| Subject: Should I tell him or not? |
Author:
Eri
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Date Posted: 06:15:43 04/18/07 Wed
Hi everyone. My 23 year old boyfriend seems to be dyslexic but hasn't been diagnosed yet. I'm looking for what I can do for him. We have been together for 3 years but since last summer, we have been in a long-distance relationship (he in the States, me in Japan). I have never lived in the States, so I hope someone here can give me some advice.
After graduating from highschool, he worked for the military for 4 years, mostly spending the time in Japan, where we met. When he lived in Japan, he learned Japanese almost by himself, so he can speak and read some Japanese. When he left the military, he was saying that he wanted to go to college to study Japanese and creative writing. He said he had some idea of a novel based on his own life in Japan.
When he took his highschool records to a university counselor, her attitude was like "this is not a place for a fool like you." Next he looked into a community college. But they said he had to wait for 6 months to take a Japanese course. Since then, he has kind of stopped talking about study. He tried to look for a job, but seemed to have little idea of how to get the right information. So I googled and found a job opportunity for a home-improvement center. After the interview he said he did quite well. He waited for the company's phone call for weeks but ended up getting no answer. Two months ago he found a part-time job at a restaurant and has been working at a minimum wage.
I guess he has missed a lot of both educational and professional opportunities in his life because of his poor reading and writing skills of English. His writing looks like a 8-year's old's even to me, non-native English speaker. When he has to write something in front of someone (such as fill in an application form), he always looks a little nervous. And it takes him a lot of time to find what he is looking for on websites. He also often forgets things and loses his belongings. Today he said he started reading an autobiographical novel to get some idea of how to write his own story, so I understood that he hasn't given up his dream yet. He is a thoughtful, diligent person but I don't think it's easy for him to change his life on his own. I wonder if I should tell that he might be dyslexic and advise that he should go to a counselor. I can't see him in person until this summer. What should I do?
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