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Subject: need help


Author:
lovelylady (shame)
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Date Posted: 14:02:42 03/05/12 Mon

Hi, not sure what say, feeling a little shame i am in my fortieths and my spelling is real bad. i live in london and i was just wondering if they is a support group with people that dyslexia to help. today i had do some planning i just messed it up i feel so shame no at work knows iam dyslexia. not sure what do felling sad.

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[> Subject: Re: need help


Author:
Sharon B.
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Date Posted: 21:15:39 03/05/12 Mon

I am in my 40's and I to have felt shame in the work place as well. My employer would get so frustrated with me asking her to explain a task over and over she would yell and say that I wasn't paying attention as well as told other staff members that I was dumb. I tried to explain to her I have dyslexia even brought in information about it. However I believe she still didn't understand, or didn't bother reading it at all. I remained at that job until she retired her business. I choose to deal with her ignorance it's a SHAME she didn't want to understand me. I look at shame differently now, I guess she did teach me something after all. Thanks for leaving your post Lovelylady you helped me discover something new.
[> Subject: Re: need help


Author:
Malcolm
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Date Posted: 22:35:51 03/10/12 Sat

Morning Sharon.

First of all you have nothing to be a shame of about. You have a disability. As a disability the law says your employer if they know about your dyslexia has to give you the help and support that you need. If you're in a union or union rape should know this. I found out from personal experience that most union rips note little. So if your union rape does not know asking for her to speak to someone more senior yet the information so that a can get your employer to help you more. If you are not in a union you can get this information from this website or the British dyslexia Association website if you e-mail them and say you want the information they will point you in the right direction or send you the information that you need. Then if you have a chat with your employer and shown the information that may be more sympathetic with you and understand the problems that you have.
It is against the law to discriminate against a person with dyslexia this law was put in place in 1995. But if you have not disclosed your dyslexia to your employer they are not breaking the law as they did not know. They still may be in breach of the law for not trying to find out what your problems are.

So Sharon do not ever consider yourself is stupid because you are not you are just with a disability that other people have to deal with. It is their problem to deal with you not your problem to deal with them.

I do not know how you wrote your e-mail I wrote this e-mail by dictating it this is the only way for me to cope with my dyslexia are used naturally speaking Dragon version 11.5 to dictate this to you. If I cannot read some things on the computer I use natural reader software to read for me this is a free download if you download the trial version it is free this is the only version I use are not bothered buying the full version it does a lot more apparently but at the moment I find this free version enough for me.

If you type in to your computer dyslexia groups in London you might be to find something away.
I hope this has been helpful to you do not feel ashamed ever again you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Malcolm
[> Subject: Re: need help


Author:
Colin
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Date Posted: 08:46:19 03/15/12 Thu

Like Malcolm has already said you shouldnt feel ashamed Dyslexia is a disability and should be treat as such. Firstly a little background on me, im in the armed forces and have served all over the country and in most conflicts since 1991, I joined the forces from school because i was never given the chance to find out why i was different to everyone else (asking lots of questions and being shot down for doing so) i did my best but that was never good enough but i knew my strengths were in my fitness and love of sport. Moving on slightly my job in the forces didnt really call for the use of study or to many qualifications, that is until 1999 when i took on a new trade and began training to be an Engineer, then further training in 2002, it was like being at school again, however i wrote a very long informative letter about myself for the instructors, one of them picked up on my need to give a lot of information in one place and also that i used bad grammer and capital letters with small letters all in one and each word, I was 33 and told after an initial test i was Dyslexic, like the woman in an earlier post i felt very relived and emotional that i at last had a reason why the very basic stuff was such a problem, i was given further test by a professional from the Dyslexia centre who wrote a report which i take everywhere with me on every course i do and new unit or job i go to. Dont feel ashamed be proud of yourself because rest assured you work alot harder each day doing normal stuff others without take for granted. I personally still have a long way to go and retire from service in the next 18months but at the moment have myself enrolled onto Maths, English and a computer course this year and have every intention of applying for others as they come along, you will be in a classroom of only a few and everyone will be suffering one of the many different levels of our personal Dyslexia. Contact your local college or Adult learning centre via your council services. I hope you can see ive composed this reply with few spelling mistakes, i couldnt do this 18months ago and incase your maths are as bad as mine im now 43. If you hav'nt done so by now get yourself a proper test done and professional report done, it makes you so much more able to cope and you will possibly surprise yourself what you have on offer or avialable to you

Good bless you all and keep digging



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