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Subject: feeling stupid Author: Emily (fustrated) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 09:56:31 05/13/10 Thu I found out i was dyslexic while at university. I was happy when i discovered this as i had a reason why i got things mixed up had bad memory etc. Most of the time i simply forget im dyslexic,sounds silly i know. I get a sharp reminder when I cant do things others take for granted such as following directions. this example is from the other day. I was in a London( im not used to this place) and needed to get to a certain place for a certain time.I needed to be there at 11 so I set off at 9. I thought i was doing well, id navigated the tube and got off at the right station, then I went to look in my bag then realised i didnt have the map. I struggled to remember where this place was situated, so I rang my friend for help.I rang him 4 times as I couldnt remember the directions he gave me. I still got lost. It took me a hour and half to find this place. I nearly missed my appointment. by the time i got there i was nearly in tears. I kept saying to myself how stupid i was for forgetting the map and even worse that i failed to follow directions that were given to me 4 times! Anyway when i got back home my friend said ' im worried about you we really need to sort your organiseation out'feeling hurt i didnt even mention dyslexia to him and instantly felt dumb which was made even worse when said he ' it was embarrasing today really im worried about you' does anyone else feel this way? so stupid that you cant do what others do? I feel so ashamed and it really does effect my self esteem when these things happen [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: Mardi (I feel that way a lot) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 12:45:47 05/17/10 Mon Over the years i guess i've learned to accept i'm not "as smart" as other poeple. I look at these "smart" people as so lucky that thinking clearly comes so easily to them. It it is frusterating. But, I have to remind myself that there are many things that this disability lets me see and understand the "smart" people simply can't do. For example...I don't know about you...but I'm a very good translator. I can help the very logical thinker communicate with a very emotional thinker. People who are having relationship problems, for example...and can't seem to communicate with each other often ask me to listen in and help them communicate what they are trying to convey to each other. I imagine most people, like me, with this particular dispbiality are good at this. Because we have to work so hard to understand things from a prospective that most "smart" people never have to do. I hope this helps. Be proud of yourself...you make the world better.

[> [> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: Roy Masters (Happy) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:01:43 06/23/10 Wed You are correct! I spent fifty years inventing along with studying geology and geophysics, during that time I have made many discoveries but due to the lack of qualifications I can not be recognized. I would love to start an academy or something similar purely for dyslexics so that they may process problems between themselves. Regards Roy

[> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: cathy@copytype.co.za (feeling stupid) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 05:56:46 06/18/10 Fri I feel like this all the time like everyone is so much better than me how do you change that i don,t even now if i have it but i feel stupied 24/7

[> [> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: Rose (sad) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 16:03:58 10/04/10 Mon I've just read your post about trying to find your way around London and not being able to remember directions. Everything you said was utterly familiar to me and I too frequently feel stupid and embarassed. I went abroad on my own a few months ago and didn't dare leave the house I was staying in!

[> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: Scott Tombs [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:06:51 06/28/10 Mon i sometimes feel dumb when i cant follow directions rite but i figured out a method for me i try to remember every other step word by word then i can figure the steps between by just common sense that works for me and also do u tell your friends that you are dyslexic. thank you, scott

[> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: elaine [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 11:49:18 06/28/10 Mon Your not allowen i was sitting in a training course today for manual handling which i thought was going to practical it turned out to be theory the trinner handed out dirrent aticals n asked us to read them then give our thougts on them i was about half way through reading when the others had strted speaking about their articles and when they got to me i didnt have a clue what i had just read i felt so stupid luckiy one of my work colleges jumped in and help me out but i felt so small

[> Subject: Re: feeling stupid Author: Yolanda [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:44:49 07/07/10 Wed Hey there. First of all you are not stupid. Secondly there is nothing to feel embarassed about. So you got lost in London and didn't know where to find the place you were going to. I think that would happen to anyone dyslexic or not as London is a big place, I know I am studying there. I was told I was dyslexic when I went to uni the 2nd time around and it was a relief. I had a bad time at school and always felt stupid even though I knew that actually I was clever I just couldn't grasp the concepts as quickly as the other kids. Thanks to UEL I got diagnosed and the support I needed. I am now getting higher marks than I have ever got in my life. Previously to that I worked in HR and slowly worked my way up the ladder so to speak. I too made many mistakes but accepted help where I could get it. I also recognised my weaknesses and got people to 'double check' my work. I of course then didn't know I was dyslexic and I think my colleagues thought I was just being cautious when I asked them to check calculations, etc. There is nothing wrong with telling you colleague that you are dyslexic and you find certain things difficult to do i.e. directions. It might be an idea to give him a brief understanding that dyslexia is more than not being able to read or write and that it affects people in many different ways. Don't be ashamed. You are not an idiot but most likely a very bright and intelligent individual as most dyslexic's are. All the best!