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Hi every one hello chrissie. -- Rose., 18:42:50 08/17/01 Fri [1]

hi chrissie,yes its over and I fee great! At first I felt like I was going to die,I cry lots a tears ,behave like a teenager! for a while know im getting my real me back to be do what I love ,I will try hard to stay on my foot, my ex-was loving but I was not leaving I was dying inside and was not his fault. I gave him all of me for the sake of our unity,and my son.I love really him but we are different! I love to be out doing art wok of any level that I know brings income he want me to settle and work in a job that I know I got no business in.so I was wife hand on foot and I began to strike out in depression,living two lives the with in calling me ,itching every part of my soul,part of me was dying in vain. finally I gave in and I start to get out of that box and was nurturing my child,the minute I felt empower the walls collapse,once I remember seen a rare bird in early morning as I walk to get fresh air and my guts, told me another change in my life but were! the two baby dove,in my other house meant moving, to anew area or ect.. the king fisher,black bird,black and white baby bird! were all messages that I have know proven to what has happen ! I will never ,ever going to doubt my self on what I always known because I end it up been right any way's in what I was scared to reveal for been put down or call weird! or what ever! so I keep my self silence but I will listen better so I don;t make the same mistake again! live and learn! know Im staying with my son's grandpa! me and him get along we are both taurus soo we work on our little differences which is not much! and go on! with live the beauty of all is that I found you all to be my support of you chrissie the learning of our teachers in spiritual level kept a spark of light as I was frozen in heaven in dark times of my soul. on days That I thought life was never be , I saw faith and the soft cold breeze in my head,
I know life can be hard! but sometimes I found out I have put my self in situation for the reason I was forcing to believe that I was not to deserve the love that exist in our reality,the battle yet is not over but I put my whole being in to god;s hand. and receive the gift that for ever was there.Im beginning in a sense to really let go,to resist is to die,to deny is to lie, to lie its to confused your self,to be confused is to be ill!






Oh guess What I was pick out of thousadnd of people to release my poem in a cd.lebel. unspoken,the silence with in and is clasified as an anthology, one time I was surfing and just wrote the poem in on minute! I never thought they would be intersted at all on what I wrote and they want it me to relesed a concet form to be aligebal in a contest but I never send the concent back cause I thought it was a joke,I wrote 3 more poemm and they still loved the first one I sent,so they are encouraging to keep on writting I guess they see some talent in my writting ! and I never saw my self as a writter but with my bad spelling who could of known ,I show my work to a friend of mine and he could not belive I was capable to do such things ,because I never really show my work to anyone ,only when Im not thinking I do! well that all for know.


the puppy is a a friend of mine for the time been,I really don't like been with out her,when I see her she goes crazy ,and when I live she cry's,Im really hurt by that,sometimes I feel like I want to cry cause I just want to be near her,shes my love,and know I got to try to find a place to have her living with me.



so long for know, love and light Rose.



ps.wish me luck on my seach for a new frinend,or called love.
but im not looking for a serious relation ship yet,Im just looking more for a friend or a difrent out look,need to go out sometimes,its been too long since I had any fun! so of speak! and Im going on my first date this saturday or next weekend!

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positive! -- Rose, 17:29:22 08/17/01 Fri [1]

August 17, 2001

TODAY'S POSITIVE THOUGHT:

Think kind thoughts and you will receive
kindness from others.

TODAY'S POSITIVE AFFIRMATION:

Today I AM thinking kind thoughts about
others.

TODAY'S POSITIVE VISUALIZATION:

As I close my eyes, I open my heart and mind
in kindness to others. As I connect to the
kindness that is inherent in me, I realize it
is a magnetic force that attracts goodness back
to me. I go through my day easily allowing kindness
to infuse all my interactions. In my mind's eye, I
see the kindness I share with others returning to me
and filling up my well of goodwill. I give thanks
that I have an endless capacity for kindness to all
others in my world. I combine these thoughts and
images with a feeling of joy and let them go.

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Bliss list Rianne - ahhhh! -- Chrissie :)*, 21:07:40 08/16/01 Thu [1]

Hi Rianne (smiles) - readiang your relaxation list made me feel all bliss and comforted - it's wonderful! Where do you live by the way - I know its in England and obviously not London! (grins). Sounds divine! Thx for sharing your wonderful relaxing blissful list with us! Ahhhhh! Our posts crossed (smiles).

Re the angels you type in a ( then then ô (which is an Alt key + 0244 on your numeric keyboard) then / and then ). Hopefully that should help and you get (ô/) (ô/) (ô/) angels !!

Must dash (smiles)
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* (ô/)

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Dear Rosie -- Chrissie :)*, 21:00:08 08/16/01 Thu [1]

Dear Rosie et all

That was a great story to share (thx) re the spiders and stilettos etc - I can just imagine it (grins).

I'm sorry to hear about your fibroid tumor Rosie. What exactly is it and whatever it is I hope it is non malignant. What have the doctors advised about it? Yes it's sad but our bodies do pay the price for our mental and emotional turmoil; like me with my leaky gut, ie where food leaks out into my blood; and I get the hives attack etc. I did read somewhere that it can cause stomach cancer if not treated. I thought that you had been healing quietly but surely on your own with friends and family etc (I do apologise for not being able to keep in touch as much as we used to, things for me this year have been so hectic with Indi and his cancer treatments and work issues etc and my own health issues, and two websites to run etc etc ... it's all been overwhelming). Apart from continuing to love yourself through your condition, I hope you'll be using Reiki to heal it and perhaps use affirmations and visualisations etc to help heal .... I can recommend quite a few of Bernie Siegel's tapes for healing self .... visualisation is key ...

Yes I'll send you my address again and will post the photos either on the new photo album in the next few days or when I'm off on Sabbatical in 3 weeks time. I'd like to spend a couple of days or longer working on the site to do some housekeeping etc and tidy things up and put the music back on! The websites are clamping down on everything these days! Haven't heard from Joe in a while .... it's sad that we missed each other when you were in London, it was just crazy that it happened to be when Indi was in 'hospital' and about to cross over that you came down to London. It was one of the hardest times of my life; though I'm coping better now that I've been watching John Edwards's Crossing Over on tv daily as he gives such comfort that our loved ones are still 'alive' so to speak and happy and healthy, and involved in our every day lives continually and are around us always and waiting to be reunited with us again when we ourselves cross over. I know Indi is with me daily and that gives me such comfort. I feel his energy and presence and at times still hear him meowing.

Life does have a strange way of making us sit up and take notice.

Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^

Disease
My dis-ease is a valuable teacher

It is natural that I am healthy. It is natural that I am flexible, able to learn new things easily, to laugh, to change, and to grow. Dis-ease is related to a resistance to flowing with life in some area, and to the inability to forgive. I look at dis-ease as if it is a personal teacher that comes to help me on my pathway to greater understanding. Life all teachers, it is a stepping stone and when I learn the lesson, I move on to the next phase of my healing. Every person on the planet is involved in healing their life in some area. I help my body, my mind, and my spirit live healthfully by creating a loving atmosphere around myself. It is my body and my mind and I am in charge.

I lovingly create perfect health for myself.

Louise Hay
Meditations To Heal Your Life
Pg 63


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New to this..... -- Rianne, 20:51:21 08/16/01 Thu [1]

I really like this site Chrissie ---- it's a lovely place to "visit" and you all sound soooo nice! By the way ---- how do you do the angels ---- (/o) ---- that's my best effort! [Chrissie knows me and I'm not that clever with this PC!!].

I was just thinking tonight that isn't it sometimes the really ordinary & simple things in life that give the most pleasure? Soooo, as I'm not sure what to talk about ---- or what I should be talking about here ---- I thought I'd list some of my "de-stressers" ---- things I do when I feel I want to "unwind" [which is most of the time!]. Bear with me, or scroll past [hee!]. My "Sound of Music" [favourite things!].

1. Lighting my incense sticks or scented candles.

2. "Gathering" my lavender or bunches of sweet peas from my garden.

3. Soaking in a lovely hot, lavender scented bath with just candlelight and Gregorian chant playing.

4. Settling down on a stormy winter's evening, curtains drawn, hot chocolate, lighting a big crackling log fire and me all cosy in my PJ's and slippers. Bliss!

5. Baking some bread, cookies, coffee & walnut or a gooey chocolate cake!

6. A long walk by the sea or moorland near my home.

7. Buying a new tapestry or some yarn to knit and settling down to begin it.

8. Making a huge pot of yummy [hopefully!] soup or broth.

9. Adding new additions to my herb garden ---- to date there is thyme, rosemary, lavender, spearmint, lemon balm, sage, chives and chamomile. All worth growing just for the fragrance!

Better go, I've rambled enough I guess! Love to everyone! Rianne.

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hello -- rosie, 00:35:13 08/16/01 Thu [1]

Dearest Chrissie, Jen, CarolB, Christy, Joe, Rose, Rachel and all others at the path.

I am sorry to hear about your ex Rose, sending you a big cyber hug. I havent written in a while as i am doing my own spring cleaning as i call it.

Christy and Chrissie- Spiders horrible i hate them. My girlfriend and i once stopped all this traffic whilst this huge spider was in her car. Unfortunately we dont mess around with them here in Australia as we have the most venoumous spider in the world.
We also had another funny incident with a spider, my girlfriend parked in this luxurious car park and there we were two well dressed ladies with stilletto shoes and we both got our shoes off trying to get rid of this spider off the car's bonnett. But wait there is more the security guard seeing this episode on his monitor come in the aid of a broom. I just stood back as my girlfriend in her stilletto and the guard with the broom were shooing the spider away and in the end we never did find out where the spider disappeared to.

I have gone through the emotional ringer and now i am faced with the health problems. I was terribly sick with the flu just days before my birthday and then only to find out that i have a large fibroid tumour in my stomach which is pressing on my right kidney. I have read up as much as i can and yet i am not shocked that i have got something like this after the emotional roller coaster year i have had.

Yes its seems as we go on that the lessons seems to hit us faster and faster. I have said to myself when is this girl going to get a break. Instead of feeling sorry for myself i am enjoying just doing things and loving myself, which is something that in the past year i havent done.

I am very lucky to be surrounded by a loving family and some close friends who have been so supportive of me during the last year.

I send lots of love to you all and once again even though i dont write as much i still from time to time come to the page and i would hate to see it close down.

You have done a great job Chrissie. I have also the photos of our trip together last year and can you send me your address again as my christmas card to you was returned. I am sure that i have written something wrong.


Much love to you all. Thinking of everyone.

Ciao
Rosie

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Christy and Rose -- Chrissie :)*, 21:17:51 08/15/01 Wed [1]

Hi Rose, I'm so glad you finally posted; I was beginning to worry about you. I'm sorry to hear that you're having probs with your ex; and that you had to move out with your son. Life was going so well as well for you. Who has the puppy? How are you feeling and doing? What are your plans now? Are you still in touch with your ex or is it over for good? Sending you love, light, and lots of (((hugs))) and angels (ô/) (ô/) to watch over you and your son at this trying time.

Christy, oh dearie! What a time you've been having. Stung by bees and almost attacked by a poisonous spider! You have been through a trying time indeed. Oooooohhhh! Yes I'm glad that your guardian angels were looking over you and protecting you even though you did get bitten; though they were still there. Lots of lessons in there for us huh! Life is too short and we could be taken away at any time and lots of stuff we worry about is trivia compared to the gift of life itself.

As Louise says we come here to learn to expand our capacity to love ourselves and to love ourselves in spite of what happens to us, and to love others and expand our capacity to love others.

Some good news from me ... I have finally gotten the Sabbatical leave that I requested when Angel Indi crossed and should be taking it in 3 weeks time. I aim to do some web-mastering and getting some stuff to order here, like I did last year when I was off with my broken bones. I'll put the photo album together and try and fix the music on the site etc and fix the chat room as well ... I lost my password and can't find it!

Love & Light & Divine Protection to all
Chrissie :)* & Angel Indi, Chico, Mogwie and Kaycie

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moved on -- Rose, 18:56:40 08/15/01 Wed [1]

hi chrissie,how are you girl!
yep I moved again and this time was a surprised
one morning I get up,my ex-taking a shower and his mother telling me she never went
to sleep the other night,I smelled something fishy.
then my ex-I loved that word ex he!he. well he tells me that he could not pay the half of the rent that he was broke
and we need it to move out,I flip out! and call him every name in the book even calling him mamas boy! cuause he did not have any back bone to tell me the truth before and I was making plans so on plus my son he got hurt in the processes of his devious desision, theres more to it,but Im not going to go there cause just thinking about makes me very mad. well know im staying with my son grandpa! and I see to move againg on my own, I moved on and Im okey theres to many fish on the sea! for me to be strung out on one bad fish! he!he! me and my living drama when does it end.!!! well chrissie Im glad I have you guys your all my inspiration and I have learn a lot from here! so not everything is lost! take care Love and Light Rose.

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Grateful to be healthy & alive -- Christy, 18:38:56 08/15/01 Wed [1]

Hey everybody,

Chrissie..I'm so glad you didn't get bit by the spider.
Last week, a huge brown spider with a black dot on his back started crawling across the bathroom floor. It scared me so bad because he was so big. I killed him & looked him up in the book, it was a brown recluse spider, very poisonous.

Last Monday (a few days before the spider) I accidentally ran over a yellow jacket wasp nest with the lawn mower.
I was bitten by 18 yellow jackets. I'm so glad that I didn't go into an allergic shock, because I would have died.
The pain was so bad a few hours later that I screamed and hollered. My daughter was so afraid. I had called the nurse at the doctor's office. She said to take bendadryl and Tylenol. Well, she should have told me to go to the emergency room, because the pain from that many bites became too much to bear a few hours later. Only God got me through it.

I think my Higher Power or the Universe is trying to tell me something because the previous two weeks I got poison ivy and food poisoning.

I'm back on my 40 day Prosperity Plan.

Rachel..I hope you had a wonderful time in Austria.

Rose, Rosie, CarolB, Joe, Jen I miss seeing you all post.

I'm feeling positive these days. I know that whatever happens that good will result.

Love,
Christy

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Anger -- Chrissie :)*, 21:44:15 08/14/01 Tue [1]


Subj: Lightworkers - Listening to Anger

Listening to Anger

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"Anger is fuel. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break
something, throw a fit, smash a fist into the wall, tell those bastards. But
we are nice people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury
it, block it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it muffle it, ignore it. We do
everything but listen to it.
"Anger is meant to be listened to. Anger is a voice, a shout, a plea, a
demand. Anger is meant to be respected. Why? Because anger is a map. Anger
shows us what our boundaries are. Anger shows us where we want to go. It
lets us see where we've been and lets us know when we haven't liked it.
Anger points the way, not just the finger. In the recovery of a blocked
artist, anger is a sign of health.

"Anger is meant to be acted upon. It is not meant to be acted out. Anger
points the direction. We are meant to use anger as fuel to take the actions
we need to move where our anger points us. With a little thought, we can
usually translate the message that our anger is sending us."

Julia Cameron in The Artist's Way

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In the excerpt above, Julia Cameron makes several useful points about anger.
For some of us anger is a habit, a defense, or something to fear. For most
of us, in the best case, anger is an emotion we manage. Cameron suggests
that anger is something valuable. It is fuel. It is a source of information.
It gives direction. When you understand your anger you know more about what
you care about, and maybe what you fear.
Mishandled, anger is destructive. Used properly it can be a spur to action.
We want to right the wrong, so our anger, when listened to, can move us
along. How can we use anger for the good? We must be wise. We must be
sensitive. We must know our own hearts and minds. We must be in contact with
our own energy. We must know when we are losing control of ourselves. To be
useful to a right thinking person, anger must be connected with non-violent
action. It must be empowering, not destructive.

Practice:

Here are some questions to ask yourself about your way of handling anger:

What kinds of things make me angry?
Is my anger chronic?
Am I angry at the same things over and over again?
Can I change these things or change my response to them?
How do I feel about my anger?
Am I uncomfortable with it?
Do I fear it?
What can I learn from my anger?
Does it have a message for me?
Does my anger show me where I want to go with my life?
Do I act out my anger by striking out?
Or do I act on my anger to change my responses?
Can I experience anger without losing touch with wisdom?
Can I experience anger without losing my compassion?
How can I transform my anger into empowerment?


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Native American Wisdom :)

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The Seven Sacred Prayers

O Great Spirit, who art before all else and who dwells in every
object, in every person and in every place, we cry unto Thee. We
summon Thee from the far places into our present awareness.

O Great Spirit of the North, who gives wings to the waters of the
air and rolls the thick snowstorm before Thee, Who covers the Earth
with a sparkling crystal carpet above whose deep tranquillity
every sound is beautiful. Temper us with strength to withstand
the biting blizzards, yet make us thankful for the beauty which
follows and lies deep over the warm Earth in its wake.

O Great Spirit of the East, the land of the rising Sun, Who holds
in Your right hand the years of our lives and in Your left the
opportunities of each day. Brace us that we may not neglect our
gifts nor lose in laziness the hopes of each day and the hopes of each
year.

O Great Spirit of the South, whose warm breath of compassion
melts the ice that gathers round our hearts, whose fragrance
speaks of distant springs and summer days, dissolve our fears,
melt our hatreds, kindle our love into flames of true and living
realities. Teach us that he who is truly strong is also kind, he who
is wise tempers justice with mercy, he who is truly brave matches
courage with compassion.

O Great Spirit of the West, the land of the setting Sun, with Your
soaring mountains and free, wide rolling prairies, bless us with
knowledge of the peace which follows purity of striving and the
freedom which follows like a flowing robe in the winds of a
well-disciplined life. Teach us that the end is better than the
beginning and that the setting sun glorifies not in vain.

O Great Spirit of the heavens, in the day's infinite blue and amid the
countless stars of the night
season, remind us that you are vast,
that you are beautiful and majestic beyond all of our knowing or
telling, but also that you are no further from us than the tilting
upwards of our heads and the raising of our eyes.

O Great Spirit of Mother Earth beneath our feet, Master of metals,
Germinator of seeds and the
Storer of the Earth's unreckoned
resources, help us to give thanks unceasingly for Your present bounty.

O Great Spirit of our souls, burning in our heart's yearning and in our
innermost aspirations, speak to us now and always so that we
may be aware of the greatness and goodness of Your gift of life and be
worthy of this priceless privilege of living.

©1996 Noel Knockwood, B.A. Elder


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"So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.
Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and
Demand that they respect yours.
Love your life,
perfect your life,
Beautify all things in your life.
Seek to make your life long and
Its purpose in the service of your people.

Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great
divide. Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a
friend, Even a stranger, when in a lonely place.
Show respect to all people and Bow to none.
When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the food and
For the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks,
The fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and no living thing,
For abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its
vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts
Are filled with fear of death, so that when their time comes
They weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over
again In a different way. Sing your death song and die like a
hero going home."

-- Tecumseh, Shawnee

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"While living I want to live well. I know I have to die sometime, but even
if the heavens were to fall on me I want to do what is right. There is only
one God looking down on us
all. We are all children of the one God. God is listening to me.
The sun, the darkness, the winds, all are listening to what we now say..."

-- Geronimo

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"We sang the songs that carried in their melodies all the sounds of
nature -- the running waters, the sighing of winds, and the calls of the
animals. Teach these to your children that they may come to love nature as
we love it."
Grand Council Fire of American Indians

http://www.whitestareagle.com/natlit/natlit.htm


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Boundaries -- Chrissie :)*, 20:26:55 08/14/01 Tue [1]

Hi all,

Rianne, great to see you post here (smiles). Rachel, yeah, I know how it goes ie everyone is busy, myself included; and this place is nice to come to to visit and see who's been and who's shared etc; though I guess of late most of us have come here to read and haven't had time to post ... life does go whooosh now (grins) - I wish it would slow down - I do remember the days when I was younger and it dragged and dragged and I couldn't wait to grow up! Look at me now (grins).

Shocking thing happened to me while driving home from work this evening - every driver's nightmare! A huge huge big spider and I mean huge crawled up my windscreen from outside the car. I quickly wound up my driver's side window and would you believe it - yup, the big huge spider came in the other side of the car window which was open a little as it was so hot this evening. Yikes! I cringed and cringed and couldn't drive and kept looking down and driving and looking down and the spider got closer and closer, like it knew it couldn't come near me and yet wanted to. I tried to send it Reiki to go out the window but it only came closer to me and I shrieked and debated whether or not to stop the car mid traffic and jump out and get rid of the spider! I blew it away, and it came back crawling up the floor and up to the gear sticks - shrieks!! The traffic kept moving and I kept driving and looking and couldn't take it anymore and picked up a tissue and euuuuuwwwww, tried to flick the huge spider away from me. It curled up in a ball and I was sad cos I didn't want to hurt it .... or kill it. It kept coming towards me and I couldn't take it anymore and cringed and gently grabbed it up in the tissue - euuuwwww, and threw it out the window (whew!). It was still alive as I didn't hold it hard - the thought that I held that spider gave me the creepy crawlies! Euuuuwwwww! The rest of the journey back was spent cringing and thinking spiders were in the car. At least I didn't kill it or harm it (whew!).

Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^


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Date: 14/08/01 09:22:26 GMT Daylight Time
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In this issue:
1. Welcome
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3. Relationship and dating help here
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Welcome to the Relationship Coach Newsletter, and welcome to
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Last week's article on boundaries received a great response.
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Advanced Boundary-Setting

Last week you found out what boundaries are and how to set
them. To look at last week's article, go to
www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter10to19/newsletter__13.shtml

Are you holding back from letting others know where you draw
the line, from setting your personal boundaries? The following
points may be just the inspiration you need to set your
boundaries and start getting more good stuff out of your
relationships.

=> Good, decent people set boundaries.
In fact, the more boundaries you set, the more you are being
good to others and yourself. Establishing boundaries makes you a
safe person. People know where they stand with you.

=> Generous people set boundaries.
If you do not have boundaries, you are essentially giving
yourself away. With boundaries, you give only what you want,
which means you can afford to be generous to more people over
longer period of time.

=> To be effective, try to relate to others.
If you want people close to you to consistently respect your
boundaries, try to understand why they are crossing them. If you
can, make it easy to respect your boundaries by giving them what
they need. For example, does your mother call you incessantly
because she worries about you? What kind of information can you
share with her to make her worry less?

=> Boundaries allow people around you to grow.
When you set boundaries, it makes others conscious of their
behavior. This fosters their own growth. Your boundaries can
actually improve other people's lives.

=> Boundaries help you get more of what you want, and less of
what you don't.
Boundaries can be used not only to protect you from unwanted
behavior, but also to foster behavior you desire and need.
Figure out what you need from others to thrive, and then ask for
what you want and accept nothing less.

=> Stick to your guns.
In order for boundaries to be a reality in your life and not
just a nice concept, you must be aware and willing to act
consistently. You must have a commitment to uphold what is right
and true for you.

=> Practice makes perfect.
Learning how to set boundaries and how to have only what you
want in your life takes time and practice. It will feel awkward
at first. People may not like what you are saying. But keep
practicing and communicating. You will get better, more skilled,
and more graceful.

=> Enjoy the benefits of boundary-setting:

*Freedom from fear and pain

*Increased self-esteem and self-respect

*More respect of and from others

*Contribution to the well-being of others' lives

*Finally have a life that you love


Go out and practice. Your life and relationships will blossom
from it!

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

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While it's possible to improve your ability to attract a
partner or improve your current relationship just by reading
this newsletter, you'll probably find it a bit easier and a lot
more fun if you let me help you. For more information, see below
or visit www.WhatItTakes.com.


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3. Find the help you need to get the relationship of your dreams
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Do you know how to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right, how to build
a great relationship and make it last? If not, I can help you
get the skills you need to get the love you want. My name is
Rinatta Paries and I have coached hundreds of singles and people
in relationships to create the relationships they have always
wanted.

Here are two options:

***Get help with your most pressing relationship concerns --
schedule a ProblemSolver(tm) session with me. For more info, go
to www.whatittakes.com/Coaching/samplecoaching.html.

***Create breakthroughs in your love life -- enroll in ongoing
coaching. For more info, go to
www.whatittakes.com/Coaching/individualcoaching.html. To enroll
or to see if I am the right coach for you, schedule a free
consultation.


To schedule a session, email Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries
at mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com or call toll free (US only)
1-888-215-6033. Please indicate the type of session you want and
your time zone.


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4. Quote of the week
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"If your life is filled with more of what you don't want and
not enough of what you do want, it's time to set your boundaries."

~~Rinatta Paries,
Relationship Coach Newsletter #13
www.whatittakes.com/Archive/Newsletter10to19/newsletter__13.shtml


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Copyright 1998-01, all rights reserved. You may copy or
distribute the Relationship Coach Newsletter, so long as this
copyright notice and full information about contacting the
author are attached. The author is: Coach Rinatta Paries.
Contact her at: mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com, or at 888-215-6033.

Rinatta Paries
Relationship Coach
"Are you a true love magnet?"

mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com
www.WhatItTakes.com
1-888-215-6033


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WRITE ME -- ...j., 03:40:16 08/13/01 Mon [1]

FUZZY HAIR....WRITE ME..

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First timer.... -- Rianne, 18:52:01 08/12/01 Sun [1]


Hi Chrissie [and everyone here] --- just wanted to say that I think this site is soooo lovely. Certainly helps to lift one's spirit and that can't be bad!

Love in bunches! Rianne.

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Quiet here isn't it?! -- Rachel, 13:53:23 08/12/01 Sun [1]

Hi Chrissie
You're right...it's been very quiet here. It's the same with the other group I visit. I think it's to do with the time of year. I spend much more time at my computer in the grotty weather and I find it harder to stay on the path at those times too. It's a shame that we don't post much when things are going well but i suppose we just get too busy with 'real' life! Please don't shut the board down. I always check in and will try to post more. You have all become such good friends and I would miss you all terribly.
Glad to hear the kittens are doing well. Hope you start to feel better very soon.
I am off to Austria on Friday.....can't wait!
Hugs
Rachel

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Board's really quiet these days ... -- Chrissie :)*, 00:05:15 08/12/01 Sun [1]

Hi all

The Board seems really quiet these days .... I am not able to log on during work hours as work can trace where I go and I don't want them to find this site as sometimes I talk about work etc ... and don't want them to be able to use it etc against me. And when I get home at night, there's so much to do I don't get a chance to post like I used to; but I do log on every day to check and hope that people are using the board to chat etc ... I have had thoughts of shutting the board down if people don't want to use it, but that would be sad as it's been going so long; and though I guess people don't chat like they used to, the links above are useful and I have yet to post all the photos that Rosie, Joe and I took last year when Rosie was here. When I find the time I will rebuild the photo album with new pictures ... I keep meaning to do it but I really really really don't have the time. I may have some Sabbatical Leave coming up and when that does, I'll have a month off work and will be able to catch up on all that I need to.

Still having some issues with work but it'll pass. Kittens are doing great, growing up fast and eating their Raw Food and Bones diet and they fur is so soft and silky. I watch John Edwards' Crossing Over daily and that show has helped me heal lots re Indi; and I feel Indi is with me always and know that he is around me and that comforts me. I have also purchased John Edwards Increasing Your Psychic Abilities tape series (can be purchased from Hay House and also on Amazon.com) and that is really really good; I enjoyed listening to it the once and need to find a regular time night to do the meditations and increase my psychic abilities. I would like to eventually do readings.

Christy, CarolB, Rosie, Rose, Vanda, Joe, Michael, Kasia, Mae, ChildofLight, Rachel etc - how are you all?

Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^

p/s can't remember if I mentioned it but I have been having medical tests lately and it seems I have a Leaky Gut meaningi food particles leak out from my gut into my blood causing all sorts of problems including hives. (groans). It will take a while of healthy eating to reverse the situation; though thankfully it is reversible. I haven't tried Reiki on it yet as I haven't quite practiced Reiki since Indi crossed, not properly anyway.

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posting from Chrissie -- Philip, 13:20:24 08/10/01 Fri [1]

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IN THIS ISSUE
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Reasons To Live A Well Balanced Life
It's Your Choice
Nuggets Of Wisdom
Compassion
You Are A Blessing
The Fountain Of Youth
Why Go To Church?
My Final Thoughts
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Reasons to Have a Balanced Life

1. Balance is discipline.
   Balance encourages us to look at all areas of our life.
Discipline comes when we consistently reflect on those areas and make
the proper adjustments.


2. Balance prevents obsession.
   At times we may focus too heavily on one area that needs
attention. Then other areas suffer because we're obsessing. If we
strive for balance by looking at the big picture - it's harder to
obsess.


3. Balance creates internal harmony.
   When our life is balanced, we feel in sync with the Universe.
It's a satisfied feeling and a sense of "letting go."


4. Balance offers a sense of accomplishment.
   When we are in harmony and life is flowing easily, we feel good
about ourselves, know that we've done well and accomplished something
wonderful.


5. Balance puts us at peace.
   When we are balanced, we feel at peace with ourselves and with
the Universe. There is a calming, euphoric effect to being balanced.


6. Balance creates a connection.
   When all areas of our life are strong and steady, there is a
connection. We are able to give and receive, be happy and make others
happy, exchange energy.


7. Balance is life giving. Balance is life.
   Balance is all the things about us and about our world. It
makes us well rounded, intuitive, happy, and spiritual.


8. Balance gives us meaning.
   Balance gives us reasons to communicate with others, relate to
them, work out differences, coordinate, and pray. The need for balance
pushes us to ask questions, search for answers and change lifestyles.


9. Balance gives us direction and strength.
   Without balance we drift and stray, we don't honor our
commitments, we over commit, we have no stable foundation.


10. Balance is freedom.
   Balance sets us free from worry, obsession and guilt. Balance
comes from eliminating toleration's, knowing yourself, using extreme
self care, getting clear on needs and values. And that is true
freedom!!
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For latecomers, the bones.
        -- Latin Proverb
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It's Your Choice

Okay, let's get down to the nitty-gritty now. So where could you be
more loving and caring in your life? Let's be honest here. And what's
stopping you--pride, ego, stubbornness, embarrassment, overcare,
etc.? Would you rather stay stuck in your head, holding on to
self-limiting concepts which subtly drain your energy or would you
finally like to free yourself and find happiness and fulfillment?
It's always your choice.
  -- HeartMath Discovery Program, Doc Childre and Sara Paddison, (c) 1998,
Planetary
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The early bird catches the worm
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Nuggets Of Wisdom

"God makes Himself known to us, not through the conscious ego, but as
the still small voice of the true self.  To hear that voice we must
know how to be recollected even amid the activity of the workaday
world.  This in its turn implies that we 'see through' mental
concepts and words and conventions of behavior to their underlying
truth.  What makes possible this mental attention, however, is not
insight alone, but a rightly adjusted will, expressing itself in
love."
 - Dom Aelred Graham, "Zen Catholicism"
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Compassion
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be
happy, practice compassion.

The Dalai Lama
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The Christ Mind

Paul said, "Let this mind be in you that is in Christ Jesus."  We are
invited to stand in the fullness of our potential, to be in the Mind
available to us all.  This precious human birth that we've been given
is about awakening to who we are and living fully in the expression of
what it means to be a son or daughter of the living God.

Mary Manin Morrissey
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You!  Are A Blessing

The highest consciousness sees the good in all
things.  That is its nature.

When you are not seeing things that way, move.  
Shift your focus. Seek the good, and surely the
good and, even more, the highest good that is the
Divine will be added unto you until you know the
blessings are present.

- John Morton
(From: The Blessings Already Are)
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The Fountain Of Youth

Managing our emotions increases intuition and clarity. It helps us
self-regulate our brain chemicals and internal hormones. It gives us
natural highs, the real fountain of youth we've been searching for.
It enables us to drink from elixirs locked within our cells, just
waiting for us to discover them.
 -- Doc Childre
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Contributed by: MSBroker

Why Go To Church

A Church goer wrote a letter to the editor of the newspaper and complained
that it made no sense to go to church every Sunday. I've gone for 30 years
now," he wrote, "and in that time I have heard something like 3,000
sermons.  But for the life of me I can't remember a single one of them. So
I think I'm wasting my time and the pastors are wasting theirs by giving
sermons at all."

This started a real controversy in the "Letters to the Editor" column, much
to the delight of the editor.  It went on for weeks until someone wrote
this clincher:  "I've been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife
has cooked some 32,000 meals. But for the life of me, I cannot recall the
entire menu for a single one of those meals. But I do know this: They all
nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work. If my wife
had not given me those meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise,
if I had not gone to church for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead
today!" When you are DOWN to nothing.... God is UP to something!"

Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the
impossible! Thank God for our physical AND  our spiritual
nourishment........Seek God

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My Final Thoughts

      Each morning when you wake up to your new experience, do you wake up
viewing life as a horror movie?  In another words, at some point during your
day or evening, do you think that something bad is going to happen either to
you or someone else?  

      If you are one who feels this way, realize that the reason is because
your consciousness is looking into darkness and not into the light.  When you
look into darkness, you feel fearful.  You imagine or think someone is out to
get you, and you feel insecure and distraught.

      When you keep your mind focused on the light, meaning on the positive
thoughts of life.  You will understand that there is nothing to fear, and no
one is out to get you.  When you focus your thoughts, on that powerful
presence within you, you will feel secure about your life, and appreciate its
harmonious balance.

      Starting now, know that your fears are based on making changes in
yourself for the better. Realize your life is not a horror movie, and accept
the fact that being afraid is only a part of experiencing life, and that
there's nothing to fear because God is on your side.  When you know that God
is on your side, everything will work out for the better for you.

      Have a super, beautiful and loving week.

You Are Loved,

Rev. Thomas Gordy

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something from chrissie -- Philip, 17:01:14 08/07/01 Tue [1]

Hi Guys and girls

Chrissie asked me to post the below newsletter, Hope everyones having a great day and you are all feeling uplifted with the love and peace from the universe.

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THE RELATIONSHIP COACH NEWSLETTER(TM)
"Teaching People How To Attract Love"
8/6/01 By Rinatta Paries, Relationship Coach
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In this issue:
1. Welcome
2. Weekly article - Setting Boundaries
3. Relationship and dating help here
4. Quote of the week


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1. Welcome
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Welcome to the Relationship Coach Newsletter, and welcome to
our new subscribers this week.

Do you find yourself in relationships where you are not treated
in the way you would like? If so, it's time to set your
boundaries. Today's article explains what boundaries are, helps
you to figure out yours, and shows you a step-by-step boundary-
setting process. Enjoy!

Please forward this newsletter to your friends and colleagues.
Your referrals are helping to build one of the largest networks
of conscious individuals interested in personal growth and
healthy relationships.

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2. Weekly Article
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Setting Boundaries

Are you getting all that you want out of your relationships?
Or, are you instead getting less-than-great treatment from
people in your life? If your life is filled with more of what
you don't want and not enough of what you do want, it's time to
set your boundaries.

What is a boundary and what does it mean to set your boundaries?

A boundary is a dividing line between you and anyone else, even
a loved one. The line represents both physical and emotional
limits others may not violate.

A boundary, when crossed by others, will create intense
feelings of anger, hurt, outrage, etc. To set your boundaries is
to stop anyone, even your most loved one, from crossing the line
with you.

Setting boundaries is not disrespectful, bad or wrong. In fact,
boundaries make you feel safe in your environment and actually
prevent you from being hurt. Personal boundaries are healthy,
good for you. Setting boundaries raises your sense of self-
worth, your self-esteem, because you are sending yourself the
message that you are worthy of care.

Moreover, setting boundaries makes others feel safe around you.
Boundaries let people know what you want and don't want. And
more importantly, boundaries let people know what your limits
are. This gives your loved ones the security of knowing your
relationship guidelines, eliminating their fears about how they
should behave with you. When you set boundaries, people in your
life know exactly what they cannot do around you.

Boundaries are innate, natural to every being. And, each person
has his own internal indicator of when the line is being
crossed. What are your boundaries? Where do you draw the line?
To find out, think of instances in the past year when you felt
intense dark emotions in response to something done or said to
you. More likely than not, your boundaries were being crossed.

Now, what does that tell you about where your line is? What
does that tell you about what cannot be done or said to you
without hurting you? If you come up with some answers, you may
want to write them down. Otherwise, they may be forgotten.

Next, educate people in your life about your boundaries. Be
careful not to make people wrong for their past behavior toward
you. Instead, calmly inform them about what they can and cannot
do around you. As you do, you will notice that some will easily
comply with your request. Others will continue to treat you
poorly. The following boundary-setting process will help you
further educate people who ignore or invade your boundaries.

Five progressive steps to take when someone exhibits
unacceptable behavior toward you:
(For this to have a lasting effect, your voice must remain
neutral at all times. Begin at step one, and move to the next
step only if your boundary is being ignored.)

1. Inform
"Do you know that you are speaking loudly (or hurting me,
saying things I don't like, etc.)?"

2. Request
"Please lower your voice." "Please stop hurting me." "Please
stop what you are saying."

3. Instruct
"I need for you not to yell." "I need you to stop hurting me."
"I need you to stop what you are saying."

4. Warn
"You may never speak to me in that tone of voice." "You may
never hurt me like this." "You may never say this to me."

5. Take a stand
"Stop. I demand you to stop right now."

6. Time out
"What you are doing/saying is unacceptable to me. I am open to
working this out when you are able to do so reasonably. I am now
leaving for (duration) to protect myself."

7. Extended time out
"I am going to distance from you to protect myself until you
can do/say X or stop doing/saying X."


Setting boundaries will allow you to feel safe in your
environment. It is a way to exhibit self-respect, thereby
increasing the respect shown to you by others.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

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While it's possible to improve your ability to attract a
partner or improve your current relationship just by reading
this newsletter, you'll probably find it a bit easier and a lot
more fun if you let me help you. For more information, see below
or visit www.WhatItTakes.com.


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3. Relationship and dating help here
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Do you know how to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right, how to build
a great relationship and make it last? If not, I can help you
get the skills you need to get the love you want. My name is
Rinatta Paries and I have coached hundreds of singles and people
in relationships to create the relationships they have always
wanted.

Consider these options:

***Get help with your most pressing relationship concerns --
schedule a ProblemSolver(tm) session with me. For more info, go
to www.whatittakes.com/Coaching/samplecoaching.html.

***Create breakthroughs in your love life -- enroll in ongoing
coaching. For more info, go to
www.whatittakes.com/Coaching/individualcoaching.html. To enroll
or to see if I am the right coach for you, schedule a free
consultation.

To schedule a session, email Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries
at mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com or call toll free (US only)
1-888-215-6033. Please indicate the type of session you want and
your time zone.


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4. Quote of the week
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"The basic difference between being assertive and being
aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and
well being of others."
~~~ Sharon Anthony Bower


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Copyright Info
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Copyright 1998-01, all rights reserved. You may copy or
distribute the Relationship Coach Newsletter, so long as this
copyright notice and full information about contacting the
author are attached. The author is: Coach Rinatta Paries.
Contact her at: mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com, or at
888-215-6033.

Rinatta Paries
Relationship Coach
"Are you a true love magnet?"

mailto:Coach@WhatItTakes.com
www.WhatItTakes.com
1-888-215-6033

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Secrets about life every woman should know - Barbara de Angelis -- Chrissie :)*, 13:07:01 08/04/01 Sat [1]

Hi all,

(sighs) I grow tired of the background and music not playing properly - it's cos now I guess they want to make sure that their sites are used and what I'm doing is storing the files on a website and using Voy Forums as the main focus - if that makes sense. So what I'll have to do is transfer the photo album (which Zing has now shut down) to a webpage on the website that I used to store my files so people will go and visit there more often and the background and music will play! Probably won't make sense to most of you ! (grins) ... ahhh just means lots of work for me (sniffles) ....

Christy, good to hear from you ..... sending love and hugs your way .... kittens are growing fast and are now just over 3 months old. Sorrie to hear re your dog, age does creep up on all of us sadly ..... my oldest cat Chico who's now 12 I guess is also showing signs of old age especially now that Indi is gone - he doesn't eat so much and spends all his time outside in the garden for weeks now and doesn't come in the house .... maybe he is missing Indi ....

Still have stuff going on at work (sighs); and life has just been very busy ... working overtime lots and trying to keep the house clean and do some feng shui ie space clearing from time to time, then shopping and cooking healthily for myself as I've had a few medical tests recently regards an old stomach problem and have to eat a sensible 50% raw diet (yuk!) so I'm juicing!

Some great stuff I read in Barbara de Angelis's book, Secrets about Life Every Woman Should know ....

How Obstacles Teach You About Yourself

There is nothing more effective in showing us
where we are stuck, where we need to grow
and what lessons we need to learn
than the obstacles that cross our path

When you HATE what is happening
know something marvelous is happening
something important, something life-changing

Obstacles show you where you are stuck
They show you whre you haven't mastered stuff
They push every button you have
They don't play fair
They hit below the belt
They use scary tactics to get your attention
They force you to wake up when you have been asleep
to confront what you have been avoiding, to face what
you don't want

When you look back on your life
the most profound days
will not be the days when nothing happened
They will be the days when you said
"I can't believe this is happening!"


Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^

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Happy Friday -- Christy, 18:52:51 08/03/01 Fri [1]

Hey everybody,

Last week, I got food posioning. This week, I have poison ivy. I don't know what the universe is trying to tell me, but being sick is no fun.

Rose..I love your daily posts.


Phillip..I'm totally off the Prosperity Plan, but I plan to start over this weekend.

Chrissie..How are the new kitties? My precious Cleveland, 13 year old Springer Spaniel dog, is suffering with more signs of old age. He has arthritis, and he is deaf. This summer, he seems to sleep a lot more, but we are glad he is still with us.


Rachel..How are things with you? I hope you are in good health these days.

My daughter starts the 8th grade in a few days. Where does the time go? She is taking acting lessons this fall because she says that is her dream. I'm not happy about her choice for a career but want her to have some experience in acting in order to make the right decisions later.

I'm enjoying my new car. It is 3 months old now. I bought a Toyota Highlander.

Hey to Rosie, CarolB, Joe, Jen, Kelly, Mae, Childoflight and anyone else that I missed.

I hope everyone has a great weekend.

Love,
Christy

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10 keys to Happiness, Deepak Chopra -- ChildofLight, 14:53:25 07/30/01 Mon [1]

Good Morning (or afternoon, or evening..) All!!

Hope your Monday is/has/will be, filled with sunshine, rainbows and laughter..

Love,
COL

**********************************************

TEN KEYS TO HAPPINESS

1. Listen to your body's wisdom, which expresses
itself through signals of
comfort and discomfort. When choosing a certain
behavior, ask your body,
"How do you feel about this?" If your body sends a
signal of physical or
emotional distress, watch out. If your body sends a
signal of comfort and
eagerness, proceed.

2. Live in the present, for it is the only moment you
have. Keep your
attention on what is here and now; look, for the
fullness in every moment.
Accept what comes to you totally and learn from it,
and then let it go. The
present is as it should be. It reflects infinite laws
of Nature that have
brought you this exact thought, this exact physical
response. This moment
is as it is because the universe is as it is.
Don't struggle against the infinite scheme of things;
instead, be at one
with it.

3. Take time to be silent, to meditate, to quiet the
internal dialogue. In
moments of silence, realize that you are reconnecting
your source of pure
awareness. Pay attention to your inner life so that
you can be guided by
intuition rather than externally imposed
interpretations of what is or isn't
good for you.

4. Relinquish your need for external approval. You
alone are the judge of
your worth; and your goal is to discover infinite
worth in yourself, no
matter what anyone else thinks.
There is great freedom in this realization.

5. When you find yourself reacting with anger or
opposition to any person
or circumstance, realize that you are only struggling
with yourself.
Putting up resistance is the response of defenses
created by old hurts.
When you relinquish this anger, you will be healing
yourself and
co-operating with the flow of the universe.

6. Know that the world "out there"
reflects your reality "in here," The people you react
to most strongly,
whether with love or hate, are projections of your
inner world. What you
most hate is what you most deny in yourself.
What you most love is what you most wish for in
yourself. Use the mirror of
relationships to guide your evolution.
The goal is total self-knowledge. When you achieve
that, what you most want
will automatically be there, and what you most dislike
will disappear.

7. Shed the burden of judgement you will feel much
lighter. Judgement
imposes right and wrong on situations that just are.
Everything can be
understood and forgiven, but when you judge, you cut
off understanding and
shut down the process of learning to love. In judging
others, you reflect
your lack of self acceptance. Remember that every
person you forgive adds
to your self-love.

8. Don't contaminate your body with toxins, either
food, drink, or toxic
emotions. Your body is more than a life-support
system. It is the vehicle
that will carry you on the journey of your evolution.
The health of every
cell directly contributes to your state of well-being,
because every cell is
a point of awareness within the field of awareness
that is you.

9. Replace fear-motivated behavior with love-motivated
behavior. Fear is
the product of memory, which dwells in the past.
Remembering what hurt us
before, we direct our energies toward making certain
that an old hurt will
not repeat itself. But trying to impose the past on
the present will never
wipe out the threat of being hurt.
That happens only when you find the security of your
own being, which is
love. Motivate by the truth inside you, you can face
any threat because
your inner strength is invulnerable to fear
10. Understand that the physical world is just a
mirror of a deeper
intelligence. Intelligence is the invisible organizer
of all matter and
energy, and since a portion of this intelligence
resides in you, you share
in the organizing power of the cosmos.
Because you are inseparably linked to everything, you
cannot afford to foul
the planet's air and water. But at a deeper level, you
cannot afford to
live with a toxic mind, because every thought makes an
impression on the
whole field of intelligence. Living in balance and
purity is the highest
good for you and the Earth.

Deepak Chopra, M.D.

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another sharing from chrissie -- Philip, 14:20:29 07/30/01 Mon [1]

Hi Guys, chrissie asked me to post this on LTP for her (below my message).Thanks chrissie

I wish everyone the beautiful energy of Love and Peace.

I'm on to the 3rd stage of the 40 day prosperity plan. the 2nd stage was a bit of a struggle to keep it going, with a bit of kicking myself in the butt, thankful i kept it going. It certainly has made a difference as for example over this weekend i was feeling a little down but as soon as i started doing the plan. I felt much calmer, peaceful and feel my inner strenght stirring to keep going and just the inner knowing that i can do it, to continue to change my life for the better. Christy i wish you all the best with doing the plan and i hope it gives you inspiration to know there's others doing it with you.

Love and Light
Philip :)*

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*What If The Person You Are Sending Love To
Does Not Deserve Love?

Often people will feel like the other person does
not deserve their love. These feelings can be
confusing; but, when you understand that love is
a powerful spiritual force, it is easier to
overlook the human components of love and use it
as a tool to transform your life.

The real question here is "do YOU deserve to have
your life transformed?" It really isn't about the
other person. It is true that the other person
will benefit from the love you send but YOU will
be the greatest recipient of blessings.

One concept that has helped me immensely in life
is to remember that people are doing the best
they can. Sometimes their best is not good
enough but it is the best they can do given their
circumstances.

People who do not know about the spiritual force
that resides within them are victims of outside
circumstances. They are mean and difficult
because they do not know the truth of their
spiritual nature.

Instead of being angry with them for their
limitations, I am so very thankful that I do not
have to live in their limited consciousness. I
am also thankful that I can use the power of love
to transform how they treat me and protect my
world.

TODAY'S SUCCESS STORY

*What Do You Do If You Are The Only One In The
Relationship That Wants Things To Change?

In 1973, I attended my first conference on
personal/spiritual development. It was here
that I met a woman, Connie Newton, who
introduced me to the power of this simple
technique.

At the time, I was involved with a man who
had a volatile temper. He never hurt me, but
his temper created a tense environment. I found
it difficult to create a space of peace while
I was with him.

When I spoke to Connie about my situation, she
suggested I use the force of love to change my
friend's responses while he was in my presence.
She said I did not have the right to change my
friend, but I had every right to control what
happened in my environment. Connie directed me
to use the power of love visualization technique
with my friend.

Part of what she suggested was that I see us
talking together. I imagined him saying,
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image three times a day until I returned home.

Three days later, my friend picked me up at the
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we were sitting at the table, he said to me,
" Marty, I don't know what is happening. For
the last three days, whenever I lose my temper
and start to throw something down, I close my
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are saying, but your gestures are so peaceful.
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some inspirations -- philip, 16:15:59 07/27/01 Fri [1]

Hi Guys chrissie asked me to post this

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Learning To Deal With Conflict
Ways To Keep Fear In Perspective
A Psychological Equation
Depressed?  Seek Help
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My Final Thoughts
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Everyone should remember that the purpose of human life is to
do one's duty without regard for results, which will automatically accrue.
When there is rain, water will flow in the river and one need not pray for
both. It is enough if you pray for rain. Man can't live without activity
even for a moment, as blood circulates and breathing are going on nonstop
as long as one lives, one is sleeping, walking or sitting -- it is natural
to
attribute these natural activities to mans efforts.

...Sai Pages
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Learning To Deal With Conflict


As a new bride, Mary moved into a small ranch house with her new husband,
Jack. When she got there she put a shoebox on a shelf in the closet and
asked her husband never to touch it.

For fifty years Jack left the box alone, until Mary was old and dying. One
day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and
thought it might hold something important.

On opening it, he found two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to
her and asked about the contents.

"My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told
me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at
you."

Jack was very touched that in 50 years she'd only been mad at him twice.
"What about the $82,500?" he asked. "Oh, that's the money I made selling
the doilies."

Source:  Sermonnotes
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Ways to Keep Fear in Perspective

1. Realize fear is a gift.
   Fear, a universal emotion, helps us set boundaries around
dangerous people, places and things that could do us harm.


2. Fear is a tool.
   Fear is neither a good or bad emotion; it is one of many tools
in our emotional toolbox. Life gives us the opportunity to practice
using it in self-development.


3. Acknowledge fear.
   Fear will continue to set off alarms in your thoughts and
physical health until you acknowledge it. Learn to recognize when you
are afraid and thank fear for the information it is providing.


4. Analyze the message fear brings.
   Your fearful reaction or trepidation for a future event speaks
to you on many levels. Listen to your thoughts, assumptions and
dreams. Sit with your fear and find out what it's telling you.


5. Make a choice about how you want to use the information fear
provides.
   Decide who you want to be and how you wish to act during a
fearful situation. Be responsive rather than reactive.


6. Keep a big perspective.
   Try to stay open to the fearful experience. What lessons are
there for you to learn about yourself and others? What are you being
taught?


7. Realize that working with fear is a process.
   Fear is a redundant tool. It will pop up several times to make
sure you want to proceed the way that you are. Know that the process
of working with fear requires you to make the same choice over and
over again. This is where the tool of courage "acting despite fear"
can help.


8. Practice compassion.
   Be compassionate and patient with yourself. Fear is not an easy
tool to learn to work. Experience requires us to both fail and succeed
in order to receive the fullest picture. What good does it serve to
punish yourself for not succeeding?


9. Practice openness.
Keep open to the fearful experience. What do you sense
physically and intuitively? What insight is being brought to you
through this experience?


10. Keep the goal in mind.
   The only way around a problem is through it. Keeping your eye
on the desired end results assists you in moving through the
experience rather than clinging to the sides of it.
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A Psychological Equation

Activating heart intelligence + managing the mind + managing the emotions =
energy efficiency, increased coherence, enhanced awareness, and greater
productivity. The HeartMath Solution, Doc Childre and Howard Martin, (c)
1999, Harper

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All too often, people suffering symptoms of severe depression fail to seek
psychiatric treatment because they fear the stigma of "mental illness."
This is an unfortunate irony because severe, chronic depression is a
prevalent and well-recognized medical disorder, one as treatable as
diabetes or hypertension. If you are depressed, seek help.

- Harold Bloomfield, M.D.     
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Cybersmile

EYE-EXAMINATION CHARTS vary according to the manufacturer,
but one thing they have in common is that they don't spell
anything. One day a patient came into my office for an
ophthalmologic exam. I asked him to read the 20/40 line of
the eye chart, but obviously the letters FZBDE were mostly a
blur to him.    
   Finally he ventured a guess. "I can't pronounce his
name," the man said, "but I think he played football for
Notre Dame."

-- Contributed to Reader's Digest "All In a Day's Work" by
Richard A. Clay
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My Final Thoughts

     Dr. Ernest Holmes, founder of Religious Science/Science of Mind says,
"There is a power, which is greater then we are and we can use it."  Well,
I want to piggy back on that thought and say, "there is a power within us,
which we can call by anyname we choose."
     
     The teacher Jesus, called this power God or the Father within. The
Buddhist call this power Buddha or Tao.  And The atheist and agnostics,
call this power themselves.  It doesn't matter what this power is called,
the truth of the matter is that it's personal to us, and its whatever we
believe it to me.

     Now the question is, what do you call the power within you?  What do
you believe about life, love and yourself?  This week, take time to sit in
the quietness of your surroundings, and think about your beliefs.

     Have a pleasant, joyful, and loving week.

Gracious Blessings,

Rev. Thomas Gordy

[Edit]
Healing thoughts for Mae -- Chrissie :)*, 21:24:47 07/26/01 Thu [1]

Mae, sending healing thoughts and light energy your way for the healthy healing of your eye. I don't know anything about glaucoma. Louise Hay's Love Your Body says re eyes:

I Love My Eyes
I have perfect vision. I see clearly in every direction. I see with love my past, my present and my future. My mind chooses the way I look at life. I see with new eyes. I see good in everyone and everywhere. I now lovingly create the life I love to look at. I love and appreciate my beautiful eyes!
Louise Hay
Think of what lesson life could be handing you re your eyes, and see if you can learn from it and healing will take place. Refer to Louise Hay's book Heal Your Body for eyes. I can't find mine at the moment otherwise I'd share it here.

Thanks, ChildofLight and Mae for your recent sharings - it was very enlightening to read (smiles). ChildofLight, the names will come soon enough :)*.

Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)*

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asking for healing energy, prayers, wisdom -- Mae, 17:54:02 07/26/01 Thu [1]

Recent eye exam indicates a doubling of pressure on optic nerve, indicative of glaucoma (rather young for that, but...) or perhaps something else (rather not speculate) causing the increased pressure...

Please send healing energy, prayers, and any words of wisdom my way.

Thanks ever so much.

With Love,
Mae

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Don't We All ? -- ChildofLight, 16:05:23 07/25/01 Wed [1]

Greetings All :) I suppose at one point I will get familiar with names and connect them with the personalities. I'm awful with names in real life tho'. lol. You can introduce yourself and 10 minutes later I'll have to ask. :).

Hope all are doing well, and Rachel, I hope you have pics of your trip to share when you get back.. sounds wonderful :)

Love,
COL

"DON'T WE ALL"

I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come
from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.
Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a
bum. From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no
money.

There are times when you feel generous but there are other times
that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those
"don't want to be bothered times."

"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought. He didn't.
He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't
look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.

After a few minutes he spoke. "That's a very pretty car," he said.
He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His
scraggly blond beard kept more than his face warm.

I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car. He sat there
quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came.
As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him
if he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held
true to the inner voice.

"Do you need any help?" I asked.
He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never
forget. We often look for wisdom in great men and women.
We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.
I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand.
He spoke the three words that shook me.

"Don't we all?" he said. I was feeling high and mighty,
successful and important, above a bum in the street, until those
three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

Don't we all?
I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I
needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus
fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day.

Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you
have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.
No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems,
even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help. Even if it's
just a
compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it
all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different
perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite
from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets.
Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great
and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.
Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum,
then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."

Don't we all?

-- Author Unknown

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Stopping by to say "Hi" & Share some Light... -- Mae, 02:05:00 07/24/01 Tue [1]

After reading this today, I wanted to pass it on:

"Listen to the exhortation of the dawn.
Look to this day, for it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course lie all the verities & realities of our existence.
The glory of action, the bliss of growth, the splendor of beauty.
For yesterday is but a dream, & tomorrow only a vision.
But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness,
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore to this day. Such is the salutation of the dawn."~~Kalidasa

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Love YOurself and YOur Life WOrks -- Louise Hay -- Chrissie :)*, 20:40:54 07/23/01 Mon [1]

Hey Christy - good to hear from you again. Sorrie to hear about the book. It has been ages and ages and ages. Couldn't CarolB give you some tips as I know she's helping a friend get his book published? Also Philip works for a publishing firm - he may have a few ideas etc. Philip and I were discussing at lunch yesterday that what we don't want somehow we attract - for example, I don't like Chicken Breast and the last time we ate at Nando's I got Chicken Breast and what did I get again yesterday ? - yup, Chicken Breast whereas Philip got the Chicken Leg! Proof that what we don't want in our lives, we attract cos we give so much energy to it. Even now, I still have my lessons and am still learning and growing!

I know writing down the affirmations every night WILL work; as I manifesed this house that way - ie I wrote down all the specifics nightly over and over for about 2-3 months or so and visualised every detail and really wanted it; and I got exactly what I wanted. I'm trying to do the same for something else right now, but I don't think I want it badly enough cos I'm not visualising properly - only half heartedly and not doing the paper affirmations. And I wonder why I get surprised as to why I don't achieve what I want! :)

Sleepy - nite!
Love, Light & Blessings
Chrissie :)* ^i^

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Happy Monday -- Christy, 16:21:19 07/23/01 Mon [1]

Hey everyone,

Chrissie..I met with one of the agents that is representing my book over the weekend. She had some suggestions for me about changing the length, and age of the character (just by 1 or 2 years) to fit into an expanding market of fiction called Young Adult Fiction. She is going to meet with the other agent. I am dissappointed that things haven't progressed any further. I was at a writer's convention this weekend where I met several reps from publishing houses that were thrilled to hear of my Oprah experiences. So, if things don't get moving soon, I'm going to move on to other ways of getting my book out to publishers.

I had to stop the 40 day prosperity plan because I went on a trip this weekend and forgot my paper with the affirmations. I start over on Day #1 this evening.

Hey Rosie..Good to see you post again..

Hey to Rose, Rachel, CarolB, Phillip, Joe, Mae, Jennifer and everyone else that I might have missed.

Love,
Christy

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Hello all :)* -- Chrissie :)*, 21:32:14 07/22/01 Sun [1]

Hi Rosie, Rose, Rachel, Christy, et all (smiles)

It's been a hectic week and also weekend. Philip and I went swimming this morning and then went to watch Jurassic Park III which was very enjoyable. I haven't worked out in ages and my stamina levels are pretty much down! I need to resume things slowly but surely! Feel my age creeping up on me now!

Been too busy to post and spend too much time on the internet - I just respond to some emails and do some housecleaning on the net on my websites and then log off again - with the kittens and their Bones and Raw Food Diet, things are hectic, plus I've also purchased some tapes from John Edwards (medium) which I am hoping to listen to and set up a routine; and Philip is still doing his 40 day Prosperity Plan which is going well; and I hope Phil will continue to keep everyone updated on.

Rosie, et all, I guess we're all pretty much busy in our day to day lives but yet still come visit here to share (smiles) as a kinda of 'sanctuary' from it all. Perhaps I haven't put the room in the right 'search' engines for others on the net to find it and it's like our little secret hideaway (smiles). My other support forum site is doing really well with closing on 2000 visits per week - it's just taken off by itself, is a place that people go to to support each other and I don't have to do much apart from just housekeep. Again I keep both sites separate as none would be interested in the other :)*

Much love and hugs
Chrissie :)* ^i^

p/s Christy, no news on the book yet? It's been a long time! Rachel, I'm glad you finally sorted out how to get back into the room (smiles)

[Edit]
moms wings -- Rose ;-), 21:47:45 07/21/01 Sat [1]

I shelter you'r un rested
soul and loved you like
a baby bird. in the mist
of eternity you will be okay mom
wigs will never leave you again.

by Rose

[Edit]
hi Rosie you have been on my mind! -- ROSE :-), 20:59:02 07/21/01 Sat [1]

wish you well! know that you are
a very cool lady!
take care!
Love and Light Rose.

[Edit]
At last! -- Rachel, 21:55:31 07/19/01 Thu [1]

Hi to everyone at Lighting the Path!

At last I've got back here!I have been
having some problems with my computer and ended up with the Freeserve logo all over this page.Icouldn't read the text at all. Anyway ..i've finally sorted it out so here I am!

Rosie...great to see your post. Looking forward to your next trip to the UK!

Chrissie...know what you mean about time managemetnt!I am getting more and more involved with the charity that i am working for as a volunteer. I have now completed 5 of the 7 modules for my computer driving licence and passed all the 'exams' so far. Ellie breaks up for 6 weeks on Monday so I will be very busy with her all summer. It's great to have the time together though 24/7 with a six year old can be a bit wearing!

We have booked a trip to Austria at the end of the holidays. We used to live in Munich and spent a lot of time in the mountains in Germany, Austria and Switzerland. I'm really looking forward to it. I find the mountains a very calming, spiritual place ( though I get totally cream-crackered walking up them!!!).

Love to all...oh it's good to be back!
Hugs
Rachel

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hello -- rosie, 05:46:20 07/19/01 Thu [1]

Dear Chrissie, CarolB, Rose, Christy, Rachel, Joe, Jennifer
and all others at the path.

Its been a long time since I have posted. I have been so busy at work and my computer at home was down for a very long time. I did go to England for 6 weeks and it was an interesting trip for PERSONAL GROWTH.
Unfortunately i only managed to meet Joe this time but i am sure next time i will end up meeting both Rachel and Chrissie.

I havent really had much to say and i have been going throuhg my own stuff. I have from time to time emailed people personally. I do apologise not intentional just the way its been for me.

I always think of the wonderful people that i have been lucky to have met in person and the great people that i have a correspondence with.

I wish you all a wonderful week and weekend and i will pop in from time to time....

Love
Rosie

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thank you Sweet chrissie! -- ROSE :-), 23:18:55 07/17/01 Tue [1]

/im really going to take time
aboutTime Management Crisis -- I got ito put the printer is time to
take some more notes!
send you my love to Rosie! thinking of you!
Love and Light Rose.

[Edit]
Time Management Crisis -- Chrissie :)*, 12:37:13 07/15/01 Sun [1]

Hi all,

Philip, thx for sharing how the 40 day prosperity plan is coming along for you --- do continue to keep us posted, especially when prosperity lands on your lap, which it will do, if you do the plan correctly.

Christy, do share with us as well how the Prosperity Plan works for you - if you both can keep up the work needed for the 40 days, you'll definitly reap the rewards! It's a guarantee! It's the willpower and finding the time and commitment that's the key! And of course how badly you want prosperity (smiles).

My issue is time management and constantly finding time to do what I want to do .... there's lots of stuff going on, some health issues, lethargy, missing Indi lots, spending time with the kittens who are growing up fast, and by the way I changed White Sox's name to Mogwie as she looks like Mogwie from the Gremlins movie (smiles); and she likes the name she responds to it and doesn't respond to White Sox!

I'm floating within the company now, ie permanent but floating from one desk to another, covering for various secretaries. Sometimes it's really busy, like putting out fires constantly and other times on assignments I'll be not busy at all; but I can't quite post here like I used to as they can trace movements on the internet and with the stuff that's going on at work recently this year; I don't want to give them ammunition against me .... I do miss posting like I used to and I do miss us all chatting and sharing like we used to - the chat room needs fixing; and the photo album has changed names and owners and I need to refix the links etc ....

And to top it all off I still have to wash the photos of Singapore and do the videos and send them off to Indonesia, all of which is time consuming; plus I need to share the photos of Rosie, Joe and I taken last year which are great photos!!!

Rachel, thinking of you and hoping all is well. One day soon perhaps this year, perhaps you, Joe and I can get together in London if you're down? How is life for you? Are you working?

Joe you reading in? How are you?

Kasia? Rosie, miss hearing from you here - I know you're doing your own healing in your own way and privately.

CarolB, Jennifer, Vanda et all - thinking of you.

Love & Light
Chrissie :)* ^i^

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40 day prosperity plan -- Philip Wright, 13:38:18 07/13/01 Fri [1]

HI Guys

Its been a while since i've posted here but have been looking in and getting inspiration from all the positive thoughts, so thanks Chrissie, Christy, COL, and any one i missed.

Right my turn for sharing,since 5 days ago i have been doing the 40 day prosperity plan and i must admit even though only at the beginning of it i feel there has been help and a beginning change in my perceptions.

I began as suggested with writting the statement which i also have looked at before doing the daily afirmation/ meditation. Just doing it daily has brought my thoughts into focus of the positiveness of the messges and the changing from the (constant) negative outlook within my own thoughts and perceptions. Along with other exercises i have been doing. The main change has been the feeling, re-awakening of knowing the 'goodness' within me.

I will continue to let you all know how its goes through the weeks.

The other exercises i have been doing have been using ,a self defence called kateda, breathing techniques which is to develope your natural central power/inner strength i used to train this but a few years ago i went thorugh a very traumatic event which gradually i let destroy my spirit and very much ended up in the depressive and negative side of life. Well along with this and the 40 day plan the sky's opening.

Child of Light, cheers especially for the love yourself affirmations, just what i need, lost loving myself quite a bit. Have to try that water cure. do soem cleansing

SO Love, Light Peace and inner strength to all,

Philip :)

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Letting Go - Cheryl Richardson -- Chrissie :)*, 09:29:43 07/13/01 Fri [1]

Subj: [TTFYL] Week 28 - Letting Go: How to heal when a relationship ends . . .
Date: Sun, 8 Jul 2001 21:27:13 British Summer Time
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To: taketimeforyourlife-list@cherylrichardson.com

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July 9, 2001
Week Twenty-Eight -=- Letting Go
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~*~ Topic of the Week ~*~

The "Live Your Best Life" tour with Oprah was an amazing
experience. So many women (and a few brave men) show-
ed up to learn about the ways in which we need to grow in
order to live more fulfilled lives. Personally it was quite
a growth opportunity for me to share the stage with Oprah
-- she is such a gifted (and funny!) speaker. As you might
imagine, I had to take quite a few deep breaths before
walking on stage at the first seminar :)

At one of the seminars, I had a conversation with a woman
who had recently ended a five year relationship. She had
hoped that this relationship would lead to marriage, but found
that as she made positive changes in her life, her boyfriend
felt threatened and eventually decided to move on. She was
deeply hurt and disappointed and wondered what to do.

I was reminded of how difficult it can be when one person
starts to grow and the other isn't ready for or interested in change.
While the goal is to include our loved ones in our growth process,
the truth is that we sometimes choose different paths. My heart
went out to this woman. Like her, I remember the pain of losing
a love who chose a different direction.

As we start to change our lives for the better, it *will* ruffle
feathers with some. It's important to share your intentions with
loved ones and remind them that your commitment to growth will
result in you becoming an even better spouse, parent, friend,
colleague, etc. We all have our own spiritual path and we can't
make someone follow along. The best you can do is improve
your life and let your power of example inspire others to do
the same.

If the path you've chosen leads you to the end of a relationship,
there are many things you can do to comfort yourself during the
time of loss and healing. Following is some advice in the hopes
that it will help you or someone you care about to move on with
grace and love . . .

Next to the death of a loved one, facing the end of a relationship
is probably one of the most painful experiences to endure.
Learning to let go is a process that will take some time. But
there are things you can do to help make the process a bit easier.

The first order of business is to find a safe place to share
your feelings as you go through the steps of grieving your loss.
Having the support of a few good friends who know how
to listen well can make a world of difference at a time when
you'll need to talk things through in order to heal from this
experience. You might want to ask a couple of friends if they
could be more available over the next month or two especially
for late night phone calls when you might feel lonely and need
a shoulder to cry on. Being able to talk things through will help
you move through this time of transition with less suffering.

In addition to getting help from your friends, I'd also recommend
that you find some kind of supportive community. Sometimes a
divorce or grief support group can be very helpful in dealing with
the myriad of feelings that will occur. Check with friends, your
doctor, or a nearby hospital for resources.

Another great resource for dealing with issues of letting go is the
twelve-step group called Al-Anon. Although Al-Anon meetings
are designed to support the friends and family of alcoholics,
several of my clients have found tremendous comfort and guidance
from members they've met at meetings, when faced with the
ending of a relationship. Twelve step programs are designed to
empower you to focus on *your* life. They can provide the
structure and support that may help you feel more in control of
your life at a time when you may feel out of control. There a
several benefits to attending Al-Anon meetings: they're free, open
to the general public anytime, and depending on the area in which
you live, meetings may be available night and day, seven days a
week. This can be extremely helpful when the pain of loss feels
unbearable and you just need to be with others in a safe place.
To find a meeting near you, visit the Al-Anon website at:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org

I'd also recommend an excellent book called: "Coming Apart: Why
Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours,
by Daphne Rose Kingma. This book offers a very useful step-by-step
process designed to help you navigate through the rocky waters of
ending a relationship. The exercises will help you examine your
relationship and gain a better understanding of what went wrong so
you can avoid similar pitfalls in the future. You'll not only find
support for letting go gracefully, you'll also learn more about how to
make even healthier relationship choices in the future.

Be gentle with yourself during this time of transition. Remember,
for every ending there is a new beginning waiting just around the
corner. The more you allow yourself to fully heal from this
experience, the better the new beginning will be. Letting go can be
very painful, but with time and a strong dose of self-care, you'll be
back to feeling yourself again soon.


~*~ Take Action Challenge ~*~

If you are in the process of ending a relationship, or suffering
through one that's already ended, use the advice above to take
good care of yourself during this difficult time. If you're not
going through the ending of a relationship, use this week's
broadcast as a reminder to not take loved ones for granted.
Thank your partner, children, siblings or friends for supporting
your efforts to change your life for the better. Send a card,
make an unexpected phone call, say "I love you," or schedule
a surprise lunch. Please remember: our relationships need
extreme self care too!

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Friday Inspiration -- Chrissie :)*, 09:25:35 07/13/01 Fri [1]

Hi all -- have been very busy lately and haven't had time to share here; though have been reading in. ChildofLight, love your sharing re loving ourselves and Rose, thx for all the positive thoughts (smiles). Christy - will write back over the weekend and share some more ... whoosh, time flies so fast -- missing Indi lots, kittens growing up fast, busy daily preparing their raw food, cooking, cleaning, working late, never ending, trying to fit it all in and also put some play time in with the kittens --- Kasia, hope you get to write in soon with news on your baby girl or boy --- Rosie, hope you're doing well; Joe, you too; and

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Paradoxes in Life

1. What you resist persists.
Exactly what you are trying to avoid, is exactly what you are
attracting to yourself. You know that things you don't want to happen,
they happen just because you put so much energy into trying not to let
them happen.


2. Your complaint about others is really a fear you have about
yourself.
When you are always putting someone, or some group, down, it
means there is something that person or group represents about
yourself that you can't accept. Fear of being stupid, ugly, devalued
by society, ostracized, worthless, self-centered, penniless, etc.


3. Opposites attract.
The more I learn about how men and women are wired differently,
the more amazed I am that any of us ever get together and stay
together happily. It really is a miracle how that works!


4. The core belief that you're not good enough.
We ALL walk around thinking some version of "I'm not good
enough, I don't matter, I'm worthless, I'm bad, I'm unlovable." How
can all of us be unacceptable? Ha! The joke is on us!


5. Out with the old, in with the new.
To allow something new into your life, you need to let
something go. Often we are holding onto the old (relationships, jobs,
etc.) until the new shows up ... but more often it isn't until you
simply let go of the old that the new has space to come into your
life.


6. Look inside for what you seek outside.
Whatever you are seeking outside yourself, you are certain
never to find. If you are seeking love, approval, security, or
validation from external circumstances, such as educational degrees,
intimate partners, social status, and all the "trappings" of the good
life, you are likely to end up empty. Only when you learn to give
these things to yourself first can you experience them consistently
since they are under your control. You can give yourself love at any
moment, but how many of us do?


7. AND
We are seemingly opposing forces in the same entity. We are
both male and female energy, light and dark, happy and sad, angry and
peaceful. We embody all these things, yet we often try to be only one
or the other. We are both ends of the spectrum and the in between. I
took on a word of the year--AND. Every time there seems to be a black
and white choice in my l