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Subject: unhelpful reaction from family

Author:
Rose (regretful)

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Date Posted: 17:43:34 10/04/10 Mon

I was (finally) disgnosed with dyslexia when I started a PhD a few months ago. My family and partner are utterly dismissive of the diagnosis, and my partner has started making caustic comments that I really resent ('you didn't do x until you were disgnosed with dyslexia'). I'm glad I had the diagnosis, but regret telling anyone else about it. Has / is anyone else experiencing anything similar and do you have any words of wisdom (or empathy) ?

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[> Subject: Re: unhelpful reaction from family

Author:
Gary
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Date Posted: 17:06:00 10/08/10 Fri

The biggest problem that I have with other people is that they don�t understand what dyslexia is, they think the only thing happens are you turning your letters around. They are ignorant to all of the symptoms that are accompanied with it.

Trying to explain it to them is like trying to explain to a blind person what a cloud looks like. I have quit trying to explain it. What I should say is I have quit telling people that I have it, unless I think that it will benefit them or someone that they care about.

[> Subject: Re: unhelpful reaction from family

Author:
Steven
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Date Posted: 09:40:17 11/11/10 Thu

Oh yes, oh yes, oh yes. What you fail to understand at this stage is that most non-dyslexic people have a very linear mind. It can only think in straight lines, like a computer, it can only think in the way that it has been taught to think (programmed). It is highly logical and analyses one thing at a time in a yes or no fashion eg. "If you have a Phd, then you cannot be dyslexic because you can read and write, stupid." If you are expecting non dyslexics to be able to look at this in a variety of different ways and angles,and to "see" the problem, then you are asking them to think in way that they simply cannot, you are being unfair to them.

[> Subject: Re: unhelpful reaction from family

Author:
Marianna
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Date Posted: 14:08:14 11/30/10 Tue

I am 42 years old and just now looking into dyslexia to see if I have it. I really think i do. I have mentioned this to friends and family only to here them say unsupporting comments or ignoring me all together. It makes me feel sad and alone. However I am a very posative person and never quit finding discovering who and what I am not matter who trys to get in my way. I will Keep trucking. Thanks for your post it helped me.