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Date Posted: 23:45:57 07/14/03 Mon
Author: Ellie
Author Host/IP: NoHost / 203.113.206.120
Subject: Re: Just wondering....
In reply to: Kate 's message, "Just wondering...." on 19:53:31 07/14/03 Mon

Kate it is entirely normal! in a way you've 'grown up' together and you may be thinking there are no surprises left! Wihout knowing (or prying into) your back ground are there some different things.(hobbies, interests) you could do together that you haven't tried before? But more I feel that each individual has to look for happiness and fulfillment in a lot of different areas ( loL! i'm not talking about running out and having affairs here) but just that keeping up one's own interest and enthusiasm for life does a lot for vitality- great if your partner joins with you,if not, you go ahead and do your 'thing' anyway!
Will tell you a story about a friend/co-worker of mine.
Penny had known partner Michael 'forever' They had lived together for 11 years(at that stage not married) and by now Penny in mid 30's wanted a baby.. it didnt happen. she and Michael were committed to each other, that wasn't the problem. We 'gals'at work were plying her with suggestions, ie, 'go away for a 'honeymoon'weekend.. all that stuff.
Penny looked embarrassed and said.. 'Well, it's like.. we've been together for a long time and we're more like brother and sister' Oh!!!
Well, Penny and Michael did get married 4 years ago, and something worked they now have 2 gorgeous kids, a 3 year old boy and an 8 month old girl.
I'm not saying having kids is the solution to any problem!
Just that Yes.. lots of others others go thru similar 'patches'.
Ellie.

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[> Re: Just wondering.... -- Kylie, 07:24:26 07/15/03 Tue (NoHost/139.134.64.153)

Kate, I think we all go through stuff like this in our marriages.

I actually left our marriage when dh and I had been married six years. We are back together now, although I am the first to admit that it's not all roses. We have come a long way.

We do many more things together now and dh has made some drastic changes to some of his behaviours which were the reason for my leaving.

If you're struggling, what you really need to do is sit down with your husband and have a serious talk about it, then work out what you're willing to do together and individually to make things better.

Kylie


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