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Subject: The emotional problems dyslexia causes

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Liz

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Date Posted: 17:21:00 06/10/08 Tue

Hi all,
When I was young I displayed all the hallmarks of dyslexia, but by the time I was 8 I had stopped writing letters back to front and my reading was quite good. I was intelligent and creative and so nothing more was said about it. I was told that I had grown out of it and beleived this to be so. For most of my life I have felt that I was very different to everyone else, but didn't know why. Last year, at 42, I was diagnosed with the chronic autoimmune disease, scleroderma. This happened just as we (my husband and 2 kids) decided to sell our house and move. So, besides organising the moving process I had to deal with the disease as well. At one point I suffered an anaphylactic reaction to one of the drugs I was taking. My husband was working long hours and so I was dealing with EVERYTHING virtually on my own. As a result I ended up having a breakdown and began treatment for depression by the end of the year. Then, earlier this year my daughter was diagnosed with ADD. I started reading about the condition and the more I read the more I realised that I never "grew out" of the dyslexia; my brain just made the necesssary adjustments in order to allow me to read and write. The personality traits that go along with dyslexia are still there and this is what I am having trouble dealing with. In the past I've never really needed friends, but now I find that I do. Unfortunately my social skills are very poor. My disease is under control and I'm on the road to recovery as far as the depression goes, but I need to deal with the emotional side of dyslexia. A little while back I hurt a very good friend, who now won't talk to me. The reason why I hurt the friend was because of the faulty thinking patterns dyslexia causes. I want to tell this friend that I have dyslexia, but I'm afraid that they will think that I'm using it as an excuse for my behaviour and besides, I don't want sympathy, just understanding. If anyone has any thoughts I'd be grateful to hear them.

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Author: Karen [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 05:35:15 09/21/08 Sun What kind of traits are you refering to? I am also dyslexic and am finding I am having some issue at work that I wonder if it isn't because of my disablity.

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Author: Karen Mandeville ;-) [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 10:01:02 09/29/08 Mon Boy my life seems to be, all most, a mirror image of yours. I'm 55 and just now trying to deal with this to help myself and my family. I was never told I have dyslexia, but I don't think that means much. Good luck with everything. Karen M.

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Pat Eyers
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Date Posted: 13:30:10 10/30/08 Thu

Since the age of about 8 years I knew there was something not quite right. My school years were a nightmare. My family didn't help by telling me I was stupid, dumb, would never achieve anything etc etc - they thought it was so funny. During my teens I was diagnosed with chronic Depression. Life had its ups and downs. Then - I saw a programme on TV about Dyslexia and it could have been all about me. I booked myself in for a private assessment and the rest is history. Instead of being dumb and stupid, I now knew I had a high IQ and there was a reason for my short term memory problems and not being able to retain information etc. As for the Depression, after 29 years it went. But I also did a lot of personal development work over several years and this liften my confidence no end. Never give up - there is life even with Dyslexia. All I can say to folk who don't believe me or even recognise Dyslexia: You haven't walked in my shoes.

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Re: The emotional problems dyslexia causes

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Sue Tait (joy)
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Date Posted: 15:28:13 10/30/08 Thu

Hi Liz
read your message. I am 55 and was assessed for Dyslexia late last year. I think someone on some website said something about keys and things being unlocked. I have found that. I now understand for the first time why I have had mood swings for as long as I can remember. Why I have problems with authority. Why I cry for no reason. Why I cant remember the words to songs even though i love singing. Why I cant tell a good story unless I make it up as I go along.I feel sad for myself and others who have taken so long to find out. YOu have had more than your share - stay strong. SUe

[> Subject: Re: The emotional problems dyslexia causes

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michelle
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Date Posted: 15:27:13 12/05/08 Fri

you are not alone. i am a third year uni student in uk. and am now going through the process of being accesssed for dylesixa. i struggled and have hit bad spots but find ways through them. if it helps i have set up a group for people like you and myself. a place where you can vent or disscuss what is brothering you. i place on face book. Help i need a friend. try it if it helps.

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matilda (stress at work)
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Date Posted: 10:51:03 01/06/09 Tue

hi mechealle

i am 42years, a part time student and a full time worker. i was diagnossed as a dyslexia in my 2nd year at uni. i managed to complete my course succesfully in 2007 and now working full time but,facing problems at work. i couldn't cope with my first job. stopped within two mounths and started a new one but still facing the same problems. could you kindly tell me how to join the facebook so that i can join and share my experiences for help in different openions if that may help me to solve my problem.

thank matilda

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Author: CH [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 10:25:38 01/05/09 Mon Hi, I am 28 years old women and have no clue on how to begain to fight this and to better myself for the sake of my children and ower future.If any one could help please please respond

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Nicole (Holding your hand)
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Date Posted: 00:06:07 07/28/09 Tue

CH, you sound so scared and overwhelmed. Dyslexia is a huge challange, but it is not insurmountable. So often it is not the Dyslexia that results in our inability to cope, but rather the way others have treated a dyslexic child that results in the fear, anger and anxiety we all so often feel. Try some professional counselling. Dealing with some of the hurt and humiliatioon inflicted on the dyslexic learner can go a long way in lifting your self esteem!

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Author: rochelle (it be ok) [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 00:42:42 07/21/09 Tue i know what ya mean you should keep trying to talk to ya friend explain how you feel. hang in there be kind to yourself dyslexia is hard at times but you get through this keep ya chin up. i do councelling to deal with mine i find it helps to deal with things. you should try it take care k