the day completely, do something
powerful for your relationship future.
I have to warn you that the exercise I am about to detail here
will sound silly, pointless, and hard to execute. However, it is
truly worth the effort.
But before I explain the exercise, let me tell you why it will
be worth the effort. This exercise will allow you to experience
true, healthy love. If your history is strewn with broken
relationships, you have seldom, if ever, experienced true,
healthy love. Experiencing it will give you the ability to
recognize someone capable of it, and will give you the power to
attract it.
Ready?
Go to Hallmark or another card store today or tomorrow and buy
a few very nice cards -- the kind you would love to get from an
intimate partner. Go home, take out the cards and a nice pen,
and start writing Valentine's messages to yourself. The key is
to write as if a wonderful, caring, generous relationship
partner is writing to you. Although you don't have such a
partner right now, I'm sure you know just what you'd like to
hear. Write exactly that. Write what you most want to hear from
someone who loves you. Go overboard with compliments and praise
and words of love. Seal the cards and put your name on the
envelope. Maybe even draw something on the envelope. Put the
cards in different places around the house to be found and
opened on Valentine's Day.
When you open the cards on Valentine's Day, do not discount
what you've written to yourself. It may not be from a current
lover; however, it is from someone who loves you -- YOU. The
more you allow yourself to feel love, even self-love, the more
likely you are to attract true love into your life.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
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3. Relationship and Singles Online Classes
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Relationship Help Center Classes
Increase the Level of Intimacy in Your Relationship
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If you are in relationship, it's not unusual to want more
intimacy and closeness with your partner. You may even be
frustrated that your partner does not want this as much as you
do. But there are ways to encourage your partner to want more
intimacy and to become more available. Register for this class
and learn the three key actions you can take to have your
partner want you more. To register go here.
How to Talk to Your Partner
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Does your partner get defensive any time you want to talk? Can
you not get heard in your relationship? Get key communication
skills to improve his or her ability to hear you. Learn the
strategies to improve your relationship. To register go here.
Singles Help Center Classes
Discerning Available Partners
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Do you keep attracting unavailable partners or partners who are
not "available enough?" You are not doomed to always want more
than your partners can give you. Register for this class and
discover what "available enough" means for you, what needs
cannot be met in a relationship, and key signs that someone is
available or not available. To register go here.
Getting a Date
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How do you get a date in this fast-paced, modern world of ours?
How do you get over the feeling that the kinds of people you
want to meet simply don't exist? How do you meet the right
people of the opposite sex? To register go to here.
Want help learning how to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right, how to
build a great relationship, or how to turn yours around? Want
help with a pressing relationship concern?
I am here for you. Whether you are interested in one-time
immediate support, or a deeper approach, I have created plenty
of options to meet your needs.
To learn more about services created to fit you, check out my
menu of services here.
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5. Quote of the week
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"At the beginning of a relationship, it is best not to have too
many expectations about how Valentine's Day will be celebrated.
It is also best not to get disappointed if it is not celebrated
in just the way you would want. In time, as you and your partner
get closer, both of you will be able to celebrate Valentine's
Day and other holidays in more meaningful ways."
~Rinatta Paries, RCN #40, "Ways to Be Romantic"
http://www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter40to49/newsletter__40.shtml
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distribute the Relationship Coach Newsletter, so long as this
copyright notice and full information about contacting the
author are attached. The author is: Coach Rinatta Paries.
Contact her at: mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com, or at 888-215-6033.
[Edit] A Race Such as Ours -- Will Baker, 18:57:47 02/09/03 Sun [1]
Death rains from above, when the bombs fall and children scream. Death rains from above, the product of misdirected dreams. Death rains from above, as a multitude of angels cry, And death rains from above while common people wonder why.
So much the pity, that we must resort to hurt, that cold steel's so much easier than good cheer and mirth. That conquest by force seems to be the order of the day, That a race such as ours can not find another way...
[Edit] ALL SUCCESS STARTS WITH BEGINNING. -- Rose, 15:16:11 02/08/03 Sat [1]
ALL SUCCESS STARTS WITH BEGINNING.
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Everyone who got where they are
had to begin where they were.
There are opportunities all around you.
To reach your goal or to attain success,
you don't need to know all of the answers in advance.
But you do need to have a clear idea of your goal.
Don't procrastinate when faced with difficult problems.
Break those problems into parts, and handle one part at a time.
Develop tendencies toward action.
Break your big plan into small steps and take the first step right away.
You can make something happen, right now.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Take it
--
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"Attitudes are contagious...Is yours worth catching?"
lol, ayyy! ayy! Lorraine your just so cute! I have some problems with the html! My self to, I learn some cool stuff
But I forgot some of them need to go back and read the notes!
Smiles!
How are you?
Ohhh dear!... it's just me then that's gone pink!
I'm not much good at this html stuff! It was all pink in the preview honest!!
Lorraine
[Edit] Hi there -- Lorraine, 16:17:11 02/07/03 Fri [1]
♥♥♥ Happy Birthday to you Monique! ♥♥♥Did I really make everything go pink?! Hi to Everyone!!
[Edit] OPEN YOUR OWN DOOR TO SUCCESS. -- Rose, 22:40:45 02/06/03 Thu [1]
OPEN YOUR OWN DOOR TO SUCCESS.
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Success on any major scale requires that you accept responsibility.
The one quality that all successful people have
is their ability to take on responsibility.
You must choose the thoughts and actions
that will lead you on to success.
Nothing will happen by itself.
It can all come your way, once you understand
that you have to make it come your way, by your own exertions.
Remember that nothing can bring you success but yourself.
Find your pathway to success and begin your journey.
Your life will become what you make of it.
The golden opportunity you are seeking lies within you.
It's not in your environment.
It's not in luck or chance, or the help of others.
It's in you alone.
The opportunity for success is all around you.
And if the door of opportunity is closed,
you must keep on knocking on it,
and keep on knocking on it until it opens.
You'll develop your opportunity
by applying persistence to your possibilities.
Success won't come to you, you must go to it.
Become an opener of doors.
Dear Monique, may today be filled with lots of love for you, now and always! Happy Birthday hon!
Rosie, it's good to hear from you and how wonderful to hear that you were able to help out on a Brandon Bays workshop! Some friends of mine did it last year and they enjoyed it though did say that it was too crowded and a little - argh can't think of the word - impersonal? Something like that.
We must catch up soon - Rose and I hook up via hotmail which I'll send you details of later today - I'll keep everyone posted about a big get together in the next few weeks once I've had time to set something up properly ... any ideas welcome!!! :)*
Hi Chrissie, Joe, Lorraine(CONGRATULATIONS), Monique, CarolB , Jennifer, Rachel and i am sorry if i missed out on anyone. Chrissie i would be so interested in chatting with you guys.. I did enjoy when we did it all those moons ago..
I hope you are all well. We are in the midst of changes here at work. New bosses, new owners, new year and new working environment. To which is added the breaking down of air conditioners and the heat wave which we are experiencing.
I wanted to wish A HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MONIQUE... Sending you a huge hug and kisses.
Been busy the last few weeks. Last weekend had an opportunity to help out as a trainer at Brandon Bays Journey. What a great experience and one that i will never forget at all. It was so wonderful.
This weekend i am off to the country to a place called the Grampians in Victoria appr 3 hours drive.. Off to the Jazz festival and next weekend back to my painting classes and Grape Grazing around the wineries in Victoria.. Its been very hot here in Melbourne and we badly need the rain which is definetely not coming. Its amazing when we do see the rain we all get excited and let me tell you Melburnians are never happy to see rain but we are desperate our reservoirs are really below 50%
We pray for world peace as we head into uncertain times with possible war in Iraq.
This is absolutely wonderful!! Enjoy! It's a new group that's just started. Do join!
Subj: [God24-7] I AM LOVE
Date: Mon, 3 Feb 2003 6:51:23 pm GMT
From: "thewellnessteam2003 "
To: God24-7@yahoogroups.com
Reply-To: God24-7@yahoogroups.com
I Love and accept myself as I am. All my imperfections are washed
away with this all-consuming Love. The Father of All Loves His
Creation unconditionally...and I am one with this Love.
I send Love to all my body, and know they are healed, I am Love
Manifest.
I forgive myself for not always knowing.
I forgive myself for not always feeling Love.
I Love myself for all my imperfections.
I Love myself totally in this moment.
When I doubt , I Love myself for doubting.
When I feel lack, I Love myself for this feeling, for it is only Love
that will evaporate the doubt and quench my heart's thirst.
I Love myself for misunderstanding. My new Love will bring wisdom to
my heart.
I Love and forgive myself for hurting others, for my lack of Love was
an error.
I forgive myself for my emptiness, and I march forward with my army
of Love to heal those around me with forgiveness.
My new Love glistens in my heart as the dew on the shimmering, green
meadow. It sings in my Soul like a songbird's symphony in the
springtime, and it cleanses my Being as a waterfall's mist douses the
crisp evening air.
Yes I am Love, relentlessly pusuing your heart, You have looked here
and there for me, yet I have waitied patiently to fulfill the real
dreams and desires of your eternal nature.
Many times you have doubted, I awaited as you fought your self-
created battles. And now the battlefoeld is clear, and you have
conquered the enemy within by allowing me to enter through your heart
as your commander-in-chief.
Many times you have believed yourself to be separate from Love. Love
is what you are and what you have always been.
Loving yourself is truly all that there is...since All is Love,
I Am Love
~Thank you "L. Joseph Nichols" THE SOUL HEALER~
Blessed be!
Ananda "Jo Ann"
"Teach Only Love"
PS: There is a Chat room connected to this group...Please feel free
to spend time here and invite friends and Love ones to share the space
Love you!...Ananda & John
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[Edit] Hi Lorraine -- Chrissie :)*, 21:13:27 02/03/03 Mon [1]
Hi Lorraine,
I'm glad you liked the affirmations! I must just have a knack for finding them!!! :)* pp/s Louise won't personally answer them as she's retired but her assistants will .... it'll help! You never know, it may even give Louise an idea to write a new book for affirmations during pregnancy!!!
Can hardly keep my eyes open - didn't sleep too well last nite!
I painted the hallway skyblue - it's beautiful!! and painted the wood lilac/purple ... it's very healing to look at! I haven't finished yet ! The front door is painted very blue ....
We'll see what the next few months holds for us hey Lorraine!
Oh and I chatted with Rose for the first time live yesterday on the net which was cool!!!! We'll have to do it again and do it as a group! I'll keep you all posted and send emails at some stage nearer the time!!
Love & Hugs - must dash - sorrie!!
Chrissie :)* ^i^
p/s it's good to be back (smiles) .. like the good ole' days!
pp/s I must find time to switch off that music ! or change it! no time right now!
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and the wonderful affirmations Chrissie! You are wonderful ((hugs)). I wasn't all that successful when I looked myself, was looking in the wrong places obviously!
I'll be printing these out and referring to them often!
That's a great idea to ask Louise Hay herself,.. I wonder if I'll get a reply?! I think that I'll have a go later...
It's lovely to have you back in here Chrissie,... but no guilt eh, we understand that we all have other things that are calling us at different times,.. it's good to share and play catchup after though ;-)
Rose,... I've got my dream dictionary book here with me so that I can quote on what it says about Rhinos!! Ideally, it's best to take the other actions and events into consideration... Take what you need and let the rest go..
RHINOCEROS -
Seen in his native surroundings this fellow is a warning against carelessness in meeting your obligations; but if he was in captivity or in a zoo, the dream suggests that you will have a social benefit due to your sexual prowess.
Rose, you say that he gave you a message, I'm not sure if that was a sort of letter thing,.. but I'll include that definition too...
LETTER-
In a dream concerning letters the meaning depends on the content. If you dreamed of receiving good news in a letter, your prospects are very bright indeed. but if the letter contained anything of a disappointing or upsetting nature, it portends an approaching struggle. Unimportant or routine letters signify financial difficulties due to overstretched credit. If you dreamed of destroying an unopened letter, it signals a need to make amends for a past injustice. A letter delivered by messenger rather than by post indicates discord in small matters; letters written in brightly coloured ink signify domestic problems.
Deciphering dreams is rather like piecing together parts of a jigsaw,.. if there are any other elements of the dream that stick in your mind, I'll be happy to give you the definition in my dream dictionary.
Thanks Chrissie for the email addresses you gave me, I have a clearer picture in my head now of where to send my emails!! (grins)
Ahah,.. so you've been painting and de-cluttering,.. it's very theraputic work isn't it. We have some paint to paint our lounge with, we just have to find the right time to do it. It's a lovely shade of green, fresh and fruity undertones, but not limey! The room is a warm yellow at the moment, but it needed a little freshening up. Green is a very grounding colour I think.
We have a fair bit of work to do ourselves in the decorating department, we have the nursery to work on! We haven't long painted the room as it happens which is two shades of mauve and mauve/purple; I think that's a good colour for a boy or a girl!
What colour did you go for?!
Chrissie, I'll probably send you an email later, replying to your email ;-) I'd definitely love to do one of those online realtime chat things,.. I'll have to be guided by you though as I haven't done one before, it would be great.
I'm off to send Louise Hay an email! Wish me luck ;-)
Love & Light to all...
Lorraine
[Edit] Affirmations during Pregnancy -- Chrissie :)*, 10:18:06 02/02/03 Sun [1]
Hi Lorraine,
I did a search and came up with the following affirmations during pregnancy - use that ie "affirmations during pregnancy" for your search and a whole list comes up. I used google. You could also write to Louise Hay directly and ask her for some perhaps - a thought!
A wonderful list of affirmations that we have been collecting for clients and our own births, enjoy...
My mind and body can handle a labor of any kind.
I will have a strong and healthy baby.
I trust my body to know how to birth this child.
I trust my instincts to know what I need in labor.
I trust my instincts to do what is best for my baby.
I am a strong and capable woman.
Only I can give birth to this baby and I accept responsibility for that challenge.
My body knows how to birth our baby. If women didn't know how, we would have died out centuries ago.
Trust your instincts.
It's our baby, my body, our birth, and not the caregivers.
If God had meant for all women to have an episiotomy, we would all have zippers!
Babies are born on their birthdays, not when doctors decide.
My body is indeed beautifully and wonderfully made.
It's good for me to take care of myself. I get to have a voice.
I have to be truthful with myself.
I'm not responsible for protecting my OB; I'm not responsible for my OB's feelings; I am responsible for me. My OB is going to be fine. I have no control over how my OB is going to feel.
Listen to my body and heart.
I deserve to have the birth I desire.
I trust my body
I trust my pain
I trust my labour
I trust in our baby
I am a strong and capable woman.
I am a powerful, loving and creative being.
I am now willing to experience all my feelings.
My pelvis releases and opens as have those of countless women before me.
My body is beautiful, capable and strong.
I accept myself completely here and now.
I now feel inner peace and serenity.
I accept this labor as my labor and believe it is the right labor for me and for my baby.
I love and accept my body completely.
I accept all my feelings as part of myself.
I feel the love of others around me.
My body is beautiful, capable and strong.
My baby knows all is well.
My heart knows what my baby needs, my mind is learning.
I am a strong and capable woman.
I am a powerful, loving and creative being.
I accept myself completely here and now.
I now feel inner peace and serenity.
I accept all my feelings as part of myself.
I feel the love of others around me.
I am strong, confident assured and assertive.
Good strong contractions help my baby come into the world.
I embrace the concept of healthy pain.
I have enough love to go around, the universe always provides.
I am strong, confident assured, assertive and very feminine.
My body contains all the knowledge necessary to give birth to my baby.
My baby knows how and when to be born.
Birth is a safe and wonderful experience.
I now forgive and release everyone in my life.
My baby will be born healthy and at the perfect time.
My body is nourishing my baby.
You are the product of millions of years of SUCCESSFUL childbirth.
Your body knows how to have this baby, just as your body knew how to grow this baby.
Yes to the spirit of birth. In labor, call your baby minutes before the birth. During pregnancy, talk and walk with your baby.
Birth is an inward process, feel the lower part of your body during labor. Every process of growth of a person is an inward process.
Take your life in your own hands and draw it together. Seek the best midwife or doctor for you and then take responsibility in your pregnancy.
Look at the significant scenes in your life and create the power in them to take your pregnancy to wellness.
There are always important events in our lives that reflect the inner creativity which will propel us to trust our body during birth and parenting.
We perceive every life observations we take in our dreams. Make them a source of energy that you and your midwife can tap during the birthing process.
Life is a work of art and determination to be well. Our cells are waiting for our command to perform well during stress and birthing.
Position yourself in the moment of your life. Position your body in hands or knees or semi-squatting to deliver the baby with ease and all your energy. Don't give up when you think, you could not carry any longer. Seek the wisdom of midwives and mothers.
Explore life's meaning, contemplate during your pregnancy as you walk a mile everyday to prepare your body for the opening and receiving of a new life.
Use every positive relationship, the love of your parents, partners and your love for your baby to keep you focus on the birth and pregnancy.
Let the important aspect of our lives speak to us, let the baby speak to us and let our body speak to us.
Imagine a mother in you....
I put all fear aside as I prepare for the birth of my baby.
I am relaxed and happy that my baby is finally coming to me.
I am focused on a smooth, easy birth.
I trust my body to know what it is to do.
My mind is relaxed; my body is relaxed.
I feel confident; I feel safe; I feel secure.
My muscles work in complete harmony to make birthing easier.
I feel a natural anesthesia flowing through my body.
I relax as we move quickly and easily through each stage of birth.
My cervix opens outward and allows my baby to ease down.
I fully relax and turn my birthing over to God.
I see my baby coming smoothly from my womb.
My baby’s birth will be easy because I am so relaxed.
I breathe correctly and eliminate tension.
I feel my body gently sway with relaxation.
I turn my birthing over to my baby and my body.
I see my breath filling a magnificent balloon.
I am prepared to meet whatever turn my birthing takes.
My baby moves gently along in its journey.
Each surge of my body brings my baby closer to me.
I deepen my relaxation as I move further into labour.
I am totally relaxed and at ease.
My body remains still and limp.
I meet each surge only with my breath; my body is at ease.
I release my birthing over to my body and my baby.
I bring myself into deeper relaxation.
I slowly breathe up with each surge.
I put all fear aside and welcome my baby with happiness and joy.
Subsequent Pregnancy
This is a new birth and a new baby unique unto itself.
I see my last birth as a learning experience from which I am growing and changing.
[Edit] Serenity's Hope -- Chrissie :)*, 10:03:40 02/02/03 Sun [1]
Subj: Lightworkers - Serenity's Hope - Where does our hope lie?
Date: 02/02/2003 07:55:00 GMT Standard Time
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You can sit in your chair or you can sit in whatsoever posture you feel to
be comfortable. Then fold your hands together in your lap, with the right
hand underneath the left hand -- the position is important because the right
hand is joined with the left brain, and fear always comes from the left
brain. The left hand is joined with the right brain, and courage comes from
the right side.
The left brain is the seat of reason, and reason is a coward. That's why you
will not find a man brave and intellectual together. And whenever you find a
brave man you will not find an intellectual. He will be irrational, bound to
be so. The right brain is intuitive... so this is just symbolic, and not
only symbolic: it puts the energy into a certain posture, into a certain
relationship.
So the right hand goes underneath the left hand and both the thumbs join
each other. Then you relax, close your eyes, and let your lower jaw be
relaxed just a little -- not that you force it... just relaxed so that you
start breathing by the mouth. Don't breathe by the nose, just start
breathing by the mouth; it is very relaxing. And when you don't breathe by
the nose, the old pattern of the mind does not function any more. This will
be a new thing, and in a new breathing system a new habit can be formed more
easily.
Secondly, when you don't breathe through the nose it does not stimulate your
brain. It simply does not go to the brain: it goes directly to the chest.
Otherwise a constant stimulation and massage goes on. That's why breathing
changes in our nostrils again and again. Breathing through one nostril
massages one side of the brain, through another, the other side of the
brain. After each forty minutes they change.
So simply sit in this posture, breathing by the mouth. The nose is dual, the
mouth is non-dual. There is no change when you breathe through the mouth: if
you sit for one hour you will be breathing the same way. There will be no
change; you will remain in one state. Breathing through the nose you cannot
remain in one state. The state changes automatically; without your knowing
it changes.
So this will create a very very silent, non-dual, new state of relaxation,
and your energies will start flowing in a new way. Simply sit silently doing
nothing for at least forty minutes. If it can be done for one hour that will
be a great help. So if possible, start with forty minutes, then by and by
reach sixty. Do this every day.
And meanwhile don't miss any opportunity; whatsoever opportunity comes, go
into it. Always choose life and always choose doing; never withdraw, never
escape. Enjoy any opportunity that comes on your way to do something, to be
creative.
Be able to be alone. Lose not the advantage of solitude.
- Sir Thomas Browne
Loneliness and solitude are very different things. When we're lonely,
we feel sad about being alone. But when we're in solitude, we have
ourselves and can be at peace. Many of us have had so much pain in
our relationships that we often feel lonely. Or we may have been so
frightened of being alone that now we avoid it like poison. All of us
have known the pain of loneliness, even while we were surrounded by
people.
Through solitude we can become more fully acquainted with ourselves,
develop greater honesty, and deepen our spiritual development. Each
day, as we spend time alone in meditation, we make conscious contact
with God and join others in spirit who also walk this path. Even in
our solitude we are not alone.
From the book, Touchstones by Anonymous copyright 1986
"Hope cannot be said to exist,
nor can it be said not to exist.
It is just like the roads across the earth.
For actually there were no roads to begin with,
but when many people pass one way a road is made."
Putting love first means tending to relationship rifts immediately. It
means rescheduling the day, if necessary. We don't wait or hope for a
miracle to make things right again. Attend to the problem at once,
before bad feelings get a chance to fester.
Where does our hope lie? Where shall we ground ourselves for continuing on
and changing our ways radically? Can we be confident that creativity is the
key to our survival and sustainability as a species?
Creativity is who we are, creativity can redeem and save our species. I
agree with Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés that "all women and men are born
gifted." All we need to do is release this creativity, get out of its way,
as M. C. Richards used to say. Estés also believes that "a woman's creative
ability is her most valuable asset." I believe that is true of men as
well -- it is the most valuable asset of our species.
What are we waiting for? Let us remove the obstacles, let go of the guilt,
and get moving. We have nothing to lose but our pessimism and cynicism, for,
as Otto Rank warned us, "pessimism comes with the repression of creativity."
Creativity is not in short supply. There is an abundance of it, plenty to go
around. It has always been this way. From the original fireball to the birth
of the atoms, galaxies, supernovas, stars, sun, planets, earth and her
marvelous creatures. We humans are latecomers to the creative universe, but
we are powerfully endowed with creativity.
Some of my hope comes from the realization, growing daily, of how perilous
our situation is on this planet. As more and more people get out of denial
and the addictions denial puts us in and come to realize the danger that our
unsustainable species is in, there will be action and there will be grounds
for hope. This sounds paradoxical, and it is: Our very despair is a cause of
hope, for despair often results in breakdown, and breakdown results in
breakthrough. Our systems are breaking down today -- all of them. And we
feel it. All our professions, all our religions, all our politics and
economic and educational establishments need reinventing. They all lack
feminine energy, wisdom energy. They lack cosmology and creativity.
This gives hope -- that the Divine can and will return in a more balanced
form to our species. It will return through a coming alive of our love of
life and a response to the pain so omnipresent on our planet. This response
will precipitate an outbreak of creativity. If we can use justice and
compassion as contours to contain and to critique the use of creativity,
then what we give birth to will serve other generations and other species
instead of destroy them. Then the Spirit will be at work once again,
creating and re-creating, co-working with humankind.
Creativity is a Choice
Let us not deceive ourselves or live in a silly illusion about our
creativity. Creativity is a choice. (In theological terms, it is grace and
works operating together. It is an option to live a life with grace.)
Creativity is not a particular gift given to certain people only. It is a
personal choice and a cultural choice. An individual choice and a family,
professional, and societal choice, and at this time in our history it is a
species choice. We choose whether to let creativity flow or not -- in our
educational systems, our media, our politics, our economics, our religions,
our very psyches. In theological terms, it is a matter of letting the Spirit
in, the Christ in, the Buddha nature in.
I believe Sri Aurobindo had this in mind when he predicted a "coming dawn"
for the resurrection of poetry itself -- provided we tap into a "larger
cosmic vision" that would and could release the "Divine possibilities" of
our species. Perhaps Hildegard of Bingen, the twelfth-century abbess,
mystic, scientist, and artist, put it best when she said:
God has gifted creation with everything that is necessary. . . .
Humankind, full of all creative possibilities, is God's work.
Humankind is called to co-create. . . .
God gave to humankind the talent to create with all the world.
Just as the person shall never end, until into dust
they are transformed and resurrected,
just so, their works are always visible.
The good deeds shall glorify, the bad deeds shall shame.
It is true that we are a species that can say "NO" to our potential. We can
choose not to develop our creativity and that of our children; we can choose
to turn our creativity over to others and to institutions that appear more
imposing than ourselves. Yes, we can use our creativity for demonic
purposes -- even to deny our powers of creation is to serve demonic powers
that will willingly fill the gap. Yes, we can resist evolution -- even our
own. And our bad deeds will shame. And our species will end, bringing down
much beauty with it.
But I do believe, and I am sure the reader believes, that humankind can opt
instead for the "good deeds that glorify". We must. The Spirit of Creativity
is expecting us to do so. Creation is waiting for our response.
About the Author:
Matthew Fox has devoted his career to unleashing the suppressed mystical and
life-affirming traditions within Christianity and other faiths. His theology
of Creation Spirituality the belief that we are born in "original
blessing"-earned him the headline making censure of the Vatican, who
officially "silenced" Fox in 1989 and precipitated his dismissal by the
Dominican Order in 1995. Now an Episcopal priest, Fox is the author of more
than twenty books. He lives in California.
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[Edit] Congratulations Lorraine! -- Chrissie :)*, 23:29:04 02/01/03 Sat [1]
Dear all!
I apologise for not being around of late; life has been soooo very busy!!! I have dropped by but as no one was here didn't get time to post anything ....
Lorraine! It was so good to talk with you yesterday! I'm so thrilled for you and the baby!!! Our emails obviously got lost in cyberspace!!! I'll try and look up some baby affirmations - there must be many .... and post them here ... life is just so hectic!!
Rose, good to hear from you .... I've been busy painting my house lately and cleaning up clutter and just decluttering which is taking time and also spending time with my mother and friends and work and ahhhh!! (sighs).....
Lorraine, we'll talk again soon! We all must get together in the chat room and have a web chat one of these days soon!!! I'll work something out and send you all an email!
Reminder it's Monica's birthday on 6th Feb!!!
Love & Hugs
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] its jus us girls ! smiles -- Rose, 23:55:14 01/30/03 Thu [1]
Hi Lorraine, he... he... yes in deed were the only ones here!
What happen! ((((((((((Chrissie)))))))))))) Were you? Lol
That fascinating that you heard the first baby’s heart beat,
And all is going well; I remember when I meet a friend for the first time at my old job doing retail! And saw her little 3 week old baby junior! I fell in love, then I help her to get a job in my old one and since we became friends! Then its funny her and her husband happen to move next to were I live! It’s was a coincidence that me and know neighbor are closed we take care of each others kids and I get to enjoy seen her cute little baby!
Go shopping for clothes basically were there for each other!
When I got pregnant with my only son! I was very young a teen so I did not get to
Much affirmation only talks shows and going in to buy babies clothes , the crib I remember getting sesames street covers and toys before he was born, and I knew in my heart it was going to be a boy, it was very nice,
Have you gotten the cravings in the middle of the nigh yet!, were you wake up and , you feel like you never eating before? Tehee!
Or get so thirsty! Those are fun
Well way good luck! Lorraine
<<<<< Hugs to you>>>>>
love and light Rose..
[Edit] It is truly awesome! -- Lorraine, 16:14:45 01/30/03 Thu [1]
Hi there Rose,
(Is it just you and me in here (tee-hee)?!!
I am in complete awe of the process of life right now ;-) I really wish that I could share the bonding in the womb thing with my husband, but that's just not going to be possible is it?!
You know, I got to hear the baby's heart beat today for the first time,... it just made me go all gooey inside,.. Awwww, it was so cute!
I've found out that my iron levels are really low, so I am going to try hard to put that right, I hope it won't take to long. "My body is perfect whole and complete" ;-)
Where you into affirmations at the time of your pregnancy?
So, where abouts are you from Rose? Just curious... :-)
Much love and light to you,
Lorraine
oooh, just seen your post about the dream you had,... I have a dream book at home which I can use as a sort of reference book, I use it quite often! I will have a look for you and see what the Rhino means. Usually though the feelings of the dream can be used to correspond with the message, the fact that you feel that it was a positive dream is positive! I will have a look and let you know. Dreams are so fascinating... .and sometimes I think I know what it was about, then I look it up and it means something completely different, and makes complete sense to what is happening in my life.
Bye for now...
[Edit] Rose -- A Rhino in my dream??, 16:08:03 01/30/03 Thu [1]
I had a dream of a real rhino and its baby and it gave me a card there was a message but in my dream, of some sort of message forgot by now but I think it has to be something with animals or sea world , I’m clue less but my impression was a positive one, the funny thing
Is that I never dream of a rhino before and I was a little puzzle so in my dream I keep on searching or doubting what has happen! More likely to me as you get the message its
Come to an end and try to understand < what you need to know>, but I still wonder what it meant, cause was my very first time seeing a rhino! I really wonder what its mean??
Hi Lorraine, congratulation on the new baby, how wonderful
I have a n 11 year old but I sure miss that pregnancy, but there’s nothing better
And special to have that bond when the baby is inside the womb! Is awesome
Is a very nice experience, even thaw you get your morning sick here and there but is worth it, they say that when you have a baby in your life that there’s been a contract or
Blue print , or a connection, the beautiful thing is that in all there was and is is the connection of love for ever , just be thankful that you have that great opportunity to be part of giving life and experience the new, that is maternal , that is something,, to be thankful
Take care Lorraine and wish you the best on you new bundle of joy and your family as well
Love and light Rose..
[Edit] Anyone know of any good pregnancy affirmations?! -- Lorraine, 13:02:18 01/29/03 Wed [1]
Hello again :-)
Rose, I am good thank you... and since you ask,.. well...
Actually, I am excited and nervous and about my journey in making one of the biggest changes in my whole life to date... yep, I'm pregnant for the first time in my life! I have been looking here and there for some pregnancy affirmations, but haven't really found much. Louise Hay doesn't even mention it in her 'You can heal your life' which frankly does surprise me!! I want to channel my thought energies into positive thinking from here on until the arrival in August about the pregnancy and the birth (which frankly does scare me!) So, IF ANYONE KNOWS OF ANY AFFIRMATIONS THEN I'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU.
I haven't heard from Chrissie either lately, it's unusual not to hear from her,... has anyone else heard from Chrissie lately? Just want to make sure that she's okay...
Hi there to anyone else here reading.... how are you?!
Bye for now,
Lorraine
[Edit] hi how are you all -- Rose, 22:59:43 01/28/03 Tue [1]
Hi how are you all, thanks Lorraine, yes its amazing how our love ones and in every day life people change, so how are you? How’s life treating you and family wish you well!
Chrissie I haven’t heard from you, Joe, jen, Rosie, Michael, hugs to you all
Have a great day, love and light Rose…
[Edit] Hi there! -- Lorraine, 10:57:08 01/21/03 Tue [1]
A big Hi to everyone... :-)
Rose, that's a wonderful tale for you to share with us, to find out how much your dad has changed, and how you have become so similar and yet all the while you were so far apart and never knew! How wonderful to find out this after such a long time. I bet you want to get up and go over there right now!
Hi to Chrissie, how are you?! I sent you an email the other day, I wondered if I sent it to the right email address?!
Hi Chrissie how are you, and every one, I had a nice Christmas with family
And y dad that came from Puerto Rico it was a nice experience to see him after 14 years
Since the last time I saw him, it was when I was fifteen! Since the he has changed no liquor, no meat and he belong in to a yoga om vegetarian group! In Puerto rico it knocks out my own feet to learn that my dad was in to what I’m in to, spirituality, but his better at it, I always since baby been in to it but he talks the talk and walk the walk, his totally the appositive than what I known when I lived with him as a young kid! Is a good changed, I’m very proud of him cause he used to be little of it of a rebel with out a clue type, but no way his cool? Now, well I love him his dad! And it’s nice to see him again
I hope to visit him and my other family by summer if I save enough money, I missed Puerto rico , its is a nice island and very beautiful too,
Well hugs kisses to all, hope all of you had a nice holiday last year! Welcome to the new..
Love and light Rose..
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Dear Chrissie and everyone here at the Path.
Like everybody else the time to write is very short. I still come here from time to time... Since i have returned from overseas i have been plagued with ill health.. So i am kind of spending time to recuperate.
Happy belated birthday to Rachel..
Chrissie i love Susan Jeffers and have read her last book.. Its excellent. I also have found since i have returned i am unable to read again. Its amazing.
Also doing a lot of stuff to process... We never seem to stop and every challenge brings us to the next level.. Facing fears and pains are quite challenging... but it has to be done...
To everyone Monique, Jennifer, Rachel, Christy, Joe and whomever i have missed have a great week
We have the Sydney bushfires which are raging, like last year a lot of people have been left homeless. Melbourne where i live is in the middle of a drought and at the moment we have dropped in temperature and we have welcomed some much needed rain...
At present Australians are faced with Terrorist attacks and the media is just full of negativity... I dont want to be drawn into that sort of stuff. We live in very uncertain times but still the Aussie spirit is there... Our industy is once again going through the slow down and with people being scared to travel anywhere. Yet we can only be optmistic and think positive..
To everyone i would like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY 2003
Simple but effective - something that needed reminding for me! Procrastination ! Enjoy!
"There aren't enough hours in the day!"
Ever feel like what you had to get done was never going to get done? That you would just like to go away and hide for a couple days to avoid the phone, the door, and the interruptions? If you have, you are like most folks--just trying to cope with the weight of day-to-day time pressures.
Finding more time and using the time you have more effectively.
The bigger ones....
Know the difference between wasting time and enjoying time. Doing nothing but enjoying a sunset with the family probably isn't wasting time, but yapping endlessly on the phone with someone you really don't want or need to talk to, is! Keep mental track of exactly how you are spending your time. You will probably find that a good portion of it is wasted. Even if you convert only ten percent wasted time into enjoying time, you are making progress.
Cut down on interruptions. Starting and finishing a task is much more difficult when you are interrupted every few minutes. Get caller ID and don't answer the phone if you don't want to talk to the caller. Give the children something to do while you complete the tasks you need to get done. You will be much more effective if you start a task, and take it to completion before starting another. Jumping from project to project usually means that you end up with a lot undone. Plus, you will get a sense of accomplishment as you bring each task to a close.
Develop a schedule. You must determine that you will schedule your day. This is the time for this activity. No other. Learn to say, politely, NO, to any unnecessary disruptions of your schedule.
Set realistic deadlines for yourself and other family members. Don't expect things to be done before they can realistically be completed, but don't allocate to much time to each project.
Use the Internet to save time. There is a wealth of information out there, saving time going to the library, shopping, planning trips, etc. You are probably aware, though, that as much of a time saver the Internet can be, it can also be a horrible time waster if you are not able to control your online time! And some smaller ones...
Plan shopping trips. Combine as many shopping expeditions into one as possible. Lay out an intelligent route that circles you back home. Use your shopping list--laid out the way the store is laid out. If at all possible, leave the children at home (you'll cut trip times by a bunch!) or, if you have to take them, get them involved according to their age and ability. It will keep them occupied and may actually help. Shop at "unpopular" times if possible. Sundays are often the worst day for shopping and the traffic and standing in line can sometimes double your shopping time.
Have a set place for frequently used items. Ever wasted 20 minutes looking for your car or house keys? Lost a half hour hunting down your glasses? Get into the habit of always placing such frequently needed items in exactly the same place, every time.
Save time by preparing. For example, have your outfit and your children's outfits put out and ready the night before rather than rushing around trying to get them ready as you prepare for work and school.
Shop at stores where the service is better (meaning faster). Saving 5 minutes driving time by going to a grocery store where you alwys seem to wait an extra 20 minutes in line (due to poor service) actually costs you time.
Buy stamps by mail. A little one that can save a lot of time. Have you been to the Post Office lately? Talk about wasting time! Standing in line for 15 minutes or more just to buy stamps when it can be accomplished in just a few seconds.
Sort the mail over the wastebasket. If a piece of mail is necessary, file it. If its not, pitch it. You'll save lots of time not shuffling around old, worthless mail
[Edit] Embracing Fear - Susan Jeffers -- Chrissie :)*, 02:07:05 12/01/02 Sun [1]
I seem to be in Susan Jeffer's mode right now :)* .... this was in my mailbox ... to all of Susan Jeffer's fans .... I bought the book a few months ago though haven't had time to read it yet .... life has just been spinning for me .... I'm looking forward to the Christmas celebrations in order to get some quiet self time .... I love you all! :)*
Susan Jeffers
Notification Service
Friday, November 22, 2002
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On behalf of Susan Jeffers, let us share the good news that EMBRACING UNCERTAINTY has been nominated for two Kindred Spirit Awards by Kindred Spirit magazine--The Best Personal Development book and the best Mind, Body & Spirit book. The winner will be selected by readers such as yourself who cast their votes. If the work of Susan Jeffers has made a difference in your life, we encourage you to vote for this very healing and loving book that is already changing lives. You can do it by logging onto http://www.kindredspirit.co.uk/awards.asp Winners will be announced early next year. Just for your information, here are the incredible endorsements Susan has received for this life-changing book:
'Now more than ever, Susan Jeffers' wisdom feels like a precious gift. Her counsel is profound and meaningful in such challenging times.' ~ Marianne Williamson, Author of Healing the Soul Of America
'For anyone who was ever felt lost, hurt or frightened by life's challenges, Susan Jeffers is the best guide one could wish for. She has an astonishing capacity to see through the clouds and expose the light for all to see. Tender and humorous, insightful and wise, Susan deftly guides us through the perplexing territory of uncertainty, uncovering hope at every turn. Embracing Uncertainty shows us how to come through the dark night of the soul with a full measure of light, joy, and playful gratitude for simply being alive. Susan Jeffers is a blessing and a treasure!' ~ Wayne Muller, Author of Legacy of the Heart and Sabbath
'In Embracing Uncertainty, Jeffers describes, with brilliant clarity, how to deal with ambiguity in life. The exercises in this book helped me learn how to reach within myself and find certainty. Like Feel the Fear and Do It Again, I'll be quoting this classic over and over again.' ~ Mona Lisa Schulz, MD, Ph.D., Author of Awakening Intuition
'Embracing Uncertainty is a wonderful book with a huge payoff...peace of mind about the future. It is an entertaining read filled with invaluable insights and unique exercises you can take with you on your exciting Journey through life.' ~ Jack Canfield, Co-author of the #1 New York Times Best-Selling Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
'Exceptionally helpful in learning to handle life's greatest challenge. I love this book!' ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Author of There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem and Wisdom of the Ages
'Susan Jeffers' books are always fun to read, and she has done it again with Embracing Uncertainty. She leads the reader through the art of enjoying life in her own unique style!' ~ Louise L. Hay, Author of You Can Heal Your Life and Empowering Women
'Original, courageous and brilliant! Jeffers alters the mind without drugs, freeing it to free us to become ourselves.' ~ Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author of Why Men Are The Way They Are and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say
'This is Susan Jeffers at her best. Entertaining, inspiring, transformational.' ~ Robert Holden, Author of Shift Happens!
[Edit] Thoughts of Power and Love - Dr Susan Jeffers PhD -- Chrissie :)*, 01:50:26 12/01/02 Sun [1]
NOT TO WORRY
Thoughts of Power and Love - Susan Jeffers
Action helps us move out of helplessness and into power.
* * * Let go of the outcome ... and there is nothing to fear.
* * * Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness!
* * * Take time to think about what you really want in life ... not what others would have you want.
* * *
"What do I want?" is a question we need to ask ourselves constantly. Wants change as we learn to find the power and love within.
* * * With no mistakes, you are taking no risks! Nor are you enjoying the "goodies" life has to offer. What a waste!
* * * Commitment doesn't mean that the job, the relationship or the friendship has to last forever. But while you are there, commit 100 percent. By doing so, the quality of your life will also improve 100 percent.
* * * Sometimes doors are closed for us, giving us no choice but to move forward. It's nice to think that our most difficult times are blessings in disguise!
* * * The nature of growth is that it is always pulling us forward ... despite how much we try to drag our feet.
* * * Life is about endings and beginnings. The secret is knowing when to let go.
* * * The joy of becoming whole is always accompanied by tears. Every step toward a healthy body, mind and Soul asks that we say good-bye to something familiar.
* * * No matter what is going on in your life, you always have to remind yourself "I am a strong, loving and worthy person". All situations in life flow harmoniously from this profound understanding of who you are.
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[Edit] A Reason, A Season or a Lifetime? -- Chrissie :)*, 01:34:23 12/01/02 Sun [1]
Dear all, hope everyone in the US had a Happy Thanks Giving! Jennifer usually puts a note here and/or sends a ThanksGiving email though none this year! I missed it Jennifer! (smiles). Hope you're okay.
I'm going through a transitional phase right now which isn't quite appropriate to share here on the page as it's a public forum and it's not the same as years ago when at Hay House Conversation Room as things are different now; I'll email you guys via personal email and share that way. You could say I'm at a crossroads due to certain things that are happening in my life and contemplating which road to take. I've been listening to Centerpointe for months now and miss listening to Louise Hay and my other meditation tapes. I'm almost on the next level of Centerpointe which I've already paid for but haven't recorded my personal affirmations yet which I'm finding hard to do as there are so many to choose from.
Anyway, here's a little more sharing ... hi to all who read in daily, and hi to the regulars, Christy, Jennifer, Rose, Rosie, Monica, Rachel, Mae, Michael, Joe, Loz etc etc!
ARE YOU REASON, A SEASON, OR A
lifetime?
Pay attention to what you read. After you read this, you will know the reason you found it! People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
REMEMBER:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
And dance like no one is watching.
Live your life awake.
Live your life for you.
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] Happy Belated Birthday for 23rd Nov Rachel -- Chrissie :)*, 19:40:04 11/24/02 Sun [1]
Dear all,
Firstly, Happy Belated Birthday for the 23rd Nov Dear Rachel. I hope your day was special and filled with lots of happy memories! How are you doing? I've missed hearing from you.
Dear Christy, I'm sorry to hear about your date - yes we sure do have to kiss a few frogs before we find our prince (smiles). At least you're braving it out there and dipping a toe in! Bravo! Take it as a learning experience .... I'm still sufering from the flu and a bronchial cough ... though hopefully it's near the end .... I've just been overdoing things lately ... and it's my body's way of telling me to slow down!
Susan Jeffers "Thoughts of Power and Love"
Higher and Higher
The Journey inward and upward is much like the experience of climbing a mountain. Sometimes the climb is tough. But each time you stop to look around, the view becomes more and more spectacular. And you are propelled higher by the increasing beauty you see.
* * *
If the path you're on isn't providing you a wonderful life, you're on the wrong path!
* * *
The path you're looking for is always IN and UP. When you are in touch with the highest part of who you are, your Higher Self, all is right with your world.
[Edit] The personality of a serial killer -- Christy, 21:02:08 11/21/02 Thu [1]
Hey everybody,
Chrissie..I hope you are feeling better now and are finished recovering from the flu.
My date, oh no, his head and his heart weren't connnected..It was so weird. It was like talking to a robot. I was so glad to excuse myself and get out of the restaurant and get back to work. I'm so glad that my intuitive reflexes kicked in and I took care of myself.
My counselor says I have to "kiss a lot of toads". This guy was a lizard!!! I'm sure he has redeeming qualities.
I wish him well!!!
It feels good to be out there willing to risk again. It was worth the effort just to show up and particpate in the process again.
Love and light to all,
Christy
P.S. My friend, Cheri continues to recover at home slowly.
I'm so grateful!!!
[Edit] Grá agus Beannacht ó, í Manchester Seó -- Michéal, 17:16:37 11/19/02 Tue [1]
Hi, Everyone,
Have not posted for a very long time since leaving Ireland since June of this year but I now have a whole new life in the UK - the Irish Charm seems to work!!!! met lots of handsome Latin men here so enjoying looking for a boyfriend here!!!!!!!
Love and Cuddles,
Michéal
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[Edit] How did your date go Christy? -- Chrissie :)*, 16:26:53 11/18/02 Mon [1]
Greetings all
Christy, how did your date go the other day? Do share!!
I was driving the other day in foggy weather and my mother and I started talking about the sun and how everything on the earth relies on the sun; and that if the sun was to not shine, life itself would slowly fade away ... the trees and plants would soon wither and die, nothing would grow and sooner or later we wouldn't have anything to eat as the animals wouldn't be able to eat grass etc ..... just thought I'd share that .. as we take the sun for granted.
I'm recovering at home from the flu (sniffles) and my throat feels like it's on fire!
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)*
[Edit] Happy Belated Birthday Christy! -- Jen the Moonchild, 20:28:18 11/15/02 Fri [1]
CHRISTY-Many happy returns of the day and the whole year through!
Good luck on your date tomorrow Christy! -- Chrissie :)*, 20:31:55 11/14/02 Thu [1]
Heya Christy
Here's wishing you lots of love and luck on your lunch date tomorrow. I know what you mean about it being a long time! And yes it's like riding a bike, you never quite forget how to do it! Enjoy and tell us all about it; though privately via email if that helps!!!
To everyone else that reads in and has yet to say hello, we'd love to hear from you!!! It's a free for all forum - most of us got together because of Louise Hay and I have a feeling most of you that find this site may have done so via Louise Hay search?
I'm glad you like my Reiki site Christy - it's a work in progress! Kelly if you're reading in could you send me your Reiki site link again and I'll post it here .... I could find it in the archives ....
Love & Light
Chrissie :)* ^i^
Just for you tomorrow Christy, from Louise Hay's Letters to Louise, Affirmations on romantic relationships:
I open my heart to love
It is safe for me to express love
I am safe and secure in my love for myself
I always have the perfect partner in my life
I am open and receptive to a
wonderful, loving relationship
Deep at the center of my being,
there is an infinite well of love
I have come here to learn that there is only love
I am in a harmonious relationship with life
I rejoice in the love I have to share
I am creating lots of room in my life for love
Relationships are wonderful and marriages are wonderful but they are all temporary because there comes a time when they end. The one person I am with forever is me. My relationship with me is eternal. So I am my own best friend. I spend a little time each day connecting with my heart. I quiet down and feel my own love flowing through my body, dissolving fears and guilt. I literally feel love soaking into every cell of my body. I know that I am always connected to a Universe that loves me and everyone else unconditionally. This unconditionally loving Universe is the Power that created me. As I create a safe space in myself for love, I draw to me loving people and experiences. It is time to let go of my stuff about how relationships are supposed to be.
[Edit] I had a great birthday!!! -- Christy, 15:21:17 11/14/02 Thu [1]
Hi everybody,
Thanks Chrissie for the super birthday greeting. I logged onto your Reiki website and it is terrific.
Rosie..Thanks for the email!!!
The best present of all was my best friend, Cheri going home from the hospital after 1 month.
I need love and light sent my way tomorrow, November 15th as I'm going on a lunch date with an attractive man. It has been a few years. Isn't it like riding a bicycle? You never forget how?
Christy, I hope I'm not a day late with your birthday as I can't remember if it's the 12th or 13th!! If it's the 12th, I apologise for being late!!!!
I'm glad that your friend is now out of the hospital and that things are slowly on the mend! Speedy recovery!
Here's a link to a page I created over the weekend which has preprogrammed Reiki for anyone who views it. The link is Reiki Healing Page. Everyone's experience of energy will be different and unique to them and some will experience it stronger than others and visa versa. Enjoy!
Hello to everyone else!! This is rushed! I'm singing "happy birthday to Christy ........" happy birthday to youuuuuuuuuuuuu!
Christy, I'm very happy that your friend is doing so well; and Monique/Rose, shalom! :)*
Quotations from Thich Nhat Hahn
http://www.spiritwalk.org/thichnhathanh.htm
Our own life is the instrument with which we experiment with the truth.
There is no enlightenment outside of daily life.
Living in this marvelous reality ~ living in peace, is something we all want.
But I would like to ask: Do we have the capacity of enjoying peace?
If peace is there, will we be able to enjoy it, or will we find it boring?
To me, peace and happiness and joy and life go together,
and we can experience the peace of the divine reality right in the present moment.
It is available, inside us and around us.
If we are not able to enjoy that peace,
how can we make peace grow?
Once we have the condition of peace and joy in us,
we can afford to be in any situation.
Even in the situation of hell,
We will be able to contribute our peace and serenity.
The most important thing is for each of us to have
some freedom in our heart,
some stability in our heart,
some peace in our heart.
Only then will we be able to relieve the suffering around us.
From time to time,
to remind ourselves to relax and be peaceful,
we may wish to set aside some time for a retreat,
a day of mindfulness,
when we walk slowly, smile, drink tea with a friend,
and enjoy being together
as if we are the happiest people on Earth.
I like to walk alone on country paths,
rice plants and wild grasses on both sides,
putting each foot down on the earth in mindfulness,
knowing that I walk on the wondrous earth.
In such moments, existence is a miraculous and mysterious reality.
People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle.
But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water
or in thin air, but to walk on earth.
Every day we are engaged in a miracle
which we don't even recognize:
a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves,
the black, curious eyes of a child - our own two eyes.
All is a miracle.
The real miracle is not to walk on water
or in thin air,
but to walk on earth.
[Edit] My friend Cheri is alive and in the hospital -- Christy, 15:02:24 11/07/02 Thu [1]
Hey everybody,
I just got back from driving 16 hours total this past weekend to spend time with my friend, Cheri who is in the hosptial. She is going to live. Her boyfriend is very very toxic, drinks all the time, is emotionally abusive, etc. When I was around him, my stomach felt sick. I have been sick this week with some kind of stomach virus. I think it has to do with absorbing all his negative energy. I'm not used to being in close quarters with abusive people.
Chrissie, Thanks for the kind words. I always read very carefully your posts and the affirmations you include.
Anyway, God is good and I will get better. I'm going today for a rolfing session. That always helps me get grounded.
Hi Monique, Rose, Rosie, Rachel, and everyone else.
For those of you who get Oprah, part of my story is reairing this November 11th.
Thank you, Rose, for the message and the inspiration. I received a lot from it and the site you recommended is so beautiful. Living in the moment, only working on improving oneself, these words refocussed me.
Hi Chrissie, Rosie, Jen, Christy, Joe and the rest of the gang! Best wishes to each and everyone,
Today's thought is:
There are as many ways to live and grow as there are people. Our own ways are
the only ways that should matter to us.
--Evelyn Mandel
Wanting to control other people, to make them live as we'd have them
live, makes the attainment of serenity impossible. And serenity is the
goal we are seeking in this recovery program, in this life.
We are each powerless over others, which relieves us of a great burden.
Controlling our own behavior is a big enough job. Learning to behave
responsibly takes practice. Most of us in this recovery program have
behaved irresponsibly for much of our lives. Emotional immaturity is
slow to depart, but every responsible action we take gives us the
courage for another--and then another. Our own fulfillment is the by-
product of the accumulation of our own responsible actions. Others'
actions need not concern us.
Today, I will weigh my behavior carefully. Responsible behavior
builds gladness of heart.
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If you are doing your best, you will not have time to worry about failure.
It's good to hear from you. Received your Halloween card, thanks hon. Thanks also for the birthday wishes. The kitties have been well behaved and cute as ever, happy and we're all bonding well.
It's coming up to your birthday soon, as well as Christy's and Rachel!! Another year older, another year wiser! I still feel 18 inside sometimes though on the outside I do feel more tired; seem to have less time to do what I want to do, and metabolism generally is slowing down. My back is still playing up and I'm seeing a physiotherapist currently and they're trying to figure out what's happening with my back. Sounds like a disc problem and hopefully it's nothing too serious.
Affirmations for Everyone
I am patient and kind with all whom I encounter each day
I am willing to see life in a new and different way
I dwell in a world of love and acceptance
I surround myself with positive people
My dreams are a source of wisdom
I ask for help when I need it
I am willing to grow and change
All that I have and all that I am is safe and secure
I radiate acceptance, and I am deeply loved by others
I constantly increase my awareness
of myself, my body and my Life
I LOVE MYSELF!
Louise Hay's Letters to Louise
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] Happy Belated Birthday Chrissie! -- Jen the Moonchild, 12:17:25 10/31/02 Thu [1]
Hello everyone! Hope this finds all of you well!
CHRISSIE- My humblest apologies for missing your special day! I hope you had a fabulous birthday full of lots of fun! Did the Kitties give you any presents? If not they have been terribly remiss! Love to you!
Love to all my friends here...I must pop in more frequently but such is life!
Love
Jen the Moonchild
P.S.- HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!!
[Edit] Love & Light to Cheri -- Chrissie :)*, 22:11:04 10/29/02 Tue [1]
Dear Christy,
It's good to hear from you again, I've missed hearing from you. I'm sorry to hear about your friend Cheri being in hospital and the trauma and distress that you've had to go through. I wish Cheri a speedy recovery and send her lots of love and healing light energy and know that all is well and she is safe. Be strong Christy and know that the Power is Within You.
Good health is my divine right. I am open and receptive to all the healing energies in the Universe. I know that every cell in my body is intelligent and knows how to heal itself. My body is always working towards perfect health. I now release any an all impediments to my perfect healing. I learn about nutrition and feed my body only wholesome food. I watch my thinking and think only healthy thoughts. I love my body. I send love to each organ, bone, muscle and part of my body. I flood the cells of my body with love. I am grateful to my body for all the good health I have had in the past. I accept healing and good health here and now.
Louise Hay's Letters to Louise
Sorry I missed the chance to wish you a Happy Birthday, Chrissie. My best friend for 30 years, Cheri, has been in critical condition in ICU in Louisiana and I flew to her bedside. She had a hysterectomy, the next day pneumonia, and then respiratory distress syndrome. I cried for 5 days when it looked like she would die. I prayed so hard for her.
Now she is opening her eyes and recognizes her mother and boyfriend. I am home for a few days before I go back this weekend to see her.
Ladies, if you have abdominal surgery of any kind, your chances of developing pneumonia are HIGH. I didn't know that, and she didn't get breathing treatments to build her lungs (pre-op or post-op), which maybe is why she got so sick.
I'm glad that you heard Louise's voice through her words (smiles). Remember you always have the Power within You, and sometimes we just need to be reminded; the answer is really very simple!!! Louise always manages to bring me back to center again whenever I feel low and sometimes I need support to get back there again; that's what we're all here for! Go girl!!!
I left the French team about a year ago sweetie. I still remember our LIVE chat on the net when I got so confused when you say Oui? Is that how it is spelt? It still cracks me up laughing now when I remember it!!! I miss our chats! One day when you go to France I must go and meet up with you! and/or you must come down to London perhaps to take my Reiki class!
Rose yes I'm a Scorpio; I'm actually a cusp,ie in between Scorpio and Libra but I've always considered myself to be a Scorpio.
Thoughts of Power and Love
Susan Jeffers
When we connect with others from the Lower Self, it feels like a scary and potentially humiliating experience. When we connect with otehrs from the Higher Self, it feels like an act of love.
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We need to make our Spiritual growth a lifelong commitment. Or as many lives as it takes.
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Weak words create a weak life. Strong words create a strong life. Negative words make us negative. Positive words make us positive. Hateful words make us hateful. Loving words make us loving. It's so stunningly simple. You have the Power to choose.
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] Rose -- happy, happy Birthday, 15:51:40 10/25/02 Fri [1]
happybirthday chrissie!
are you scorpio?
my son s birthday is coming up on the29th
of october and all my life I had scorpions around
my son is to and my dad! and theres alot of them
well hope you had or have a wonderful day for a wonder gal like you!
What a wonderful message you wrote! You know, I had forgotten about Louise's book!! Of course, I have it and I think I will get it out and read through it again. She was the reason I made some good friends, here in Seattle, in person, and then all over the world, via her site.
Sometimes, we need to be reminded of these wonderful principles. I have her tapes as well. When I was reading your message I was hearing her voice say the words.
Many good wishes to you. Are you still working with French people? I bet you can speak French fluently now!!!
It is indeed good to hear from you and to know that all is going exceptionally well. Yes it's wonderful that everyone from Hay House still visits here from time to time - it's like a hanging out place in cyberspace (smiles) and I'm sure many other people frequently pass by but they don't post cos they don't know anyone thou we do get a few people posting their wonderful sharings!!!
The technical side to this page is a thing to be desired as the backgrounds and pictures are saved on a server called Free Web Space and they don't like it that most people come to Voy Forums and don't visit the sponsors of Free Web Space hence why they keep putting up notices asking me to stay paying etc etc ! Maybe I'll get tired enough of fixing it that I'll start paying .. we'll see ... can't remember how much it is ...
Reading your post about your mom and brother, I wanted to share some stuff from Louise Hay's Letters to Louise on Family Relationships ....
Pg 93 .... [quote] You are not responsible for your mother's choices in life. You are responsiblefor your choices. ...... I know you want your mother to accept you exactly as you are without trying to change you. Now give her the same space. Accept her exactly as she is. If she is like most dominating people, she repeats herself over and over. Write down the things she says often and number them. Then when she goes into the routine that bothers you, you can say to yourself "Oh there goes #7" or she is combining #6 with #4 this time". It will help you to see things in a new light and now always react as though you were five years old.
Affirm: I HAVE A JOYFUL, LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MOTHER. Do this affirmation daily for six months and see what happens.
re your brother, an affirmation that Louise uses in the family relationships section is: Affirm: EACH MEMBER OF MY FAMILY INCLUDING MY BROTHER IS HAPPY, HEALTHY, WHOLE AND COMPLETE. EVERYTHING IS WELL IN OUR WORLD. This affirmation, worded to suit our own particular situation is one we all might use for our families. Then we can trust that every experience is really for our highest good.
From another part ....
[quote]
Dear One, you only waste time looking for healing in your family. This may never happen. You are not responsible for anyone else's attitude or behaviour. The only one you can heal is you and your own inner pain. It is not what has happened; it is how you are choosing to respond to it.
If you could believe that you chose to come into your family for a reason, then what do you think is the lesson you are supposed to learn from this experience? I believe we choose families to learn specific lessons and to rise above them. Your feelings of anger, jealousy, and unworthiness only harm you. Will you forgive them? Will you learn to love yourself and create a good life for yourself? These are the spiritual challenges that we all go through. Drop the right and wrong issue. You cannot change what was. Your only power is in the present moment. Whenever you think of your parents, bless them with love. Begin to look for all the good you did get from your family. Develop strong, loving relationships elsewhere. You can always create the ideal family among your friends. Start each day with gratitude by affirming: I AM DIVINELY BLESED AND I LOVE MYSELF AND LIFE. Today is your day of happiness [unquote] Louise Hay's Letters to Louise
Affirmations for rising above family patterns
I bless my family with love
I allow others to be themselves
I make my own decisions
All my relationships are enveloped in a circle of love
I have the power to make changes
I release old hurts and forgive myself
I let go of old family limitations
and awaken to Divine Harmony
All my relationships are harmonious
I have compassion for my parents' childhood
I release all criticism
Per usual, take only that which you need and let the rest go ... the above are only samples of what is in Louise's book. If you looked through it, you may find others that are suitable for you. And once more, I would personally always recommend reading Louise Hay's You Can Heal Your Life once more and apply the treatments in the book that are applicable to any particular situation in your life right now and look for the pattern that needs changing; and once that is healed, things will begin to flow. And most importantly, remember to always look at yourself and your inner child in the eye when you pass a mirror and affirm to yourself every day 300-400 times is not enough ie : I LOVE AND APPROVE OF MYSELF EXACTLY AS I AM.
It looks like I peaked in just in time. Happy Birthday, Chrissie; how wonderful that you have been able to keep our group and this site going so well for so long. It takes care of itself (I don't mean the technical part!), and people feel at home here.
So It is so good to see the names of those I knew from HH and who carried me through some rough times.
Hope to hear from Rosie soon. Vanda, if you still check in, I still have the jumping sheeps on my computer and they are awsome (I don't play with them often, but I laugh each time).
Would you believe I still have challenges about going to France to see my mom, now 95, my brother, etc... I am going through some rough times, as I see her getting weaker and my brother who is controlling and a strange bird at times. I have to stay with him when I visit and this is getting too much for me. Yet, I can't imagine staying in a hotel in my small Paris suburban town. Any idea? I know, the Universe will find ways where there seems to be no way. Please pray that I will unlock my fears and become open to wonderful options. Let magic happen!
So I embrace everyone and send you love and light. Please feel free to email me.
Monique
[Edit] Happy Birthday! -- Mary Ellen, 14:26:31 10/23/02 Wed [1]
Thanks for continuing to remember my birthday after all these years (smiles).
I'm chilling today; making a few changes in my life - it's all good :)*
Redundancies are happening again at the company - it's that time of year again within the industry .... we should know within the next week or so who has been chosen. I'm fairly relaxed about it - I'll let the Universe decide what needs to happen.
LETTING GO
Let us imagine that life is a river. Most people are clinging to the bank, afraid to let go and risk beign carried along by the current of the river. When the pain of hanging on becomes greater than the fear of letting go, we let go and the river begins to cary us along safely. Once we are used to being in the flow of the river, we can begin to look ahead and guide our course. We choose which of the many branches of the river we prefer to follow, all the while still going with the flow. We can enjoy being here now flowing what what is and at the same time guide ourselves consciously toward our goals by taking full responsibility for creating our own lives.
As I relax
and let go, I flow toward
my greatest good
Shakti Gawain
Reflections in the Light
Daily Thoughts and Affirmations
Rose, hope you are well. Christy, I guess you visit seldom nowadays huh?! Mae? Vanda? Joe? Kasia? Loz? Carol?!
Happy Birthday to Chrissie and MaryEllen at Walking the path.
Hi to everyone been quite sick since i have returned from my overseas journey... Rose thinking of you.. Monique havent had time to write but will as soon as i can..
Christy, Jennifer, Joe and any others that i have forgotten hi to you all
rosie
[Edit] Song of Solomon 5:2-6:3 -- Rose, 14:41:31 10/22/02 Tue [1]
10/22/02
Song of Solomon 5:2-6:3
I slept, but my heart was awake.
Hark! my beloved is knocking.
"Open to me, my sister, my love,
my dove, my perfect one;
for my head is wet with dew,
my locks with the drops of the night."
I had put off my garment,
how could I put it on?
I had bathed my feet,
how could I soil them?
My beloved put his hand to the latch,
and my heart was thrilled within me.
I arose to open to my beloved,
and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with liquid myrrh,
upon the handles of the bolt.
I opened to my beloved,
but my beloved had turned and gone.
My soul failed me when he spoke.
I sought him, but found him not;
I called him, but he gave no answer.
The watchmen found me,
as they went about in the city;
they beat me, they wounded me,
they took away my mantle,
those watchmen of the walls.
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
if you find my beloved,
that you tell him
I am sick with love.
What is your beloved more than another beloved,
O fairest among women?
What is your beloved more than another beloved,
that you thus adjure us?
My beloved is all radiant and ruddy,
distinguished among ten thousand.
His head is the finest gold;
his locks are wavy,
black as a raven.
His eyes are like doves
beside springs of water,
bathed in milk,
fitly set.
His cheeks are like beds of spices,
yielding fragrance.
His lips are lilies,
distilling liquid myrrh.
His arms are rounded gold,
set with jewels.
His body is ivory work,
encrusted with sapphires.
His legs are alabaster columns,
set upon bases of gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as the cedars.
His speech is most sweet,
and he is altogether desirable.
This is my beloved and this is my friend,
O daughters of Jerusalem.
Whither has your beloved gone,
O fairest among women?
Whither has your beloved turned,
that we may seek him with you?
My beloved has gone down to his garden,
to the beds of spices,
to pasture his flock in the gardens,
and to gather lilies.
I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine;
he pastures his flock among the lilies.
Note: Today's Gospel reading is Luke 10:1-16. Find a Bible translation at this address:
http://www.beliefnet.com/index/index_10052.html
From the Revised Standard Version of the Bible, copyright 1946, 1952, 1971 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.
[Edit] The Phenomenon of Existence (part1) -- Will Baker, 17:33:51 10/19/02 Sat [1]
It’s the middle of October and there is snow accumulating on Vermont’s mountain peaks. The foliage is exploding in its annual display of vivid colors and the snow geese have just begun their seasonal migration southward-their Canadian brethren have been on the move for a couple weeks now. The songbirds have long since departed and a few killing frosts have dispensed with the garden. There is a bite in the air. The page is turning. Wintertime is coming. And I take comfort in the change of seasons. In a way it sort of makes me feel grounded, as if this clearly evident cycle somehow demonstrates that I am part of a greater whole.
A good friend of mine has been studying the philosopher Sartre, and we have been discussing his ideas, therefore his notion of developing one’s "essence" is fresh in my mind. He believed that alone among all living things, humans have the ability to define and develop who and what we are by the choices which we make and he believed that the basis for our ability to do so is freedom. He believed that from the moment of our birth we begin the process of defining our existences, and this progression continues until the day we die, at which point it is completed. And the sum-total of our words and deeds as recalled and perceived by those whom we have left behind provide a subjective definition of who and what we were.
But I believe there is a subtle, yet important twist at play here. For as certain as I am that we possess the ability to define our own existences, it seems to me that at the same time we are all part of a greater reality. Furthermore, it is not clear to me whether we have the ability to shape this reality in the same manner that we can define our own existences through exercising free will. Perhaps Sartre would say that my statement demonstrates "Bad Faith," and that by taking this position I am surrendering responsibility for my actions. Were he alive today, I would love to debate him on this point. For I do believe we might be influenced by a sort of collective responsibility that flows from some type of unified reality--at least at the basest of levels. For example, it is not hard for me to imagine that, at some point a few of the atoms contained in my body might very well have helped constitute a dinosaur or possibly a star that exploded long ago. And when I see those geese on the wing, it makes me feel restless.
But what of this collective reality I referenced above? Perhaps, just as we define our essences by the choices, which we make, the same holds true for our race. Sartre said, "mankind is freedom." And this idea does resonate with me. However, unlike Sartre, who in making this statement, for the most part was speaking of the individual, it seems to me that his idea flows towards a sort of collective existentialism, one that may result in the collective shaping of reality.
He spoke of different forms of existences, two of which are Being In-Itself and Being For-Itself. When he spoke of the former he was referring to non-sentient objects. For example, he would say that a rock is a good illustration of this type of existence. Once the rock is formed, it does not evolve. It exists, in more or less the same form, until it is destroyed. But when discussing the latter, he was referring to sentient beings, namely humans. As I explained above, he argued that we possess the ability to develop our "essences," to change in every moment. However when I set these ideas against my perception of the phenomenon of my existence, it seems to me that in some ways, I am as related to that rock as I am to my daughter. Through experiential learning I know I am related to my daughter, just as I know that once upon a time the matter contained in my body and that rock were once part of a singularity that existed prior to the most recent expansion of the universe.
But rocks can not think and evolve, that is a concrete fact, only we can evolve. And I can hear Sartre rebutting my argument. Of my notion called Collectivism he would undoubtedly remark that it is an illustration of his idea of "Being In-The-Midst," a sort of surrendering of personal responsibility, therefore he would argue that it is a form of "Bad Faith" referenced above. But I remain unconvinced that Personal Existentialism, and Collective Existentialism are antithetical to one another. Why is it not possible for our race to develop its essence, to evolve and to change? Doesn’t the historical record suggest that that is exactly what is happening?
[Edit] To be deserving Of Love by Kuthumi -- Chrissie :)*, 11:15:45 10/14/02 Mon [1]
Hi Rose, et all at Lighting The Path
Rose, we've already 'spoken'; and I hope your feelings are on a healing path.
I apologise for not having as much time as I used to to post here; Reiki has taken up a huge part of my life and I have a long way to go. My computer is also slow at home and it takes ages to log on to AOL and most nights I don't log on in the evening and during the day I can't post at work. You're all still in my thoughts and we've all journeyed high and low the past 4 years or so together since our days at Hay House! Though we all don't gather as frequently as we used to, I'm sure our thoughts all still lie with each other and as Rose says, glad that we've been cyberfriends throughout these past few years! Rosie, Joe and I have had the good fortune to meet up plus I've also met Vanda from South Africa who actually has returned to London ot stay. Lorraine who just got married I've yet to meet as she's way up in the countryside; and her photos I've yet to post on the photo album (argh!!!) - they're GORGEOUS!! She's gorgeous!!! Christy and Rose I would love to meet as would I love to meet Jennifer and CarolB, and Kasia and Mae and everyone else who regularly posts here!
Maybe we can all get together for a christmas chat time at Lighting The Path which I can organise if everyone is game. Those who have webcams can set up their web cams as well - it's all fairly easy these days! I haven't done that for ages and ages! Any chance of you guys coming over to England? I would love absolutely love to go to Canada! Jennifer, how are you these days?
Okay, must dash .... love and light to all!
To Be Deserving of Love
by KUTHUMI
TO BE DESERVING IN LOVE WE MUST LOSE OUR FEAR OF LOVE.
In this day and age in which we live, it is sad to see that there are still people who fear Love.
You might ask: Why should this be so? After all, we are beings created from an act of Love, in Love, from Love and of Love. from
Therefore as a product of Love, we should always act from Love and express our Love towards others. However, if we engage in an act of Love and we are conditional in our actions then, we are creating those conditions in a selfish act and only seeking self-fulfilment through self-indulgence.
This type of expression of Love will always leave both partners unfulfilled, confused and unhappy. Both partners will find that self satisfaction is short-lived, unfulfilling and emotionally draining.
When one has never really known what it is like to experience love or has been hurt in previous relationships, it is easy to fear love when it is shown. At that point there is scepticism and no trust. There also exists a fear of vulnerability when anyone tries to reach out. When two lovers are in an act of love, they need to be connected with their heart and not with their mind.
The mind will feel the insecurities and feel challenged. Whenever the mind feels a challenge it seeks answers in order to avoid feeling confronted with the truth. The mind is masterful at separating itself from the truth and instead seeks justification for having its insecurities. It looks at the many ways to avoid its personal challenges by using reverse psychology. Instead of, I might be doing something wrong, it prefers look at what they are doing to me and how angry they make me feel.
The mind can be very cunning and in actions of love, the mind can be obsessed with self-satisfaction, self-fulfilment and self-gratification.
TO LOVE SOMEONE MEANS TO LET GO OF THE FEAR OF LOSING SELF-CONTROL. IT IS ALSO ABOUT FEELING VULNERABLE WITH EACH OTHER AND TO FEEL LOVE WITHIN YOUR HEART. IT IS THEN YOU LOSE YOUR HEART TO ONE ANOTHER.
When you fall in love and experience love within your heart, your thoughts are preoccupied with thoughts of your partner. With your thoughts now, no longer about self, but revolving around your partner and the joy you feel when you share their company, some feel that they are losing their independence. More importantly, they feel they are losing control. This is the greatest fear for most people.
Selfless actions in this time will be the reason for the attraction and not what our minds will lead us to believe - independence or control.
Letting go of the control, however, leaves you feeling vulnerable, with all your insecurities exposed. Once both partners have shared their insecurities with the other, greater intimacy has been gained and will bond both partners. This will result in a love shared at a deeper level and the development of a stronger relationship. Knowing that your partner has allowed themselves to become vulnerable to you and expose their feelings and fears, a very special love will develop at a much deeper level. This, in turn, will give you confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.
Unfortunately, however, the minds favourite tool Reverse Psychology, turns the whole situation back to front. The fear of exposing your insecurities and feeling vulnerable will highlight independence as being the initial attraction for your partner and therefore control the means of achieving the result, will be reinforced.
Remember that life will promote growth through love. Never be fearful that you may be hurt. Trust in life and in love and through experience and understanding, you will receive endless love and wisdom.
It is better to have gained in life and love than to have never experienced life and love for fear of being hurt.
In this life, there is more to gain in love, experiencing it to the full with all its highs and lows, than there is when you try to control your journey. This limits the joy, excitement and love you bring into your life for fear of losing your self control.
If we remember to trust in life and in love, we always find there are many who will come to help us when we are in need of support. They will share their love and their wisdom with us to get through it.
On the other hand, if we decide to keep self-control, we will always struggle, refusing help from others when we need it and wanting to do every thing for ourselves. We will find that life will continue to teach us, however, we will only be able to learn from ignorance and repeat our mistakes over and over , making this life a very harsh journey.
For this reason, there is a great need to let go of the mind which always wants self-control. It will always keep you separate from the heart, not allowing you to experience feelings love, in your heart.
It is only when you feel love within your heart, that both yourself and your partner may merge together in love, of love and from love.
HOW WE ALL GAIN OUR INSECURITIES FROM OUR CHILDHOOD, THE FIRST SEVEN YEARS OF OUR LIFE.
As a child grows up, it will react when it is not receiving Love from its parents or others, only because it has come into our world as a product of Love and having a need to receive Love for self-worth. This will then reflect in its ability to have Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem and Self-worth.
The child will only know how to give towards others from the exampleset by the parents for the child. If the parents are always thinking about themselves and ignoring their children, the child then becomes very demanding, self -willed, and selfish for its needs of Love are not being met, in some cases, even angry and violent.
The child isgrieving and always wants to react and lash out at others. Basically, it is letting everyone know it is hurting. These are actions of the extrovert.
If the child hurts when it is not receiving Love and it withdraws within itself it may become shy and introverted . This child will become self-conscious and will seek attention, fearful of others learning of its insecurities. These are the actions of the introvert.
Both the Introvert and the Extrovert will feel insecure because they are not fulfilling their need to feel the love they are seeking. This love would give the child an inner strength to deal with any situation in Life.
They also feel sensitive to their hurts, which stir and arouse their emotions and make them moody, emotionally unstable and angry. They feel challenged dealing with their feelings, creating disharmony within themselves. The way they resolve this challenge is by pushing their hurt feelings aside or by ignoring them. Alternatively, they may seek a world of escape and withdraw into themselves.
The moods and emotions which have stimulated their feelings of hurt, within the heart, resulting in anger both aimed at both themselves and others has also brought about confusion and made them more self -conscious. This has only come about because of their inner need to receive Love. When this need is not met, they will become insecure, emotionally unstable and they will want to express their feelings of hurt.
This will happen whenever their need for Love is feeling challenged. They will feel hurt, stirred up by emotions and confusion. If they dont deal with these feelings, emotions and confusion by communication with others, express ing what ails them, it will then eat away at them making them even more angry, emotional and hurt.
AS THE CHILD GROWS AND BECOMES AN ADULT
The child may grow up in denial of its fears and insecurities, and may continue to ignore, escape or push aside a need to deal with these situations. However, these feelings an emotions will not go away.
These people can often become self-destructive. They continue to react, believing they have been rejected and they continue to withdraw. Feelings of sensitivity continue to elevate and now those feelings are hypersensitive.
At different times, they will continue to protect their feelings by putting up walls, thereby cutting off their feelings and continuing to choose self-denial to protect themselves further from vulnerability.
They are not very happy any more, knowing their insecurities are the problem. To make themselves feel better they try to gain acceptance from others, or try to become someone different by adopting multi-personalities. Either they blame and judge themselves harshly in whatever they undertake, constantly punishing themselves, or they seek justification and lash out at others. The other alternative is the world of escape through imagination or fantasy.
In doing so, they create an illusion of how they would like their world to be, but find they withdraw more and more from reality, find it harder and harder to face their personal challenges and insecurities.
Feeling insecure, they will be feeling unloved and lacking in self worth, becoming totally selfish. They will be seeking to express themselves in their love-making, seeking self-indulgence, self-satisfaction and self-fulfilment in their sexual desire.
They are hurting, they are insecure and angry and their efforts to conceal this hurt will be shown by actions of shutting out people in their personal lives or becoming withdrawn.
Their feelings of hurt are now a major part of their life that keeps coming to the surface to be denied time and time again, creating more and more stress in their lives. This happens every time that personal challenges and insecurities come up reacting to their feelings of hurt each time.
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE THE WORLD AS YOU SEE IT.
We can learn to deal with our feelings of hurt, our moods and emotions and confusion, all of which cause stress and anxiety.
Communication is our outlet for releasing pressures that build up from personal challenges we continue to ignore. We need to understand why we feel the way we do and by communicating what we feel, we can reach out to each other, developing trust between one another. In this way, we will then create intimacy with those people we are communicating.
Once we have chosen our partner, relatives, friends or those who we feel we can trust to communicateour inner most thoughts, feelings and Desires in confidence, we will then find that we create a special bond with these people.
You will find that this sharing will increase their willingness to help and support you and they will share their wisdom and experience in return.
What we learn then is that we are developing trust. The second interesting point we learn then is that from the sharing of our fears and insecurities which have brought us down, will develop a very strong relationship based on love and vulnerability. Your confidant will feel a very special closeness with you for this sharing and also feel greater respect for someone who can communicate their inner most fears and insecurities.heart, you will also receive a lot of respect
The more we learn to let go of the control which eventually brings us down, with those close to us, the more we will feel able to communicate at deeper levels with others, with whom we meet everyday.
We will then feel strengthened by the bond of Love that we have for each other, increasing our feelings of self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence and being able to tackle everyday situations in life. At that point, our world begins to change and we will begin to see the world as a beautiful place because we feel happy, contented and loved.
TO GIVE IN LOVE IS TO RECEIVE IN LOVE. WE WILL RECEIVE IN THE SAME STRENGTH, THAT WE GIVE
If we act from the heart, in actions of love, we will then find we will not feel separate from our partner. Instead, we will feel the love that our partner is expressing towards us, within our heart. We then feel so good and the physical feeling becomes so intense that we reach out to them again in return.
We will find that we are not just making love to our partner, to receive through self-satisfaction, self-fulfilment and self-gratification, but we are also feeling in our heart, love for our partner. This feeling heightens and intensifies the physical feelings, not only for ourselves but also for our partner.
So, we find that, as we reach out to each other, acting from our feelings of love, within our heart, we will merge
Reprinted with permission from Reflection Magazine
[Edit] in dreams -- Rose, 16:31:20 10/08/02 Tue [1]
hi, me and the old man are having problems basically he said its over ,but then he attack me .. You know and I love him so much that I
Went for it then he tells me that what happen it should of never happen and I say its okay.. We right know are roommates and well Im not a controlling person my best weakness is that Im loyal! person
and I will always love my mate with all my soul , but I can't make anyone to stick by me ,
All I ever want it is to have a family since mine well that’s a long story, know I’m looking or a full time, I work but hey its never enough
specially were I lived they called it fantasy land , its beautiful , the canons , the mountain and nature is awesome, Im trying my best to be here , I lived in L.A and word for universal studios, and fox for 3 years there were the best years and sad too , but hey all you can do is try,
I wish to be with one person only, I like to grow old with some one and may be have a farm hahaha! Yes I do and have grand children and loved them a lot .. May be one day at least I hope
I had an experience after talking with you in astal I was not expecting it.. but that’s I how it works! I felt love a caress and a kiss there were wonderful under all is happening it brought a little smile in to my face...
then last night I had a dream that Im being call to the john Edwards show, but I’m shy, I actually meet with some at a restaurant one night that got the chance to meet with him and got a reading, aaaah, its was validation for me I wish I had the money too see him, may be one day I know how my desead family are, lol oooh
Okay back to the know! Hope and wish you well!
Always!
Love and light Rose
[Edit] Current Writings From God Lighten Our Path -- Ellen, 11:40:58 10/02/02 Wed [1]
Lots to learn free @ http://www.rainbowheadquarters.com - Current Writings from God teach us how to better ourselves and our World.
[Edit] positive! were is everyone -- Rose, 19:03:37 09/26/02 Thu [1]
TODAY'S POSITIVE THOUGHT:
Wrap yourself in God's warm love.
TODAY'S POSITIVE AFFIRMATION:
I AM wrapped in God's loving embrace.
TODAY'S POSITIVE VISUALIZATION:
I close my eyes and imagine myself wrapped
in God's loving embrace. I feel completely
loved and cared for. In my mind's eye I see
myself healing and growing through the power
of Divine love. I imagine myself going through
my day expressing God's love in all that I do.
I see the positive responses from other people
that my loving actions attract. I combine these
images with the feelings of joy and let them go,
knowing that they will create the good things
I am visualizing and thinking.
[Edit] good info must check! -- Rose, 20:30:04 09/24/02 Tue [1]
[Edit] INTERNATIONAL ISSUE -- Rose, 19:39:36 09/24/02 Tue [1]
Subject: INTERNATIONAL ISSUE
As many of you may have heard, a Nigerian woman named Amina Lawal was
recently sentenced to death by STONING for having a child out of
wedlock. In less than 30 days, she will be buried up to her neck in the
gr! ound and a group of men will surround her and throw rocks at her head
until her skull cracks open. This is a painful and horrible death that
should be reserved for people like Hitler, not women who have sex out of
wedlock.
I'm sure you all feel equal shock and disgust by this sentence. Please
go to the Amnesty International site at:
www.mertonai.org/amina
Sign the letter to the Nigerian President and urge him to overturn her
sentence! She has less than 30 days to appeal her death sentence! It
literally takes only a minute, and you could help to save her LIFE. You
will also help in put an end to this kind of cruel and disgraceful
judgment in a country that claims it has democracy.
Please copy and forward this letter to everyone in your address book as
well.
[Edit] I chosse the spirit child at the sea chore -- Rose, 16:57:15 09/24/02 Tue [1]
Angels with a soft child like smile
Spirit calls on my soul
Today! I’m at the beach; tomorrow may they bring some rain
To ease your sorrows away! For a moment or two...
I stand! And I began!
Embracing! Feeling the rainbow!
Tree of a life time at once the key
Breath deep! Hold
Breathe! Closed you’re eyes!
We are from many rivers! From light and dawn
Under one wing!
Son and no one taught you!
And you still came to me as
Winds caress!
The Center of your spine, your mind
As you start on the right side of your inner thoughts
A soft sweet scent remains the same
I see a butterfly with yellow wigs!
Passing threw and the walls tremble!
I whistle a melody that
That of your soul
Can’t believe how it came so easily! When the breath and what you
Mean to me! Mom whisper as the mountain sleep looking up! Looking
On you! And our dreams!
I marry the heavens for you and me
For tomorrow it never ends
I chose the sprit of the child on the sea chore
As I sit at my window of my soul and give thanks
lol!!! Rose
[Edit] Tools for Energy -- Chrissie :)*, 21:31:36 09/16/02 Mon [1]
Heya all,
Quickie sharing .... Christy, what did the show entail with you and your daughter - I'd love to hear all about it? How's life and how's the second book and the movie? How's work? How are you??!
For me, as well as the Reiki teaching the past year I'm also beginning to dip my toe into learning tantra kriya yoga; and also recently purchased some light therapy boxes for S.A.D as I don't like the long winter nights in London! For those in London, the links for light therapy boxes are http://www.outsidein.co.uk and/or also http://www.toolsforenergy.com. I've had the Light Therapy boxes for some weeks now including a Natural Daylight Alarm Clock and it does wake me up naturally and I like it! I already feel the difference and this year I'm looking forward to not having any winter blues!! It also supposed to help pregnant women with their blues etc !
Love & Light
Chrissie :)* ^i^
p/s kittens are doing great, growing up healthy and strong though Chico is slowly down and is about 14 years old now if not older. He is showing signs of old age and seems to be on his last legs .... The kittens are over a year old now ... healthy happy kittens!
Rose, I hope you're feeling better; sending continued love and light your way. I feel for you as I've been there and know what it's like. I do feel slightly 'guilty' for not being able to be here like I used to though since becoming a Reiki Master and teaching Reiki, my time is committed to my Reiki Shares and teaching classes which is very time consuming. I need to affirm I have all the time in the world to do what I want to do! Rose, there is light at the end of the tunnell; read Louise Hay's books and put them into practice, especially You Can Heal Your Life. The Power is Within You remember that always. Healing takes time though; and you're probably still in bereavement from your child's father's crossing as I know I'm certainly in bereavement still from Indi's crossing last year.
Rosie, I'm sorry we didn't get to meet up on Sunday. I was at a friend's most of the day and didn't get back till late evening; my period had started and I was suffering from stomach cramps. I meant to get in touch with you on the Monday though it was so busy at work that I plain forgot. This whole week has flown by. Joe, I hope your meeting with Rosie went well. It'll have to be next year Rosie; it was too short notice for me on Sunday to rush back to the West End .... I was so exhausted on Sunday.
Rose, thinking of you, and sending you continued thoughts of love and light. You are Loved; and You Are Safe! Be Strong! Your thoughts create your life; and you can be whatever you want to be. If you are meant to show and share your poetry, then so it will happen in the right, time, space and sequence! I love you!
Love & Light
Chrissie :)*
p/s Loz sent through her beautiful wedding pictures; which I will put up on the photo album soon. Loz apologies I haven't replied yet .... sooooo busy! Hectic at work as well. Your pictures are soooo gorgeous! I love them!! ((hugs))
OKAY THIS IS WEIRD BUT! Life is! lol
The father of my child who is no longer here! In the physical world! But very living in energy!! JAYME MADE A CONECTION WITH ME AT A RESTAURANT! I WAS THERE WITH JAMES AND MY SON MATT!
I WAS TOLD THAT LOVE IS WHAT CONECT YOU WTH THE!
LOVE ONES AND OTHERES NOT ALIVE EVEN ANIMALS! THE SYMBOLS
AND SING ARE EVERY EVERY WERE IN EVERY DAY! LIFE!
IS JUST FOR SOME THERE NOT LOOKING FOR IT1 OR NOT USEDT TO THING so SIMPLE, YET COMPLICATED!
James > was very impress that I have met the owner! Of the restaurant! AND IT’S FRIENDS! Too! VERY LOVING NICE UNDERSTANDING PEOPLE! Of the restaurant! I FELT LIKE HOME! IN AWAY AND TO ME THAT DOES NOT HAPPEN VERY OFTEN! But the coincidence knocks me on my head!
Being there all his life going to this NICE RESTAURANT! WE HAD A VERY INTERSTING DEEP CONVERSATION!!! WE EVEN JOKE AND CAP ON EACH
OTHER! LIKE IF WE NEW EACHOTHER! FOR EVER LIKE BEST FRIENDS!
His nick name is Blue Bird! Flint, flinch! He reminds me of a bird his last name is a bid last name! What YOU KNOW! LOL!
I don’t know what to-do! Jaime Komat’z comes very strong! And I love him very much, but I love him like my baby! I don’t have fiscal or left over! PASSION! For him but I care and in my soul protect him! I did not realized how much 1 I do care! For someone that I was so upset with! But I can say I love him and beginning to understand more clearly! With out any help but! Just Hints , symbols, silence, surrounding, music ect,,I feel sad that I know that he felt like a LOST CAUSE alone, and often hide his true beuaty1 which it made him the opposite! Of what he is! In my life! His and the key to me! He has giving me! My truth, too early to say! To scare to move to goofed and child like! Dreamer! To deep to little to say so much in my heart! And hope I did not say too much!
Laika! I don’t really know what to-do or to afraid! To I don’t know!
I guess! I lived it to god hands! Just want you opinion!
Or any ones is very Important! To me! As the father of my only son!
Love and light Rose..
[Edit] lets hold hands -- Rose, 20:23:17 09/11/02 Wed [1]
sorry ! my soul speaks too much
lets all hold hand! for 9-11
love and lightRose,,
Hi sweet Chrissie! So glad to heard from you! And all]
Yes life gets very tuff f and its gets going! With or with out!
But we got each other in our heart! I know I do!
I was invited to Washington D.C. and now to the international society of poets
I want to go so bad, but I got no money and I need to go back to school and I do!
But threes bills to play staying of of trouble! All I ever want it to do well!
I never had anything hand out! In my life! `I came here no English all I loved was art, science and social studies thing happens, in my child hood! That people tell me into forget but I can’t I try, but I’m not successful to forget! I really do try! And then we heard that ooh no! Out might b4 y polar! Nan! I’m not! There was a time in my life I want it to die!, so I made scuses you know how easy is to get pills ! Now days cause I want to hide, no one want to listen not even your family!
Everything you have to say, even there doing crimal things, your views are so out there! And you did nothing wrong! And when as a child you try to fit in to a society!
Were they doing know what to do with you! They say ooh my your old! In age!
Weren’t you supposed to know from a-to b-and c! ect nay!
Naa~!I was waiting for you! Cause I was just crawling! Now the walk! I want I need to learn! I’m wating
And no one has time! So more of us go! We genius too! @ ! You just don’t know!
And the easy way is to make another illusion! To us cause you got no time!
I want time to heal to I can have time for you! When I can treat you ! The way you need to be serving!
[Edit] Love & Light to you Dear Rose -- Chrissie :)*, 21:10:03 09/08/02 Sun [1]
Dear Rose,
My heart goes out to you, as does my Love & Light energy .... remember at these darkness moments that you are not alone. You have the power within you to heal your life and make the changes that you need. You are strong sweetie; and you are LOVED ROSE!! Remember it's only a thought, and a thought can be changed. Remember the 10 steps to loving yourself .... we love you here Rose and we care about you. There isn't always time to support as we used to, though you are always in our hearts and our thoughts.
I picked up Louise's Hay's Meditations tO Heal YOur Life and this is what came up ...
CONTROL I create my own security by trusting the process of life
Louise Hay - Meditations to Heal Your Life - Pg 47
If something happens that you feel you have no control over, then affirm a positive statement immediately. Keep saying it over and over to yourself until you move through that little space. When things don't fele right, you might say this to yourself "All is well, all is well, all is well". Whenever you feel the urge to control things, you could say "I trust the process of life". During earthquakes or other natural disasters, it may help to say to yourself "I am in the rhythm and harmony with the earth and the movement of the earth". In this way whatever happens is okay because youa re in harmony with the flow of life.
The only thing you ever have any control of is your current thinking. Your current thoguht, the one you are thinking now, is totally under your control.
Christy, it's great to hear that you've been on another show. Congratulations! I still wish I could have seen you on Oprah; then again I did see you live on the internet on that radio show a few years ago which was wonderful!!! This is rushed as I'm pushed for time and it's late .....
I love you all!!! Remember, you are LOVED!!!! Rose, Christy - ((((((HUGS)))))))
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] I'm so glad I can post -- Christy, 16:51:22 09/06/02 Fri [1]
Hey everybody,
I just got back from a 5 day trip to Hollywood, California (August 13-17th) to film to Dr. Phil show at Paramount Studios. It was so much fun.
I logged onto www.drphil.com and answered the question about parents & teens. They called 1 hour later, and asked if my daughter and I could on the show. Then, they emailed me 2 days later, and said they had picked someone else.
I prayed through the whole process and released the outcome. Eventually, we were called and they flew us out to California. The whole trip I had peace and joy because I knew the universe was lighting our path.
The Dr. Phil show with us airs October 16th for those who live in the states.
Rose..I will send prayers your way. I had a nervous breakdown 12 years ago during my divorce. The universe sent me what I needed to heal and change my life. I know that if you lose your way like I did that the angels will be with you and help you.
Hi how are you all today, hoping all of you?
Had a wonderful memorial weekend, I don’t know if any of you
Had this problem before but right know I’m in need of so much support!
And prayers
Last night I had a nerves Breakdown I must of cry of Two hours
In the laundry Room! Know I’m supposed to get a second job!
And waiting for a called! All this stress is making me a little scare
I’m starting to get irritated easily and that’s not who I am I find my self alone
Most of the time and have no one to share my feelings or stress or anything, everyone is so busy
That they got there own [problem I got no insurance to get stress relief pills
I know I don’t need them but when you find your self alone and had enough
Ways to go around the stress! That I really got no time at all I feel as m not there
And worry way too much that I’m hitting the bottle kind of heavy lately that’s the only way I can get away! Or ease the pain! Until is gone
And another day comes and I wish for the best as I hang on a rope
I’m so ashamed of my self!
I feel like I’m a pest, bother and a monster! When I get this way!
Can you please send some light in my way! I really would appreciate!
love and light Rose..
[Edit] The First Vanilla Illumination Sermon -- Dan Gallagher, 16:09:45 08/27/02 Tue [1]
As seekers, our quest has one primary purpose: the development of our spiritual energy, our light. This is what gives us "persistence" -- that is, our ability to survive the death of the physical body.
Yes, that light is very useful for healing, but healing is just one application of a well-developed spirit/soul, one way of using that light you've worked so hard to refine.
Sad to say, but our light within is not really ready-made. If we don't develop it, little will be left of us when our lives come to a close.
Listen to the first Vanilla Illumination Sermon, "Why We're Afraid Of Death", at
http:/sassure1.tripod.com. It's in MP3 streaming format.
[Edit] Many Congratulations Lorraine!!!!! -- Chrissie :)*, 10:47:18 08/24/02 Sat [1]
Dear Lorraine
I have been thinking about you lately cos I knew that your marriage was coming up shortly and wondered when it was. Life is so so so so sooooooooooo crazy for me right now especially with teaching Reiki .... I'm getting a little overloaded with so much to do ... and actually have been feeling a little unwell these past few days - generally run down and trying to take it easy and resting a lot. Rosie is in town but we haven't met up yet ... perhaps on her way back .... she's in Scotland or somewhere like that right now.
I'm so thrilled for you sweetie! I remember your single days (smiles). Do send some of your wedding pictures and I'll put them on the photo album - I do have to do a bit of webmastering here cos it takes ages for me anyway to post a message and log on cos of that window I had to put up. It's a long story .... all the picture backgrounds here are saved on a free website and they don't like the fact that I use them on Voy Forums .... so I had to automatically make a window come up ie Random Thoughts which is on their website so that their adverts come up and it keeps everyone happy - it just takes a while ... so I'm going to search for another programme that takes a little less time, which I did before, but I forgot the programming so going to have to search for a script for it....
Yes Lorraine it would be good to meet up one day. How about you coming down to London one day in the next few months perhaps to take one of my Reiki 1&2 class? I have a class every month at home and you can stay with me. My combined class is usually on the 2nd weekend of every month and my Reiki Share is usually on the 3rd weekend of every month. Food for thought (smiles).
It's great that you're back into Louise Hay - she never really goes away .. she's always there (smiles) as ever the wonderful mentor for us all (smiles).
Christy, Jennifer, Rose, Vanda, Mae, Joe, Carol, etc etc how are you all?
I just dropped in, I wanted to say hi to you Chrissie and all who remember me! Well, I went and got married on 22nd June 2002, and it was a fantastic day,.. one that I will cherish always!
So how are you? I've missed you guys. Chrissie, how is the Reiki coming along? You know, I still want us to meet some day ;-)
I've been away from my books and stuff lately, but I lovingly bring myself back. I've treated myself to a couple of Louise Hay things... book and tape, and look forward to the postman delivering :-)
I've been helping a friend of mine at the moment, she is going through a tough time, so I've suggested she read Louise's book "you can heal your life" and have purchased it for her. Which has brought me back to her work, and my books ;-)
I love you guys... (I've just been peeking at our photos on the web site here, it's lovely that we can share in this way) - I think I ought to update my picture though, that was taken a little while ago now.
Hello Rose - I'm glad you're feeling well ... it's been a while. I need to spend some time fixing the 'room' as it takes a while to get in now, due to the other site not allowing the graphics on this page to load up etc .... in the next few days - perhaps Friday or over the weekend I'll spend some time fixing it and it'll all be back to normal again. Thanks for your patience! My computer at home also needs clearing up files as it is slowing down !
Changing Our Thinking
Louise L Hay - Meditations to Heal Your Life Pg 29
I change my life when I change my thinking
We are Light. We are Spirit. We are wonderful, capable beings, all of us. And it is time for us to acknowledge that we create our own reality. We create our reality with our minds. If we want to change our reality, then it is time for us to change our mnds. We do this by choosing to think and speak in new and positiv eways. I learned a long time ago that if I would change my thinking, I could change my life. Changing our thinking is really dropping our limitations. As we drop our limitations, we begin to be aware of the infinity of life all around us. We begin to understand that we are already perfect whole and complete. Each day gets easier. I CHANGE MY THINKING WITH LOVE
p/s Rosie is in town but we haven't hooked up yet. Joe, Rosie would like to meet when she's back in London in the next few days - I'll try and call you soon ...
Wow Chrissie what’s going on here girl, I been wanting to talk to you Im in perfect way, thank god to the angels that lead my way, I just wish I never felt in love with one of them , hehehehe! life is wonderful ! Thanks sis after thE ACCIDENT! EVERYTHING SEEM TO BE ALOT BETTER IN EVERY ASPECT LIKE FROM 20 % TO 80 % WHAT DON'T KILL YA! MAKE YOU STRONGER!@ OOH THATS WAHT I HEARD!
LOVE IS A OPWERFUL THING, AND i THANK GOD FOR LOVE, IM BREATHING AND ALIVE AND CAN STILL MAKE A BETTER CHOICE ABETTER DAY, ANSD PASS ON THE KEY OR RING TO MY MY DESEND IT
THERE WAS A POINT IN MY LIFE WERE EVERY THING BURST! AND i ALMOST LOST IT, MEANING THE LOVE FOE THE DIVINE UNSEEING, THE GIFT, CAUSE SOME PARENTS ARE SUPOT IT OF IT AND SOME ARE NOT ! IF YOU KNOW WHAT i MEAN! BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT IS IOVER, THE SEARCH IS NEVER OVER, AND IT NEVER ENDS IS LIKE A CHLD FERY TALE YWITH IN DEED A HAPPY ENDINFD AS ADULT WE MAKE OUR CHIOICES IN WHAT THE PATH IS GOING TO BE, THERE IS TIME IN OUR LIFE THA T , HYES INDEED THAT YOU FEEL ALONE, ANDEVEN THINK THE WORST! LIKE am CRACKING HJP, BUT NAA, i KNOW...
i JUST WANT TO HTELL YOU ALL THAT THESRES THINGS IN LIFE
WERE THER IS NO OEXPLANATION AND EVEN IF YOU FOR DOUBHTS MATTER, DOUBHGT SOMETHING SO CLEAR, FOCUS, AS SERENITY! THEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR MISSING, i HAVE BEENM LIKE MY OWN TEACHER , OKAY YEAHV OWN TEACHER KNOW i HAVR E LET GO , AND ASK DIVINE LIGHT, AND ANGFELS TO GUIDE ME IN MY PATH, WITH OUT ILLUSION i HEARD THAT WORD,ILUSSION,DESOLUTION i ASK WHAT THATS MEANS FOR i WAS SCARE! FOR i HAVE KEPT THINGS ASIDE , AFRAID OF WHAT OTHERS THINGS OF MY OWN BELIVE, WENT OTO DOCTOFRS NOTHING WRONG, FRIENDS , NOPE SHE OKAY SCAN SCAN NAAN! Am COOL, SHES JUST A LITTLE SENSETIVE, OOH NO ME MISS QUEEN! AAH A LITTLE! SMILES!
i CONCLUDED AND LET GOP, KNOW IS WERE IS BEGINS AN D IS WIONDERFUL BECAUSE ! UNDERSTAND! i UNDERSTAND! i LOVE MY BELOVED GUIDENS AS MUCH AS MY BELOVED TEACHER AT HEART! AS GOD!
AND i THANK GOD TODAY! Am HERE BECAUSE OF YOU,
LIVE LEARN, AND IS OMLY LOVE. LOVE LOVE
LOVE AND LIGHT Rose…
Stopping by to say hello. Rosie, Happy Birthday again! Have a wonderful trip and lots of fun with Chrissie.
Wishing everyone a wonderful Summer and many blessings.
Monique
[Edit] Apologies I haven't posted for a while! -- Chrissie :)*, 21:37:21 07/28/02 Sun [1]
Dear all!
First, Happy Birthday Rosie!!! Hope your weekend was great! It was a swelcher in London today! Way tooo hot!
Rose, I hope you are okay after your scare the other day - thinking of you sweetie :)*
This is mega quick as my bath water is running cold ... the page has been messed up for a while - it's to do with the free webserver I use who don't like me saving the picture files on their site and then using voy forums and no one visits their site which means their advertisers don't get their visits etc.
The KEY to making this page work again (temporarily until I find the time to fix it permanently) is to click on the Home Page for Lighting The Path - refer link about and then click on Random Thoughts to activate this Lake background.
It won't take long to fix - I just don't have time at the moment. Thanks for all your patience!!
Rosie, I'm looking forward to your visit when you're in London soon -
Rachel, Loz, Joe, Kasia, Kelly, Jennifer, CarolB, Michael, Mae, etc - hope you're all well - if I've forgotten anyone - sorrie!!
Love & Light
Chrissie
[Edit] resetting site -- me, 07:12:56 07/27/02 Sat [1]
trying to get the latest posts to appear :-)
[Edit] almost die! wow -- Rose, 19:30:50 06/28/02 Fri [1]
Hi all just a note that god is always with all
And this last week end on a Friday got a job with this wonderful
Boss that has giving me an opportunity and treat me so nice, I said before
I always been like a little house wife and I guess I did not mind but I felt missing something with in my self and life expensive are very high know days! Gees!!
So I get a job so I can help my family because we were having problems, and okay get the job on the Friday and I’m like oooh my god! So nervous felt like I was going to get
A panic attack, and told her I don’t think am cut for the job to miss boss Edith and she’s
Ooh don’t worry rose. We all get that way but you want to work no! So try, try our best she says! And I was okay! She said were here to help each other no one born knowing everything! And I look at her and I was wow! Her s nice okay! And after talking to her I felt better! I thought wow! She’s not like other boss I had before she’s very warm and was very
Happy that she’s my boss, after work come home and me and my honey are very happy that I got a job, yippy not that I’m not scared still but Ingoing to do my best yes indeed!!
The next day! My honey need to work at home and I was very happy for him were doing okay, I get my bike down to the mountains but did not bring the right gear I thought I done this before , well my gear was at my step dads house so ! I did not have it with me
And I was restless, honey need it space so I left but I do admit I was tired! Mentally, not physically, and the thing is that when I went down the hill, his pretty hard core! But mind you I done this before on dirt and Rocky Mountains this was the streets and I go down on the hill with my mountain bike and I love it! The speed is great the air! Is so nice I have a smile! And then KABOOM!!!!! When I’m at the bottom of the hill I try to stop my breaks and lost balance hitting the concrete floor! Look down see bunch of blood running threw my nose! I went oh my god! What happen! What the hell after I see ten people running to me! A bike, a real pretty gal and others cleaning, my wounds, telling me everything is going to be okay lay on this nice guy biker hat helmet! To stop my blood running! Everything was just so fast! Everything was flashing really fast! I can’t explain! Then the ambulance came ask me the date of that day witch was June 23 2002 when I left the house was 11:11 and I don’t know the reason what that meat something to me when I got back to my house from the hospital one an half day ! was the same 11:11 Went on operation table and let me tell you this doctor angel name seteve from mission children hospital his my mentor in my heart he gave me something back he did a miracle! On me! He gave me the gift to think and realize that when you think you have lost everything, or when you seem to try your best and you r on the end of the rope! That there’s always a good thing there’s always hope! Even if you’re in face of death there’s that little grasp! That gentle hand, that little sweet soft voice that god with in! Because of him I look right know at everything and I’m life and I’m still cool in every way! Me and my family we kind of change our attitude toward certain in our personal life and were doing better! Were grateful! Today! That we are here! Just thought to share a true story! Live goes on!
Chrissie..I'm printing out the fear excercises. Thanks for sharing them with us.
Rachel..Hey girl..glad to see you post again
Rosie..I'll email you as soon as I finish this message.
I've got a tremendous opportunity in my life coming up in mid-July to tape a television show in Hollywood. Please pray for the highest of all involved, if I get selected.
Love and light,
Christy
[Edit] Dealing With Fear -- Chrissie :)*, 13:45:18 06/25/02 Tue [1]
Heya Rachel - wonderful to hear from YOU!!!!
Dealing With Fear
written by Toraya Ayres A Spiritual Psychology Workbook
If you are feeling fear at this moment, you need to make a decision. When you have relaxed and can explore, you will want to know more clearly what the scary portions of your life represent for you. Right now, you need to: Either, stop resisting and let yourself feel the fear-- without judgment--as the first step in preparing to discover what it is all about for you and what you want to do: or
Shift your attention into a more positive direction using deep breathing, meditation and positive affirmation. Either choice will help you relax and cease struggling. But bear in mind that emotional healing requires that the feelings be felt as part of the process of clearing and resolution. That moment cannot be put off forever. When you allow yourself to feel without judgment you have moved into the Now and a very large portion of the emotional charge will be released immediately. Then, once you've relaxed, you can use the exercises in this workbook to explore the specific fear and deal with it. Be alert to your own resistance. Even on a positive track you will certainly experience it, most commonly with discouraging thoughts that tell you you can't change the situation,or that past failures will be repeated. The first thing to change is those thoughts. This workbook is intended to assist you in facing your fear and handling it in the most positive way. The exercises can be used again and again in varying circumstances.
It is inner change which preceeds outer changes in your life. Begin the exercises. They will help you regardless of what you believe to be the cause of your distress.
II. Exercises For Clarity, Integration And Strength
After the immediate steps you take to release yourself from fear--such as deep breathing, it is usually helpful to become more conscious of how you were thinking before the fear took hold. Exercises are offered here to help you understand how you have been constricting yourself and your perceptions--and what is needed to set yourself free. The exercises are intended to help you uncover the beliefs, the thinking/feeling/imaging patterns which trigger your fear and to remind you of the effective ways you have dealt with fears in the past.
Exercise 1. To identify your own worst fear, answer the following questions for yourself: In what areas of my life do I feel the least sense of personal power? Who or what do I give that power to?
How can I take it back? (See Section V for help with this.)
Exercise 2. To explore a particular situation that is arousing much anxiety in you, say to a partner, "With regard to _____, I'm afraid that____ ."
Say or write at least ten things.
Take a deep breath before each statement. When you feel as though you've said everything there is to say, take another deep breath and say, "And most of all I'm afraid that ____!"
This exercise is extremely useful in bringing clarity where there is a cloud of anxiety and confusion. The information brought forth is likely to surprise and even reassure you. Clarity as to what you have been fearing will enormously reduce the level of fear. Affirmations can be created to deal with the situation when you are clear about it. You may end up saying, "Oh, if that's what the problem is, I know I can handle that!"
Exercise 3. Some of my fears are tapes of feelings that somebody else once felt. Who? What is the story of that person's fear?
What does it have to do with me--if anything?
Exercise 4. (a) My usual ways of reacting to fear are_______. Brave denial? Avoidance? Provocation? Attack?
(b) My most effective experiences or methods of dealing with fear in the past have been ____.
Ultimately, the answer to this question becomes feeling the fear and facing it, going through what has been avoided and discovering your strength through experience.
Exercise 5. Positive beliefs that have helped me through life; strengths I can draw upon. (List them)
For example: I always have what I need. There is always a solution. I'm a strong person.
Another way to do this exercise is to simply list your positive achievements of the past year, and do it every year. My positive achievements of this past year were:
Exercise 6. Integration. Assign a positive affirmation to your right (or dominant) hand and state it as you make a gesture with that hand. Let the left hand state the opposition, whatever comes to mind. If no opposition comes to mind, repeat the affirmation with the right hand. Continue until there is no opposition. You will be amazed how well this works.
III. Working With The Dark Side Of The Self
These exercises can be used over and over as you work your way through different fears. They will also reveal your progress.
A. First, imagine yourself full of the brightest light you can imagine. Breathe deeply. Ask your Higher Self and the divine child within to help you. Ask for information to identify your shadow side. The information may come piecemeal. It might take a week to get a fairly complete picture of what you can face at this time. Keep re-establishing your connection with the light. It is light penetrating darkness which brings perspective on that which has been hidden from consciousness. It is also willingness to walk into the dark --metaphorically speaking.
You may find it helpful to frame the question in many different ways.
What have I avoided?
What have I feared?
What has showed up in dreams?
What seems to be chasing me?
What seems to be missing in my life? (There is always a reason.)
The following series of questions have been found very helpful. You have permission to copy this page and use these questions over and over. The answers will vary with the situation.
What I fear most in my life right now is _______.
My repetitive thoughts and feelings about this are ________.
What I do when I'm afraid is _____.
What happens in my body is _____.
I have used this fear in my life to avoid _____ and to justify (doing/thinking/feeling) _____.
If I were to try and make what I most fear happen on purpose, I would _____ . List ten things and note how many of them you are actually doing.
If I were free of my fear, I would be (doing) _____ in my life right now. Give yourself plenty of time to answer.
B. Write your story in four ways. This is well worth the time and effort and can be extremely effective in helping you to shift out of the initial viewpoint into one that is more empowering and compassionate, both towards yourself and anyone else involved. Here are the four versions of your story:
As your sad tale--the victim version.
As seen from some other person's point of view who was there.
As seen by your Higher Self.
As an empowering experience for you. In this last one, imagine that the experiences of your fears have led you in exactly the right direction and strengthened you in just the perfect ways and in perfect timing so you can achieve your soul's mission effectively on earth in this lifetime.
C. What I most want to have happen in this situation is _____________________________________________________. Envision it with as much detail, color, light and emotional energy as you can. Rehearse and empower it. Remember, though, that you do not have the right to create a vision for any other specific being. Put no names or faces into your vision. Work with essence--the kind of relationships and feelings you want to be feeling instead of attempting to achieve specific relationships with people you know.
D. Create the affirmations which will support your vision and correct your fears.
IV. 16 Statements To Check Out About Fear
Read the statements, fill in the blanks, and check the ones which add useful information for your understanding. Different statements will apply to different fears. Not everything will apply to you.
Fear is enhanced by hiding or not finding out important information. An example of a time when I made myself afraid unnecessarily is when I delayed finding out_______. (Example: How much money do I owe?)
I have closed my heart to ______ and so am feeling afraid that ______.
I believe I can only be OK if ____________________ _____________________________________________________. (Fear in this case is created by attachment to a third dimensional idea as to what constitutes safety (money, power, control, owning my house, a steady job, keeping my partner, etc.)
__Fear is what I feel when I shorten my breath and tighten my throat, chest, shoulders, stomach and/or abdomen. Sometimes I don't notice I am doing this. If you consciously relax your body and breath deeply, the fear will usually dissipate.
Fear is present when I'm vague, confused, dishonest, not allowing myself to know exactly how what is going on. An example of when this was happening was _________________. (To shift this kind of feeling, use Exercise 2)
Fear is part of my self-government system. I scare myself into _____ and out of_____.
I have felt panic when _____________________________.
The way out of panic is often shifting from feeling to independent thinking (as distinguished from playing old tapes in your head.) The panic may have been caused by old tapes within that repeat false or inappropriate statements. They probably don't apply to your current reality. For example, "I don't know...." or 'I can't..." when in fact, with some concentration, you do know or you can...
Fear is a cover for anger learned as a child who knew anger must be hidden. As a child I felt fear when _____ ______________________________________________________. but I was really angry at _____________________________.
And I felt _________ about feeling angry.
Fear is the way I tell myself that something important is missing in my awareness or plans.
Fear is my signal to pause and think things over or get better organized. An example of this in my life is/was __________________________________________________________.
Fear is my justification for certain actions, such as ______________________________ and is not necessarily in my best interests in the long run.
Fear is wondering whether I'll protect myself adequately, knowing I've a history of not doing it and haven't fully committed myself to doing it. (Applies to those with histories of self-destructive behavior.) The cure for this is a firm decision to live and a determined commitment to self-care.
Check if the following is true: I'm feeling fear because I'm carrying around a card in my back pocket which says, "If things get too bad, I can always kill myself, or go crazy, or get myself put away (in a hospital, prison or mental institution.)" And I haven't given it up yet. Note: Nothing will be solved until you do. Too much energy is being diverted from effective problem-solving. But once the decision to let go of the threat to the self is made, you will feel much better and able to face and successfully carry out whatever problem-solving is necessary.
Fear is my distrust of my ability to go on living unless I'm fighting for my life.
Fear is what I feel when I've given my power to the opinions of others. I hereby take back the power I've given to __________ __________________________________________________________.
Fear is a magnet. In accordance with the law of attraction, others who will reinforce my fears or help me "prove" my negative beliefs are drawn to me. An example of this in my life is/was ___________________________________.
Fear is what I feel when I'm around someone who is trying to get rid of their scare by scaring me. A time when this happened was _____________________ ________________________________________________________.
Fear is created by giving power to, or being attached to, ideas and beliefs about:
judgment, competition, hierarchy, scarcity, separation, punishment, conspiracy, retribution, evil, loss, abandonment, loneliness, wrongness, badness, mistakes, death, craziness, sickness, loss of the soul, suffering, struggle, hell, helplessness, powerlessness, danger, authority, secrecy, enemies, secrets, failure, purposelessness, shortages of time, of resources, of energy, of creativity, and so forth.
You will need to search and examine your own mind for the limiting beliefs you have accepted which trigger fear. You can use the affirmation process in the Manifestation workbook to establish new neuronal pathways in your brain.
V. 30 Ways Of Dealing With Fear
Shifting
Relax your body. Do whatever it takes to accomplish that; a hot bath, a walk, the right music, a book which will lift your spirits, calming tea. If you know anyone who can give you a Reiki session, this will help enormously.
Begin a series of deep breaths. Feel your body's relaxation response. Go into a meditative state. Fill yourself with light. Ask for a higher point of view. Ask your Higher Self for the help you need. Ask for grace.
Consciously bring back to yourself all the energy that you have scattered elsewhere. Bring back the power you have given to others in certain areas of your life. Think of bringing in your maleness regardless of your sex. Make loud outbreath sounds, huh, huh, huh, while stamping your feet like a Maori warrior before battle! This is very, very effective.
Let go of any particular solutions you are clinging to in your mind, especially if you are convinced that the only solutions are ones you don't want. Open to other possibilities unknown to you without trying to figure out what they might be. Trust in spirit, not in externals for your safety.
Move into a different physical position or get physically active.
Make loud sharp sounds to break up the fear cloud around you. Intuitively you will know exactly what sounds to make. Have the intention of setting yourself free. This can be very effective, especially if you have a private place such as your car to do it. Breathe deeply. Do this whenever you are "in your stuff."
Call a friend to be with you or talk with you on the phone.
Take a shower and consciously imagine it as a clearing process. For example, you may have caught yourself obsessing fearfully about your financial future. Brush your hair vigorously to help clear your aura, then take a shower and wash your hair. Think of the water as clearing unwanted thoughts from your energy field. Replace them with light and with your positive affirmations.
Let somebody's humor make you laugh. See if you can imagine the situation you've been in as a comedy without discounting yourself. Consider renting a humorous video.
Give yourself an experience of pleasure.
Get into the present moment, the power of the Now. Move out of dwelling on the past ("If only...") or future ("What if.)"
Imagine any emotional cords from other people which are attached to your chakras as being gently released and floating away. This will help you feel much lighter and will clear your aura of any fears which do not belong to you. It is very easy to pick up other peoples' fears without realizing it as long as you carry any fear of your own to which it can attach. Remember nothing can attach to you that has no corresponding resonance within you.
Consciously shift into self-nurturing, caring for your inner child self. This will result in a change of body position, breathing and thinking patterns. Give yourself extra loving care and nurturing no matter what you do.
It is possible to shift your fear into excitement. They are two sides of the same coin so to speak. Imagine a great pot of water that is slowly getting warmer and warmer. The bubbles are rising. More and more of them are coming up to the surface. Finally the water boils. What are you feeling now?
Get more information. In almost any situation of fear, obtaining more information is helpful.
Create a detailed fantasy of a positive outcome. Review it in a meditative frame of mind each day.
Accepting/Observing
The other option, the one that is different from trying to avoid or shift a feeling is to accept your feelings and ride them. Let them flow through you like the wind. Thank them for what they are teaching you. Be a detached observer. Send love to your fears.
Do not resist or try to actively change them. A natural shift will occur when you cease to struggle.
Then move into your creativity. Make a picture or music or poem or write your feelings in a journal. Let your creative energy flow. Let every voice within you be expressed from the fearful to the helpful.
Processing
Ask for help in dreams. Write them down and work with them. Assume that everything in your dream is a part of you, even if disguised. Be each part. Have each part say how it feels and what it wants. Let them talk with each other honestly. A solution can usually be found in which every part gets what it truly wants. For a detailed description of how to do this see the Dreamwork Dialogue, A Manual for Dreamers and Guides.
Avoid any form of self-criticism for outcomes of your risks or experiences. You are not to be abused inside for what you are learning.
Separate the layers of feelings so you know if you are feeling more than one emotion, for example, fear of fear; guilt or anger about feeling fear. Identify the layers and name the feelings so you know exactly what you are dealing with. This dissolves a lot of the struggle immediately.
Examine the beliefs that led you to the scare. Create the affirmations needed to change them. Use the affirmations to keep your life focused on what you want, not on what you don't want.
Imagine that you created this situation deliberately. What do you have to gain or learn from it? What is the lesson? How can it be viewed as a positive happening?
Be willing to give up any attachment to being seen as a victim. Be willing to give up being stroked (given sympathy or extra attention) for being a victim or using victimhood as an excuse for sorry-for-yourself feelings, actions or avoidances. This can be a major change.
Be willing to give up seeing others as victims. You can still decide to help whoever you want to without using a one-up position. Set the boundaries you want around your personal time/space. Learn to firmly say "no, I don't choose to" as needed, without defensiveness (victim story) or explanations.
Allow yourself to risk and feel OK about that. Decide not to let fear alone be the basis of any decision, whether to do something or not do something.
Give yourself any needed permissions you did not get from important authority figures in childhood. For a healthy, happy life you need internal permission to exist, to act, to honor your feelings, to think for yourself, to feel sexy, to be the sex you are, to make mistakes, to be a success (and feel good about it), to take time and space for yourself, to ask for help, and so on, whatever your inner child needs to hear.
Write a dialogue among all the parts of yourself with thoughts and feelings about this fearful situation. Include your Higher Self. Ask every internal part to say what it feels and wants. Continue the dialogue among the parts until all have agreed on what they want.
This will happen more easily than you may expect. There is wisdom in every part of you, even the ones you have thought were obstructive. They are simply trying to bring your attention to something important, some aspect of your greater self. You will feel the relief of clarity.
You do not have any internal enemies, only portions of the self which may be obeying outdated instructions or holding to distorted perceptions/beliefs from long ago.
Imagine being what you most fear, the person, the energy or a symbol of the power you have given away. Feel yourself restored to a sense of power by reintegrating this powerful energy, this part of yourself. This is most easily done in dreamwork, by being all the parts in the dream.
Write down three pages of stream of consciousness about how you feel first thing in the morning. Use handwriting, not your computer. Write until it is all on paper. See Julia Cameron's wonderful book, The Artist's Way, for a complete description of how effectively this can work for you. It is best done first thing in the morning but can be effective at any time when you need to express feelings.
Recall a moment in the past when you felt very powerful and happy. Enhance that. Get fully into it. Then allow that power and happiness to give you a new perspective on your current situation.
Review your past successes and achievements. List them and give yourself lots of credit and love for what you have done.
VI. General Information About Fear
The universal truth that we are all magnificent beings of light and powerful creators is not easy to swallow when you are feeling like a victim. You may need to play with the concept that you create your own reality as a hypothesis and simply discover, from your experiences and experiments, the enormous power you have. It is what you believe and focus upon that determines what comes into your life. This is the central point to understand.
If you have accepted the basic idea that you can create what you want but don't see how to make it work for you, the companion workbook on Manifestation, by Toraya Ayres can help.
The fact is that much of the process of dealing with fear is a matter of giving up victimhood and mastering conscious creation from the inside out. If your fear is of an outer event in the future, then look to see what you have focused upon inside. You may prevent the event you don't want by focusing upon what you do want. Shift your focus. If you are unsure about what you want and clear about what you do not want, ask for assistance from your Higher Self and use the exercises in this workbook. This kind of situation usually means a need for some kind of emotional healing. It is following your excitement that guides you on your spiritual path. If your feelings are not easily available to you, some kind of emotional healing is needed to allow them to come more clearly into your consciousness. It is better to ask for help in any case, as you seek the path of greatest fulfillment.
Fear as a feeling of separation In essence, fear is cause by a sense of separation from the universal life and loving spirit in which all of physical and non-physical manifestation is One. There are no exceptions to this. Learn to take note when you are feeling separate, whether from other people, nature, God or spirit. To be free of fear, you will need to be willing to allow different beliefs and concepts into your mind. This feeling of separation is a false perception built into third density experience but one you are capable of moving beyond. As earth moves through her ascension process we are all clearing fear from our systems and making room for more light, love and trust. Sometimes the clearing will take the form of physical illness.
Fear of our power, fear of enlightenment As Marianne Williamson has reminded us in a quote often attributed to Nelson Mandela, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us."
Fear of lack of love or light Fear comes when you forget that light is a thousand times more powerful than darkness. And love is the most powerful force in the universe. If you attempt to solve a problem in an unloving way, either by not loving yourself, or by using unloving communications with another, you will probably feel fear. This is because self-betrayal is involved. If you balk at looking into the dark side of a situation, you will feel fear. This kind of fear disappears when you move straight into the unknown, willing to see and know what is there. The heart of the unknown is light even if you have to go through darkness to find it. "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff shall comfort me." (The Twenty-Third Psalm)
Fear caused by giving away your power Be aware of any area of selfhood in which you have given away your sense of personal power, whether to another person, the other sex, the government, a religion, a philosophy, the ETs, or a credit card company! You are a sovereign entity, responsible for what you create, with access to unlimited love, power and wisdom. At this time on Earth, you are in process of bringing all the parts of yourself home to integrate them. The powerful being you are can live without struggle and effort.
Fear caused by accepting negative or limiting beliefs Fear can be caused by lack of trust in yourself. It can be caused by seeing others as potential victims (not trusting the divinity within them), fearing loss, forgetting the bigger picture in which all is divine, not setting personal boundaries, and so forth.
These are all examples of the results of accepting some kind of negative/limiting belief. In that area of life, it seems that fear is unavoidable. "Proofs" of this will be in your mind but what you have forgotten is that the "proofs" were collected after the decision to view yourself or the world in a certain way, usually in childhood; perhaps in a previous life. This can be changed with a redecision. Fear is, in 99 cases out of 100, created by the way you are thinking/believing and has no basis in immediate external reality.
The exception is when you are dealing with something already set in motion by your beliefs or a previous soullevel agreement, or your current focus of consciousness. If so, then you need to remember your power is always in the Now and you can change any experience by changing your state of being (deep breathing and a new focus of attention, for example) which will automatically shift your perception and experience.
This statement applies to
ET abduction experiences as it does to anything else. For more information on how to deal positively with repeated ET abductions, see Lyssa Royal's book, Visitors From Within. Be alert also to the increasing literature from people who have managed to move from terror to love in their relationships with ETs. Joy Gilbert's account, It's Time To Remember, is an example.
It is quite possible to see something positively that you had previously interpreted in a negative way.
Each of us has the ability and responsibility to control not the external world but the internal one. That applies to where you place your attention, what you think, what you believe, what you fantasize. This is how you create your personal reality. You cannot control the feelings, thoughts or actions of others, nor do you have that responsibility.
That means that the temptation to manipulate others or control events in your external world is based on fear and a misinterpretation of where your power lies. The changes you want cannot be achieved through such manipulation.
You are not responsible for making others feel good. They will, however, automatically feel lifted if you have taken responsibity for your own good feelings and expressed them. On the other hand, you will not feel good if you intentionally do things which you know will hurt or provoke. And such actions draw similar events to you from others through the law of attraction.
You are always responsible for your intent, loving or not, conscious or unconscious. You are responsible for finding and expressing the happiness which is inherently within you. You cannot place the responsibility for that upon anyone else.
Other people do not have the power to make you feel good or bad, unless you give that power to them. You can choose to respond rather than react as you gradually heal the inner wounds that provide buttons for others to push. Infants, young children and the elderly are vulnerable because they do depend upon you. The power of their beliefs for them and yours for you still operates, though.
As a sovereign expression of divinity, you have access within yourself to unlimited joy, abundance, love, knowledge and creativity. You are never alone. You always have access to loving assistance from your Higher Self or other wise beings in the non-physical realms in addition to your personal resources. In other words, you are responsible for creating happy or unhappy experiences and asking for help when you need it. Remember, humans frequently choose to learn through drama and fear is often frozen excitement!
To summarize Remember four things.
All of your outer life is a reflection of your inner life. It is only by making an inner change that you will be able to obtain an outer one. Do that before you take action in the outer world.
There is only Now. Your experience of the past and future are created from the present moment. Bring all of your energy focus back into the Now. This is where you have power to heal, to make changes and to create. Is there anything to fear in this moment?
Remember the Oneness. Everyone and everything is part of you and you are a part of them. Send unconditional light, love and acceptance to the landlord, the bill collectors, the angry spouse, the viruses in your body, or whatever appears in your dreams. They are all reflections of portions of your consciousness or they would not be in your life. To learn to dialogue with these elements in your life and to understand their roles better, use the method described in the Dreamwork Dialogue manual by Carly Ayres.
Remember love. The secret of life is in learning to love all of yourself. That means the whole world and then the whole universe. Loving, allowing and accepting your own feelings automatically guides you and changes your relationships and manifestations.
The ultimate secret of freedom from fear is opening the heart to complete surrender to the Higher Self, learning total trust.
The secret of becoming free after feeling fear is moving back into your power, recalling the larger picture, relaxing into higher vibrations, following the guidance from your Higher Self which is always given, and learning to view the situation as your Higher Self might see it.
Hold to the positive vision of potential fulfillment for your life which spirit is giving you no matter what is happening. All will be well in the end.
You can reach Toraya AKA Carly Ayres <toraya@sedona.net>, other articles you find in the Toraya Ayres Corner. Toraya is looking for to publish this workbook in printed form, if you are able to sponsor this project let her know.
[Edit] Long time...no type! -- Rachel, 16:28:41 06/24/02 Mon [1]
Hello to all at Lighting the Path
I haven't been here for a long time but have snatched a moment to read a bit and say hello!
Hey Rosie, I know what you mean about one step forward and a thousand back, but overall i think I'm still heading in the right direction.
Welcome Peter...I'm a Roman Catholic too and have returned to the church in recent years...this time on my terms. I take from the liturgy and ritual the parts that work for me and let the rest go. I understand where you're coming from with your comments...I have struggled over the years and am having great difficulty with the current scandals in the USA and New Zealand.
Ok...got to go...love to you all
Hugs
Rachel
[Edit] Hi Peter & Rosie -- Chrissie :)*, 23:50:32 06/22/02 Sat [1]
Greetings everyone at Lighting The Path!
Hi Peter, they do say there are no coincidences in life and you were most likely guided here (smiles). Welcome - it's good to hear from you! It's always nice to hear from like minded souls! Thanks for sharing your story and also for sharing re the Light Music.. I always feel thrilled when people share links and items they have enjoyed! I did take a look at the site and listened to the music - very nice indeed! I may even purchase some! I read Embraced by The Light a while ago - a wonderful book indeed. My bookshelves are overflowing these days with much to read and I hope I eventually get to read them all! I am currently reading a lot on Thich Nhat Hanh and also Healing Mandalas by Thomas Ashley-Farrand.
Heya Rosie, it's good to hear from you. I was wondering where you were! I get so tempted to write to you all by email but I haven't had the time lately with so much going on in my life. You wouldn't believe! Work is well work ... I wish they would make me redundant so that I can start on my path on what I want to do in life which is healing full time ... all is happening at the right time, space and sequence. I am where I am meant to be at this moment in time. All is well. Thanks for asking Rosie. When are you next in London? It would be good to spend some good quality time with you. How are you doing? How is the travel business? Is it picking up? Are you still doing two jobs? How are you feeling these days? I must write to you and everyone else via email as there's stuff happening obviously that I can't share on the board for various reasons namely it being a public forum ... ((hugs))
I have been doing yogaboxing for a few weeks now and it is a terrific programme! It is very empowering, you get to set boundaries, say no to what you don't want, and say yes to what you do want! I highly recommend it! It has helped me with setting boundaries re work issues, at least energetically - where intention goes, energy flows. It also helps with empowering oneself and building up your energy.
Must get some sleep now! Long day tomorrow!
((hugs)) to all and I'm thinking of you all, especially Kelly who I hope is doing okay .... hi to Christy, Rose, Jennifer, Kasia, Vanda, Carol, Joe, Michael, Mae, and all else who read in but don't post :)* ..
I am missing Indi a lot today ... I miss his kittie hugs and his energy ... I have been watching Colin Fry's Sixth Sense which is a medium show like John Edward's Crossing Over ... and I know they are well and alive on the other side, nonetheless I still miss my babe. It hurts still to look at his photo ...I wish I could hold him again ...
Hi Chrissie and all at the path. Welcome to this wonderful site Peter. Thank you for sharing your story. This is what its all about. I understand the Catholic part as i was brought up as one myself but i am not practicing. I like going to church in my own times but not because i need to be forced. I hope you continue to come here. Its a great place and Chrissie is really nice.
Chrissie I hope all is well with your job.. I dont come here often very busy at work... Have a dip for awhile as well so that sort of got me into a blue mood. I dont know about everyone else but whenever i thought that i was going forward I would take a thousands steps backwards. I dont know if anyone else has experienced the same thing. Its been highs and lows and i know sometimes i am the first to admit that i dont acknowledge my wonderful progress.
Christy please write to me that is my email address. I have read Debbie Ford books and they have been great to have a different perspective. I cant remember if one of her books is called Spiritual Divorce and that was such a great book for me to read. I found it quite interesting how she coped with divorce.
I am sorry for any misspelling its very hard and trying at the moment as i have had laser eye surgery to correct my short sightness. Its something that i have wanted to do for years and i finally after making so many appointments decided to do it. So i do apologise. The glare of lights is very hard but the fact that i can see without glasses is such wonderment for me.
I am watching the World Cup between England and Brazil in decent time for the first time...
Michael Congratulations in taking the plunge to get away from Ireland. I know your aunt has made your life hellish and for some of us it would be hard to understand but you know you can do it and you will have the strengh and prayers from all of us that you can settle in England.
To Rachel i havent heard from you in ages... Joe, Jennifer, Kasia, Monique, Rose and everyone else i hope you are all doing fine....
I hope to catch up with you Chrissie and Joe when i will be over in England on my next trip.
Much love to you all
ROSIE
[Edit] My journey to healing... -- Peter Greene, 23:00:50 06/19/02 Wed [1]
I happened upon your forum as I did a search on Household Chores. Imagine that? Who would ever think housework feeds the spirit? ...although, I do admit to deriving great pleasure out of a clean kitchen and dust free home!
I'm not sure if it is premature of me to share with you a few things that have helped me on my spiritual journey, but I will take a risk and briefly tell you all, hoping to share and exchange ways in which we can grow and learn.
I was Catholic up until age 21. Just like many of us, I have very vivid and unhappy memories being raised in a household that was Catholic.
I was and continue to be a man who is constantly seeking answers, always rejecting mundane routines and people who simply 'go thru the motions.' Certainly, Catholicism didn't work for me.
However, I do recall that once I broke free from this set of rules, I felt a little lost, as though i was floundering in a gigantic pond without a life preserver.
Before I took a pleasure vacation to Jamaica, a friend had unloaded a box of books on me when she moved out of town. My decision to grab two particular books for my plane ride was solely based on size, and if they'd fit in my suitcase.
One was Embraced by the Light by Bettie Eadie.
The other was The Way of the Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman.
After reading those books while enjoying such a beautiful part of our continent, lying on beautiful beaches, bathing in clear ocean water that was warmer than my bath, I realized that someone else had guided my hands when I was selecting reading material for this trip!
Without raving on and on about details of the books, I will say that both books complimented one another beautifully, and really taught me the things I needed to learn at that particular time in my life.
One other tool I have found is Liquid Mind Music. Are any of you familiar? In record stores, this is classified as relaxation music or new age music, but I can tell you that I have never EVER been exposed to music that has the power to heal before this.
The gentle, tranquil, slow moving music contains some kind of magic I can't really describe. The only thing I do know is that this music plays constantly in my home especially at night while I sleep. I believe the website to buy this music is www.liquidmindmusic.com, but I purchased mine at CDBABY.com. I have all 5 of these albums, and each one is better than the next.
I am really looking forward to reading more about all of you as time progresses, if anyone agrees or disagrees with what I've written. I hope that nothing I've written here has offended anyone.
Sincerely,
Peter Greene
[Edit] Vulnerability - The Language of Letting Go -- Chrissie :)*, 17:08:09 06/18/02 Tue [1]
Dear all - Great site to visit http://www.thework.com Check out the book Loving What Is - by Byron Katie - her work is amazing. It goes with the same first principle of letting whatever happens be OK.
Vulnerability
The Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie
Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on "feelings freeze mode" when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt.
Hurt feelings are a part of life, relationships, and recovery. It is understandable that we don't want to feel any more pain. Many of us have had more than our share. In fact, at some time in our life, we may have been overwhelmed, crushed, or stopped in our tracks by the amount of pain we felt. We may not have had the resources to cope with our pain or take care of ourselves.
That was yesterday. Today, we don't have to be so frightened of pain. It does not have to overwhelm us. We are becoming strong enough to deal with hurt feelings. And we don't have to become martyrs, claiming that hurt feelings and suffering are all there is to life.
We need only allow ourselves to feel vulnerable enough to feel hurt, when that's appropriate, and take responsibility for our feelings, behaviours, and what we need to do to take care of ourselves. We don't have to analyze or justify our feelings. We need to feel them, and try not to let them control our behaviour.
Maybe our pain is showing us we need to set a boundary, maybe it's showing us we're going in a wrong direction; maybe it's triggering a deep healing process.
It's okay to feel hurt; it's okay to cry; it's okay to heal; it's okay to move on to the next feeling, when it's time. Our willingness and capacity to feel hurt will eventually be matched by our willingness and capacity to feel joy.
Being in recovery does not mean immunity from pain; it means learning to take loving care of ourselves when we are in pain.
Today, I will not strike out at those who cause me pain. I will feel my emotions and take responsibility for them. I will accept hurt feelings as part of being in relationships. I am willing to surrender to the pain as well as the joy in my life.
[Edit] Attachment and the Shadow Self -- Chrissie :)*, 21:17:28 06/17/02 Mon [1]
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by Alan Seale
How do you heal yourselves mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally?
The first step is to realize that the healing is happening all the time. It
has been happening all along. It may be hard to see when the times are
tough, when you feel trapped in circumstances that appear to be beyond your
control, when you are in any kind of pain, when there is abuse on any level.
But if you can step into much higher levels from there, you can recognize
that every place that you are is perfect for you in your journey, and that
every being with whom you are encountering time and space is perfect for
accomplishing the lesson at hand.
For many people, healing, or "going through their stuff", is what they do
with their therapist. That may be one very important aspect of going through
your stuff. But moving through your stuff happens in every activity in every
minute of every day. Healing, like Love, demands surrender. Healing means
coming back to Love -- surrendering to Love flowing through your entire
being. Healing means uncovering your truth and living it. Every moment is
healing. You just may not be aware of the healing. But as you become aware
of every situation as a gift for healing, as a gift for the journey, as a
gift for moving through your stuff, then you facilitate the healing process,
the pain dissipates, and the circumstances begin to change.
You are healing in every moment of your life. Don't worry so much about how
to heal. Rather, open your awareness to the fact that it is already
happening, and see where that leads you. [The above section is from a
Stephen Levine lecture at the Omega Institute conference, in the spring of
1994]
The Shadow Self and Attachment
It is often in the solar plexus that we begin to recognize our dark side,
the shadow aspect of our personality. When we are willing to look honestly
within, we find the ways in which we have succeeded or failed in fulfilling
our dreams and goals. Western society is strongly built on concepts of
success and failure. However, a major part of the healing that occurs in the
solar plexus is the realization that success and failure only have to do
with ego.
The soul is busy taking a journey and having experiences from which it will
learn. It knows nothing of success and failure. The soul only knows truth,
honesty, and integrity. As long as we live our lives from a place of truth
and integrity, allowing Love to flow through our being, we are following a
pathway toward healing. With this realization, we are able to let go of
attachment to success, and simply take the journey.
Attachment is a big issue of the solar plexus. Through attachment, whether
to a person, job, situation, problem, idea, or belief, we feel some kind of
control or security. There are literally bands of energy that form between
the solar plexus chakra and the object of our attachment. Energy bands form
from the second chakra through emotional-sexual attachment, and from the
heart chakra in love attachments, but from the solar plexus we find the
energy bands that form out of control and security issues. In balancing this
chakra, we learn to let go of our attachment to the outcome of a situation,
to a job, or to a lover, no longer depending on the object of our attachment
to give us an identity or a reason for being. As we let go of the
attachment, we experience healing, because we begin to find wholeness within
ourselves.
Here we also address issues of desire and need. When ego and soul are in
balance, desire is a healthy feeling, leading us forward in our journey of
development. However, when ego begins to reign, desire becomes need. As the
energy becomes more and more distorted, need becomes greed.
Martha began working for a large bank in an entry-level position with a
great desire to advance. She was very bright and learned quickly, earning
several promotions in rapid succession. However, as she kept being promoted,
she became somewhat obsessed with climbing the corporate ladder. She basked
in her newfound status and power over other people's career paths, and began
to thrive on those feelings. She became willing to do anything necessary to
ensure her continued promotion and increased power.
What was once healthy ambition had become desperate need, leading to
aggression and manipulation. Her ego craved more and more power at the
expense of others. Only when she was faced with a life-threatening illness
did she realize that she had alienated her closest friends, family members,
and colleagues. Desire, need, and attachment to outcome are important issues
to address so we can be aware of the important inner balance and always
follow the direction of the soul.
Another aspect of this issue is when genuine need becomes neediness. This is
a sign of tremendous weakness, not only in the solar plexus, but in the
lower chakras in general. When people become needy they tend to suck energy
from everyone else around them, refusing to step firmly into their own
power, strength, and life force in order to find sustenance. Rather than
addressing their own issues and learning to provide both the physical and
emotional nurturing that they require, they seek out others who will take
care of them.
In the third chakra (solar plexus) we face the practical challenges and
problems of our lives, and fight our daily battles. The deeper we go in our
work here, the more we realize that the people in our lives are simply
mirrors for us to see and know ourselves. The person who irritates us is
often giving us the gift of showing us a part of ourselves that we don't
particularly like. When we are standing in a place of less awareness, we
tend to create battles and enemies outside ourselves, finding someone or
some situation to fight against. That is the ego's way of coping with inner
conflict. But when we come to the essence of the solar plexus, we realize
that the battles are just the manifestation of what is happening inside, and
that we must go inside to meet our well-disguised dragons. That's where the
real battle lies.
Being rigid in our beliefs and harsh in our judgments only leads to
inflexibility in life. This makes any kind of adjustments to situations and
conditions all the more difficult. When we can become more fully aware of
our inner battles and stop projecting them outside of ourselves, we can more
easily let go of ego judgments and prejudices and come to a place of peace
inside. Then we can more fully realize that a true state of peace does not
necessarily mean the absence of conflict, but is an inner state.
When we achieve an inner state of peace, we can accept conflict around us
and work through it in a gentle and nonjudgmental way, not getting tied up
in our attachments to certain feelings or outcomes.
About the Author
Alan Seale is an ordained Interfaith Minister and spiritual development and
life coach, as well as an established singer and voice teacher to leading
Broadway and opera singers in New York City. He brings a wealth of
experience to his work as an author, teacher, workshop facilitator, and
spiritual/clairvoyant counselor. He has served on the teaching faculties of
Chautauqua Institution, the New York Open Center, Wainwright House, New
York's Learning Annex, and conferences and retreats throughout the United
States. He is the author of Intuitive Living: A Sacred Path as well as On
Becoming a 21st Century Mystic. Visit his website at http://www.mystic21.com
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The deepest hunger of the human
soul is to be understood, to feel
heard, to feel validated ...
The deepest hunger of the human
body is for air. If you can listen to
another person, in depth, until they
feel understood, its the equivalent of
giving them air.
- Steven Covey
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[Edit] Transitional phase -- Chrissie :)*, 01:11:53 06/15/02 Sat [1]
Hi Christy et all,
Christy thx for sharing re Debbie Ford's book; I bought a copy a few weeks ago though haven't had time to read it yet and also bought a couple of her tapes on the same subject. I'm looking forward to eventually reading it.
I'm glad that life is changing for the better for you .... and that you're happier; I'm still in a transitional phase which has lasted a while ... I'm still on the Centerpointe Programme which is working wonders - it's a meditation programme and I'm on about Day 52 or something like that now. I've cleared up a lot of blockages and stuck areas using the programme an hour a day meditating and sometimes needing a bit more. I am a student of life and the Universe loves me despite what is going on around me; I can resist but eventually I will have to learn the lesson(s) (smiles).
I miss us all getting together on the Board like we used to ie with Rosie, Joe, Loz, Rachel, Mae, Jennifer, Rose, Kasia, Carol etc ..... though I'm sure most read in daily plus those other new ones that read but don't post :)*
Michael, I wish you all the best in your new ventures :)*
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
[Edit] Need Some Information and Answers before I Leave Dublin for the UK - just got up to Dublin -- Michael, 17:41:56 06/14/02 Fri [1]
Michael J. Dennis phone/SMS: +353 87 210 89 20
Dear Friends at Lighting the Path,
Thank You for taking the time to read this Posting - I hope that you are all keeping well, and I send You all my Love and Best Wishes.
The situation with my parents and aunt, especially my mother, who is being manipulated by my aunt, using my mothers' mental problems and highly strung nature to control her into "nagging" everyone and also to "play on" her mental problems to make everyone's life a living hell on earth while "covering thier tracks" and "making it look otherwise" has become unberable to the point of my having to quite literally escape to England, as I have had enough - ending up homeless in the UK is far preferable to the crap I have to put up with as I now know that I will never be allowed to be my own person as long as I live in Ireland, even in Dublin or other Irish city, given the fact that my aunt has "put me in a box", kept me from all knowlege and understanding of life as she believes that "a little knowlege is a very dangerous thing" and will do anything, however decietful, to create this as a reality - to be honest, there is so much of your replies, etc, both on this site and also in hayhouse.com that I still do not understand even after 3 years away in Dublin (I'm about 18 months back now, not by choice, and I have not been allowed to adjust, by not being allowed to think, to plan or stand up to or be assertive with them in in any way, whatever that means) and as long as I continue to live in Ireland, I will never be allowed to do so, so all things considered, I would be better off out of Ireland and its crap, if only to make the changes I need to make, as I will never be allowed to be my own person - coming out as gay just made matters far worse, when my aunt made me do so, by threatening me with the local doctor, police seargent, parish priest (Catholic) and anyone else that she knew to "have a little 'talk' with me" in order to carry out her wishes, and on two occassions, she did so, and I was made comply with her orders - thats what you get when you are an only child of parents with mental problems in "Holy Catholic Rural Ireland"
Please dont think that I'm self centred and all a moan, a whinger who only hangs onto the words - if I am coming accross as such im sorry - its just that im not allowed stand up for myself in any way and I have no one else to talk to and I'm not allowed to have friends due to the fact my aunt broke up 2 close friendships in the space of 7 years simply because she does not want me having any friends as it would mean getting out of her control - its her way or no way,and she pretends to be "looking out for me" when in reality, she is not
I need information on living and working in the UK: please, NO gay info sites, as these tend to be strongly pornographic, which, as I am looking at these sites in the Cyber Cafes in Dublin when I get up "to Town", (due to the fact that I dont have my computer set up at home: my aunt confiscated my PC, (as well as the flat) when I wanted to live my life my own way - I was not allowed to object/protest in any way whatsoever) these gay sites do not give me the info i need - I know nothing about living and working in the UK, im doing this "on the wing/ad hoc" as I'm going without telling anyone "Running Away" (not by choice, as it has become unbearable) and with just the clothes on my back: no luggage/belongings, not even my PC, things have got so bad here.
Im taking my mobile phone with me to the UK to recieve text messages and voice calls, so please feel free to SMS me!!!
Hey everybody,
I'm going through lots of positive changes. I just finished reading, "The Secret of the Shadow" by Debbie FOrd. I worked with Debbie on one of the Oprah shows that I was a guest on. She is terrific. I'm learning to live outside the "story" of my past, and live in the moment.
I feel so much more enpowered, serene, and confident.
Letting go of my self-pity regarding my past was amazing.
My writing now comes from a deeper, more soulful place.
Chrissie..I'm continue to send love and light your way regarding your job. Also, I know the heartache of losing a beloved pet. I still miss my Cleveland so much.
Rose, Rosie, Rachel, CarolB, Dee, Laurie, Kasia, Kelly, Marie, Jen the Moonchild, Joe, and everyone else that I might have missed..I hope you all are doing well.
Love and Light,
Christy
[Edit] Traits for Finding a Lifelong Mate by Clarissa Pinkola Estes -- Chrissie :)*, 12:40:30 06/10/02 Mon [1]
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by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
1. Choose someone as though you were blind. Close your eyes and see what
you can FEEL; their kindness, loyalty, insight, devotion, their ability to
be concerned with you, their ability to care for themselves as an
independent being.
2. Choose a person who has the ability to learn, explore new ways of doing
things and perceiving things, who is curious, and who is EVOLVING.
3. Choose someone who is willing to be like you....strong like a tree, but
flexible in the wind. Someone who is sensitive and who has the ability to
see what is around them......who is AWAKE and alert.
4. Chooses someone who when you hurt them, they are willing to show it; and
when they hurt you, they see it and are sorry. COMMUNICATE it within 24
hours. Choose someone who can perceive your pain and feel for you about
it.
5. Choose someone who has an INNER LIFE that they love, who is on their own
journey - and who wants a partner on their own journey.
6. Choose someone who has similar passions as your own. A relationship is
for making similar memories together, doing things TOGETHER - this is the
GLUE of the relationship during hard times. It can be very simple.
7. Choose someone who has similar VALUES about children, money, marriage,
family. This decreases the friction in relationship. These need to be
worked out before there is a long-term commitment. When the pragmatics in
the relationship are mostly taken care of, it is much more easy to SOAR.
8. Choose someone who is COMPASSIONATE, willing and able to listen, who
gives equal time.
9. Choose someone who can LAUGH at themselves, or who can stop an argument
in mid-sentence.
10. Be able to overlook certain faults and characteristics. KNOW WHAT YOU
CAN LIVE WITH. Anything that takes a person away from their soul life, or
not telling the truth, or a person who cannot face you after making a
mistake and who tries to cover it over in a dramatic, large way
instead....this would be starting a relationship on a swamp ground.
11. Be FRIENDS, not just lovers. Are you willing to do for your partner
what you would do for your good friend?
12. ****VERY IMPORTANT*****...WHEN YOU CHOOSE, CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOUR
LIFE BIGGER RATHER THAN SMALLER."
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Take the time every day to chant the name of the Lord.
Take the time to be with yourself, to sit quietly and let
the concerns and distractions of the world fall away. If it
doesn't feel natural to you, keep in mind that there isn't
anyone born on this planet who has a natural taste to sit
down and exercise discipline in this way. It's a taste you
acquire by practice and doing it. As you do it, you become
more and more familiar with it, and then it becomes
natural.
-- John-Roger
From: Walking with the Lord
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The dictionary defines enlightenment as:
to free of ignorance, false belief or prejudice
Until you are willing to be the way you are
- in any given moment -
you can never be happy
-- Ariel & Shya Kane
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by Carlos Warter, M.D., Ph.D.
When we become aware of our story lines -- the things we tell ourselves to
keep from moving forward -- we can use affirmations to make our mental
chatter more fluid.
Affirmations counteract negative story lines with positive words and
feelings. They have the power to instantly cut through negative self-talk
and take us into a place where we can know our inner light.
For example, when something goes wrong, we may say, "This just proves how
stupid I am -- I can never do anything right!" To increase awareness, you
could use an affirmation such as, "Everything I do works out perfectly,
regardless of minor setbacks." After repeating this, your mind-set will
change, and you'll be able to adjust your story line to something like,
"Well, I really blew it that time, but I'll figure out what happened, make
some adjustments, and try again!"
Here are some other possibilities for changing what you say to yourself:
When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about someone else, you
can say, "May I accept all beings as they are," instead of "If only he would
meditate, he'd be all right."
When you find yourself thrown off center by a situation, you can say, "May I
be undisturbed by the comings or goings of events," instead of "I must be
getting old. I just can't take change anymore."
When you find yourself completely fixated in a disagreement, you can say,
"Isn't this funny?" instead of, "If I don't get out of this room right now,
I'm going to die."
When you find yourself unable to go on, you can say, "I have come a long way
and I will keep going, step by step," instead of, "There's no way I can
finish this job today."
When you find yourself beset by anxiety and helplessness about someone
else's well-being, you can say, "I care for you deeply, but I cannot keep
you from suffering," instead of "I'm a terrible parent (or friend)."
When you find that you feel guilty because someone else depends on you and
you can't satisfy their expectations, you can say, "I wish you happiness but
I cannot make your choices for you," instead of, "I'm sorry, I guess I'm a
selfish person. My mother always said so. Anyway, I just don't know how to
help."
When you find yourself pierced by guilt and blame, you can say, "Today marks
a turning point in my life," instead of "Why do I always screw everything
up?"
When you want something that seems impossible to have, you can say, "I have
everything I need to be happy," rather than, "I am such a dunce -- I never
plan ahead."
Once you begin experimenting with positive self-talk, you'll see that it has
an almost infinite variety of forms. And like the sun, moon, and stars, it
has a curious ability to connect you with the brightness in yourself and
others.
This article was excerpted by permission from Carlos Warter's book Pathways
to the Soul, copyright 2000, published by Hay House Inc. www.hayhouse.com
About The Author
Carlos Warter M.D., Ph.D. is a medical doctor, transpersonal spiritual
psychiatrist, lecturer, and pioneer in the field of consciousness raising
and alternative healing. He is the author of Soul Remembers and Who Do You
Think You Are? The Healing Power of Your Sacred Self. Born in Chile, Dr.
Warter has been awarded the United Nations Peace Messenger and the Pax Mundi
awards for his humanitarian efforts. He presents keynote speeches,
workshops, and seminars both in the U.S. and throughout the world. His
website is at www.doctorcarlos.com and his email Heartnet@aol.com.
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http://www.namastecafe.com/
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The deepest hunger of the human
soul is to be understood, to feel
heard, to feel validated ...
The deepest hunger of the human
body is for air. If you can listen to
another person, in depth, until they
feel understood, its the equivalent of
giving them air.
- Steven Covey
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Thanks Serenity!! :)*
[Edit] Boundaries by Marie T Russell -- Chrissie :)*, 12:18:15 06/08/02 Sat [1]
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by Marie T. Russell
Boundaries... barriers... walls... All these words have similar meanings.
They indicate a place where one must stop and go no further. In some cases
boundaries and walls are wonderful. They stop us from falling over the edge
of a cliff, they prevent us from "overstepping" into someone's "space", but
as with all good things, too much of a "good thing" becomes its opposite...
bad.
Many of us, especially women, have read about and been told to put up
boundaries to protect ourselves from abuse. In some cases, this does indeed
afford protection, but in some cases all it does is put up a wall between us
and someone else, between us and our good, between us and discovering
something new.
I called someone the other day on their beeper. They did not recognize my
number, so they called me back not knowing who they were calling... When I
answered "hello" we both hemmed and hawed not wanting to be the first to
divulge our identity. She didn't feel "safe" in being the first to say "this
is so-and-so, you paged me?" and until I knew who it was I didn't feel safe
in saying "This Marie". Her comment was that it was sad that neither of us
felt safe to divulge our identity.
This made me think. How many times do we hold back from revealing our "true
identity" or our "true beliefs" before we feel safe that the other person
will agree with those beliefs, or be on the "same wavelength". This is
especially true in the area of personal beliefs that we are in the process
of changing. We do not feel secure in our new beliefs, so we hold back from
expressing them in case someone will disagree with them, or ridicule us for
them.
While in some cases, that might be wise, in other cases it keeps us from
growing, from discovering other people who also are searching. In 1985, when
I started InnerSelf Magazine as a local magazine in South Florida, many
people said to me that there were not enough people in South Florida that
were interested in personal growth and holistic health to have a viable
advertiser base. I disagreed with them. I knew, and was later proved right,
that there were many people living in the "closet" for fear of "exposing"
themselves. They felt alone in their beliefs -- they believed that they were
the only ones changing and becoming more attuned to their inner self. When
these people discovered the magazine InnerSelf (or any other publication in
the same vein), they realized that they weren't the "only ones" and that
gave them permission to "come out of the closet" and be up front about
themselves... about their beliefs and their dreams.
Are you living in the closet of your mind, of your fears, of your beliefs?
Have you put up walls between yourself and the people around you believing
they wouldn't understand? Are you hiding your truth from the people you work
with, from your family, from the people you meet believing that they
wouldn't accept you if they knew what you "really believed"... that you
believe, perhaps, in such "strange concepts" as communicating with angelic
beings, reincarnation, fasting, healing with the power of thought...
whatever.
The main problem with our hiding behind our walls of safety is that the
people around us do not get to benefit from our experience, from our newly
acquired knowledge. Now, I'm not talking here about becoming a "preacher"
trying to convert anyone and everyone to your new beliefs... whether it be a
new diet, a new belief, or a new way of behaving. Sharing our truth with
others is not about trying to convince them... it is about being honest with
ourselves and with others. And yes, sometimes it can be scary.
Yet, if all the previous people who had new ideas and concepts had refused
to share them with the world, we'd still be living without electricity,
thinking the world is flat, and walking everywhere instead of flying or
driving. While your new beliefs and knowledge may not be as "earth
shattering" as inventing the airplane, it may be very important to the
person you share it with. We never know when sharing with someone from our
heart will make a huge difference in their life. Sometimes they may have
been waiting for a "clue" to guide them in a new direction, and your words
help support their decision. While that is a weighty "responsibility", we
are not responsible for what people do with our sharing. We simply share
because of an inner need to express what we feel is "our truth", and the
other person then takes that information and applies it to their life... or
they don't. That is not our responsibility, it is not our choice. But if we
hold back and don't speak up, we are robbing the other person of the
opportunity of making that choice.
So many times, people say to me that the articles I write speak directly to
them... That is perhaps because I am not writing to convince anyone... I am
simply sharing the "newest" thought that's become clear to me... It's not a
"new thought" at all... but to me it is newly "clear"... and perhaps to
someone else it is new, or perhaps they simply needed reminding. We never
know when our truth is exactly what is needed at the time. Yet is we remain
behind our boundary of safety, then everyone misses out. We miss out on
sharing and giving light and love, and the other person misses out on
receiving.
Now of course, one must respect other people's boundaries, but, we also must
trust that sometimes those boundaries needs a little stretching. We all tend
to be very attached to our "comfort zone". Yet, many times growth comes to
us when we have been shaken from that comfort zone. Sometimes we are the
ones being shaken, and sometimes we are the ones shaking others... gently of
course. We do not need to convince or convert anyone, we simply need to be
honest about our truth. If someone says something that you disagree with, or
that you have a "higher perspective" on that "truth", then perhaps it is
your duty to share it... to let your light shine on that truth.
How else do we learn except by being exposed to a different perspective, to
information we were not familiar with? We are all teachers and students. I
learn from you and you learn from me. In the same vein, you learn
(hopefully) from the people in your life, and they have the opportunity to
learn from you as well. Sometimes we learn from people's mistakes, sometimes
from their examples, but always we have the opportunity to look around us
and see "little mirrors" of ourselves. We are all "in the same boat" and if
we start learning from each other and sharing what we have learned with
others, perhaps we can get to where we're going faster.
If everyone lives isolated behind their boundary, then each and every one of
us has to reinvent the wheel... rather than benefiting from the fact that
someone else discovered the concept and we get to apply it to our lives.
I encourage all of us to start peeking out from behind our boundaries... We
may find that we all have been living lonely existences behind those walls,
and that when we "come out" we have a whole group of people who also are
waiting to "come out" when they see they're not alone. A good anthem for all
of us may be the old song that goes "This little light of mine, I'm going to
let it shine. This little light of mine...".
According to the book "Cultural Creatives" we are over 50 million strong
wanting to create change in the world... We can do it... Let your light
shine and help bring those changes about sooner... Your light can help
"enlighten up" someone else, and so on and so forth...
We can do it! All together now: "This little light of mine, I'm going to let
it shine..."
About The Author
Marie T. Russell is the publisher of InnerSelf Magazine (first published in
1985 originally as Mighty Natural Magazine) and The Natural Yellow Pages
(1987-2002). She produced a weekly South Florida radio broadcast, Inner
Power, from 1991-1995 which focused on themes such as self-esteem, personal
growth, and well-being. Her articles focus on transformation and
reconnecting with our inner source of joy and creativity. Marie can be
reached at marie@innerself.com with personal comments and feedback, or to be
placed on a mailing list to be advised when her book becomes available.
http://www.innerself.com
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The deepest hunger of the human
soul is to be understood, to feel
heard, to feel validated ...
The deepest hunger of the human
body is for air. If you can listen to
another person, in depth, until they
feel understood, its the equivalent of
giving them air.
- Steven Covey
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Heya all ... still going through some turbulence and felt the need to affirm, share and be witnessed ... sharing from Thich Nhat Hahn's book "Being Peace" .... pg 100 - part of the Mindfulness Trainings of the Order of Interbeing:
Fourteenth: (For lay members) Aware that sexual relations motivated by craving cannot dissipate the feeling of loneliness but will create more suffering, frustration, and isolation, we are determined not to engage in sexual relations without mutual understanding, love and a long term commitment. In sexual relations, we must be aware of future suffering that may be caused. We know that to preserve the happiness of ourselves and others, we must respect the rights and commitments of ourselves and others. We will do everything in our power to protect children from sexual abuse and to protect couples and families from being broken by sexual miscnduct. We will treat our bodies with respect and preserve our vital energies (sexual, breath, spirit) for the realisation of our bodhisattva ideal. We will be fully aware of the responsibility of bringing new lives into the world and will meditate on the world into which we are bringing new beings.
... The second reason is that sexual energy had to be preserved for meditation. In the religious and medical traditions of Asia, the human person was said to have three sources of energy: sexual, breath and spirit. Sexual energy is what you spend during sexual intercourse. Breath energy is the kind of energy you spend when you talk too much and breathe too little. Spirit energy is energy that you spend when you worry too much and do not sleep well. If you spend these three sources of energy, your body will not be strong eneough to penetrate deeply into reality and realise the Way. Buddhist monks observed celibacy not because of moral admonition but to conserve energy. Someone on a long fast knows how important it is to preserve these three sources of energy....
The Fourteenth Mindfullness Training urges us to respect our own body and to maintain our energy for the realisation of the Way. Not only meditation but any efforts that are required to change the world require energy. We should take good care of ourselves.
Per usual, take what you need and let the rest go ... I just needed to hear this stuff for myself .... :)*
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^
The Long Road Turns to Joy
A Guide to Walking Meditation
by Thich Nhat Hahn
Practicing When Angry When anger arises, walking meditation can be very
helpful. Try reciting this verse as you walk:
Breathing in, I know that anger is in me.
Breathing out, I know this feeling is unpleasant. [And then, after a while]: Breathing in, I feel calm.
Breathing out, I am now strong enough to take care of this anger
Until you are calm enough to look directly at the anger; just
enjoy your breathing, your walking, and the beauties of the
outdoors. After a while, the anger will subside and you will feel
strong enough to look directly at it, to try to understand its
causes,and to begin the work of transforming it
I'm glad to hear you've moved in well and are settling in; and also that your second book is on its way. Any more appearances on the Oprah Show?
Work is not so great - same old problems which I can't really go into on the net as it's a public forum and I don't want work looking in and using it against me ... I'm healing and using the tools I have - there are other issues as well which need healing and I'm just going through some turbulence at the moment which will settle. All is happening at the right time, space and sequence. I did ask for voluntary redundancy but was turned down (sniffles). You'd think they'd be glad to see me go - but no, they want me to walk instead of paying me my dues :)*
It was Angel Indi's 1st anniversary yesterday - it was a sad day leading up to the moment as memories flashed past and it was hard. I miss Indi a lot and I do feel guilty for loving the new kitties (girls) who will never replace him. I did feel Indi's presence sleeping on my chest at night and coming up for his cuddles and I also felt the bed move which spooked me some .... I tried not to think about Indi's passing too much and tried to concentrate on the good times ... I light a candle in his memory and sent him my love and light via distant Reiki ....
Question: My question is around preparing loved ones for the passing of my mother. The roller coaster of cancer is taking its toll. I desperately need guidance on how to talk to my teenage daughters and other family members about letting go. I believe that life does go on when one leaves this world but I see and feel the pain that my family is experiencing. Even for myself, it is difficult to let her chose to leave.
I am also being faced with a more difficult task and that is to respect her choice to be cremated. I have blinders on and am struggling to visualize the participation of this event. Any insights or guidance that you can share would be greatly appreciated. I have searched for the answers within and my heart and soul will not let allow them to come through.
I thank you in advance for your time.
Alana's Answer: Hello, dear one. Alana is so delighted to hear from you. It is wonderful that you have been enjoying Alana's answers for such a long time.
After reading your question, Alana would like to respond on a few different topics. First let's begin with the different members of your family and how they may process the transition of your mother in their own way.
One of the gifts you can extend to your family members is helping them with some exploration. You can ask them questions like:
How are you feeling?
What is difficult for you?
Where do you feel mother may go once she leaves her body?
In other words, explore and discuss what is happening with your mother in a very open and loving way. As you listen to their answers in a nonjudgmental way, you will help them identify their thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. It is a wonderful way to help nurture and support them. Your dialogue will help them prepare for the experience of your mother passing over.
Dear one, the best way to support is to share by asking questions that help to them draw out their beliefs and their incompletions. Perhaps this will also help them identify the things they might also want to engage and share with their grandma.
Now let's talk about what the family and friends who remain in the physical may experience when a person they love moves to the other side. When someone we love passes, there is a certain void that takes place in one's nature. It is a kind of emptiness that occurs. This emptiness can sometimes create quite a bit of discomfort when a person has not had the opportunity to complete their communications; to say the things that they feel and to come to terms with their beliefs about the death of the body.
When we have issues such as these, this empty space, this void, can be much more grief-filled and grounded in sadness, separation, and loss. When there are completions and deeper levels of connection, along with an awareness of spirit, this void can actually become the space for creativity. It can create a space in one's nature that can feel a lot like the conceptual phase in creativity. The void can become a space that allows energy to "simmer." This space can eventually transform into a life-force-like energy, which can perpetuate great amounts of growth, a creative dynamic in one's human process.
When a loved one departs, often the void that is created becomes a depository of many different gifts. After a period of gestation, these gifts actualize into great awareness, creative movement, and a lot of felt-sense love. When individuals have not taken a look at their views on death and dying, and transformation and loss, and perhaps have not had opportunity to create types of completions, then this void experience can translate into a deep longing. It becomes an opportunity for an individual to delve deeper into their soul and discover in-depth what their soul really is.
Both experiences of the void can definitely be full and rich, and serve the individual. The latter (separation and incompletion) is more difficult and definitely has deeper senses of pain. The fore (connection and completion) is still painful, but the pain is blended with knowingness and deeper connection to one's heart.
When you talk with your family members, nurture them along a bit to have their conversations with their grandmother and talk about the things that are on their mind. Help them open up their hearts and to also discover some of their beliefs around this transitional time.
I also want to add that we are so much more than our bodies. We are our soul, spirit, and our heart expression, which continues to go on after death. This is because it always was and always will be eternal. The only aspect of our nature that we shed is our physical body and the objectives of our physical body while it is alive. We take with us our stored memory. We take with us our thoughts, our love, and our connectedness to those for whom we care. May this awareness comfort all of your family as you support your dear mother in her transition.
Now I will answer your question about cremation. I know that this whole subject matter about the "shell" (body) that is left here on earth when a loved one departs, is a matter that is very hard to deal with for some people. The body is a reminder that your loved one is no longer with you in physical expression; that you cannot touch and feel their physical presence.
On another level, it is a reminder that your loved one is still connected with you, for their spirit is still alive. However, part of the difficulty with cremation for some people is that it seems like such finality. A person can feel as if there is nothing left to hold on to in the physical that is a representation of that person's physical life.
I want to impress upon you to open your eyes and look around. You will see your mother is still present, and will always be present, for your mother is not just her body--she is so much more. Your mother is all the memories you have in your heart. She is all the manifestations that she has left behind. When you look at the garden, and perhaps the things she has planted, you are connecting with her presence. When you look at the way you have grown to be who you are, or when you look at your family and see extensions of her, you are reminded that she lives on. Even if the body is cremated, it is really just a way to release and allow the shell to transform back into the elements of nature in a very free and natural way.
When you consider the choices between cremation and burial, the different forms of transformation in this way are rooted in different belief systems. Some people have religious preferences. They may believe that when they place someone in the ground that may help them to resurrect. Yet there are other spiritual preferences that believe in cremation, for they see this approach as a way to release their departed loved ones to the heavens. Through the ashes they depart, and this process allows the spirit to soar.
What Alana wishes to express is that there are many beliefs regarding how to dispose of the shell. No matter how the body or shell is prepared, their spirit is already soaring. The departed one does not need to view their loved one's at a gravesite to connect to them. They do not need a physical space to find their way back here to visit.
Allowing the body to release is more about the living than it is about the departed. My sense is that part of the thoughts and feelings you are having about cremation may be more about releasing the finality of what is before you as your mother chooses to leave this world.
Hopefully this answer has helped you to understand the process of a loved one's departure from the physical world, so you can come to a peaceful place in understanding your mother's wishes.
Thank you, dear one, for this meaningful question.
Chrissie..I thought of you last night when I saw pictures of the Queen riding through London in her majestic coach. I'm so glad that the celebration went off without any trouble. Did you go to any events connected with the jubilee?
I love the new townhouse. I'm getting a lot of excercise going up and down the stairs. My daughter loves the swimming pool and her friends live near.
I'm working on my second book after recovering from the move..No news on the first book yet.
Chrissie..How is the job situation? I've been sending you lots of light especially with the anniversary of Indie's passing. I miss my Cleveland so much..
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